| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:12:26 AM | my wish is that I would like to find out, as I havn't had it in such a long time I forget what the experiance is like. But personally I would like to think that it is important more as you get to my age as it ever was  | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 4:26:53 AM | Absolutly, more so now than earlier in life. Nothing better than great physical sex where you are able to get inside each others heads and completly blow the others mind, leaving you both exhausted mentally and phyically... to fall asleep curled up together.
For me it has to be both aspects... the intensity and closeness that develops from the psychological trip you go on with a great partner is as important as the physical act.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:01:15 AM | | At the age of fiftyone and counting I find that I think of sex as much now, if not more, than when I was younger. Although I at this age I prefer to have quality sex and not quantity. As I grew older the mystery of pleasuring a woman was more clear to me and my thinking of sex became with an open mind. I remember in one a case my partner said "those things are funny they go up then they go down" well I asure the women readers that if you see it go up keep doing what your doing but if you see it go down go back to what you were doing. I say that because I've read some messages that suggest that obesity and meds are to blame for a non active man, but I say it could be an uneducated lover. Remember ladies it's much easier for a man to leave a woman that doesn't make the bedroom an exciting place than it is to leave because she can't make a gourmet meal. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:12:05 AM | Gosh, I cannot really remember how important it was way back then. Seems to me a lot of things were important and that is still true. Of course when I was young I took it all for granted, but now it is important to be prepared so that, if the planets are also aligned properly, all goes well.
I guess the question really is, "Would I be in a relationship that did not involve any form of sex?" I tried that for almost 20 years and I did not like it. I don't think I would like it any more now. I would say I have yet to meet a lady that was not at least as interested in raising the issue as I. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:23:28 AM | yup
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 11:05:54 AM | I keep seeing this thread, and the same answer keeps coming up in my mind.
Is sex as important to you as it once was?
I can see no difference between what my libido once was and is now. So, the answer to the question is: YES. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 1:35:59 PM | When I was a late teenager sex was very important to me.
That was one of the reasons I got married to get regular sex.
Now I am 51 while the urge is stil lthere it is no where near as strong as it was.
In fact I can do without sex if I need to.
In some ways this is good coz it means I dont rush into a relationship that really is not right just for sex. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:06:08 PM | though I still having the hormones of an 18 year old, I find at my present age that sex without some kind of emotion is nothing but alot of hard work, and the deeper the emotions, the better the sex is.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:12:34 PM | woohoo !! firstlight, u go girl !!! lol
I have a friend (male) that is 75 and he got hooked up with some woman that is 68; he called me up one day and he was tired as hell...(he hadnt gotten any sleep the nite before) !! She said she had to make up for lost time.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:37:59 PM | When talking about its level of importance I would have to say its not nearly as important to me as it once was. Having sex is easy, making love is everything!
My appetite in essence hasnt changed. If and when I make love with someone again it will be good because I believe in discussing even sexual needs and desires. Although, I must say we will know each other quite well by the time that point comes to pass and will have no inhibitions in the communication department.
The value of a relationship for me is more emotional, intimate, etc than sex is. Love for me is everything! If I fell in love with a man who for some reason could no longer have intimate relations then I could deal with that. Im not saying I would prefer to not have sex, but it isnt whats most important to me.
Age hasnt changed my feelings on this matter at all. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:41:57 PM | I realized I just contradicted myself in my previous post:
I would have to say its not nearly as important to me as it once was...
Age hasnt changed my feelings on this matter at all.
What I meant to say was that sex has never been as important to me as love has been, and that hasnt changed with age.
I use to think that having great sex was a big deal for a LTR, but its not anymore. Its now part of having a LTR thats full of love. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 5:22:23 PM | sex is important, love is important, lust, is important. cuddling, and a host of other related things.
I think it means more to me now then it did when I was married because there was so much stress involved then. raising kids, finacial stress, making every one happy. Now.., its about me, and who ever I'd be lucky enough to be having all these things with. my full attention is on her. yea... its all very important..., thats why I'm selective iguess. it cant be just sex..., its gotta be more then that. I want it to mean more, cause I already felt the loveless kind of sex....i got to expereince the loved kind of sex after my divorce......(didnt work out unfortunatly) and I want more of it.
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:12:37 PM | Here is one guy who will admit it: Sex is no longer important to me (I lost interest 3 years ago), but I still enjoy a woman's touch - holding hands, dancing, etc.
Ladies, I am sure when you were younger many of you complained your husband "would not leave you alone" . And now that your sex drive is high, often ours is not (life can be cruel). | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:16:20 PM | | Hell yes it is! BUT there's a huge difference between just sex & making love. I'd much rather make love with a man who takes his time cause he truly loves me enough to do so than to rush! | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:57:14 PM | Sapphireeyes: regarding your post:
" If someone has a low sexual appetite I dont think we would get along at all."
I agree with this statement. So far I have been lucky. If the appetite is not there, it could be a major red flag for a successful relationship.
For people with low desire, they are better suited for the same. My experience in research and personal interviews, confirms what you wrote. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:02:56 PM | Ranran18: absolutely true. there is a great deal of research that strongly suggests that sex decreases the aging process. It is not only the sexual intimacy but the skin contact that is so important for us. (oh...so much for this intellectual babble.....)
you wrote: "It's more important. Sex has been proven to be REALLY healthy for a person. Here's to all you health nuts out there!" | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:07:12 PM | 50Love_
Regarding the 75 y/o and the 68 yr old: sex is still important if the interest is there. I interview people all the time in the work I do. However, sadly I see couples where one is interested and the other is not. This is not only true for hetersexual couples, but i hear similar complaints from long time gay couples.
Matching sexual interest is important if the relationship is going to succeed happily. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:37:04 PM | | Sugahsouth- LOVE your spirit. I have heard from men (though I cant confirm this with women) that women like you dont exist! I was talking to a friend recently and he is fit, successful and very active but insists he has never been with a women who was excited or eager for intimacy. You would be his type (i am not making a match...lol...) but I will read him this post & let him know to keep searching. | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:46:08 PM |
Ranran18: absolutely true. there is a great deal of research that strongly suggests that sex decreases the aging process. It is not only the sexual intimacy but the skin contact that is so important for us. (oh...so much for this intellectual babble.....) Dearheart, God bless you in your comings and goings. Intimacy goes well beyond the skin. You see, you have already felt me. Yes? | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:46:11 PM | To spartalicious - Love it! well put...
"Remember ladies it's much easier for a man to leave a woman that doesn't make the bedroom an exciting place than it is to leave because she can't make a gourmet meal. " | |
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| Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 9/1/2008 3:51:28 AM | That is quite true . Now sex is very important as when a woman gets older she is more at ease and knows what she wants. I had a much younger boyfriend for 2 yrs and i loved the sex . However i took it for granted and left him as i wanted him to be more mature and i figured he should be with someone his own age.
Now i am starting to realise how hard it is to have a good sex life . You find a partner who is nice and clever and has all the right qualities but sex is overwhelming for them . They seem to think think there is something wrong if you wants good sex and plenty of it .
Then you get the bad boys who are great at sex but can t commit . Arrrhhhhhhh its mine field but i know i need good sex and lots of it .  | |
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