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Posted: 8/29/2008 12:45:01 PM | Two questions.......
1. Were you paying for her drinks? (If you were, there's your answer as to why you were there)
2. Did she know this 'redneck' beforehand - maybe a history there and you were there to make him jealous?
Sorry this happened, she sounds like a real catch  - you had a lucky escape! | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 12:47:33 PM | So you went with the expectation that maybe you might get laid by her and her friend ? It sux when your expectation get squashed, don't it ? 
I believe you got exactly what you needed.... a lesson on the kind of girl you do NOT need. Besides, I never met a "Bar Fly" that was worth taking home to a family function and anything less is not worth your time man...
I think you got a valuable life lesson for the price of a couple of drinks. | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 12:49:29 PM | Well OP, she can be written off as a drunken slut, but she did warn you.
A. "just to forewarn ya this is more of a girls night than usual"
B. "Yeah, I just wanted to tell You so You didn't show up & feel uncomfortable. We do flirt... lol"
C. "I can't promise anything. Just come & I'll stay by Your side lol"
You had a choice, but you made the wrong one and hopefully, you learned from this and may want to consider choosing women instead of girls in the future.
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Posted: 8/29/2008 12:55:51 PM |
So I show up and she spends the entire night floating around the bar PISS DRUNK flirting mainly with a 300lb corn fed REDNECK! I was SO pissed off! I finally walked up to her & said, "call me when You want a real date!"
I don't think I'd let myself be put into such a position anymore, but if I were, I'd probably have done the same, OP.
I have a friend of seven years who exhibits exactly this behavior. When we first met, I was somewhat attracted to her, but after playing second fiddle any time we went somewhere with alcohol and/or other men, I realized after a couple of times she was a barfly and an attention-seeker.
We're still close friends, she is still is those things, although she's matured enough to come to terms with what may be a long, uphill battle with alcoholism. | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 1:02:16 PM | | Well i think you handled it pretty smooth considering the circumstances. I know i probably would have played her game and just found someone else there to devote my attention too.. . Don't feel bad, just about every guy on this site has experienced some type of the same situation. Probably the main reason we have resorted to internet dating. Good luck with your fishing, Lord knows i need it :) | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 1:12:06 PM | | Wow what a thing to happen to you, trust me your better of without her and she gives us decent ladies a bad name, look forward not back | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 1:30:42 PM | She wanted someone to pay for her drinks and have the satisfaction of knowing that you would be there sucking after her.
In other words, she's an attention craving no-good poor excuse for a woman.
where i come from she would be considered whats called a "Hussy"..
when she said the words "we flirt" you should have 86'x her right there and then.
your 25, nothing ventured nothing gained................NEXT! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 1:33:56 PM | we all make mistakes when we are drunk,and change our behaviour but she did seem to know this would happen and still invite you,bit naughty,if you really like her follow your heart,or take her out with your mates and flirt like hell,see if she likes it. | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 3:53:32 PM | You teach people how to treat you.
I "used" to complain about FWB who would phone me and want me hanging on his arm while he played the bar babes...
No more.
Time to be smarter about when and where you choose to meet your dates.
It's my opinion she told you how it would be, and sorta fibbed about staying by your side.
Easy conclusion:
1. She wanted a "safe" hunk to go home with if she didn't find someone else.
2. You were her back up babe in waiting.
3. She's not that into you.
None of those are really very nice are they?
Or how you want to be treated.
So.....ergo......done deal.
You're young - find another. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 4:05:49 PM | | Hey Man, bummer night. I think the question should be though why would you even go when she told you it was a "just to forewarn ya this is more of a girls night than usual" I would have politely said have fun and maybe we'll catch up some other time. There are plenty of women out there who would never pull a tasteless "date" like she did. You saw some true colors that night and unless this isn't a big deal with you then move on. My guess is it is though since you are posting for feedback. I have met some wonderful women on this site and so will you... don't wast your time with this woman. | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/29/2008 4:26:56 PM | Had the same thing happen to me. I know it hurts, and you can't believe she would do you that way. Best thing to do is forget her, there are women out there that are worth having.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 4:28:26 PM | At least you got a first hand look at what she does when she goes out
Perhaps you want to date women who don't get drunk
I know I wouldn't want to be around someone who's drunk
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Posted: 8/29/2008 5:28:48 PM |
I'm sorry but your question "why do you ladies do this" implies that we *all* do this and trust me, we don't. Only the ones with big issues do.
I second that motion! : )
Yeah, and if she would have been a LADY and not a PLAYER she wouldn't have done it, either. That's why she did..SHE IS A PLAYER. That and like everyone has already put it to you, she wanted free drinks. I could do a repeat of everyone else's post and say "she told you, etc"...but I am not. We all make mistakes. Chalk it up as experience and the next time you come across one of those players, you know the pattern. Keep your eyes peeled.
Good luck
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Posted: 8/29/2008 7:04:08 PM | I don't drink much, but I wouldn't mind being introduced to that "300lb corn fed REDNECK!"
She said that her and her girl friends were going out, which should tell you that it was a girl deal and that it wasn't an exclusive 'date'.
I don't agree with her being piss drunk, but I do think you were expecting too much, and that you handled it in a childish manner. If you were upset with how she handled herself, I don't think you did any better of a job at showing maturity.
Next time, clarify if it's a 'date', or if it's a bunch of people goin to the bar to drink and have a good time...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/30/2008 6:44:02 AM | So, according to your repost, what we learned here grasshopper is just to control your own mind. You salvaged what you could of the evening by enjoying a game(s) of pool with a guy who was apparently at least somewhat normal. Where you erred, and it is easy to do no matter how old you are, was letting her behavior tick you off at all.
Someone that acts so ridiculous was not worth one iota of your time, attention or thoughts after she started with the b.s. You could have enjoyed a few games of pool and called it a night. Maturity for all of us to shoot for and there would be fewer threads to respond to. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:51:16 AM |
we all make mistakes when we are drunk no.. we all don't. Usually the sort of people who say this are drunks themselves who are ashamed of some of the decisions they've made, they want to blame the alcohol, and are about 3 years short of becoming a complete alcoholic.
,and change our behaviour but she did seem to know this would happen and still invite you,bit naughty,if you really like her follow your heart,or take her out with your mates and flirt like hell,see if she likes it.
OP, if you are stupid, you'd follow this advice. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 7:13:18 AM | | Instead of a date call them get togethers, that way any drama either one can bolt. Dropping $100- 200 buying dinner & drinks for a date today? Come on, you can tell if a woman is baiting you. Or a man, in the ladies case( what real ladies are left) chalk it up for experience and just remember if it happens over and over that's a payment for that extra vacation condo in Boca. | |
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/30/2008 8:10:54 AM | I agree with the other posters who said the woman made clear in her text exactly what was going to happen--with the exception of the lie that she'd stick by you all night.
Regardless, I'm not sure why you're wasting any of your time or emotions on a girl who behaves with so little class. Get on with your life, darlin.
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| She sends this text before we meet up....
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:33:58 PM | Hmm.. ok
to me, on first reading ,I thought 'oh she's just joking' but as I read further I thought .. 'that girl's a first class ****!'
She obviously then decided she just wanted an exclusive girl's night out and I guess she thought she would have you as a definite 'take home prize' if she couldn't 'pull' anything else .. and the fact that she was so drunk .. !
Do you really want her when she thinks she can just dangle you on a string 'til she's ready for you??
My advise .. forget her and go get a nice girl who is 100% into you only .. a girl that wants to flirt with YOU & be your little princess.. you deserve better! | |
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