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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/29/2008 10:36:04 PM | I admit that I have been in two sexless relationships.
The second one was because..after three years of telling me it was my fault...as I was leaving he admitted that he had NEVER had a sex drive. It had always seemed to much work for him......
The first one was with a man who had been paralized since he was 12 years old. Even though there was no sex...he was the most sensual man I had been with.
As to me personally...well, yup...I always thought I might be a sex addict until those two aforesaid relationships. I was faithful to both.
AND...the thought of being in a sexual relationship where we would have sex maybe twice a week...just completely freaked me out when I was younger.
Now, since I've been "without" for awhile...and I have "changed"...well, for awhile I thought prehaps I was no longer...functioning.
But...I'm all better now. Yes, I want sex...but, more importantly I want a good relationsip. In other words...a good "roll in the hay" is not on the top of my list.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 4:17:19 AM |
Moreso, cause I know Im better now than I have ever been before. If someone has a low sexual appetite I dont think we would get along at all.
I agree. It's important. My desires have not lessened, on the contrary. And,there is something about age and maturity which, for me, increases understanding and appreciation of love making thus making it better than ever, with the right person. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 6:16:09 AM | Well...sex never was important for me...
It was something coming to me naturally...when I was in love...
And it was all the stuff important ...starting from smile...his arms...kisses...and the rest was instinct...primitive instinct...with wonderful feelings...
At my age...I feel the same...
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:26:10 AM | Right now its importance is right up there with finding the right one to be with. Of course this is all an illusion in my mind.
And to whoever said about the plumbing not working., ???????? Intimacy is more than just sex....and sex is more than just intercourse.............Had to jog my memory on that one. 
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:34:46 AM | | I agree with you spacebabe.. My last relationship was with a man who was impotent and I loved him to bits.. he was every thing I needed.. As you can live without sex... but we got round some things together. I had a wonderful man by my side who I adored... shame he could not except the way he was with himself..I still adore him now and would have him back at a drop of a hat.. Sex is only important if you both make it so... I don't think sex is anymore important than loving somone.. So I have the same views on sex now as I had when I was so much younger.. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:43:14 AM | | Sex and the desire for it were built into every individual, but every individual is different. Sex is how we procreate. Without it your genetic material good or bad dies out. The desire for sex is as strong as the desire for life. Yet for some any old bucket does the trick, no strings no regrets. To leave our mark the offspring of our sex activities must be raised with our values and knowledge, philosophy not just genes. Two who bond create a better child than those without the shared love, a harmonic blending of two otherwise individuals. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:59:06 AM | I feel the same way. It does get better with age. I am much more interested in sex now than I was when I had kids to raise ,plus work a full time job ,plus clean house , cook meals, run errands on my so called day off from my job. By the end of the day I was too dang tired to feel sexy or to take the time to try to look sexy. It was more ok do it and get it over with. And that is being honest.
Now I have more time for myself, and time to do try harder to make myself look sexier for my man. Makes me feel better and shows him I do care how I look for him. Intimacy is of course very important but I enjoy sex with my man and I know that there is always that possibility ,the day may come that the sex drive will deminish and one of us might not be willing or able to enjoy it anymore. Then the intimacy can take over. But for now it is sex for me !  | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 8:32:50 AM | | Absolutely! I state it right in my profile, I'm tired of cold, heartless, distant women. I love intimacy, and will not waste any more time on women who don't. I am NOT a bad guy for wanting this, as so many of the fair sex would acuse me of. A woman who likes it more than me would have me at "Hello"! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:07:38 AM | | Sex is very important but only if you do not have it Just like anything else,,,Usually with age you have money to travel and give back to society and make a difference and not have to be entertained but to entertain helping with a cause that helps others so with the age come more of you mind thinking of man kind but Sex is still important, | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 10:30:25 AM | Yes, but not just the physical act. Its the sharing and closeness that comes with it. Falling asleep and then waking in each other's arms. The anticipation and the afterglow.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 11:19:50 AM |
I enjoy the full dimensions of a woman now more than at any prior time in my life, and while I would happily add several ladies to the mix, only one of those relationships would be a sexual one. That would be the most important one, and yes, its sexual side would be highly important to me.
I would absolutely love to say this without question but focussed on men....caught my attention (lol). | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 11:33:01 AM | [I would absolutely love to say this without question but focussed on men....caught my attention (lol)]
Thank you! I love your "name", the images it evokes. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:08:18 PM | is sex imperitive. yes. i have been in two relationships where the other party was way undersexed and i will not be with someone who's idea of sex is once a week if you have to and once a month if you can get by with it.
level of importance is not as high. i was way over sexed as a younger man, which may have contributed to the problems listed above. its important but not as important to me as intelectual, spiritual and emotional connection
would not consider sexless but would certainly consider sex less often without any problem.
all in all for me its more the quality of sex now than the quantity. and even that is secondary to the other things mentioned. probably for most of us the same is true. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:47:11 PM |  Sex sex baby
One thing I've found, since I am probably the most senior, is that the older you get the more focused you get on sex.
Is it different than when you were in 20's? Heck yes. When you were young, you didn't worry if it could or couldn't happen. That's a real issue now. It's one thing to start a relationship with a fully functioning partner and a completely different ball game to have one that could never function with you. Something about complete sex bonds a couple. Once bonded, it isn't as important if it's impossible to have it. I was engaged to a man for four years. The sex was horrible. I was terribly in love with him but, we just never felt connected.
Intimacy is a crucial factor in a relationship .....right up there with communication. There are all types of intimacy. Some people are happy with just holding hands. Not me. With more time on my hands, I think about it more and want it more besides having the leisure to indulge. Don't get me wrong.....a person's heart and soul are a bit higher than sex.....a lot. But......I want sex too, in some form, and a satisfying form delivered quite often.....real often.
Some women lose the desire with age......some women. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 1:48:39 PM | One thing I have noticed recently that I have just started thinking about is how my life has changed at 55 from like 25.
I will say that yes sex is as important to me has it was 30 years ago but there is a difference... many times now at my age the frequency has depended upon mine and my partner's responsibilites to those who are depending upon us. That is a huge change from 30 year ago when I have very little responsibilities nor accountability to others.
I think for the over 45 crowd that sex is a smaller part of our lives but still very important but we have other priorities that come first many times at least they do for me.
I had this end a promising relationship I had a few months ago because he lived about 45 miles from me and between our responsiblities to others plus our job responsibilites sometimes we could not get together for a date for weeks at a time. That sure puts a damper on things.. but I don't think I would want to change my life right now.
I am currently begining to see a man in an nonexclusive relationship who like me has a lot of responsibilities and we have to steal away to spend time together..but we are both willing to wait in lieu of our other responsiblities. So I guess it works for us. We are making plans to spend a weekend away together where sex will become a priority but that won't happen for awhile because of the nature of our work and our responsibilites to others.
I guess for me this works because we both understand the other's responsibilities. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 2:22:24 PM | Oh sure I know all about being natural. The day I was digging the hole for my outhouse and standing knee deep in mud with nothing on but my waders, while it was raining turned him on big time. Natural as I could be. But nothing wrong with getting rid of the granny panties and putting on sexy lingerie and dabbing on a tab of his favorite perfume either. Nothing wrong with doing a few extra things if you know your man likes it. Pleasing him means he will please me in return! Yeeeehawwww | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/30/2008 3:35:01 PM | You know, I find it so interesting that the Viagra and Cialis commercials show all kinds of true intimacy - snuggling, handholding, looking deep into each other's eyes - and no emphasis on "wham, bam, thank you ma'am." It seems to me that if more people engaged on those preliminaries, there might be less of a need for those medicines. I miss the intimacy, the affection, and the touching - I wouldn't get into a booty call type relationship - I've been through that. Sex would be wonderful if I knew the person had true affection for me - otherwise, I'll just wait. | |
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