| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 1:56:43 PM | | I think this thread is about that line. You have to know how sexy is too sexy. Some guys are not smart enough to know what your intention is when you put up sexy pics. I'm probobly one of them. That's just my opinion though. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 2:11:16 PM | If you look at Mommy of 2's profile (I hope you don't mind me using you as an example), I prefer the picture at the end of her smiling, not quite direct at the camera. I prefer this to her current image which, while catching my attention, doesn't convey what I see in that last picture of who she is...
No, I don't mind being used as an example. Most people know me well enough to know that a pic of my breasts doesn't convey who I am. I change my pics quite frequently, but threads like this one and the ones that debate why women post such pics inspire me to post a close up pic of my breasts to prove exactly that point. Those who know me know enough about me to see beyond whatever pics I have in my profile, whether it be a picture of my hand resting on my leg, or a pic of my breasts. Those are the people worth talking to and getting to know.
justlookingcua98 .... Welcome to the forums. I'm impressed by your first post and look forward to seeing you around.
OT: Anyone who chooses not to look beyond a pic, or to attack those who post pics and want others to know that there is more to them, are not worth the time and effort it would take to get to know them. Simply be grateful that many have showed their true colours, their narrow mindedness and their immaturity, and cross them off of your list of potentials. It helps with the weeding process.
P.S. Hi Brawny.... hugs right back at ya ;) | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 3:46:46 PM | Women with pictures of their tits or cleavage or what-not, or not worth getting to know. Typically, men that are hounds are attracted to that kind of thing, thus you'll only attract the rif-raff, whom..one day, think they're going to get a piece of what you put on display.
These are the women that cry "date rape".
A picture that is displayed by such a woman is not really legit in finding someone sincere at all. In fact, this is a redflag to any man who sees such pictures on display for the kind of woman to avoid actually.
I see pictures like this, and learned to just skip them, because obviously they aren't serious about finding someone special.
Common sense would depict, this is NOT the kind of woman you should bring home to mom and dad. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 3:52:43 PM | "Jonnybgood... good reply... this is true... why express yourself as sexy as you do on this website if you want someone to think of you as a person instead of a sex symbol to them.
I have seen you around on CK and Lava and you put the "
1. Either they are stupid
2. Like to create waves or attract attention to themselves. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 4:34:05 PM | "LMAO!!
Dont post half naked pics and then ask for them to want your mind! DUH"
Looks like Princesslayonya is not good at taking her own advice
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When did I complain?? I am not lame enough to start a thread about brains and at the same time show my boobs! I know what to expect from my pics, and I DONT complain! I laugh at the trash. Like I walk around the real world half naked...NOPE! So in RL people know I have brains, I could careless if you all think I am a brainless BIMBO, BECAUSE I KNOW OTHERWISE
Oh and how does my pictures have ANYTHING to do with date rape?? Guess what IF I SAY NO at any point YOU BETTER STOP! Doesnt matter if I dressed like a nun or a street whore!!!!! | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 4:57:01 PM | "Oh and how does my pictures have ANYTHING to do with date rape??"
Just drawing a parallel
Anyways, the response it towards the original poster who was whining about people thinking if she has brains or not. Any woman who feels the need to post 5 photos of them in suggestive poses, has nothing else to offer but their body.
I am a firm believer in actions speaking more than words. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/13/2005 5:18:50 PM | Pest says she is in marketing. If so, then she understands what she is marketing with her pics.
Mommy..........You mention those who know you in relation to your pics. The problem is that most do not know you. Pics are the first impression that most people see on a site like this.
To All...........Be it fair or not we are all judged by our appearance. It is a visual world. Look at TV advertising anyplace in the world to see an example of how image will sell over substance.
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/19/2005 5:11:12 PM | Lilpest...men are attracted visually at first...but that's just a beginning...it's where it goes from there that's important...do something together (a platonic activity) and ask yourself...are we actually having "fun" or "a good time", communicate, get to know each other better. Do you find you both enjoy spending time together in a platonic manner. How to actually get him to see it...well...if a man can't see your mind too...then you haven't met the right man. Alot of people find intelligence an attractive quality in a partner, it's the response you get from it that should tell you whether someone is just in it for your body. If they can't have a good time with you unless it's in a horizontal position...forget it...not the right person...You know you got it right when you spend all day doing something together and focused on the activity at hand...just enjoyed being in each other's company. Then..maybe just maybe, you both like more in each other than just "looks".
Hope it helps...it's a hard question to answer really... | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/19/2005 6:11:03 PM |
Mommy..........You mention those who know you in relation to your pics. The problem is that most do not know you. Pics are the first impression that most people see on a site like this.
Robert, I said that those who really know me have been able to look beyond my pics. I realize that some people judge based on pictures. It's sad, but true. I wasn't complaining about those people.... just stating that not everyone is like that. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:22:08 AM | Mommy........
Robert, I said that those who really know me have been able to look beyond my pics. I realize that some people judge based on pictures. It's sad, but true. I wasn't complaining about those people.... just stating that not everyone is like that.
Are women generally as shallow as men in looking for appearance over substance? Would an average looking guy who writes a moving profile get as many replies as a guy who looks like a boy toy?
Mainaka..........I like your BBB approach. Let them decide if Brain, Boobs or Butt has priority. A beatiful girl will get my attention. It takes a brainy girl to keep my attention.
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:38:48 AM | Talk about something that is happening in the world right now or just pick a very intelligent subject about anything... It has nothing to do about what you wear... What's wrong with dressing sexy and nice on a first date?? NOTHING AT ALL!!! Yes, men will be visually attracted first, but when you start talking about something intelligent they'll listen and then want you for your mind, not just your body...
But don't give up dressing sexy on a first date... I do and always have..."First impression is the last impression"... But like I said, start an intelligent conversation and you'll see...Who said a smart, intelligent woman isn't sexy looking?? Inside and out??
xo,
Leana | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:49:29 AM | | If you are genuinely seeking intelligence, then that will come across in your profile. If you write with great confidence and authority then people will understand your level of intellect. You can have the balance of looking good, feeling confident about your appearance and give off the air of someone with more intelligence than a stereotypical vacuous airhead. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:55:09 AM | Are women generally as shallow as men in looking for appearance over substance? Would an average looking guy who writes a moving profile get as many replies as a guy who looks like a boy toy?
An "average looking" guy with substance would get a reply from me long before a guy who looks like a boy toy ... whether the latter has substance or not.
It's not a matter of appearance over substance, or substance over appearance.
I have to be attracted to someone in order to want to know if they have substance, and they have to have substance in order for me to stay attracted to them.
In other words, appearance and substance are equally important. An attraction to an appearance just happens first.
I happen to be more attracted to men who most people regard as being "average".
As we all know, that's a relative term.
Average to some is gorgeous to me, and when combined with substance it makes them irresistable..... to me. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/22/2005 12:17:41 PM | its funny that a lot of people on this site **** and moan about people only caring about their looks.....
and then....they have that cute little disclaimer at the bottom "dont message me if you dont have a pic"- hint hint.........who started this thread again?....
unfortunately your submitting to the same material stereotypes that annoy you......
haha
heres a little somethin to gander...
sometimes people cant put pcs on the site....i myself am a very decent looking individual, but i have never cared one way or another..i dont take pics..so i dont have them- but becuase i dont have one....that automatically gives people the right to assume im 400lbs and sit infront of my comp all day.
if you want people to care about you for your brains, and not your appearance-than do the same. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/22/2005 1:59:51 PM |
i dont have a camera so- no pic, but if i end up talkin to ya ill send one via messenger.
Dude... since you're calling people on what it says in their profiles, take a look at your own. That says that you can get a pic onto your messenger. Therefore, you can get one onto this site. You can keep it hidden on this site if you want to, but if you can have one somewhere else don't say that you don't have one or that you can't upload one.
Contradictory much?
unfortunately your submitting to the same material stereotypes that annoy you.....
'Nuff said .............. | |
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| How do i get men to see my brain instead of my body?
Posted: 6/23/2005 12:25:31 AM | | I agree with you. One needs to display intelligence in order to have that aspect of yourself respected. Yes, we men are at first visually oriented maybe more so than women. (Although I'm not all too sure about that after working in an office full of women and listening well). But we (at least I) quickly will be bored at a lack of substance. | |
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