| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 3:05:23 PM | OP, as you can see by now people see things differently. You don't have to get why. But you have to get that we see it in different ways. So what's the point in arguing and calling it ridiculous? You are starting to border on being rude to people. There is no need for that and to tell a man he might as well get a hooker is out of line.
You've said your piece, others have said theirs. Why keep arguing your stance? You can think and do what you want as can others but don't try to change the world here. Your way is not the only way to do it. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 3:27:50 PM | I know ppl see things differently, I didn't just fall off the milk truck. I'm not arguing with him I am just making my point like every other person here has the entitlement and freedom to do. His comment fell back upon my original distain for the whole quickie coffee assessments that seem to be a frequent suggestion here. The mentality that you can be sized up in 3.5 minutes. The whole idea that chemistry can be decided upon like your looking at a fast food menu. So what, my stance is that that is ridiculous.
I wasn't rude to him, I asked him a question, because if that is all that a man is looking for why wouldn't he just simplify the process and hire someone. He is the one talking about wasting time. A prostitute is on the clock isn't she???? | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 3:33:50 PM | Ughhhhhh.... this is the sickening mentality that just pisses me off.. the quickie "chemistry" appraisal suggested to size each other up at the flippin coffee shop.
It's so ridiculous, people think they can order up relationships like they are going to
a MacDonalds drive thru and getting burgers and fries . If that were the case I would definitely biggy size it. BUT IT's NOT.
Like it or not it's a fact , and where did I say this was my approach you know diddly squat about me personally , perhaps if you weren't so busy judging those around you
and assuming you might realize the fact that when a man asks you the last thing he is looking for is another coffee, your not a kid anymore so stop fooling yourself.
just think it could be time well spent shopping for shoes....LOL!! | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 3:50:49 PM | I've said that I've had the experience of meeting someone and within
two seconds realizing that there wasn't chemistry!
Presumably women can do this even faster, so I would be highly
suspicious of why a woman would want to prolong any activity
with a man, she felt no spark for! Some women are incredibly
good at WORKING men for their own gain! And many men have
no idea how much they are being used! In fact, that's the funny
part, and I'm certain that these women know this. Many men's
Ego, won't even allow the possibility that maybe she isn't really
interested in HIM!
EDIT As far as the subject of coffee specifically goes. I'm sure
this is meant just in a very generic sense as in a quick meeting as
opposed to an all out date. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 4:01:22 PM | I do not like the idea of coffee for a first date....maybe ice cream.  You're right, it seems so quick and impersonal...like you ARE interviewing for a job. I can walk out of a restaurant just as fast as I can walk out of a cafe.
I think some people are being too harsh when they say you just want a free meal....I always bring my own money. -A man (if he's old-school) will usually pay but if not, I am covered! It's not about getting a free meal. Hell, I'd rather do something else besides starting out eating anyway! | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 4:15:45 PM | Coffee for me on a "meet and greet",that way if you don't hit it off then you get off cheap.Some people put in their profiles that they want to go to dinner at the beach then hold hands while the sun sets...get real.I like to meet someone for the first time at a public place that is quiet and has seats,whether it's a Starbucks or a bookstore is fine with me.I have had bad experiences meeting at a bar...especially if it's her regular hangout.
BTW:shopping for shoes isn't my idea of a date. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 4:36:46 PM | ya know....even if you don't have "instant chemistry", if s/he is a good person, you might be able to fix him/her up with a friend OR vice versa. i just "don't get" that if you don't pass out at first site with instant "erection" or female version of that, you need to run off and do something else with someone else. unless of course you are putting together your own speed dating business. what ever happened to the boy/girl next store phenomenon? haven't you ever seen a drop dead gorgeous person who opens their mouth and the mood is instantly ruined? haven't you also ever experienced that someone grows on you and before you know it, you are "smitten"? that happened with one of my past loves. the chemistry was the best i ever had. sadly, there were other issues, but i did not attract to him on the first date, although i did on the first dance... it lasted a few years. and then, i i did get fixed up with a great guy by another i met and did not click with in that way, we are still friends and i hear from him a lot. waiting for his next buddy to come my way....well, in my dreams, but you can never stop hoping!
poster above: holding hands by the sunset would certainly be my fantasy....oh well.... | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:07:57 PM | I give 3 months before this woman starts a thread about her dating disasters as the guy was nothing like he was either :
1. on the profile ( pic old )
2. on the email chat or
3. on the phone.
Then she'll be complaining about all the effort she made into going out on the date . She'll regret that she started this thread and hopes that it is lost by then as she will wish that she just met at a choke and puke to see if the guy was as he described himself.
I have 20 on 3 months, 50 on 6 months for sure. ..
anyone for the over under? | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:34:34 PM |
Who wants to shop for shoes on a first date?  Hey, we had some time to kill before the movie started. He enjoyed it...well he said he did. Personally I think he just liked watching me try them on and walk away from him. No romantic connection with him as far as I was concerned, but we are friends. He said he would do it again if I ever wanted to. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:39:24 PM | I enjoy shopping for shoes. nice yellow high heels..
or I saw a woman wearing the more adorable pumps today.
I'd go shoe shopping on a first date.. but then again,, I like salsa dancing. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:45:26 PM | If there isn't INSTANT chemistry, the time it takes to drink a
regular coffee could feel like an eternity! Better make mine an
Espresso! Gotta Go! | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:50:49 PM | | I agree with you Capricorn40 about the time slot. It's not a business meeting or an apt'. If\ the person is that BUSY then forget it, there is NO time in the busy person's life. I wouldn't want to fit into a man's too busy life. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:02:25 PM | | I don't consider meeting for coffee a date, it is simply meeting for coffee and seeing if the person you met online is the same in person. I don't even drink coffee or tea but it still seems like a good public place for a first meeting. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:05:05 PM | When I'm going to meet someone for the first time I want a very casual, quick venue in case things don't go well. I don't want to be committed to an hour or more at dinner. If I'm not comfortable and want to get out of there I can finish my coffee and leave. If things are going well you can move on to something else. I wouldn't want to meet at Dunkin Donuts though. I would want to meet someplace more cozy and romantic. I know...Starbucks romantic?? The Starbucks near me is really nice with a great sitting area inside and an area outside on a little man-made lake with waterfull. It's a great place for a first meeting. I don't want to commit a lot of time and I don't expect a man to commit a lot of time or cash on someone he doesn't know if he even likes. My profile says for a first date...coffee or a very casual dinner. I prefer the coffee.
Just my opinion.... | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:10:22 PM | | It's not quite as easy to walk out on a dinner as on coffee. What do you do, walk out before dinner is served? Leave the guy sitting there? That's just rude. With coffee, you can gulp that sucker down, excuse yourself and get out of Dodge. I've been on those awful first dates at a restaurant and all you want to do is get the heck out of there but it's just too uncomfortable to do that. It's not that the guy was being a jerk or anything, but there was just nothing there. No conversation just that very uncomfortable feeling. So...it's coffee for me on the first date. If we hit it off...it's fair game. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:28:25 PM | | Hey ShoePrincess, I promise on our first date I'll take you to your local Payless Shoe store and buy you whatever pair of F-Me pumps you pick out. Does that give me a shot a second date?! | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:30:29 PM | "Coffee" just means "lets talk and do nothing eventful in particular"/
It could actually involve no coffee whatsoever. I personally think it's a little blah. I'd rather get to know the person by talking to her, and THEN go on an adventurous or fun date, so that all of the coffee talk is out of the way. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:43:52 PM | I Love the thought of coffee for a 1st date! I usually know within a few minutes of meeting someone whether or not I'd like to take the time to get to know them!
Who knows where that 1 cup of coffee with take you if there is Chemistry!  | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 6:53:04 PM | Let me ask this coffee drinkers, is it just the pics are wrong or person is uninteresting? How quick do you arrange these meets?
Because I'd like to believe, I know these women. Now I've had a couple of clinkers, and no longer thing happened. But it wasn't insufferable. Bob | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:50:50 PM | | I don't like coffee, the coffee joints aren't very comfortable, once I drove halfway across town to have a glass of water, we talked for 2 hours, and then we left and I went to go get a bite to eat! There are plenty of inexpensive restaurants that would be fine for a first date. I'm sure no one expects a first date to be at an expensive restaurant. That's special occasion stuff to my way of thinking. | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:58:51 PM | | No way not I! It is dinner and drinks or forget it. I think from a phone call I can tell if I have interest to go on a date. That is the cheap way out. They think we want to get ready to meet for 15 min. It is more or less they just want to see what u look like. So if they are not interested they will drink their coffee faster. If they are interested u may get a scone! Lol | |
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| Who likes coffee for a frist date??
Posted: 8/28/2008 8:06:11 PM |
So if they are not interested they will drink their coffee faster
there is no way in blue hell I'm wasting a good cup of fine coffee thats the nice thing about getting coffee in a to go cup.
That is the cheap way out
what is this? moochers anonymous??? if I don't like some one upon meeting them there's no way in hell she's entitled to a free meal. | |
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