| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:38:49 PM | I gotta be honest with you guys sex is kinda boring for me if im not in love with the person im having sex with its ok for the first couple of nights or week but then the novalty is gone and im back to square one .
I need the emotional stuff to go with it im sure you guys know what i then for me its heaven .
And condoms nasty piece of work lol but if you wanna stay alive they are a must .
sex is important either way i guess hehe | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/11/2008 4:59:40 AM | | Yes, It is. Now that I am older and wiser. I can Appreciate a woman for who there are, all of them When you are with a woman that you care about, about how she feels, who she is, the things that make her who she is. It is a whole different experience for me. Ten times better then it was when I was younger. As an older and wiser man I now try to help the younger guys that are part of my circle to understand what they are missing when woman are not respected for what they can bring to you both sexually and mentally. I have found a whole new love for the woman that come in to my life. Sex is not even the first thing I see now when I meet a new lady. I think it is called growing up. And I like it. I have discoverd that I like the ladies just the way they are. Woman are neat friends! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/13/2008 1:48:06 PM | Definitely, good and satisfying sex is a large part of a relationship for me.
I'm past the "that time of the month" hassle, know what I like and don't like and I'm not afraid to speak up. I no longer worry about kids and doors and can be ever so much more relaxed and enjoy the whole process.
Now all I have to do is find a man with the same outlook! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/23/2008 3:54:33 PM | Okay, I have made it through the first year of separation.... And yes I think that sex is way more important now than it was say, even 13 months ago...in a desparate attempt to save our marriage with NO sex for 5 years...when consulted the marriage counselor... She made a statement that was priceless..... If your partner is more concerned with the paint job on the ceiling, then something is not right.... My ex's face turned beet red and he stormed out of the office.... I painted the bedroom 7 times the last ten years......HoHummmmmm... So now that I have "graduated" from my first year. I am very interested. But then again, I'm not going to be bed hopping just for the experience....... I've been told that good things take time..... (What time is it?)  | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/25/2008 4:03:50 PM | Absolutely, actually more important. As I have matured, sex has become more of a deep expression of affection and love. I think you can actually feel the depth of someone's love during the sex act and as the love grows deeper, sex becomes more and more meaningful as a way of connecting to the other person. I think as you mature, you can surrender yourself, make yourself totally vulnerable to the other person and feel perfectly safe. Of course, great sex needs to be accompanied with lots of other wonderful signs of affection. I believe that foreplay starts the minute you wake up and doesn't end until you fall asleep at night.
My last relationship was pretty much sexless for the last year and a half. The loneliness while being with someone was much too painful. The sexless part was akin to being subjected to daily rejection.
I think my sexual appetite has actually increased as I have aged. I feel that a satisfying sex life is absolutely imperitive to me in a relationship, especially now that I have experienced a relationship without it. I would not consider a sexless or less frequent or lower quality sex life now . I will say however, I am not currently in a relationship, and that if I were in a deeply committed relationship and later some sexual activities were diminished due to medical reasons, I certainly would work with my partner to be creative in finding other ways to be satisfied. But I am looking for a committed, long term relationship with lots of attention, affection, love and a steady diet of sex play. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/25/2008 6:50:45 PM | | Sex seems to be more important to me now than it ever was. I have a very healthy sex drive I sometimes wonder if it is too healthy lol. The trouble is, finding a man who feels it is that important too. Of course this has to be with the right person, not just anyone (wanted to clarify that). I guess it is just different for all of us. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/25/2008 9:52:00 PM | | OP ... I find this an interesting topic. Aging has not effected my sexual appetite.. the lack of partner has done that. A relationship is made up of many things but at the forefront is love and sex. Unless there were health issues and I had been with the person for a long time I would not consider a sexless or lower quality sex life. But, I know there is value in companionship and sometimes holding hands is all that is needed.. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/26/2008 1:24:03 AM | | i totally agree arwen...i was with a guy who had absolutely no idea how to satisfy a woman..thought i was doing good getting a younger guy...never again....sex isn't the only thing...but if the amount you get wether it be a lot or a little...if it has not substance...then whats the point...so arwen...yes sex is important part of any healthy relationship | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/26/2008 1:55:52 PM | Actually when I was younger I really did'nt care about sex.
Since I turned 40 ( I am 46 now ) I can't get get enough
of it! Of course I have to be in a relationship to even have sex but when I
do wow, I just can't get enough of it!!
I seriously think something is wrong with me!  | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/26/2008 2:10:39 PM | | No!!! sex is now the icing on the cake if all the vibes are working. I think someone that you can enjoy being around. And can have great conversation, laughter and fun with. Is so much more rewarding. At 45 and over we are pretty set in our ways. You don't want to change anyone or be changed to much. The vibes and compatiblity is most imporant first. And the sex if it is good is just a tremendous plus. I could hang out with the right person and never have sex with them if I enjoy them. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/26/2008 2:51:09 PM | OK now with that all said and done the guys here have to deal with women that are in their Menopause stage of life whether they admit it or not. Those mood swings can be a challange along with changes in libido and other physical factors.
You put all that together and it does not make a for positive dating experience for both parties. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/26/2008 4:35:10 PM |
I never was with a man for just the sex, it was always for the love we shared together.
As reading more posts from all kinds of groups of people, I do find more and more evidence that many people highly value love. However, I do acknowledge that sex plays an important role in a good relationship, but it must be built on love. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/26/2008 6:49:40 PM | Speaking only for myself, as I have gotten oldre, I have become less inhibited, more in touch (no pun) with myself and my needs and desires and more clear about what makes me happy. I spent my early years in a marrage that didnt work and failed relationships that may have succeeded if we knew better what we wanted and hadnt been so narrow minded. I have lived and learned and know now what I want and what pleases me. I am also now an empty nester and dont have to worry as much about influencing children, or be concerned about privacy in my home. Im no longer a single mother raising daughters who will be judged for dating. So theoretically, sex should be better than ever given the right partner! at least that is what Im looking forward to and hope to have be the case one day.
Happy Fishing! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/28/2008 4:37:35 PM | | No it's not. If it was, I'd be doing a whole lot more about finding my next relationship. I miss it, but it's not as important to me as it was say 25 or 30 years ago. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/29/2008 8:01:26 AM | I keep waiting for my sex drive to slow down. Isn't that what happens as we get older? I'm only a little less randy than I was say 20 years ago. Sex has always been important to me - call it a hunger that demands to be fed. But I learned early in life that my heart must be engaged or I'm left feeling empty afterwards. One night stands just don't work for me. I always feel empty the next morning.
Without wandering off from the tour, I'll just say this...sex is as important to me as ever, but I have learned when I'm in love with my partner it's a million times better than just a quick shagging. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/29/2008 10:27:27 AM | I think as a young man sex was more than 75% of my relationships..as I age and am wiser ( I hope) sex is now less than 25% of what a true loving relationship is based on.
I know much has changed as we age..and some still act and think like a 25 yr old..and some of us mellow and what took 3 hours to do in our 20s now can be accomplished in 30 minutes of foreplay.
I lost a relationship because of sex not to long ago..I work 10 hr shifts then work at home and am tired at night..explaining morning is best just doesn't get through to some.
Sex is just not a priority in my life at this point..while I still enjoy it alot..many other facets of life are so much more important..
just saying.. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/29/2008 11:15:06 AM | You bet Sex is extremely important on many levels.
AAAH Menopause, got news for you some women are not peri-menopausal until well into their 50s. I kow more men with mood swings
I am now more sexually unihibited than I ever was. I want a partner who is also. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/29/2008 12:04:59 PM | Yes absolutely!!! I may be getting older but I'm not getting less passionate. I believe an active sex life promotes a healthy mind, spirit and body. I think most people would agree if they'd just give up the twisted beliefs generated by the religous right. Ah oh, I'm sure I just pissed quite a few people off---- | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 10/29/2008 12:09:33 PM | Right on girl--I totally agree with you....I want it more often now then I ever did in my 20's or 30's --now I know what I want, how I want it and am open to more than I ever have been!!! Cougars Rule!!!!! LOL | |
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