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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/5/2008 1:47:01 PM | Oh boy; here we go again. the famous,"can you guys; that I've never met; please read the mind of a man, that you have never met?:
Grow up and go ask him if he'd like to go to coffee. Also realize that some people; like myself; are turned off by gym flies looking for dates; I'm there to work out not to get a date.
I'm sure its never happened to him before either. Many gyms are meat markets.
Again, ask him out and if he says no, he wasn't interested. If he says yes, he may be. Please, no more mind reading messages. No wonder people are bad in relationships; talk to eachother. | |
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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/5/2008 5:10:04 PM | OP: Maybe he really does have some serious time pressures in his life right now, and just doesn't have enough time to devote to putting the work into a serious relationship... and he is interested enough that he doesn't want to risk starting something with a high chance of falling apart, when if he waits until he does have the time, a relationship might have a chance.
It sounded like he was interested, until he remembered that he didn't have the free time... next time, give him your number and tell him to call you so you can set a date up when you both have the time free. | |
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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:18:54 PM | talk to him here n there, gather more info on whether or not he's into you a bit, and ask him out if you feel so inclined.
as a shy guy with those types of situations, to answer all the retards previously that said "he woulda asked you out already" no maybe not. usually i will not just ask out a girl i talked to once. but after seeing her in the gym for a while and talkin here n there, maybe then i will.
but if your gettin vibes, go for it, so he says NO. who the hell cares, move on. | |
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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:24:21 PM |
talk to him here n there, gather more info on whether or not he's into you a bit, and ask him out if you feel so inclined.
She did. This is only a couple pages, not too much to read.
OP post a picture on here and search here. Give up on the gym guy. He is a friend at the gym and probably will stay in friend zone. | |
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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/6/2008 10:35:34 PM | | well its an obvious move , he knows that. should you ask him out or not . well pretty much what u did was takin initiative from the begining now you have to ask him out. | |
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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:19:40 AM | The fact that you broke the ice is really great. I really commend you for that, and have a lot of respect. More women should have so much courage and confidence.
The fact that you opened the door and he didn't walk through it poses a dilemma though. Even if he was shy or nervous, your welcome should have taken the edge off of that.
Some guys don't feel like a man if they're not doing the pursuing. I know it sounds odd. It doesn't make sense to me. How much more could you feel like a man than having a beautiful women come up and talk to you and keep an eye on you.
Maybe try playing it friendly. Saying hi, but a little cooler after that. If that makes him pursue than that was it. If he cools down even more, try just making friends and see what he's about, maybe has a gf, maybe gay, maybe something entirely else.
If you're in a hurry, just go ask him out.
Personally I always find I can use another friend even if a relationship doesn't work out, so I'd go with the casual route. | |
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| Is it a good idea to hit on a guy at the gym?
Posted: 9/7/2008 8:33:38 PM | | Thanks to everyone for your comments! Truly appreciated! I don't feel bad or guilty or embarrassed that I did hit on him but I am probably going to cool off for a moment. I think I've done all the work and got a very neutral response. I guess there's really nothing else to do at this point other than to be friendly and nice but leave it at that....because, frankly, I'm tired of chasing....If he really means, "we'll figure out it" then HE'LL figure it out! Now it's his damn turn!!! | |
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