| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/21/2008 1:36:59 PM | | Sex has always been important to me. Without sex, it's like a part of me is missing. Like a metaphoric arm or leg. My sexuality is part of who I am. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/21/2008 3:38:03 PM | | Yes, in fact it is more important. I was in a marriage where we were sexually mismatched. Now I really appreciate the love, the romance, intimate times together and sex is a part of it. With the territory (age wise) often comes the problems males may be facing. Perhaps they have erectile dysfunction. I have had a man in my life who had the problem. We had a wonderful sex life. Men still need the kissing and touching and love to have their genitals touched. Its not like they cant feel and get pleasure from what men have said, its just that they can't get hard enough. If the chemistry is right between two partners, romantically and sensually and sexually they can be totally fullfilled. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/22/2008 12:30:35 PM | | I believe sex is very important, it keeps you young. I'm in my fifties and had...lol a very exciting sex life within and out of marriage. My wife who I love very much does not want sex in the slightest and finds it perverse that I stll have a high sex drive in my fifties. Thank god I;ve a good memory......:-). To one of the ladies jibes what's wrong with poping a pill... works for me. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:12:04 PM | | No , not really. The level of intensity of wanting has lessen over the past five or so years but I'm surely not dead. Seems like I was in my mid-40's when my husband and I noticed that there was other important aspects of our marriage that were becoming more important. It kind of slipped up on us then it was suddenly there. The physical act itself was less frequent but became much more satisfying. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:58:58 PM | Is sex as important to me as it once was????
NO! It's more important! I don't know why. It seems to be the most fun thing in the world and secondary to everything else. At our age, I'm quite willing to accept ED, but that doesn't mean that sex is non-existant. My world exploded with a man who had "problems". He was an artist! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:39:37 AM | Hell yes it is as important, if not more so. I remember having to sneak it in while the kids were little, and then during the end of our marriage it didn't seem to matter any more.
So now with freedom and time I can again look forward to sex on my terms. Which means with a man I truly care for . | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 12:02:53 PM | your right i think love and intimacy are more important than sex
how i feel at the moment i dont think it would bother me if i never had it again
(how sad is that )  | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 12:08:21 PM | {quote}Without sex, it's like a part of me is missing. Like a metaphoric arm or leg.
Now if we were like lobsters, perhaps we could regenerate that special appendage....jes thinkin!!!
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 1:04:28 PM |
I remember having to sneak it in while the kids were little,
...It got worse as they got older, you couldn't hardly enjoy it cause you were so concerned about the noise level
...maeflowers | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 2:45:29 PM | | That I can relate to. Being able to scream at the top of my lungs at the critical moment is a pleasure that children in the house pretty well completely suppressed.... | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:43:21 PM | Come now you folks! Isn't that the reason why God invented sockies? lmao....
Even at this ripe old age, I much prefer to date a man who has his own "childless" place. There, I am allowed to abandon myself to the heights of unabashed pleasure with absolutely no guilt!!!! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/30/2008 9:05:01 PM | Many of you don't seem to acknowledge how the "children" problem came about in the first place. I've never been able to have sex with complete abandon because of fear of spawning them in the first place. Menopause will be a blessing, however by then I'll be too old for anyone to want me. I'm noticing that offers are fewer and farther between already. Meeting a 40 something sex addict with a vasectomy and a penchant chubby sassy redheads would be ideal. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/31/2008 8:07:05 AM |
Meeting a 40 something sex addict with a vasectomy and a penchant chubby sassy redheads would be ideal.
Thanks, you made me laugh out loud!
Unfortunately I'm a 40 something sexaddict, that thinks "chubby sassy redheads" are cute, but I don't have a vasectomy!
Two out of three, story of my life!  | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 12/31/2008 8:41:50 AM | | I have to be honest--NO. And that's why I'm having a hard time fitting in here and in society in general. It seems sex, sex, sex is forefront on everyone's mind, and is the ultimate goal and priority in a relationship. Maybe, then, I'm not relationship material-! Not that I don't have the tools, hey, everything functions just fine. It's just that sex has taken a back-seat IN MY MIND, to keeping myself in physical shape, making money, being aware of world affairs and enjoying the love of family and friends. But the right woman could come along, and, if I consider her physically hot, sexy, intellectually stimulating and emotionally supercharges my heart with her fire and passion, she could completely rock my world and reorganize sex to the forefront of my priority list. That's why I'm here-! So far, the fires are lukewarm but simmering nicely...there are a lot of nice-looking and nice ladies here... | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 3:20:05 PM | I am beginning to think it is more important to women than me lately.
The last lady I dated..wanted sex and I wanted a partner..I was basically dumped because I don't perform like a 20/30 year old and sex isn't as important as it once was.
When I was 20 sex was 95% of what I wanted..
When I was 30 sex was 85% of what I wanted..
Reaching 40 sex was 65% of what I wanted in a partner..
At 50 sex was 50% of what I was seekijng from a partner..
So in retrospect..no it isn't..at my age..
Good Attitude, Good health, security and Good companionship is what I value the most.
You Cougars..rock on babes..good luck to you..I'm sure the young men appreciate your attentions as I would have back then.
Just my humble opinion after living the fast life for 56 years, losing most of my family and many friends, losing my wealth and rebuilding myself once again..
I know what's important to me..
good luck fishing to you all...
dusty | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 4:34:02 PM | To OP
uh, I think it is...trying to remember
Ok ok, being single and not get any or willing to go out for a hook up I find it is still on my mind a lot! I have no idea what will happen if and when I uhhh "get some" and really never worry about it. What happens will | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:42:45 PM | To paraphrase President Clinton, it depends on your definition of what sex is.
Just because the plumbing doesn't function as well as it once did, or requires the miracle of modern chemistry, doesn't mean that I have a less frequent or lower quality sex-life than when I was younger.
If anything, I enjoy sex much more. There are many more ways to experience each other than traditional intercourse. And I find that I am much more interested in my partners satisfaction than in just getting my rocks off. (so to speak)
Plus it allows for my partners and I to be much more creative in our love-making.
And if my partners are being truthful, there have been no complaints. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:43:28 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.................................................
I think when you have a loving.. caring.. giving partner.. who is able to have sex.. it's extremely important as a means of sharing the ultimate "gift" you can give one another.
I do think a full conversation needs to be brought up in the early dating stages about sex.
Not necessarily that either should feel "pressured" into performing on a first date or very early dating scenario.
A discussion of how much of an emphasis each puts on sex.
Then.. let nature take it's course.
If the partners are right for one another in all other aspects.. the time will eventually be "right" for sex. JMO | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:39:54 PM | I do think a full conversation needs to be brought up in the early dating stages about sex.
Not necessarily that either should feel "pressured" into performing on a first date or very early dating scenario.
A discussion of how much of an emphasis each puts on sex.
These bits of advice can still lead to disappointment. Many men seem to love to pressure and pursue, but then turn out to be "minute men", then down for the count. They boast about their insatiable sex drive and lament about how they never got enough from their ex(s). This is what I've noticed. Working or non working equipment, the possibilities are still endless with an interested partner when the chemistry and imagination is there.
I'm sure there are women out there who pretend to be more sexual than they are to get what they want and then start rationing once they have what they want.
...and kudos to the men who have admitted here that sex is not a priority for them, but don't think that those who think it is important are necessarily shallow people. Is it shallow to continue to enjoy a favorite food? Sex can be one of the greatest pleasures of being alive - it is such a great gift of being human. It helps me to keep feeling young.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:26:04 PM |
hey boast about their insatiable sex drive
Funny, I have found the same with women that brag about how great they are in bed, can you say boring
To me it is fun and I feel a thing two should enjoy and use it t learn (on one level) about each other. True, things are much deeper or get so in the long run but sex , that dance of intimacy is something that starts the ball rolling...well kinda.
(Sheesh I want to say feeling another's vibe and knowing that is the first thing that happens, a taste of what they are so to speak...oh well) | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:45:42 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.................................
"These bits of advice can still lead to disappointment. Many men seem to love to pressure and pursue, but then turn out to be "minute men", then down for the count."
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I see this scenario only if YOU like being pressured.. or "buckle" easily under pressure.
I don't.. point blank.
If someone tries to "strong arm me" into having sex.. or.. anything.. he isn't worth my time or effort.. and it's a  .. and a fella!
People can only "do" to you what you "allow" yourelf to have done.JMO | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 1:37:51 AM |
These bits of advice can still lead to disappointment. Many men seem to love to pressure and pursue, but then turn out to be "minute men", then down for the count. They boast about their insatiable sex drive and lament about how they never got enough from their ex(s). This is what I've noticed. Thank you LORD, I'm not the only one that has noticed this! 
Working or non working equipment, the possibilities are still endless with an interested partner when the chemistry and imagination is there. Got that right!: When it is there. | |
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