| | Oral and swallowingPage 2 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | OP, if you just can't do it because of the gag reflex, then don't. Period. Just ask him if he would prefer you throw up all over him!
I have a girlfriend who cannot give oral AT ALL because of her gag reflex..... she just about pukes when she's brushing her teeth for pete's sake! 
Next time your dude gets pouty about you not swallowing, catch what he shoots in a cup and offer it to him. 
Point is, you should not be made to feel guilty about your inability to do this.... you have tried, and you do perform oral on him.... it's unfortunate he cannot be understanding.
No way would I make my partner feel bad if he just can't do something.... especially if it has such a negative effect on them.... it would be a total turn off.
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:30:24 PM | | If you want to please him, and are willing to meet him halfway...tell him to cum all over you instead...compromise! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:33:25 PM | OP, just keep telling him you don't like that stuff in your mouth and if he wants you to continue giving him BJs, he'd better lay off that subject! If he brings it up again, go on a BJ strike! 
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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:42:45 PM | heptone, what a bunch of BS!  How dare you berate the OP for not liking cum in her mouth? So what if most women like it or lie and say they do, even if they hate it? Could that be the reason many of them are so beetchy and neurotic? Could that be the reason many of them get back at their men, because sub-consciously they hate him for making them do something they hate, so they spend his money on stupid, trivial things? Hey, it's worth thinking about. She does not like that stuff in her mouth. It does not even belong there in the first place, otherwise it would taste pleasant, right? She should have had that discussion with him before she married him, though. Now she should tell him that this issue is to be off the table, or it's going to be no more BJs at all!  
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Posted: 8/29/2008 8:09:22 PM | Message 11 ...
I think "Heptone" is so full of himself that he needs to complete the picture ... he needs to cum himself up at least a quart of himself and just have c0cktail hour ... BARF!!!!!
I have the same problem as the OP. For me it's partially the taste of the cum ... but I have discovered that it's the "texture" of it that really keeps me from being able to swallow it or have it in my mouth even long enough to try to swallow it.
I think men should be respectful of us ... especially those of us who thoroughly enjoy going down on them and are more than glad to do that anytime he wants it. Some of us really have no control over the fact that we just can't have that cum in our mouth.
Some folks can't eat tapioca pudding because of the "tapioca pearls". Would anyone find it necessary to disrespect someone because they can't stand to have the tapioca pearls in their mouth? | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 8:30:51 PM | | op.......personally.........i respect your opinion and if you dont want it there....it dont go there...period......yes....a bj is better if done to completion...........but a bj finished off another way beats hell outta no bj........now............a question......we've all heard it over and over about swallowing over spitting.........and........it seems that women get rather upset when the guy insists they swallow.......................and think its ok to spit.[it is].....and get rather defensive about it .............complain about guys.all that stuff.......just kinda makes me wonder how many times a guy would be invited back to her bed if............when going down on her..........he stopped to spit?.............my guess is that most women would be insulted.............................i proubly didnt put my thoughts into words the right was.......dang i hate dyslexia | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 8:32:38 PM | OK, this is really easy.
I assume that the two of you were intimate before you got married???
Most all women give oral sex, but not all give blow jobs(swallowing) if you didn't swallow before you got married, then he shouldn't expect it after you got married and has no right to complain....none at all.
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:06:19 PM | Where did she say she doesn't give head? SHE GIVES HIM oral, she just doesn't like copping his jizz in her mouth, and what's so bad about that? She's been saying for years she doesn't like the CUM factor, not the oral factor and he keeps annoying her for the CUM factor which he seems a bit of a****(pun intended) if he won't listen. What decent man wants his woman to do something she feels totally uncomfortable with? It just means you have an unwilling participant and a selfish person receiving the act. Sex should be mutually fun and exciting and enjoyable, and NOT about doing stuff you really don't like.
I wonder how much your husband does that HE doesn't like doing?? I suspect the answer would be ZERO! And if you asked him to do something he didn't like and he said he didn't want to/like it you probably wouldn't ask again cos you RESPECT his opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:08:52 PM | Seriously OP, if you don't like the taste of it, and gag when cum is in your mouth, then just don't do it.
Many have provided suggestions that you can either try or not. Maybe if you really are opposed to the 'taste' of it, you can take up the exploration of that semenex shake (sp?). I know, personally, it is something I would do in the event I found my partner's cum unappetizing... and yes, there have been times that I have found it rather disgusting.. others not.
However, regardless of the issue, it is YOUR body and YOUR issue. He said he'd respect it if you 'tried'... you 'tried'. If at this point it is beyond your means to try again, with alternatives or additives, then that is your choice.
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Posted: 8/29/2008 10:50:33 PM | I'm going to say something that will, more than likely, ruin all of the good will I have built up on these forums. But, you need to find out if this is a "must have" for him. In other words, does he feel sexually unsatisfied unless he's allowed to cum in your mouth?
If that is the case, then this could be a huge problem down the line. Depending on what kind of man he is, he may cheat and you may be the last to know about it. Don't get me wrong, I am not condoning cheating. There is never an excuse for it. However, when people aren't being sexually satisfied, they tend to resort to things they usually wouldn't to get their urges met.
There are those that say, "If he cheats, then you're better off without him." They would be right in saying that. But, he may go out and cheat and you may never find out. So, what do you do?
I would suggest a compromise. Maybe, do it once or twice a month. That way, it gives him his relief and you don't have to do it all of the time. I know it seems unfair that you should have to consider a sex act that you don't enjoy. And you are correct. In an ideal world, he would either suck it up and be grateful for everything else you offer, or be man enough to end the relationship . It is unfair. But, in the real world, people find it easier to cheat than to break up or go without.
As some of the other posters have said, there are ways to alter the taste and consistency of his cum. Research them and experiment. Of course, if this situation isn't a "must have" for him, then stick to your guns and don't do it. End of story.
But, if it's something that he feels he must have in his sex life. If he doesn't feel satisfied unless cuming in your mouth completes the act, then you should make every effort to find out and make your decisions accordingly. Ask your self this; how long could you have a relationship with someone who wouldn't do that one act that really sent you over the moon? How long would it be before you, cheated with, or left for someone that would? Wouldn't you begin to get frustrated and a little resentful if you were fulfilling your partners desires, but he wasn't fulfilling yours, even though you knew he easily could?
Look at the problem from all sides.
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Posted: 8/29/2008 10:56:46 PM | | You aren't going to like my answer, but here goes. For me, being squeamish about swallowing would rule someone out for a long term relationship. Inot only want a woman to do that, I want her to want to do it. I'm not saying you should do it, but it does some to causing you some problems and it sounds like you decided to not like it before you ever did it. Since your husband obviously wants you to do this, the choices seem to be limited to who gives in, an uncomfortable stalemate, or something worse. Your choices are even more limited, since you can only decide what you want to do. Your husband should have been clearer on this from the start, but it's a little late for that. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 11:58:22 PM | did you know there's these things called condoms? They've been around for quit a while now......   | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 12:00:05 AM | | I don't understand the whole issue with cumming in the mouth and why men insist on it. If you don't feel like it, you shouldn't have to do it. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 4:15:26 AM | | Good grief, some guys are jerks... there are options for making the deposit. Turning off your partner is pretty stupid. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:05:06 AM | Ok, so I'm weird!!!!
I've tasted it.........more than once.
Let's just say that a person's diet DRAMATICALLY affects.....................flavor.
Personally, the whole "spit/swallow" debate has never really been a mainstay in my repertoire of dialogue.
It does nothing for me, so I could care less.
Also, I always forewarn before it's time.
I've found that, if you show her the respect and consideration, she has an opportunity to make it..................interesting!! | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:10:03 AM | Lateef, what do you mean 'must have'? It's 100% a mental thing with men who insist on ejaculating in a woman's mouth, nothing more. It's a power trip, especially, if he knows she doesn't like it. If he feels unsatisfied any other way, and suggested he'd go and get that somewhere else, know what I'd say? "GO AHEAD!"
Yes, I'm serious! If this is so important to you then go meet with someone discretely and have her do it the way you like it, just don't rub my nose in it. Otherwise it may be a good idea to separate. Like I said before this should have been discussed before marriage.
but he wasn't fulfilling yours, even though you knew he easily could
But, It's *not* easy for her, or else she'd do it!
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:43:36 AM | 1. You could be thankful you have a great sex life where he wants you to swallow his cum and do it or 2. pretend to swallow and spit it out 3. not give blow job @ all then he will really miss it and probably not ask you to swallow once youve withheld services............4. Do what everyone says and make him swallow his own cum lol...
maybe a modification in diet is in order...also if he has Diabetes it can affect odor and taste..... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:48:12 AM | Wait your married what are you doing on pof?? lol | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:32:40 AM | heptone,
man that so good and right on point from a guys point of view....its scary.
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Posted: 8/30/2008 1:22:04 PM | all this oral talk reminds me of the first guy I ever gave a blowjob to. His cum was so sweet I loved the taste of it . I craved it sometimes , he drank alot of beer and sometimes i wondered if it was because of this ... whatever it was it was YUMMY ..lol
SIGH .... MEMORIES ... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 2:22:01 PM | | If he wants you to do it and knows you don't like it,tell him to kiss your ass or tell him you'll do it but only if you can share the cum in your mouth with him. I bet he back tracks on cumming in your mouth. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 2:35:45 PM |
there are options for making the deposit. Turning off your partner is pretty stupid
Hence the reason for knowing what you want before deciding to spend your life with someone. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 2:37:36 PM |
did you know there's these things called condoms? They've been around for quit a while now......
And I have no intention of wearing one for a bj. Ever. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 2:42:17 PM | I think "Heptone" is so full of himself that he needs to complete the picture ... he needs to cum himself up at least a quart of himself and just have c0cktail hour ... BARF!!!!!
I'd like to see how women would feel if a guy said, ``I'll only perform oral on you if you don't get wet. All that stuff tastes icky.'' | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:41:32 PM | ok, I don't post much but this one strikes home. First, to some earlier posters:
Whats good for the goose is good for the gander. She wants me to go down on her and complete the act then she should complete the act for me. Just an extended "kiss" is a tease. Put it in a cup, give me a snowball, thats fine. Thats how important it is to some people.
I thought sex was about giving???? It's about making the other person happy, not yourself. How many things does the guy do for the gal that he does not want to do. Marriage is all about giving in to the other and compramise.
If you are married and don't get it at home be honest and tell your partner this is important and you will seek it elsewhere. If the guy can't fix the toilet for her she hires a plummer, she doesn't leave the toilet broke and not use it.
You don't have to swallow, heck you don't even have to spit. Like a GF said just push it back out when it goes in. Sure a bit of a mess for the guy, but he will not care as long as you finish it properly.
Just saying no to cum in the mouth may have huge effects in your marriage, is it worth the risk of STDs when he goes elsewhere. To say this is non-negociable is unacceptable in marrage. If dating, sure go ahead and say no to BJs, and Mr. Right may depart. But when married it is about pleasing the other and the game of "if you don't do this I won't do that" can escallate real quick. So make darn sure that something so important to your SO is not worth you fulfilling. It's all about maturity, life is full of things we don't want to do, we do them because we care for others or its the right thing to do. Just imagine how happy a marrage could be if we all gave our SO what they wanted and not what we want. Ok, I'm done.....Let the hate mail fly! | |
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