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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:50:33 PM | | It depends on the man - some taste horrible and others are so sweet. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:09:02 PM | | OP, I'm sure there are plenty of men in the world that don't like giving oral either. Find one of those and agree that you both can avoid it. Should work out fine. And leave the rest of us with 'oral fixations' to each other. Nothing better than eating at the Y. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:12:57 PM | If he cuts out the junk food and increases consumption of green veggies and leafy veggies, the taste improves.
The research is out there. Just gotta go look for it. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:23:10 PM |
I think "Heptone" is so full of himself that he needs to complete the picture ... he needs to cum himself up at least a quart of himself and just have c0cktail hour ... BARF!!!!! I'd like to see how women would feel if a guy said, ``I'll only perform oral on you if you don't get wet. All that stuff tastes icky.''
This is incredible. If your partner was likely to gag when eating scrambled eggs, would you insist she eat scrambled eggs? Many of us just can't handle the stuff in our mouth. Many of us have tried our best ... and it really does make us gag.
I was married to a German man who had no problem eating raw fish. That also makes me gag. While he made fun of me because of it ... he never would have insisted on me eating raw fish.
Personally, if a man does not want to be with me because I can't take his cum in my mouth and swallow it ... that's no problem. There are plenty of men who wouldn't want me to do something that would make me sick and for that I am grateful.
As for the men who might choose a spouse/life partner based on that ... good luck. When the relationship is eventually reduced to changing each others' diapers ... where are you going to find the love to stay together?
I mean ... she might not be capable of taking your cum in her mouth anymore at that point ... you just gonna dump her? | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 10:07:39 PM | | it's probably a good idea to find out if she likes oral before the wedding. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 4:44:11 AM |
it's probably a good idea to find out if she likes oral before the wedding. The OP (as well as many of us) never said she had a problem with "oral" ... she just can't take the cum in her mouth and swallow.
I say that any man who insists that his partner be able to do that should try a cup of his own cum and swallow it. Also, there is no comparison to the "thick" slimy cum a man puts out and the thin fluids a woman puts off ... it's not even close.
Many women love to go down on a man ... they just can't handle the cum in their mouth and most can't swallow it. I don't place any value on a man who would reject a woman who is not able to do that ... even though she is more than willing to go down on him.
That's just crazy to decide a whole relationship on whether or not a woman can take a man's cum in her mouth and swallow it ... Such men who would do that ... don't deserve a partner. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 5:15:41 AM | Why is it so important as long as she is giving him pleasure orally? Sometimes I can not swallow it either, if I have a cold or something, and some taste differently. I have been married 4 x and there is a difference.....He should consider her side of the relationship......maybe she might find a more considerate lover........ there are other fish!! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 5:17:00 AM |
Just saying no to cum in the mouth may have huge effects in your marriage, is it worth the risk of STDs when he goes elsewhere.
If he goes elsewhere just for that the chance of him contracting an STD is very slim.
If dating, sure go ahead and say no to BJs, and Mr. Right may depart.
Then he's not "Mr. Right".
when married it is about pleasing the other and the game of "if you don't do this I won't do that" can escallate real quick.
Sure, but that means that both partners are pretty immature. Anyway, all this should be discussed prior to marriage.
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Posted: 8/31/2008 5:31:11 AM | Ladies imagine how dissapointed and frustrated you would feel if a man was licking you and you are all set to go over the moon absolutely ballistic and he stops and starts doing something else.
I know men would never do this because if they can get you there they certainly will finish but the comparison is apt. I would be upset if this happened once and if it happened regularly wow I might get bitter about it.
Some men taste wonderful - their cum is so nice - not too thick and tastes good almost like egg white and some is ugh- thick and almost bitter.
Some men I love to do it and ask them to cum in my mouth while others I just tolerate and do it for them with a good spirit.
I don't tell them if they have bad cum but I sure tell them if they have nice cum.
Experiment with his diet as suggested. There is a chance his will never taste good. It may be a matter of just more fruit and fluid.
I would strongly suggest you make a habit of doing this at least once a month- when he cums put him far back in your throat and start swallowing (4 swallows should do it) if you do it right it won't ever be in your mouth but go straight down and I promise you will hardly notice a thing.
Do this once a month for two reasons - 1. it is not hopeless for him - he is not desperate for it and 2. at some point you may notice for some reason it tastes better. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 5:35:30 AM | On a more constructive note than my last post, I was told my my college sex ed teacher (a female) that the consistancy of cum is nearly identical to raw egg whites and in many cases a woman can "practice" getting used to cum in their mouth my using this method. This might also be a good way to let the guy know what it like and for the woman to get used to the consistancy.
I believe that there should never be a never when it comes to you spouse. Some sexual things shour be often, while some should be occasionally, and some thing rarely, but nothing should be totally non-negociable "off the list".
Also, swallowing and cumming in the mouth are two totally different things. Swallowing does not really add to the pleasure of oral sex except on a psycological level which may be important to some, but i suspect not many men. If a woman swallows, great, but i think most men would let that go if the woman just finishes what she started.
Now on cumming in the mouth, I've known a few women who could transition from their mouth to hand and I could not even tell the difference or see the difference because they would block the view with their head and the orgasm was every bit as intense. This too is acceptable in my book. Something like this may require practice and I'm sure your guy would love to practice this with you. This might be a great way to compramise.
If a woman has an adversion to cum in general, and freaks out when it is even on her hands or anywhere else then I believe this is where a real problem exists and maybe it would then be best to just part ways if not married. Why is a BJ so important to many men, I'm not sure but for me the orgasm is 10x intense as anything else. If my gal got a 10x as powerful orgasm from someting i could give her you can bet i would do it for her at least occasionally.
OP if i were you I would would take him to orgasm with your mouth giving him a good visual of you going down on him. At the point of orgasm keep your head right there, but blocking his view, and use your hand as he cums, then push the cum off his penis with your mouth as you go back down on him and continue until his orgasm subsides. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 7:18:44 AM | I hate to say this but if you've been married for 8 years and this is your only issue, be grateful, suck it up and swallow. I mean it is a couple teaspoons, not a quart. Everyone (ok, most everyone) has eaten or drank something that was not off the charts delicious.
Even if it truly is a gag reflex issue you can teach yourself to get over that. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 7:19:34 AM |
On a more constructive note than my last post, I was told my my college sex ed teacher (a female) that the consistancy of cum is nearly identical to raw egg whites ... Actually in most cases cum is much thicker and has a tendency to stick to the mucus membranes whereas egg whites do not ... egg whites just glide past the mucus membranes and on down the throat.
... a woman can "practice" getting used to cum in their mouth my using this method. Easy for a man to say ... raw egg whites also make me gag. If I order an egg sunny side up ... and the egg whites are not completely done ... that egg is not going anywhere near my mouth. (BARF!!!)
This might also be a good way to let the guy know what it like and for the woman to get used to the consistancy. No ... actually the best way for a man to find out what it's like ... cum yourself up a nice big cup of yourself and start drinking.
For me, that would be equivalent to going into an old saloon and picking up the spittoon and start drinking. That's how much it would make me gag.
Again ... if a man would discard a partner based on her ability to take cum in her mouth and swallow ... then he is absolutely worthless to me. Any man who places that much value on a couple of minutes in bed ... who would allow that to determine a relationship ... isn't worth the time to sneeze at ... is only worth the effort it takes for me to put out my trash.  | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 7:54:52 AM |
Ladies imagine how dissapointed and frustrated you would feel if a man was licking you and you are all set to go over the moon absolutely ballistic and he stops and starts doing something else.
Your scenario probably would be the one that would happen with the most frequency in a male on female situationbut doing something else don't always equal no orgasm. And I've never seen a man skip a beat or stall when I've gone from oral to hand. Generally speaking, the hand should already be involved anyway (IMHO) so it should be a seamless transition. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:43:46 AM |
the consistancy of cum is nearly identical to raw egg whites and in many cases a woman can "practice" getting used to cum in their mouth
Why does she *have* to 'get used to' it??  Why not accept that people have likes and dislikes when it comes to sex, just as they have likes and dislikes with evrything else? Why is sex different? I don't understand this mindset! 
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:47:34 AM | Ever heard of flavored condoms? He still has the pleasure, and you don't have to worry about the problems you say your having.... Problem solved.....  | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:48:10 AM | OK ladies if you have a problem with the taste or the texture or whatever of a guys cum, all you need to do is deepthroat his d1ck as his coming.
If you can that is.
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:48:38 AM |
if a man would discard a partner based on her ability to take cum in her mouth and swallow ... then he is absolutely worthless to me. Any man who places that much value on a couple of minutes in bed ... who would allow that to determine a relationship ... isn't worth the time to sneeze at ... is only worth the effort it takes for me to put out my trash.
Very well said, cotter. IMO there is something seriously wrong with people, both male and female, who put *that* much importance on something so trivial.
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Posted: 8/31/2008 10:38:25 AM | First of all, I completely understand what you are saying. Most girls do not enjoy the taste of cum and men don't really understand how yucky it can be.
When I was with my ex I tried the swallowing thing and I kept gagging and just could not do it...he said he respected that but then everytime I went down on him he repeatedly asked me to swallow...which got extremely annoying when I had already told him over and over that I couldn't do it, and he had said that was okay and he respected it (obviously he didn't actually respect that).
Eventually I bit the bullet because of his constant nagging for me to do it, and got it down, and after that it was easier to do....but I can't say I ever enjoyed it.
If you and your husband have been together for 8 years I find it a little weird that now it's suddenly such a huge issue.
Maybe tell him if he swallows a load of his own cum you will give it a go? Haha I don't know...I really don't know why men make such a huge issue out of the swallowing thing though.....men are such pigs sometimes. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 10:51:28 AM |
Most girls do not enjoy the taste of cum and men don't really understand how yucky it can be
Yucky? Thats my love gunk your dissing young lady :) Have you ever considered that men get a mouthful of your come everytime he goes down on you? And he cant just swallow and be done with it he stays down there with your coming washing his face and mouth? I'm Just saying 
I really don't know why men make such a huge issue out of the swallowing thing though.....men are such pigs sometimes
I don't see why women make such a huge issue about NOT swallowing, considering what said above. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 11:11:17 AM |
Why does she *have* to 'get used to' it?? Why not accept that people have likes and dislikes when it comes to sex, just as they have likes and dislikes with evrything else? Why is sex different? I don't understand this mindset!
In marriage you have made a pretty non revocable agreement to be with your spouse for life. In most cases you can not go to the local hooker and get a GOOD BJ with your wife's approval. For this reason there is some expectation that your wife will satisfy your needs as long as they are not harmful in nature. We all make sacrifices in marriage, we go to the in-laws for weeks, we go on vacation where we don't always want to go, we do things we don't like, from cleaning the bathroom to painting walls that have perfectly good paint. We do things to make the other happy, and the favor should be returned. Sex is not different, not at all. How many women use sex to get the things that want and answer that honestly.......most is the answer. Why can't a guy ask for the one thing that is important to him, that really, in most cases, only his wife can provide. Heck, you can hire a painter for just $$, and not be called a dog, but hire a woman to give you a BJ, and you are a no good cheater.
Personally, I can't understand why a spouse would not give her husband a good (cum in mouth and continue) BJ when it is something so important to him just because she does not like it. Can anyone imagine a relationship where everyone did not do things they didn't like? If you are looking for someone to do everything you want you better be giving them what they want. This applies to everything, not just sex and BJs. It's about giving to the other and forgeting ones self. There is one answer though, allow the man to go out and find someone to give him the BJ he has asked for or arrange someone else to do this for you (Like hiring a painter). Yea, right, this is unlikely, would you? Be honest. If you can truely say yes I would do this then you are commited to your marriage and your relationship.
I've always admired some of those women on reality shows who eat bugs and such just to not be voted/kicked off the show. I'm sure they do not enjoy it and it is just for some silly game, not something as important as marraige. Rant over  | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 11:16:31 AM | LMAO at message 69 ...What a dumba$$ thing to say ...
Have you ever considered that men get a mouthful of your come everytime he goes down on you? I think a lot of men confuse female "lubrication" fluids (that occur during the process of getting turned on) with female "cum" ... it's not the same.
Most women (about 99% of us) do not produce any amount of "cum" at all ... for sure not in such copious amounts that it would "wash over a man's face". But then the poster who posted that bunch of BS is quite young and no doubt still really has no idea what he's talking about.
Come back and visit us (little boy) when you have consumed a cup of your own cum. Should be interesting ... but then I don't really expect an honest reply either ... 
Message 72 ...
Ahem! Speak for yourself. Note that I did not say 100% of us and I certainly did not put that in there so that women could come in and do any "broadcasting" about the copious amounts of female "cum" they produce. That's not what this thread is about.
Add to that ... I've never heard a woman complaining that her man just won't take her "cum" in his mouth and swallow. Give us a break here!!!
This is truly about men being JERKS and JACKA$$ES ... wanting to get off in a woman's mouth and having no respect whatsoever for the fact that some of us just can't fulfill that request ... and it's not something we have any control over.
Message 73 ...
The problem is that YOU think it is something not of value or trivial. It's not about YOU, it's about the other and their needs and the importance thay place on it. And I remain with my original thought on that. If a few minutes in bed ... taking and swallowing your "cum" ... is that important to the relationship ... then the man is worthless. If that's what makes or breaks a relationship ... then he's not worth the time it takes me to sneeze.
What will he do if his wife / partner gets sick and can no longer provide him that "service"? Is he going to kick her to the curb? Maybe he will. A man who is capable of determining the importance of a relationship on "cum swallowing" probably is capable of doing that.
ie ... not worth keeping around. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 11:29:57 AM |
for sure not in such copious amounts that it would "wash over a man's face
::cough:: Ahem! Speak for yourself. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 11:30:59 AM |
if a man would discard a partner based on her ability to take cum in her mouth and swallow ... then he is absolutely worthless to me. Any man who places that much value on a couple of minutes in bed ... who would allow that to determine a relationship ... isn't worth the time to sneeze at ... is only worth the effort it takes for me to put out my trash.
Very well said, cotter. IMO there is something seriously wrong with people, both male and female, who put *that* much importance on something so trivial.
The problem is that YOU think it is something not of value or trivial. It's not about YOU, it's about the other and their needs and the importance thay place on it.
Also, cumming in the mouth and swallowing should be two totally different things. As far as swallowing goes, no big deal for me and I suspect most BJ lovers. Don't get me wrong, if the mental stimulation of swallowing is important to someone I'm all for it, however it is not for me although I do enjoy the thought though.
Now cumming in the mouth is most of the time necessary to complete the activity for me and most people I believe. A oral sex orgasm is totally different than intercourse, hand jobs or even anal sex. For me BJs are the best, period! If you can go to hand seemlessly, and many can, and produce the same intensity of orgasm I'll all for it as I suggested earlier.
By the way, I agree with all who have said put it in a cup for him to taste or swallow if swallowing is important. You will at that point find out how important it is, but be prepared to change your attidute and actions if he passes this "test". | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 11:56:36 AM | | Jesus, its your choice whats the decesion here. Either you like it or you dont, I understand him wishing for you to try it but cmon. Seems you already did & didnt like it, bottom line he should respect your wishes. As long as both parties are finishing so to speak whats the problem here ???? | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 12:00:33 PM | Ok, so you like to give head, but don't like the taste of cum? they kinda go hand in hand in my book. Have you tried using a chaser .... water, milk, soda...etc etc .... I've never had a problem with it, but I've been told it helps ..... still don't see how the cum could bother you more than the****thats in your mouth.... you may also want to try putting a mint in your mouth .... it gives him a fuzzy feeling, and will mask the taste of the cum.... otherwise you're shit out of luck hun,
you should have known that only doing it once wouldn't have worked ....
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