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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 2/9/2009 10:31:38 AM |
and u Mr. Church
Well, first off, you assume too much...
So anyway you wrote:
This is soooo much bs people don't even get it just like the above post.
This guy above is making it it okay if a guy can do it and go get himself off and have threesomes at the same time for him as a man/boy. Maybe because they never get any and just go to the ho to get it in the mean time.
Now in my post above it ( the one you referenced), I wrote:
You know, it's not as easy to do as you might think.... I've been in that situation.... it's a lot worse when you frequently run into the guys... Especially because a few of them did her in threeseomes... so she's kind of a joke to them... We don't see her the same way.... Guys have no respect for a woman after that... and have no problem telling everyone.... So it can be a big pain in the ass....
You end up putting up with a lot of crap....some of the guys are ok. they're mature enough to be low-key about it. But even that seems condescending at times....
Will you now explain to me where I said anything about it being ok if a guy can do it? Or anything else remotely relating to your rant...
Your whole rant seem to me to be a dig against guys and me in particular... That's fine... Have fun with that...
And why are you so concerned what "the guys" care??? Oh, never mind, you care what the guys think so they don't let women, (girls you might like to f**k in your case) know that you try to play like a decent guy just to get a PIECE OF ASS. (1)
Well, I don't cheat on my lady, and the only reason I care what the guys think is that I prefer that I and my lady are not the butt of jokes and comments...
And condescending is referring to you with how you try to disrespect females and let everyone know about it making the female feel bad for having a THREESOME (and always being the protective one. ) just like you wanted to do if you even did it.
Ummm I've never wanted to do a threesome... I'm sure if I wanted to, I could have... It's been offered...
Oh... and I don't "disrespect females"... Not my style... If I did, I probably wouldn't have so many female friends...
You are just jealous because u can't get any, or as much as u want. Has nothing to do with who. Just go have fun and enjoy someone carefully without getting into a "relationship".
Ummm I'm in a relationship.... have been for a while now... And considering how well it's going, I have no need, desire or urge to "get any" anywhere else...
I do know how to say "No..."
Now she is a wh***e and all your "guys" will spread stuff around just to keep females from getting the hell away from u.
I'm trying to understand what you mean here....
Ummm in my own case, I don't tell my "guys" about her.... However, many of them were with her before I met her... they "spread stuff around" not I....
because men are sooooooo jealous that they can't just go out and pick and choose like us women do and so try to turn it on us by making us feel like ho's and that is a form of control.
I have been able to "pick and choose" as I went through life...as I said before, I also know how to say "No..." and I've excercised that ability many times...
Being unable to say "No" or constantly saying "Yes" to sex is not the same thing as having control....
If women really knew how to "pick and choose" as you put it, there'd probably be a lot less single women, and unhappy women...
No time taken even trying to think how a woman feels.
I think this part of your rant offends me the most. I actually do care how women feel. I always have, possibly the reason I don't use and abuse them...
And you obviously never took the time to read all my posts to find out how I feel... you just took it at surface value and through your biased perceptions decided to give me an undeserved rant that, quite frankly I still don't understand all of.... I think I've made the best of it, but still not sure... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 2/9/2009 11:37:40 AM | She didn't have to tell me. She was pointed out to me as "easy" and a "good lay" by a friend who knew. Of course I was interested, but her "dance card" was always full, and there were plenty of other fish in the sea. We shared many friends, she worked at the Compton Union Bldg, in the cafeteria, and I was what was known as a "CUB Rat." I lived off campus and would hang out in the cafeteria, visiting and doing home work (yeah, sure!) between classes instead of driving all the way home.
She was a farmer's daughter. Between my jr and sr yrs she contracted a mutated strain of equine encephalitis. Hospitalized and near death, she was visited by her mom's new pastor, who prayed for her. Within 24 hours she was almost fully recovered. 48 hours later, the drs scratched their heads and released her.
That Fall, she still worked in the CUB, but she was only "dating" one guy. They were seriously planning marriage. There was a perceptible change in her demeanor. She was much happier, for one thing. When they broke off the relationship, his last act was to rape her, since she was no longer the woman of easy virtue with whom he'd fallen in Lust.
Now I was attracted to her because of the change in her life (of course, I was still getting plenty of action from those other fish I mentioned), so when another friend suggested over Christmas break that we get a couple of girls and go to a party he'd heard about, and then mentioned HER as one of the girls, I said, "Yes." I wasn't sure who was going to be with whom, but the other girl was pretty, too, so I wasn't overly worried. It turned out we were a couple that night.
We spent hours talking in the noisy party atmosphere, as everyone else drank or smoked themselves into a stupor. I was smitten. We snuggled in the back seat and talked a little more on the way back to her family's house. We shared a very promising kiss, goodnight. Later she would comment that I was the first boy since high school who hadn't "gone for the gold," and that made her feel safe with me. We became very good, chaste friends (truthfully, I still had some of those other fish on the line, so there was no sense of sexual urgency on my part). But we never went on a "date" after that party.
After I graduated and returned to my old California home, we continued to correspond. I finally drove the 12 hours back up to school to ask her for her hand in marriage, and she agreed.
In truth, there were times over the ensuing 35 years that I painfully wondered that I was the ONLY guy to whom she ever said, "No." I cannot claim to understand why women (some? all?) occasionally come to regard marital sex as an inconvenience, a drudge and an unpleasant duty. I only know that she often did, and many male co-workers have compained, aloud of the same experience...maybe that would be a good topic for Women to address, sometime? Anyway, we both remained faithful, but it was a repeated theme throughout. (By the way, I NEVER put that thought into words to her. She meant too much to me)
Now I imagine you're thinking that this was the gopher that spoiled the crop for us...it may have been a symptom, but she became increasingly angry,during menopause, not at me, but at life. She began spending $$ like it was nothing., and became a part-timer in her church attendance. Then one night she was gone. I woke up in the morning and she wasn't in bed beside me. I went on to work, then called her work to find out what the perfectly reasonable explanation was for her absence...she wasn't in, her embarassed-sounding boss informed me.
That afternoon, when she finally answered her cell phone she said she was on her way home to explain.
She was going to live with a lesbian police officer she'd met through her work. It seems that my X inch penis is 2X inches too long, so to speak...She has chopped off her hair, likes to wear plaid flannel "lumberjack" shirts. And no longer tells her co-workers about what God and her family are doing...she only wants to talk about her lesbian friends and activities.
Now that is unforgiveable.
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/6/2009 11:52:03 AM | Thats a tough question. Obviously im know whoever im with has most likely had other partners. Most likely more than me as well. That I dont think is to much of a problem but the higher the number the more unnerving it would be I think. Especially knowing some of the people. And yes there is such a thing as to much detail.
I have only ever been with one girl. I was her first and she was mine. At one point in time we split and I didnt hear from her in 6 months. After that we ended up back together and I had known she was with another guy the whole time. She started dating him while we were still talking and stopped talking cause he wouldnt let her see me. Anyway she did sleep with him and she had told me it was only a couple times in the entire relationship and that she regreted it. That helped but it still really bothered me and I did obsess over it for a while.
This situation is a little different than yours because I have despised that guy from the moment we met and it felt somewhat like a betrayal but the thought of my partner with someone else does bother me a little. As I said I expect them to have had many more than me, If I dont know the details about the sex life or I dont know the person then I really wont obsess over it. As soon as I get details such as oh so and so couldnt go for very long but was a master with his tongue or whatever then it starts to really bug me. I have a very vivid imagination and can picture anything im thinkng about so if your describing your past sex lifes im seeing it happen in my head and its a haunting image.
I dont mind knowing about your past relationships, I think I prefer it so I know what went wrong and why so I can avoid that happening but keep the details of all the sexual parts to yourself. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:02:06 PM |
I don't think its any of a man's business, unless there's a serious committment involved, unless of course she has contracted a STI.
So then if someone doesn't disclose how many fcuk buddies they had, what makes you think they'd disclose an STI????
And then there's the issue of you decide you've spent a lot of time together and decide you want a serious long term committment... and they can't deal with the numbers... Doesn't that seem like a lot of wasted time, to only find out your views differed on a subject that is important to many....?
I'm so tired of shallow, dumb-ass men...
See, the funny thing is, that if a woman had that many fcuk buddies, I'd think she was a shallow, dumb-ass WOMAN or she had issues that resulted in that behaviour... Even if a guy had that many fcuk buddies I'd think he had issues too.... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:24:42 PM | | Well the first thing that would come to mind is that is alot, but heck Ive been with 25 woman and I am 33, that is not to bad, because I consider myself picky. I have probably turned down as many as 25 also. Like someone else said here if she never has got an STD I wouldn't mind, I would consider her lucky just like myself | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:58:21 PM | | I honestly have to agree with bethiesh because this is my puss.y and if iwanted to slang it all around town i could..I just think it's a double standard for men...cuz i know some men who **** different women almost every night...honestly if you can "put it down" than i wouldn't worry about a damn thing except for getting tested. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/6/2009 11:31:08 PM | | Im the type of guy that would rather hear it from her-instead of a large circles of people. It wouldnt matter if i were in love-as long as shes clean-std free, and dosent suffer from low self esteem becuz of it-we're good to go. I think alot of women get their numbers that high-because their told its not a gd thing for a woman to do-but looked at like its good for a man to do. Having lots of sex with diffrent people in my eyes isnt a gd thing-being selective and having more chances than average is kinda sexy. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/7/2009 2:57:58 AM | My opinion of this has changed and matured over time, what are you worried about? are you religious, do you beleive her sleeping with so many is morally wrong? you need to ask yourself what is the real problem, i know all about it ive been there but what the hell are you doing discussing with your woman what she has done sexually with other men?
Dont ask questions you may not like the answer to
I admitt i live in an area where i did not grow up so i really wouldnt know to many of the girls ex buddies but still if i knew one or two of them i wouldnt worry about what they thought , they proberly wouldnt think to much of it anyway they could be going thru the same thing themselves.
There are woman i know that i have had a slight insight into there pasts which is kinda simler to what you are talking about but these woman altho still young have a beutiful personality, pretty and have much else to appreciate about them, to bad they arnt single because i would go out with them in a second and i wouldnt ruin things by asking questions like that, because lets all face it that stuff ist to nice to talk about.
I have a friend who has a new gf and she seems nice but i think she could be a bit of a sour puss, but one reason he is with her and i know cos he told me is the fact that she hasnt had many partners, personally i think he could do better but he is worried about the same issues you are so dont deny yourself of a trully terific woman for something so silly.
And if you are woriied about her cheating then thats a whole different thread my friend but the more shes been around then the more she knows what shes giving up and know what she wants. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/9/2009 6:29:20 AM | Why do people have to be so immature about sex........who cares about how many partners anyone has had.........seriously I wish that people would realize that sex is a PHYSICAL action......no different then exersizing, or going for a walk............some people like to do it all the time......some people dont.........
the worst thing, is that people tend to take it personally and get to wrapped up in their ego.........So what if she had 30+........i bet when your with your buddies, you say you had more.......
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Posted: 4/9/2009 7:03:24 AM | | It seems that this forum started quite some time ago and whether or not it is still active, I do not know. As for the question being posed, each individual situation is different as all of us a people. I am a 67 year old man and have done many things in my past that do not make me especially proud, but I did most of them knowing precisely what I was doing. When I meet a woman, the expectation is that she has had sex and sexual activities in her past. First, I will never ask her how many partners she has had, but if she feels the need to reveal that information to me, I will respect her for being open, and honest and for not witholding from me facts that she deems important for me to know. That in itself is a very endearing and rare trait as far as I am concerned. It isn't what she has done before we meet, ( to include how many casual lovers she has had) but what she does after we meet, and more specifically , after we agree to be in a monagmous relationship. So she has had a 100 men, that took what, and hour and a half? ..... okay a half a day out of her life... or what if it took a whole month....that still is not the issue for me. Again it matters to me what she does after we are together as none of us can chage what we have done before. It is such a blessing to be able to give and receive love unconditionally and, although I suspect most of us would prefer that our significant others have less experience than with 100 artners, it would not be a deal breaker for me. I would rather have an honest, trustworth, sexually active lady, that a deceiving virgin. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/9/2009 12:47:19 PM |
me thinks Damn this woman must be great to be in such demand .... and what a accomplishment if I could win her from those guys ..for myself alone
As much as it's a nice sentiment...
I'd wonder why, if she's so great, that none of those other guys stayed with her....
And I admit, it's often the guys not appreciating what they had.... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/9/2009 2:23:17 PM | That is a double standard, a father expects his son to stay out and be with women but God forbid, if he has a daughter.
To me it makes no difference how many times she was inbetween the sheets with how many guys. The one thing I would be worried about is if she had an STD. If you love and care about someone that should make no difference who had the most or didn't. | |
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