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Posted: 8/28/2008 12:41:14 PM | | I also won't respond to a profile that has "I want a man that can make me laugh". Sheeesh, it sounds like I'm auditioning for a comedy club. It sounds like too much work and if I bomb, I get booed off stage or dumped. Ladies, I'd rather find somebody that laughs easily and doesn't take life so seriously instead of someone who is expecting their date to keep them rolling along with a comedy routine. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 8:52:43 PM | I for one do not find it funny pathetic or sad as many of you have stated that people write these types of statements in their profile. Some are just trying to express what they desire in a mate and there are people that still wish upon a star. I admit it is over done and over stated, and don't get me started on some of the pictures that are posted, but no one is perfect and it is difficult to jump into this pool.
When someone talks of drama.... I take that as current drama, not situations in life that cannot be avoided. I for one have no "drama" in my life right now. In other words, I am not being stalked, I am not wanted by the law, but most important, I am not in a relationship with someone waiting for the next one to come along. Sure, my 21 year old son is trying to "find" himself, but I don't believe that is the drama that people speak of in their profiles. I would think that a nasty ongoing divorce is an example of drama. Regardless, I will not avoid someone that does not want drama in their life. I think this is more of a sign of what is out there, not what is wrong with that person writing the profile.
There are some real losers in this world, both men and women. I believe that men take the cake when it comes to lying and cheating and taking advantage of others. I have heard the stories and there is always going to be pond scum in the pool. I do think that there are more good men in this world, don't get me wrong, but you know that the few speak louder then the rest of us. While I agree that putting these statements in your profile will not be enough to filter this scum, it may provide the person writing the profile with hope that there are still honest and caring people in this world. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 9:11:10 PM | " You have been hurt by some unkind individual perhaps more than once in your life."
"...leave those kind of statements out of your profile. Although, you might be trying to ward off the bad guys, you are also turning off the good ones."
Personally, I'd rather see them left in. I'd rather be forewarned than blindsided, often with no prior notice. It saves a lot of time.
"But my all time favorite..."no pic no reply" yet that person doesnt have a pic herself!"
I wonder if they do stand-up.
" but no one is perfect and it is difficult to jump into this pool."
Yet, how many of them expect someone who is perfect. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 9:15:03 PM | Hi, I have received several compliments on my profile.
I too stay away from; no bagage or headgames. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 9:32:36 PM | My friends think I am a perputual teenager, call me when you've all growed up.
Age is just a number another said; I am 70 looking for a woman 50-60.
I am 5/8 he shrunk when he came to me.
He thought I would not notice? He was really 5/3.
My figure is average, then how come you look pretty broad chested suggesting a much larger body?
I am ready for a woman. Walking 200 Yards he had to get back to his car.
Yep, I still have my corny, slightly sarcastic, sense of humour.
Next!
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Posted: 9/21/2008 9:37:58 PM | Hey where did everyone go, all gone to read my profile?
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Posted: 9/21/2008 10:48:50 PM | | If it's any consolation to you, guys write the same thing. And I, for one, have exactly the same reaction as you do. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2008 6:41:39 AM | You know?? I never really thought of it that way, but I guess you have a point there. I took your advice and did some house-cleaning on my profile. ps- CanadianBC - I did go in and look at your profile - really cute!
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Posted: 9/22/2008 6:50:37 AM | | Paranoia is total awareness. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2008 7:03:05 AM | i like a profile that says what they don't want but in a way thats not insulting or intrusive. like : if your a player or like to lie or are married i'm not interested. there are ways of saying what you mean or feel without making it look bad . as for a real man...this is as real as it gets. i'm a man. period. ladies you have to understand. men have 4 emotions...happy...sad...mad..and confused. confused being the one were in most of the time trying to figure out wht a woman really wants. lol 
now we know a woman has one million versions of happy. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2008 7:05:58 AM | i think whats worse than the one liner headlines....are the fifteen paragraphs under the likes and dislikes column....
it terrifies me when i come across the demands, the endless on and on and on-ness about blah blah blah....i won't tolerate this, i don't like that, the last person did this, i don't want anyone with that...blah blah blah blah blah...
this let's me know the person is either still hurt or damaged from the last breakup/divorce....or they are extremely difficult to get along with...
it causes me to instantly click "out".....and yes, this has been covered before and none of us here are the profile police....the good part is: if ya don't like what you see move on..
personally i change my headline quite often...i like to have fun with it...and if my sarcasm, wit, humor (whatever you wanna call it) offends or sends anyone in particular into a tailspin....so be it....NEXT me... | |
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Posted: 9/22/2008 7:07:25 AM |  Excellent points!
Is the point of the woman to say: "I am not smart enough to avoid these types, because I have a long history of being with lairs, players and losers, so please sort your selves out and do not make me love you"
What a way to introduce yourself!
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Posted: 9/22/2008 7:33:04 AM | "the endless on and on and on-ness about blah blah blah....i won't tolerate this, i don't like that, the last person did this, i don't want anyone with that...blah blah blah blah blah... "
Now this I agree with! | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 6:18:36 PM | Msg. #4 Fixed Heart...
You are right, both genders pay the price for the previous person's mistakes. Unfortunately, some people are so afraid of being alone they jump on an opportunity to be with someone and they haven't dealt with the "BAGGAGE" from the last relationship, which will unfortunately carry forward into the new relationship.
As for posting statements in profiles about drama, I put in my profile I have no drama and no baggage, because I've gotten tired of trying to explain, I'm single, truly content, and believe it or not, I am okay with where I am.
Titles... I never really go by them unless they are sexual in nature. That is a red flag to me screaming, baggage, baggage, baggage and don't trust them. And it makes me judgmental when I do because what they were trying to say probably isn't the way I interpreted it. My title "I'm anything but ordinary, Are you?" probably gives people mixed feelings... who knows.
All any of us can really hope for is that one person out there will connect with us on every level we each need... and hope for that elusive thing called "chemistry and happily ever after." | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 6:48:05 PM | | Well, in order to keep things simple and avoid any overanalysis by the profile police; i put next to nothing in mine. Besides, if someone is at all interested , we'll end up talking about each others baggage,foibles,dramas...etc anyway. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 6:58:29 PM | | I like when women put things like that in their profile, I know to avoid them. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 2:52:50 AM | uh huh.....
not very much originality out here!
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Posted: 11/9/2008 4:09:55 AM | Re the Opost
Why remove them from their profiles? They serve as excellent signals to stay away (aka "red flags")! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 1:16:35 PM | | I'm not sure that it matters what anyone writes in their profile, in my opinion, it all hinges on the picture of the person that writes to them. They might want this, that and the other thing, and you possess that..... but if they aren't smitten with your pic, forget it. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 1:39:15 PM | As long as your photos are recent and you haven't lied about your age or other relevant details, I don't care what you want to say on your own damn profile.
Let people be who they are, if you don't like the profile, then move on to the next one. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2008 8:04:03 PM | | I agree. I cringe every time I read a man's profile stating "no drama". But what most men don't realize, they need to watch out for what they are wishing for. I have no drama, am just a regular, normal, well-balanced woman who just works, lives a quiet peaceful life with my two dogs. No drama might be boring for men. I have a feeling men feel like they need to be "rescuers" or "knights in shining armor" , so they subconsciously hook up with needy, dependent, messed up (or "throwed off" as we say in Texas) women who need "saving". | |
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Posted: 11/16/2008 9:00:45 PM | | When a woman states shes looking for a real man, it means a man who is mature , responsible, good morals, character,etc. not bad boys, frat boys, or mamas boys. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2008 4:57:04 PM | | I agree with eyes and lips real people have real problems , its how each person handles the problem either they handle them or there is drama . | |
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Posted: 12/7/2008 11:25:26 PM | Oh man, I have seen every single one of those (except "real man" obviously, heh heh) on men's profiles. In fact I think I've seen them all on the same one too. And I'm sure I would see them on women's profiles if I were looking.
But I agree with everyone who said they shouldn't be removed from profiles, becasue they serve a useful function as red flags. I'm actually not sure profile reviews should be even allowed-- there is always someone telling people "don't say this, it's really needy" and "change this, you're really negative"... Let people reveal who they are. In particular, dear god for the safety of others, please don't help people to change their profiles who had racist, misogynistic, homophobic or violent comments! It's better out in the open! | |
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Posted: 12/8/2008 1:32:52 AM | In my Paid Site days..............When I created a profile just for the fun of it...I actually said what I was all about. Moving forward...I understand where these ladies are coming from because I have never met a guy that is true to their profile.
Mind you I have met up with some very nice guys......yes, they are nice BUT let's face it we all have some sort of baggage we are dragging and not tell anyone about them until you have know them for a few months.......a whole lot of people out there are not being honest about what they are looking for out there in the dating world.
When you read ....."Nice guy looking for a nice girl"..."Looking for THE ONE"..."I work every day and would like to spend some time with a nice girl ...........then end it with........NO GOLD DIGGERS, NO FATTIES !...that's a big turn off too. | |
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