| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 8/31/2008 1:58:15 PM | We all deserve a good partner. This is hard and gets harder the older we get. We just have to be careful and not pout when it does not work. Put on a happy face and keep moving forward. This is hard work and there are many married people, jerks and thos that just lie a lot.
She probably is really doing nothing wrong. | |
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| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:08:57 PM | Just keep waiting for the perect guy.... hmmm have you ever thought that there is no perfect guy and your just gonna be waiting till you die. Nobody is perfect men are people to have lives to live bills to pay we don't sit around all day thinking of how to look or sound perfect so we can please you. Im not trying to be rude but lets face it the majority of women are just waiting and waiting till the perfect guy comes along and makes everything workout. Think about it for once, really think about it. If there really was a perfect guy he probably would have snatched up at an early age and got married any men that are even close to being perfect i dont know why they would be 40+ and single waiting just for you. the world dont revolve around you
i'm not expecting them to be perfect.. god flaws are good sometimes, I'd just prefer them to be bloody single!!!
oooohhh... and honest would be good too...
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| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:12:28 PM | Ok, why aren't you involved with bazooka.joe?
This isn't the poetry section, why did you put that here?
Why don't you give up men and spend your time writing a book about your love life, get rich, and then look for a man? | |
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| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 8/31/2008 2:56:33 PM | Except when you get fibromyalgia. That can significantly weaken you, I think. Come on mods, it's a bloody one liner! Fine, I will just type randomly until you deem my post long enough, is that okay? I'm sorry, I need you to speak up. Can you hear me now? Good!  | |
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| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:13:55 PM | that is why you need women friends to whip their arses when they are abusers and players.
men can't go around destroying our lives and we are not going to sit on some pity pot crying our lives away because of some pathological nuthead or serial non monogamous horney dog that f u ks everything that walks ewwwwwweeeeeeeee to those who made fun of the OP GET a LIFE.
These people do exist
They su k
and they play a really good game and have a good number
unfortunately they take down alot of people along the way and hurt alot of hearts | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 3:18:17 PM | | ^^^fantastic post. vivacious, your man-hating posts are a thing of legend. I don't think I can dislike you anymore. Your posts are that of a hardcore feminist, which is fantastic. When guys check out your profile and read your posts, I'm sure they'll be lining up for miles to talk to you. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 3:21:47 PM | if they want to take the piss out of me, that's fine..
at the end of the day I'll be sat there with my prodding stick poking away at them and saying told ya so.. when they sit here going through the same.. which they will.. just a matter of time..
Anyway, profile revamped.. positive polly head back on, so i guess I've officially got off of the pity pot or whatever the hell it was called.
Hmmm.. and why did I put poetry on here?? Cos it's my thread!! And it related to what I was saying...
Big hugs everyone.. can you feel the love in the room???
And Vix hun.. you're awesome!! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 3:25:10 PM | fibro what???
One thing I have noticed though is how these worms crawl under their stones when they're busted....
That's been really funny cos they suddenly lose all their backbone and spine.. and go all pathetic..
And the whole 'I didn't know what I was doing' story comes out.. uh huh.. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 3:28:21 PM | OP, don't worry about them. You seem like a fantastic lady, really. Those wankers and plonkers aren't worth your time. Focus on the kind of guy you DO want, and you wil find him. Now smile and do the banana dance  | |
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| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:39:30 PM | Well my mate's arranged for me to go with her to have our fortunes told on Wednesday.. that should be fun....
I'm sure septic peg will give me a great description of who my knight in shining armour is... and for the wonderful price of just thirty pounds!! 
I've gotta take a tape with me too to record what she says.. I'd have thought for thirty quid she'd have supplied a gold one!!
Ah well, it'll keep me out of trouble! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 3:57:23 PM | Oh hell!
Her profile said that she was not expecting to find mister perfect -
As for the hardcore feminist reference…
What, to discredit jokers, player and mentally instable jerks?
Tss..
Regarding vivaciousvixen2:
Smart people don't turn into players if they have been played -
They look for signs of players instead and persevere in avoiding the traps (that’s a reference to the other site mentioned earlier in the thread).
Please ….
The guy would have to be pretty thick to fall for that one – (your girlie setup! Rotflmao!)
Look, do the best you can, and maybe take a break as suggested in a previous post.
Give you some time to think things through –
Also, people like us who juggle a private life and a public life (musicians/singer...) do not need to lie to make up for lack of excitement.
Maybe that’s why I stick to open minded people and people with an inclination
for the arts because most people I know don’t lie about what they do….
And have a public profile…
Oh and last, the red flag things…
I can’t say I always got second chances, if I had a chance I always had to take it and work with it hard –
So at the first red flag, run! (as aforementioned)
The worst thing though is that you don’t even seem remotely stupid not devoid of common sense.
Which makes it harder to come up with a good idea to break with the endless string of jerks dating.
If I were you:
I don't know if I would actually bother, I'd probably start dating women instead!
Lol
Seriously, I don’t know – I’d start feeling paranoid – 
Don’t trust people until they have proven to you that they are worthy (that goes back to what GPSweetheart said)
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Posted: 8/31/2008 4:55:44 PM | (Msg 69) And it hasn't been a case of jumping straight in. With each occurrance I've been more and more warey, but like in the last case, where I'm with the person constantly in public, going shopping together etc hand in hand, never once did he flinch incase he saw someone, seemed very relaxed, added me on facebook as his partner.. I even remember saying to someone else well he can't be a player as he wouldn't want to make our relationship public if he was. I even knew people he worked with and took the time to speak to them first, for some kind of character reference I guess. I really don't know what else I could have done differently. I was extremely cautious! But he gave me absolutely no reason to doubt him.
Did you spend time at his home?
(Msg 73) The attraction was the fact we had mutual interests.... which I've always been led to believe is a good thing.
Ahhh, that's where you went wrong. If one is looking for a buddy or a pal then, sure, mutual interests will attract. Romantic relationships are not supposed to be buddy/pal arrangements.
Unless one has that "I want you!" feeling they will not stick around. Lots of people have mutual interests. It's fun. It's nice to be with someone who enjoys similar interests but it's not passion and if there isn't passion people do not stay together because they can find other people with whom they share interests.
I find it so strange some folks turn away from a person because they do show passion. "All they want is sex." In most cases it's not all they want but they definately want it because that's what romantic relationships are all about. It's that driving desire to be with the other person. The very thing that defines a romantic relationship, the thing that bonds two people, is the thing people look at disparagingly. Most peculiar.
My advice? The next guy you meet who seems to be in a bit of a hurry to bed you, that's the one to check out. Get his phone number. His address. Check out where he lives during the day. If he's serious he'll co-operate all the way. He'll be an open book.
Here's the problem. Players want sex, however, the guy who'll stay by your side and put you first in his life will also want sex. What frequently happens is any guy who wants sex is immediately discounted. Sure, that may prevent getting played but it will also prevent you from getting the guy who truly desires you.
Spend time at each other's home. That is how you'll learn about each other and you'll learn quickly. Players are "entertaining" folks and that works for both men and women.
They distract people by the date, the "activity". Just like going out with anyone else personal things are seldom discussed in a social setting. It's all superficial.
It's being in the person's home, perhaps making dinner together or watching a movie, where the true nature of the person comes out. They will be more themselves than they will be being in the public.
That approach goes a long way to prevent being used. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 5:59:37 PM | That's where I should have seen it....
His excuse for never going to his house.. or should i say he was just 'postponing' it.. was due to his elderly doberman pincer that didnt take too kindly to strangers. Said he wanted to get the other dog out of the way so I'd have time to spend with her and get used to her without her feeling jealous etc.. in his words, cos he'd never forgive himself if the dog went for me.
And yes, perhaps I should have seen the signs on that one, but given how much time he spent with me and how open he was about it to others, I honestly didn't think I had anything to be concerned about.
It's easy to look back on it with hindsight. | |
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| Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong??
Posted: 9/1/2008 4:23:44 AM |
Ahhh, that's where you went wrong. If one is looking for a buddy or a pal then, sure, mutual interests will attract. Romantic relationships are not supposed to be buddy/pal arrangements.
Unless one has that "I want you!" feeling they will not stick around. Lots of people have mutual interests. It's fun. It's nice to be with someone who enjoys sim
No, we were a little more than just buddies.. my point was it wasn't JUST based on the bedroom... Christ, we definitely had that 'I want you' feeling.. 6 - 8 times a day we had that!! We were like sodding rabbits!! I was mad about him, he was mad about me... or so I thought!!
We couldn't keep our hands off each other. Even when out shopping, we were constantly kissing, or hugging etc..
Trust me.. The lying cheating tosser will definitely be missing that part!! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 4:39:22 AM | | Sweety it quite simple.. You have just had a run of bad luck. MY mother used to say " a girls gotta kiss a lot of toads before she finds her handsome prince". So...pucker up girl !! Presh6ns | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 5:36:57 AM | I don't mean to sound mean and I mean this in a caring way ... WHAT ARE YOU DOING MEETING A GUY/GUYS YOU DIDN'T TALK TO ON THE PHONE FIRST ??? ... YOU ARE ASKING TO BE RAPED OR MURDERED HUN ... I felt I NEEDED to capitalize all that cause what you wrote REALY bothers me ...
OMG You wrote all that happened to you and I read a post saying " What doesnt kill you makes you stronger " ... Ok I realy wish you the best and hope I dont see your pic on the news has a serial killer's victom ...
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Posted: 9/1/2008 5:52:47 AM |
I don't mean to sound mean and I mean this in a caring way ... WHAT ARE YOU DOING MEETING A GUY/GUYS YOU DIDN'T TALK TO ON THE PHONE FIRST ??? ... YOU ARE ASKING TO BE RAPED OR MURDERED HUN ... I felt I NEEDED to capitalize all that cause what you wrote REALY bothers me ...
OMG You wrote all that happened to you and I read a post saying " What doesnt kill you makes you stronger " ... Ok I realy wish you the best and hope I dont see your pic on the news has a serial killer's victom ...
good point, and like I already said, lesson learned from that one. It was in my naive days of internet dating a few years ago. We did, however, meet in a very public place and the middle of the day. So at least I did part of it right.
I think also the thing we need to remember is even people who talk to us on the phone, or even meet.. as I've seen, can be someone they are not.. so at what point do you really believe someone... Any of the ones I spoke to and met several times could have been axe murderers... it's not just the ones you DON'T talk to....
In fact, statistics show that most rape victims actually know their assailant... | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 6:19:58 AM |
I tried to email you to descretely make the suggestion, but you don't seem to like getting mail from "MEN" at my ripe old age of 47.
Pleeeze Starline! Your making a crack about the OP not wishing to meet men 7 years older then herself when YOU don't accept emails from women 2 years older than you. And Hey, thats OK to have your preferrence, it just sounds like your putting her down for having HER preferrence. | |
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