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 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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I don't think it's about self respect...Sex has no boundaries
 the_sphere24
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 27
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 1:14:00 PM
The way I see it, its not about self respect, or lack there of, at all. Its about guys biscally wanting to dominate a woman in the bed, and most women want to be....
 clark593
Joined: 7/17/2007
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Posted: 8/28/2008 4:23:55 PM

They are the same men that get their wives from the Asian countries and treat them like dirt.


My wife is Asian; she wasn’t a mail order bride and she’s not the one that’s abused in this relationship!
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 8/28/2008 5:36:41 PM
Message 27 ...
Its about guys biscally wanting to dominate a woman in the bed, and most women want to be....
Gee ... must be a woman's brain (thinking like "most" women) in a man's body ... else how would he know that "most" women want to be dominated in bed.

Hell ... I'm a woman and I wouldn't begin to know what "most" women want in bed. And this all super-knowing guy comes in here ... telling us that "most" women want to be dominated in bed ...like he just stepped out of an article in "Cosmopolitan" or "Vanity Fair" ...

And what does that have to do with men wanting women as "sexual slaves"??????

I always thought that a "sex slave" was there just for whenever a man wanted sex ... not necessarily so that he could "dominate" her in bed ... just that she's available for whenever he wanted to have sex.
 Joe..........
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 30
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:45:25 PM
Alot of the guys I knew when I was in the Army married Asian women. But if they were Korean they didn't put up with alot of crap. In most cases they ran the show at home.
 wolftx
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 31
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:46:35 PM
I always thought that a "sex slave" was a woman who does not say 'no', does not have a 'headache', cooks, cleans, and is not interested in your money. Now is this a trick question?
 the_write_stuff
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 32
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 8:22:34 PM
I may desire a woman for a partner who is sexually adventurous and wanton; fearless and shameless in pursuit of sexual gratification and pleasure, but I do not wish a slave in any sense, sexual or otherwise. I think that even the men who think they desire a sexual slave would soon find it's not what it is cracked up to be or what they envisioned it would be and quickly grow bored or tired of such an arrangement...I mean where's the challenge, the interest or the interest to keep them engaged???
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 33
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 8:39:42 PM
I got to know a man from this site, through emails.... who was looking for a sex slave. Not the part time gig that some partake in, in the privacy of their own homes....
He was looking for a full-time, out in the open, trained and fully submissive SEX SLAVE.
I continued conversing with him because of my own perverse want for knowledge about this. I had only read about this, but had never spoken with anyone that was willing to tell me about this lifestyle choice.... and he was trusting enough to talk to me about it.

The sex slave is meant to be nothing to him but a series of holes. End of her story. Her full and entire reason for being is to make him happy. Her only joy would come from making sure he was fully satisfied. If this meant he'd pimp her out and let her keep the cash, so be it.
If this meant going to a fast food restaurant and having her sit on the floor and eat out of a dog bowl, that would happen. Or if he decided to plop her ass on the top of a bar stool and allow any man in the bar to do what he wanted with her, that was what she'd do.

This is a role that she accepts willingly and with full disclosure. And there are women that do this because they feel they ARE in control by LETTING GO of control.

The man that I'm talking about here had huge issues with women (YA THINK?!?) and his anger and disgust at what his ex wife had done to him carried over to this way of living. The only way he could be with a woman or treat her was with disdain and disrespect. He was giving back to every women what he felt was done to him by his ex. (*She left him for his Uncle.... yeah, nice family unit, huh?)

So yes, the lack of respect is evidenced on the woman's side, but it's glaringly obvious with his as well.

Part time shit in your own home, during play time is no big deal... that's fantasy come to life, but what I just described happens all around us and has nothing to do with anything but a lack of, well hell, do I have to spell it out?!?!
 wolftx
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 34
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 9:11:46 PM

The sex slave is meant to be nothing to him but a series of holes.

What you describe reminds me of an Al Bundy episode ("Married... with children"). Marcy complains that women are looked at as pieces of meat to which Peggy replies she WISHES Al would look at her like a piece of meat. My point is that what you find disgusting may be just what she wants.

I met a sub once who gave me her side of the story. It was quite interesting to hear what she gets out of it, perhaps you need to talk to one before you apply your notions to possible issues she may have. If you open your mind, you may understand. It wasn't for me, but I gained some insights that baffled me. Plus, there are nuances: Some only do it behind closed doors, not in public. Some don't share (him or herself) with others. Some like physical punishment, some don't. But as far as I know, all want to please and obey to get their "kick".

I would go so far to think that the 'ex anger' is not the typical motivation for a Dom, but it is not my area of expertise...
 the_write_stuff
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 35
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 9:25:44 PM
Men who desire women to be nothing more than a "hole" have severe esteem issues of their own. Riffe with issues of self-loathing not to mention the glaring problems with the feminine gender. It's sad really. But, it does make one wonder about the women who perform these roles for such men and how damaged they themselves must be.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 8/28/2008 9:38:54 PM
Well, of course, generalities are generally severely punished in these threads. How about the flip side of this question: Why do most women want a "good provider"?
 jimtash71
Joined: 3/12/2008
Msg: 37
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 9:53:15 PM
The way I see it, its not about self respect, or lack there of, at all. Its about guys biscally wanting to dominate a woman in the bed, and most women want to be....


To an extent you are right. Women want to be wanted that way if they are in a relationship. It's sort of their own reassurance that their man isn't cheating on them. Still, there has to be more there than just sex.

In a slave situation though, the only thing I could possibly think of that would keep the women there would be there own lack of knowledge of the role sex plays in a relationship. They could have been molested when younger or just used by men. In either case, sex is the basis of any relationship they've had in the past good or bad.

Men who desire women to be nothing more than a "hole" have severe esteem issues of their own. Riffe with issues of self-loathing not to mention the glaring problems with the feminine gender. It's sad really. But, it does make one wonder about the women who perform these roles for such men and how damaged they themselves must be.


I agree with that as well. These men are nothing more than predators and there's plenty of easy prey out there. I would even go so far as to compare them to serial killers and other demented people of society. Sociopathic and very intelligent and that's what probably draws women to them. Charming and forthwright and probably even offer safe havens to them. At a price of course.
 mheath4
Joined: 7/9/2006
Msg: 38
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/28/2008 11:19:32 PM
every guy has their fantasies. Apparently you keep finding ones that have this particular one.
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/29/2008 12:15:51 AM
Some people also just get off on trying to offend others...
 gnuru75
Joined: 6/17/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 8/29/2008 12:30:12 AM
Similar to whytewater's post i would say the same answer would be to the question "why do women want emotional slaves?" (or 'friends first' in some circles)
 bk0x45
Joined: 1/4/2006
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Posted: 8/29/2008 12:34:56 AM
bullie: You do realize you just generalized one guy to everyone involved in such activities, right?

Yes, for a full 24/7 Master/slave relationship to exist, both individuals are fairly outside of the 'norm', even for most of those in the scene... it's rather hard-core. And yes, in theory everything you suggest is possible in such a relationship. However, I can pretty much guarantee that if the sub is totally opposed to any of those activities, it's unlikely in the extreme that the activity so opposed is ever ordered... because in the most extreme of the 24/7 cases, the only safeword available is one which signifies the end of the relationship. Given how difficult finding subs (especially slaves) is, it is only a complete idiot who would cause one to walk away from the relationship.

I'm not surprised the guy you talked to has had such bad luck... he really doesn't seem to have a clue about how things actually work, and I expect he'd have a hard time keeping a sub.
 BrianD85
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 42
Why do men want sexual slaves?
Posted: 8/29/2008 2:43:46 AM
?????cause we dont wanna talk and go shopping
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:45:39 AM
bullie: You do realize you just generalized one guy to everyone involved in such activities, right?

No I did not. I was completely open about my post and if you want to generalize in your own brain, that's on you. What I wrote was pretty self explanatory...even going into the Dom's own personal shit to explain why he does what he does. Not every Dom will follow the same course as the one I spoke with. My share was specifically about him and his slaves. Might wanna go back and re-read or take a course on it. *wink

Stay on track bk0069.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:02:21 PM
Message 31 ...
I always thought that a "sex slave" was a woman who does not say 'no', does not have a 'headache', cooks, cleans, and is not interested in your money.
What the Hell does cooking and cleaning have to do with sex and not saying "No"? Just that you know ... even though a lady who enjoys being her man's "sex slave" ... doesn't mean she doesn't know how to say "NO" to some things ...
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:14:20 PM
Some men are obsessed with sex I guess, especially those that have to watch internet porn or such because they aren't getting any at home. It's just a fantasy idea. I'll bet half of those that think it couldn't carry through with it.
 Morphies
Joined: 10/14/2007
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:17:21 PM
ok, first of all, i appologize if i covered stuff that has already been said but i do have a short amount of time.

There are three key points why men would like to have "sex slaves".

1. They feel that they are to submissive in life, and becuase of this they feel that hte only one true place they can have any control is in the bedroom.

2. Its the aspect of holding ones life in your own hands, to some the thought of total control is a turn on, and in most cases (at least with the people i've talked with about this) a really big one.

3. They follow an old dominative structure (one that is proven in the human body), that pain is pleasure. The brain reads both sensations the same, Its only the sorce of this that causes people to distinguish the to, and because of this people feel that by turning pain into a pleasurable thing it can be A) be a turn on, or B) perhaps amplify the pleasure

(that took longer then i thought, sry i can't add more to the topic for now.)
 bk0x45
Joined: 1/4/2006
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:28:57 PM

Not every Dom will follow the same course as the one I spoke with. My share was specifically about him and his slaves. Might wanna go back and re-read


That's funny, because:


Part time shit in your own home, during play time is no big deal... that's fantasy come to life, but what I just described happens all around us and has nothing to do with anything but a lack of, well hell, do I have to spell it out?!?!


Unless the word you declined to spell out is 'inhibitions' (or maybe 'insecurity') then you did generalize here... because not all Doms (leaving the motivations of the subs out of it for now) share the motives of that one, yet you certainly implied that Doms do not respect (that was the word you implied, in context) their subs.
 AndalusiaJoey
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:35:13 PM
Why do women marry and then turn "exciting, intereasting men" into wage slaves?
 bullielover62
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 49
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:52:44 PM

Unless the word you declined to spell out is 'inhibitions' (or maybe 'insecurity' then you did generalize here... because not all Doms (leaving motivations of the subs out of it for now) share the motives of that one, yet you certainly implied that Doms do not respect (that was the word you implied, in context) their subs

bk0069..... Once AGAIN you generalized and tried unsuccessfully to pin words that I didn't say in my post. You're getting tiresome.

Next time ya post, try using an original thought or better, if you're going to quote and debate someone, get the quote right.....don't insert your own words to fuel your own agenda.

 Hawk8414
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 8/29/2008 8:37:04 PM
Has anyone read the Story of O? Just thought I'd throw that in there,lol.
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