| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:46:27 AM | | Haven't read the 17 pages of answers before me, but to answer the OP's question directly, yes, it is just as important as it ever was. In fact it may be more important. At this point in my life, as I seek a new partner, I want a healthy sex life with that new partner, not a casual sexual affair mind you. However, since I am seeking a new love, I will look for one that can perform sexually. It is a very important part of romance, intimacy and love, and I want the whole package. I would have remained with my partner of 30 years to the end without sex, but he choose otherwise, so now I want the whole package. Many women never stop enjoying sex, in fact, enjoy it more as they mature, so it becomes more important. Those of us in that category are very lucky. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 9:00:05 AM | For me it used to be the only thing. The older I get I still enjoy it a lot, but it isn't everything. NowI feel great conversation, laughing and a great chemistry make sex that much better. If I don't have those things, I am most likely not going to have sex with that woman.
I have also noticed a lot of older women 55+ are saying it is now more important than ever. I find that interesting, and would like to hear why for future experience. You can never learn enough even about sex. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 11:24:10 AM | | I notice that some are specifying that sex is important only within a relationship. I thought that was a given. I would think there would have to be a relationship in place first. But since some are making that point, maybe I need to clarify my statements. Sex is as important within a relationship as it ever was. Right up there with mutual attraction . When I'm not in a relationship, no sex. So would not need to state it's importance. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 12:32:39 PM | Frequency of wanting or needing it as I have aged has become less with agebut the importance of it has not. I may not be packing a six shooter any longer more like a shotgun. I like to linger longer, have fun with it and find trying new things very stimulating. Nothing can replace the touch of someone you love and I sure hope that happens again. Sex has moved from a need to a pleasure for me at least. I now have the time to explore the wonders of it like no time before. I have opened my mind to giving pleasure is just as good as getting it. I have time to listen to my partners needs, wants, desires and fantacies and try to make them come true. The feeling of a womens body next to mine, the taste, the smell is now very important to me. I enjoy taking the time and effort it takes to make it special. I am much more sensual than I was when I was younger. Sex connects people together like nothing else. It is intimate at it highest level. Just brushing past a person in a loving and sexual way makes someone feel good about being in the same place with you. It's the feeling of being loved and knowing that you are loved by that person on such an intimate basis that makes your life complete! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 2:29:45 PM | Aging has NOT effected my sexual appetite whatsoever! And I certainly don't need a Viagra sandwich either...I guess I should consider myself fortunate.
~Ona | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/3/2009 3:59:21 PM | I think I'm lucky too - I run 5 - 10K a day as well, am vegetarian and don't drink much or smoke. I think this might help a little bit.
I've found no fall off at all but I do think I'm extremely lucky but all my life I have had an extremely high sex drive. I was discussing this with friends in their 30's recently and I was surprised at their responses which kind of put things into high relief for me.
In fact one young lady did accuse me of having taken viagra once which I found very amusing. But it can be a curse as well as a blessing and perhaps, as I have grown older, I channel that energy into other areas rather than just the sexual - I guess that is where the older/ wiser bit comes in ;) | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/5/2009 4:19:14 AM | | Life is funny. 18 year olds never want it and 58 year olds can't get enough. Did it ever occur to anyone that you might just NOT turn us on? | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/5/2009 8:11:44 PM | Yes important, as important as the goodnight phone calls, flowers, dinners, walks etc. Its all part of the package in a healthy relationship. For the record, I'd didn't realise women liked it or wanted it so offten, I've learnd something since being single..thank you to my X LOL.   | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:30:42 PM | | Honey its time for a change of pace with you.. its time for a female if you're on DRY LAND... there are woman out here that would satisfy you appetite completely... Im one of them... lol | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:34:26 PM | | Sex is better now then the age 19 because we're more aware of our needs and desires at this age.. We're a hell of a lot more experienced now... we most likely know how to please more now... I love giving... have my entire adult life... its funny I believe I'm the only Lesbian in this conversation............ | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/6/2009 12:45:02 AM | Well, let’s see is sex as important as it once was? More so, but let me qualify my statement. It is not as urgent as it was in my teens and twenties. I was obsessed, always wanted it, but only periodically got my fill. The urgency and obsessive focus on sex has mellowed, but let me qualify that statement. OP asks
how aging has effected your sexual appetite and I must say my appetite is remarkably healthy, thank you very much. I am thankful that my appetite has hardly faded at all. My sexual health is great and have never considered trying Viagra since I don’t seem to need it.
Regarding the other OP’s question
Would you consider a sexless or less frequent or lower quality sex life now I would have to say, no never, not if I can help it.
The beauty of sex at this stage in my life is the fact that I am comfortable in my own skin and I can release my inhibitions. This enables me to tune in with my partner more naturally nowadays. It wasn’t until my thirties I came to know what all the fuss about intimacy is all about. Amazing how it changes sex into something more deeply satisfying. Sexless? Never! Less frequent? Not If I can help it. Lower quality? Hell no! It’s out of the ballpark compared to what it used to be. Guess I’m Lucky.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/6/2009 10:21:39 AM | | No, it's different now for me. Im very sexual, but would consider less frequent if the right person were involved. My sexual appetite has increased over the past couple years, but I wouldnt bank a relationship on it. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/6/2009 2:42:36 PM | " At this point in my life, as I seek a new partner, I want a healthy sex life with that new partner, not a casual sexual affair.
It is a very important part of romance, intimacy and love, and I want the whole package "
I have to agree with Jeepers....
Sex is hugely important to a relationship !!!
If you don't ahve sex, you don't have the intimacy !!!!!
JB
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/6/2009 5:13:07 PM | Naw......Sex is not important to me anymore, I could care less, I do not date that often, have little to no needs, and I enjoy my own damn company........
Gee.......I think I have that "Mad Cow" disease..........  
OT.......Not only is it important, it has become an absolute necessity.......but doing it alone is not half the fun as doing it with someone you care for....... 
Now where is that "mad cow"????
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/6/2009 6:05:04 PM | | I still think a healthy sex life is a healthy relationship, but it takes 2 to have a healthy relationship and until you find the one who makes it happen a woman has to do what a woman has to do take care of her needs. If the right man comes into the relationship then it is fun to figure out what he needs and for him to figure out your needs then you can put them into harmony at the same time and that begins the fun healthy sex life if he knows how to please her and she knows how to please him and always keep it spiced up throughout the relationship. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/7/2009 11:10:06 AM | yes indeed, I feel I've become an expert at pleasuring a woman (and have been complimented often :) ), and LOVE to do so for that ONE special woman in my life (absent at the moment). Although I am more atuned to a woman's needs, I can easily go three times a day, on occassion even more ( 8 orgasms in one day is my record...just a few years ago...).
So yes, is IS very important, BUT its BEST when I am in love with someone, and I prefer it that way. Lust by itself is OK, but it doesn't last without the love alongside. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/7/2009 4:08:38 PM | | whats life without sex,kissing ,touching,now is the time to enjoy .Kids are all grown upIts time to live a little,People wake up.Theres menny fountains of youth and the sex fountain is one of them. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/7/2009 6:40:08 PM | | yes it can still be important for me , i need to share some intamcy with whomever i will fall in love with again, closeness and passion feed a loving relationship for me | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/8/2009 1:28:45 PM | | Yes--maybe more important! I spent years in a marriage to someone I was not that attracted to and the sex was infrequent. Then I spent several years alone. Now I want to be adventurous but unfortunately don't have a very willing partner. He claims to have "wanted it all the time" in his younger years, but since getting older has noticed a decline in interest. Sad for me. If things don't turn around I will have to rethink things. It's just too important to settle for mediocre. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 1/9/2009 12:17:19 PM | Not to me at all. While I have all the desires and the urges, even at 50, I want them to be shared with a special lady that shares special feelings for me. And that takes time.
Doing it that way, we BOTH get more out of it......before, during and after.
Just my opinion. | |
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