| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 2:14:57 PM | Geesh....angel....if some man on here hasn't taken notice of you.....I have no hope ..... | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 3:35:49 PM | | spacebabe I have been noticed but have not felt really attracted as yet to anyone...and thankyou.. You are attractive too, And from what I have read from you.. A real nice lady | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 4:04:07 PM | There's a great scene from Absence of Malice, Paul Newman, Sally Field, an "older" movie. She's a reporter, he's related to some mafia guys but really just trying to run a legitimate business, and she starts chasing him for a story. After spending an afternoon together on his boat, she still trying to get her story, he drives her home and she invites him upstairs. He hesitates, she says she's 34 and no longer needs courting, and he says, "Maybe I do." Now, it's Paul Newman saying that, and it sells well, but it captured a feeling I've had.
There needs to be some mutuality in "courting" to sustain my interest. Just sayin' | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 4:38:34 PM | | No.....it's not dead.......I love being courted.... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:06:19 PM | | Well ladies, seems the guys want us to do the courting now!!!!!!!!!!!! I do have to agree that the small things you do build well into the bigger things...remember that ketchup commercial...anticipation lol ...funny thing is it works! | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:15:57 PM |
There needs to be some mutuality in "courting" to sustain my interest. Just sayin' Very true, I can certainly understand what you mean. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:18:11 PM |
After spending an afternoon together on his boat, she still trying to get her story, he drives her home and she invites him upstairs. He hesitates, she says she's 34 and no longer needs courting, and he says, "Maybe I do." Now, it's Paul Newman saying that, and it sells well, but it captured a feeling I've had.
There needs to be some mutuality in "courting" to sustain my interest. Just sayin'
I do have to agree that the small things you do build well into the bigger things...remember that ketchup commercial...anticipation lol ...funny thing is it works!
Yes, it is a mutual thing. It's almost symbiotic. In a way like an extension of the flirtation...like sapphire says, doing small things, building anticipation and also getting closer ....yep...making an effort with each other, showing you value having this person around enough to make the effort .. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:22:03 PM | I would love to be courted, It sounds kinda like dating but in an old fashond way.
I remember my mom saying how the men tipped their hats to the ladies when they
walked by.Wouldnt it be nice to go back in time and be courted. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 5:53:43 PM | | Courting isn't dead it's just rare. There's a fabulous man that I met at the last POF gathering at Cajun's that would be a great catch for some lucky lady . He is 55 years old, retired, wealthy, and absolutely fantastic at "courting" but we were not a match for a few philosophical reasons. I hope he continues to go to the gatherings but I don't know his POF name. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 6:12:51 PM | Sure seems to be, over and over its "ill take you to dinner if we have sex".....if you don't agree you end up stood up or cancelled at the last minute. On the pond it has happend to me many times, and if you have a date they don't want to take no for an answer like its due them after the date......In this catagory of over 50 dating you would think men would have some old fashion values left......? please tell me.....I'm not barbie but not oger beast either!  | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 7:10:19 PM | Oh my dear girl, you know I respect and I appreciate all of your posts. No, courting is not dead. Although, I think we live in a time (and we are at an age)when courting must be mutual.
I am more than happy to court a man who believes and understands the fine art of courting. I love a gentleman, being the lady that I am. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:30:42 PM | I don't think it's completely dead, but in today's Instant Ramen and 6-Minute Speed Dating (yeah...right) world, it's fighting an overwhelming battle. Sadly.
We suffer today from an overall loss of quality and precision which carries over into the romantic side of life.
Most people anymore don't date any better than they drive...as if they're playing Super Mario or Doom. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:39:07 PM | | It seems there are too many men and women who seem to be lookin for arrangements for gratification without having to work at anything at all... but there are still those of us out there that see it as only one part of a romance and a great relationship | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/30/2008 7:46:51 PM |
I don't think it's completely dead, but in today's Instant Ramen and 6-Minute Speed Dating (yeah...right) world, it's fighting an overwhelming battle. Sadly.
We suffer today from an overall loss of quality and precision which carries over into the romantic side of life.
Most people anymore don't date any better than they drive...as if they're playing Super Mario or Doom.
The instant Ramen and 6-Minute Speed dating is funny. But when you get down to this fast food world we are in...does any of that food taste as good as when someone takes the time and energy to prepare something????
I guess it depends on what you demand...what you give in to...are you really losing anything if you dont go along with the guys or gals who want the instant gratification? I personally dont think Im missing anything but maybe STD's. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:28:11 PM | I wish I could argue, but I think you have a valid point..
that something has become lost, and yes, we do live in a world of
"convenience" and instant self-gratification.
I can still dream can't I? 
I miss the excitement of "learning" about someone...
Enjoying the "butterfly's" while getting dressed before meeting
"him" for drinks and dinner. Anticipating the first passionate
kiss (ohh lala) and getting it. He whispers in my hear and I in his.
Then he says..NEXT!
Because this girl deserves the excitement in "learning" about someone..
which can only come with "time" (dating/courting).
This fish is worth more than "just a lil body surfing". | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 9:50:35 PM | Quality.
there are still those of us out there that see it as only one part of a romance and a great relationship.
it depends on what you demand...what you give in to.
"learning" about someone... Enjoying the "butterfly's" while getting dressed before meeting "him" for drinks and dinner. Anticipating the first passionate kiss..... excitement in "learning" about someone....which can only come with "time"
It is about quality and it is part of a great relationship. We won't have it in a relationship if we give in to a lesser idea, an idea I think modern society is pushing but that I don't have to accept. It's learning about someone, taking it slowly and enjoying each step, the butterflies or weak knees, the anticipation and excitement that builds and can only come with time.....a lot like that other thing we do, once we've done the courting... | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 10:06:02 PM | | OP, I don't know, but if you'd like, I'll spread some newspaper on top of the ice cream freezer so you can sit and not freeze while I crank it and we can talk about that. It's French vanilla custard by the way. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:03:06 PM | I hope not...all I know is I am tired of the games being played now...I want some romance...some flowers, some chocolate...some getting to know a man BEFORE sex comes into the picture...
squeak | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:44:31 PM |
I hope not...all I know is I am tired of the games being played now...I want some romance...some flowers, some chocolate...some getting to know a man BEFORE sex comes into the picture...
I agree, I agree, I agree...
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Posted: 8/31/2008 6:52:05 AM | | Courting is dead, Cupid is dead, and Romance is dead....and the person or persons responsible for their untimely demise should be hunted down and slaughtered...... | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 7:24:11 AM | When I am truly interested in a woman I will court her. It is a natural and wonderful experience!
On the other hand if she is not of great interest to me I will not court her although I might date her. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:31:29 AM | | Hhow sad to those who feel its dead I hope you find someone who brings that special feeling back into your life again. There is nothing better than the feeling of specialness two people can give each other and something I certainly strive towards having in my life again. | |
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 9/1/2008 6:54:46 AM | "I hope not...all I know is I am tired of the games being played now...I want some romance...some flowers, some chocolate...some getting to know a man BEFORE sex comes into the picture..."
I'm with you guys. Now will someone please tell me where I can get some of this?
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| Is courting dead?
Posted: 9/1/2008 7:06:57 AM | | I don't like going to court...the judge yells at me and I end up getting shafted! | |
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