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Posted: 8/26/2008 6:51:15 AM | Hey , why not get yourself a MYSPACE acct. Thus you two will be on the same site.
You have his ID already. Good beginnig I'd think. You said you liked his profile.
Staranger things have happened, "my girl." lol. Sounds like a plan to me, and not
a bad one. Hey It wouldn't be a marriage proposal. just a quick hi. Good Luck.
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Posted: 8/26/2008 6:55:01 AM | Hey Ms. Alien Chick!!! I LOVE playing matchmaker...sooo...even though I'm a gal and not a guy, I'm gonna pick a mancard out of your deck and answer...
1. Did you ever play a matchmaker on POF? Why? How did it work out?
Yes. My friend at work asked me to find girls for him b/c he wasn't having luck. He was already on here. I did a search, made him a list of 10 that looked like matches. Then I emailed the chickerellla and told her how great he was. (not a potential match for me, big age difference, work buddy, etc). It didn't work out b/c turns out she hasn't logged onto here in like a year. LOL BUT...I didn't tell him what I did right away, and he picked her off the list and emailed her also. So if nothing else at least I was able to figure out who he'd like accurately.
2. If you saw a woman that seemed like a good match for your best mate, would you approach her?
Sure, in a heartbeat. I have matched up a friend I worked with, with a friend from work, and they got married this past summer. And I keep my eyes open for good matches for my friends all the time...
3. If a woman from here was to try to hook you up on a "blind date" of a sort with her friend would you go and where would you go?
I would check him out and talk to him and then decide so it wouldn't be blind by then.
4. What would you do if you were in my position?
If you like his profile, make up one of your own, add him as a friend, message him a bit and treat him like any POFer. Why not? What do you have to lose?
I have a my*space profile (kaylie35) and a couple of months ago I fleshed it out, made it "real". I have made some online friends who approached me. I talked to one on the phone last night for the first time, ironically. I also told him about POF and he joined yesterday. Also I did a search on local guys (much like you'd do on here) and I found a few that interested me, tried to add as friends, messaged back and forth w/one, and "met" him at his work place (retail store) last weekend. Of course, he never called me after asking for my #. LOL I think my freaky lil self scared him off. But the point is, it can be done and really isn't any different than here. Incidentally, the dude I talked ot last night who joined POF yesterday is already on yahoo*personals so it's not like he's not into dating...he just had never heard of POF. (the one I met at the store who knows).
Incidentally, if you do set up a profile, red, find me and add me as a friend...we can play poker together. LOL (texas hold 'em is a lot of fun on there)
I think you should give it a go...if nothing else maybe you'll make a friend or get a good story out of it.
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Posted: 8/26/2008 6:57:02 AM | Oh poor Baldy...I'll be your friend...
And if I meet a chickerella from your neck of the woods (wherever that may be) I'll be glad to send her your way!
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:12:15 AM | OMG Red.. if you don't do something about this I'm going to kick your friggin' arse!! I got my collar all pressed and ready... and hell... c'mon up to Canada for the wedding... anyone can get married up here!! Well, except in February... hope you weren't planning on a Valentines Day wedding... it's just too friggin' cold... you're veil would crack in the -40 degree weather.
*don't worry... I'm sure Clasact, Kyn and the rest of the wimminz will keep Bullie distracted while you say your "I might's... er... I do's".... just be sure to have a good supply of them chocolate covered bananas on hand*
Like Rune said.. you've got nothing to lose. You DO have potentially a whole lot to gain.
If you won't look him up, send me the info on him and I will do it on your behalf. As an online minister, I can do that... and it will be completely confident within the confines of these forums.
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:42:58 AM | UPDATE: This is getting better and better.
The matchmaking friend seems to think he should just plan/organize a meet without even informing "my soulmate". 
He asked me when is a good time to hang out.
*shakes head*
I can just imagine the surprise that this dude is in for... if I were to go ahead with this little conspiracy.
I think you should contact him and tell him that his friend is a wimpy little scupper that doesn't have the stones to initroduce two people he thinks would hit it off.
Methinks I should email him to warn him that there is treachery afoot!
Got any friends that feel the same way?
Not in NC, but I will keep my eyes open for y'a. 
Not only was i watching the DNC I was watching the news review of said convention.
Ha! What say you of Mrs O? Ups... getting off the topic here...never mind that...
At some point i ran into this thread and got distracted by your profile. *sheepishly* Sowy... did not mean to distract...
oh ya I know what I was going to say, "sh!t or get off the pot" Do or do not, choose.
Ok, ok... I will... Sheesh... don't get all upset with me...
If people don't ask questions there would be no forums, right?
She invited a whole bunch of people over for a dinner party as the excuse for getting me to meet her lady friend. I thought it was quite extravagant, particularly since she is from out of town, had the party at her mother-in-law's house, and sent her mother-in-law on a cruise to Alaska to free up the premises. WOW!!! That was wild indeed.
Maybe you should at least ask the guy if he is willing to send you on the cruise if it doesn't work out. You did say that you were in need of a vacation last time we crossed PoF paths
Now, there is a thought I like... Although, we are just starting school... no time for cruise right now
see what kind of crazy impression your profile can give people!
Crazy is probably the right word... as always you nailed it, my friend.
Have you ever had people tell you "oh you're just like ________" and then you've met this supposed twin and you're thinking, "well apart from the fact that we both are quiet and have the same colour hair, I see no similarities...".
Neh, being quiet and meeting redheads were never an issue for me.
Kidding... I know what you mean... People often want to set me up with other people from my part of the world... Geez just cuz we come from the same place does not make a match....
People have very limited and skewed perception. If the guy turns out to be a complete moron, at least you have the moron bat.
Yup. MoronBat is always near me...
And you never know, he might turn out to be really cool. Nothing ventured..... 2 years tomorrow since I sent that 1st email to my special someone -- you never know when you might meet someone amazing.
As you know, you and your special someone are one of the reasons I am still around here.
Each time I get depressed and think about pulling the plug, I read something you post and it gives me hope. 
I want a friend like that, that will set me up with random girls so I can get randomly rejected without even knowing it!
I have plenty of female friends who can reject you. Lemme work on that...
Incidentally, if you do set up a profile, red, find me and add me as a friend
Will do.
Now, give back my ManCard, please... I saw that you are trying to sneak out with it. *shakes finger*
.. if you don't do something about this I'm going to kick your friggin' arse!!
Violence is NOT an answer, lady!!!!
Ok, ok... I'll do it... No need to yell... Seems that (except for Navigator) no one else thinks there is anything too weird...
If he turns out to be a soulmate, everyone in this thread gets ivited to the wedding. 
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:48:07 AM | From a woman's point of view:
1. Yup... I tried to set friends up once on here and I have to say that I'll never do it again. Her perception of him was far different than mine - btw, he's still around me, she's disappeared.
2. Hell No!!! I might send him the link, but I've retired from the matchmaking thingie... I think it causes brain damage and aneurisms...
3. Check myself into the nearest psychiatric hospital...
4. Stalk him...
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:48:29 AM |
I have plenty of female friends who can reject you. Lemme work on that...
You're the best Red ... er ... ummm ... | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:52:15 AM | 1. Did you ever play a matchmaker on POF? Why? How did it work out?
Nope. I have offline though.
2. If you saw a woman that seemed like a good match for your best mate, would you approach her?
Probably not. But if she approached me I'd communicate it to her.
3. If a woman from here was to try to hook you up on a "blind date" of a sort with her friend would you go and where would you go?
Nope. I'd tell her to have her friend post a profile like everybody else.
4. What would you do if you were in my position?
I'd say if the guy referring you to the friend hasn't sent you a pic. It could be the same guy. Anyhow I'd tell the guy to have the friend contact you while all the time considering if the two are the same person if that don't tell you. If I did go on a blind date which I have and had good dates from would prefer it to be from someone you already know something about. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 8:22:41 AM |
Ok, ok... I'll do it... No need to yell... Seems that (except for Navigator) no one else thinks there is anything too weird...
If he turns out to be a soulmate, everyone in this thread gets ivited to the wedding.
Well I hope you people are happy! 
Just because I steal the covers and you're allergic to bananas  (who KNEW?) doesn't mean I'm not a catch.
*bullie stomps away*
Eh.... OK fine. I hope you and this GUY, this special guy, this 'can't find a woman on his own, prolly has a goiter the size of Texas on his neck'... I hope you find eternal bliss together.
I'm off to Canada..... Libra and I are off on a cruise.....
OT: Seriously Red.... go for it. We're not given many chances in life and love.... and some are not quite as obvious as this.... and really my friend, what do you have to lose??? | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 9:02:25 AM |
...about being set up by a person I don't know with another person I don't know.
The matchmaking friend seems to think he should just plan/organize a meet without even informing "my soulmate
OK, sorry if I missed it in the thread, but it sounds like a guy you don't know is going to set up some sort of group event where you can meet his friend. And that friend would be pissed if he sensed a set-up. Hope the matchmaker (and you) have a good cover story planned. Come on RC, any guy smart enough to be your match is going to sniff through simple pretense and might be annoyed/distracted at being "ambushed". So have a good plan and good luck!
If it doesn't work out, invite both of them to your next dungeon event. Two more specimens, a win either way | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 12:05:11 PM | Red
I'd stick to protocol.
Let this guy contact YOU.
For whatever reason would YOU need to chase him?
It's nice to THINK that someone finds you an attractive person,
quite another story to push face...when it's someone else's FACE!!
Then too...maybe you are in the mood for drama?
Bottom, line......
Let HIM make the moves! | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 12:31:44 PM | Okies...let me in on this...Im not a boy...but...Ima gonna answer
1. Did you ever play a matchmaker on POF? Why? How did it work out?
oh dear...umm...
2. If you saw a woman that seemed like a good match for your best mate, would you approach her?
Lets try this in a role reversal scenario...nup.
Id pass on the info for sure...but not cold approach the person...aint gonna happen
If we'd kinda crossed paths incidentally...sure it'd cross my mind then
3. If a woman from here was to try to hook you up on a "blind date" of a sort with her friend would you go and where would you go?
I went on a blind date about 20 something years ago...it was pretty ordinary although he was a lovely guy
...oh and one about 12 months ago too...not really a date but more a blind "meet" organised by a friend
I wouldnt bother doing blind dates...cos I really dont think anyone knows me well enough to pick someone for me
Where would I go though? GO-KARTING!! 
4. What would you do if you were in my position?
Well since Ive seen the gentleman in question OP and read his profile...Ima thinking *woohoo*
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Posted: 8/26/2008 12:55:08 PM | Well lookie what happened while I was at work today......
So, the general concensus is that you somehow meet this potential soulmate....hmmm, what to do and how to do it? Gotta think of something better than letting the soulmate's friend do a meet with all three of you. Don't 'cha think? But I agree sumfin' needs to happen or I might hafta join in with Libra in some kicking!.
don't worry... I'm sure Clasact, Kyn and the rest of the wimminz will keep Bullie distracted while you say your "I might's... er... I do's".... ".... just be sure to have a good supply of them chocolate covered bananas on hand Don't worry, we have ya covered. (*looks at bullie and smiles* Now you be a good girl bullie and hold the banana's.) I will be in my wedding party dress AND do security. Two for the price of one, can't beat that.
Like Rune said.. you've got nothing to lose. You DO have potentially a whole lot to gain. Agreed. But only thing is to find proper way to pull this endeavor off. *thinks, thinking....*
Crazy is probably the right word... as always you nailed it, my friend. Yeah, crazy like a "fox".
If he turns out to be a soulmate, everyone in this thread gets ivited to the wedding. Well, hell we'd better be after all of *this*. Sheesh, do you know how much brain power is being put in on this conspiracy?  Whyyyyy, we could light up the city of Jacksonville for a week! *chuckles to herself*
Seriously Red.... go for it. We're not given many chances in life and love.... and some are not quite as obvious as this.... and really my friend, what do you have to lose? Agree's with *bullie* Yes, seriously.......what's there to lose, my friend? Not ALL that different from here..............
want a friend like that, that will set me up with random girls so I can get randomly rejected without even knowing it!
... hell, I just want a friend. .... *walks off slowly into the night, stopping to look over his shoulder and still not seeing anyone there* Now this ^^^ just brings tears to my eyes ........ I feel for ya baldy........*wipes tears and walks away* | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 1:05:44 PM |
Now this ^^^ just brings tears to my eyes ........ I feel for ya baldy........*wipes tears and walks away*
*evilly smiling* Muahahaha ... the sympathy angle gets 'em every time!!! | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 1:32:43 PM |
*evilly smiling* Muahahaha ... the sympathy angle gets 'em every time!!!
not all of 'em
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Posted: 8/26/2008 4:53:30 PM |
How am I stalking him now????
His friend's profile is hilarious and he's easy on eyes, but I am not quite comfortable approaching a random guy on my*space Come on now, how is that not stalking. You're totally all googly eyed over the guys profile, checking out his hot (probably shirtless) pictures, while laughing your a$s off at his funny style...but you won't contact him. You are checking him out, probably on a more regular basis than you'd admit, trying to decide if you should contact him or not. Therefore you are my*space stalking him.
You can pretend you aren't, but we all know you are.
I plan to continue being a woman Just because you are one doesn't mean you have to act like one. Freakin' sissy! 
FL is a swing state I've heard rumours about that, but I wasn't totally sure. But what kind of swings, is what I never find out. Like sex swings, or the type that little kids play on? I'm just unsure if I should bring my kids there for vacation or just go by myself, ya know? | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 5:03:31 PM |
1. Did you ever play a matchmaker on POF? Why? How did it work out?
Nope, but should, my one friend should ditch his witch.
2. If you saw a woman that seemed like a good match for your best mate, would you approach her?
Definitely.
3. If a woman from here was to try to hook you up on a "blind date" of a sort with her friend would you go and where would you go?
Blind date, no. But if contact info wants to be exchanged, definitely. But don't do blind dates.
4. What would you do if you were in my position?
Exchange contact info. Email addresses, IM info, whatever along those lines. Just send a message to the guy, say the friend recommended it, and see what happens from there. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 5:10:26 PM | meteor 54-----
Have you heard ? women got the right to vote, ages ago. women can also fish
too. It's not just a mans' world anymore. Sit back and wait for what ? Life to pass
them by. Protocol be dammed. lol. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:40:06 PM | Oh the much adored RedCass... (damn, am I fawning enough?) I do not personally allow myself to be set up on dates for when I have allowed it...I have noted that the only thing that we have had in common is the fact that we are both "single" and it was done not with malice but with genuine intention to make me "happy" as the well intended friends. But then again, it has been several years and my friends have learned, your's may have better skills than mine. One of these well intentioned friends is now divorced and has a great life.
My point to you is to not meant to be negative, but to ask questions about him and perhaps have several phone calls first. One has a mixed bag of answers around here....meet immediately like jumping into cold water or drag it out.
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Posted: 8/26/2008 7:51:57 PM |
meet immediately like jumping into cold water or drag it out.
I'd rather just jump in immediately, less chance of chickening out of at least meeting. I mean than you can decide whether you want to stay in or not, where as if you drag it out, you might never get all the way in even though the water just seems cold. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2008 11:30:42 AM |
Hell No!!! I might send him the link, but I've retired from the matchmaking thingie... I think it causes brain damage and aneurisms...
Can't argue with that point.
Stalk him...
Cuz eventually they will panick and give in... I used to do that, but I promissed my parole offi.... errrr.... I mean my best friend not to do that anymore.
I'd say if the guy referring you to the friend hasn't sent you a pic. It could be the same guy.
Not the same guy, I think... saw both of their profile on my space... Both are hilarious.
Seriously Red.... go for it. We're not given many chances in life and love.... and some are not quite as obvious as this.... and really my friend, what do you have to lose???
Nothing really. Sent him a friend request on my space... will keep y'all updated...
Hope the matchmaker (and you) have a good cover story planned. Come on RC, any guy smart enough to be your match is going to sniff through simple pretense and might be annoyed/distracted at being "ambushed". So have a good plan and good luck!
If I ever meet this person, there will be no cover up story. *is not good when it comes to telling lies*
If it doesn't work out, invite both of them to your next dungeon event. Two more specimens, a win either way Are you just trying to get me to invite you ? Ok... the invite is in the mail.
I'd stick to protocol.
Let this guy contact YOU.
Right.
And if I ever find me a man, make sure that lights are always off and NEVER do anything but missionary... Gotcha.
Then too...maybe you are in the mood for drama?
Huh?????
Where's that coming from?
oh dear...umm...
Yeah. I know. YOU better not try anything....
*evilly smiling* Muahahaha ... the sympathy angle gets 'em every time!!!
Wasn't there a thread on pity sex recently?
Come on now, how is that not stalking. You're totally all googly eyed over the guys profile, checking out his hot (probably shirtless) pictures, while laughing your a$s off at his funny style...but you won't contact him. You are checking him out, probably on a more regular basis than you'd admit, trying to decide if you should contact him or not. Therefore you are my*space stalking him.
Just cuz you are sending me links of your other profiles with more photos, hoping to lure me, does not mean that I check those on regular basis. Pffft.
Just because you are one doesn't mean you have to act like one. Freakin' sissy!
 - I was hoping not to have to do this... But, you left me no choice, boy.
Like sex swings, or the type that little kids play on? I'm just unsure if I should bring my kids there for vacation or just go by myself, ya know?
Leave the kids at home.
You are brilliant and beautiful and will figure it out.
Not nearly as brilliant and gorgeous as you, madame.... I thank you for your advice.
I'd rather just jump in immediately, less chance of chickening out of at least meeting. I mean than you can decide whether you want to stay in or not, where as if you drag it out, you might never get all the way in even though the water just seems cold.
Neh, I never chickened out. But, meeting sooner is my preference. Mostly because I have less patience than a 5 year old...
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Posted: 8/27/2008 12:09:03 PM | If he's tempting you, drop him a line. I mean if you find someone interesting, why does it matter where/how you came about meeting them?
How many couples do you know that have an interesting story on how they met?
If you see someone you want, go after them. Life's too short...
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Posted: 8/27/2008 1:19:17 PM | Hey Red lady alien,
Update on the dude that I hunted down on myspace...
Yesterday he messaged that he has company in town, sorry for not calling. But maybe wecoudl get together this fri or sat eve.
So how 'bout them apples, eh? And guess what? he appears blessedly NORMAL which is such a nice change from the last guy I dated. And very cute! :) (ok, normally, "normal" would scare me off...but right now it sounds awfully good to me)
BTW, you didn't add me as a friend yet. My feelings are hurt. kaylie35...look me up! I wanna check this dude of yours out!
I"m not saying I"m crushing on him...unlike w/POFers, I know very little about him at this point b/c a my*space profile is not at all like these here. And he's NOT the only fish in my pond.  But I'm just sayin', there's potential there...all from doing a search on available guys in my area, and then approaching him blindly!
 More power to gutsy crazy chicks!!!
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Posted: 8/27/2008 2:06:42 PM | | That's never happened to me but I did get an email from a guy who asked who the friend was in one of my pics, so I passed her his info! Typical of my luck lol | |
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Posted: 8/27/2008 4:58:37 PM | The more time I spend on POF, the more I'm convinced that my*space and face*book are *much* better places to meet *normal* people (well, my preferences run more towards eccentrically normal, but you get the idea). All of the women I have corresponded with here have said they are deluged with messages from pervs to the point of, "abandon hope, all ye who enter". Not that everyone with a my*space account is an angel - far from it - but for some reason pervs/deviants/predators seem to be way over-represented on these sites, and this one in particular because it is free.
BTW - the Imeem link to Song to the Siren seems to be broken (one of my all-time favorites! Are you, by any chance, a Cocteau Twins fans as well?) | |
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