| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/9/2009 6:48:51 PM |
As much as it's a nice sentiment...
I'd wonder why, if she's so great, that none of those other guys stayed with her....
Again, not every woman is looking for a man to "stay". Some of us have times in our life we like being single and playing the field. Again it's a double standard. Most people expect that men willenjoy themselves and be single for a while but those same people don't think that a woman should be doing the same thing. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/9/2009 7:17:34 PM | If you are with a woman with this kind of track record and dont know it ......that more the problem.
There is always two sides to this kind of question and that the male and female response......most men dont like do drive in heavy trafic and most women call it a double standard or suggest it less than manly if one is not willing to accept the local grab bag for a woman..
Fact is' most men aint in the relationship business for social or political reasons and not concerned with standards " double or not" and neither or women. That being said men like women have the right of refusal and a lot of women never learned that on the way up.........we dont pick women with or social conceince or the political climate in mind and that age old method still applies .......its call choosing and the real double standard when it comes to choosing is that the average woman wants to tell a man how to choose and seldom is that in the male iterest..................double standards or not.......and they do work both ways...........those double standards its a matter of what issue is on the table..... money is one that comes to mind. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/9/2009 11:03:15 PM |
Again, not every woman is looking for a man to "stay". Some of us have times in our life we like being single and playing the field.
Yes, some women are, but a lot of the time, those are women who have been rejected over and over. They try to emulate the male attitude as if thinking "If you can't beat them join them..."
Most of them do have issues, sorry, you can argue all you like, but most do.... it's usually one or more of childhood sexual abuse, adult sexual abuse, PT stress, weight/body image issues, drug or alcohol abuse, mental illness, or a fcuked up attempt to be loved/socially accepted.... And most people who are in those categories would be the first to argue, "NO, I'm not like that..."
Look it's ok if you want to play the field and have fun.... I can understand that for some people....
However, most of us did that playing the field thing when we were still 'exploring' relationships... I outgrew that part of my life before I hit 25.... some people never do...
Again it's a double standard. Most people expect that men will enjoy themselves and be single for a while but those same people don't think that a woman should be doing the same thing.
See, I don't agree with this... The whole men will go out and enjoy themselves seems to be more of a thing with teens and college kids... most of the adult males I know... Well, virtually all of the adult males I know have grown out of that phase a decade or so back... I only know a couple who still count 'notches' on the bedpost... and quite seriously, they're fcuked up in more than one way....
I don't really care if women want to do the same thing or not, but I'd expect her to be as upfront and honest about it as a man then.... then I can make an informed choice whether or not to be with her.... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 4/10/2009 10:19:48 AM |
However, most of us did that playing the field thing when we were still 'exploring' relationships... I outgrew that part of my life before I hit 25.... some people never do...
I was married and working full time at the ripe old age of 19. No time to play the field back then. I had other things to focus on. A lot of women like me that are enjoying the single life in our thirties have similar situations. We married young. Many had kids young. Now the kids are grown and they are single and it's time to have a little fun. Nothing wrong with that. Frankly, it's a good time in life to do that. You are less likely to be completly stupid about it since you have a little maturity and more sense than any of us had when we were younger.
I know what it's like to be married. The past couple of years are the first time I've known what it's like to be single and, frankly, I like it. I'm in no hurry to change that. It feels good to be dating who I want when I want. It feels good to be on my own. Some people have a need to settle down. At this point in my life, I am not one of those. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 5/3/2009 12:14:53 AM | RUN!!! goood lawd- 30 **** buddies??? I haven't been with 30 women PERIOD (not even close) but this woman has been with 30 or MORE FB's??? I'm not surprised with this kind of behavior in this day and age.. Women are runnning a tight race with the men when it comes to sexual partners sooo what else new??? I'll have to wonder if she's been tested?? Does her cooch still has some kind of firmness and tightness to it?? Is there anyone trapped in her cooch?
Where is her respect??? 4get how many guys she's been with!! I guess her self respect went out the door with the rest of the MEN who didn't look back either | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 5/9/2009 7:04:28 AM |
if she had alot of sexual conquest, then that makes her lose and high risk 4 std's.
Oh so wrong. Being lose comes from not excercising the mucles, not from the number of partners. Otherwise, after a couple of years of steady sex with someone you love, you wouldn't be able to feel your lady anymore. As far as high risk 4 std's, only if she isn't protecting herself.
you cant make a whore a housewife
This is one of those silly comments that mean nothing except you doubt your skill in keeping your woman satisfied. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 5/9/2009 7:55:56 AM | Tell her "let's go get tested for STDs together" lol.
On another hand, you want to feel as though you're "measuring up" to her past lovers. And you want to establish whether you're only going to be "bachelor #99" in her continuous stream or is she really ready to settle down with you? Gotta have the "inclusivity/exclusivity" talk. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:02:43 PM |
This is one of those silly comments that mean nothing except you doubt your skill in keeping your woman satisfied.
Why is it silly? If the man has had less partners than her then maybe he doesn't know how to keep her satisfied. Why is he wrong if he doubts it? I've met men who are wonderful men. But they may not be the greatest in bed. As soon as you make a statement like this it shows a bias against men. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:11:47 PM | If the woman I loved had many partners in the past I would think a number of things....
1. As long as she loves me and in emotinally monogamous, who cares
2. This is a woman who enjoys sex and is comfortable with her sexuality and so hopefully there won't be hangups and guilt.
3. Presumably, she knows how to make her man happy sexually so that's a good thing.
4. If guys can do it, why not women? I'm all for equality. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:14:52 PM |
dude, 1 how do u feel about her,do u really care what other peoplw think
2 more partners comes more experience.
3 is it her fault if she likes sex
Some men actually do feel pride in their achievments. So caring about what other people think might be important for some of them. If a man wants to be with me I would hope he does care what people think. If he cannot be proud of me he is not the man for me and in return I have to be worth his pride.
More partners may mean more experience. But there's no guarantee those experiences are going to be good or that the next guy will benefit from them.
Many women who have a lot of partners actually come to hate sex. What have they gained from it. The man wines and dines them until he gets laid and then he's gone. Do you think women love sex after that happens too many times. These are the women who end up getting married and the sex stops. They used the sex to get guys not because they liked it but because it was expected of them. For them it's a relief to get a husband or steady boyfriend and they no longer feel they have to put out. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:52:47 PM | | Either you're secure with yourself in every manner or you're in dire need of not even venturing into any realm other than work and some playful research per se. I'm a very firm believer in the past is who makes us what we are today and how would you like to be judged/ridiculed for your decisions irregardless of ANYTHING? Either grow some balls or date men I reckon. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/9/2009 12:26:36 AM | | Well, when it comes down to it, the only thing that should matter is if you love her or not. I know it's gotta be a hard thing NOT to obsess over, but when you put all that shit aside, where does your heart lie? As long as she aint doing that now, it shouldnt matter...Look at it this way...Of ALL the guys she could be with, she chose you..and continues to do so everyday! You're gonna run into haters, and believe me, most them guys are hating on you right now...but its only cuz they wish they were in your shoes. Be proud that this woman loves YOU, and not the rest of them silly ****s...Dont let her past keep you from enjoying the love of a woman who obviously loves YOU! I mean, she coulda lied to you and didnt...And that counts for a lot. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/14/2009 10:18:03 AM |
Either grow some balls or date men I reckon.
What happens if you're a good lover but you're still not good enough compared to the ones she has been with? It doesn't matter how secure you are if you just don't measure up. A lot of women will dump a man if he's not good enough in bed. They just wont tell you that is the reason. LOL | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:14:00 AM | The better question is why the hell did she tell you how many people she slept with? Why would you want to know? You would probably be just as freaked out if she said she has slept with 1 person.
Some things are better left unsaid. I would never ask and certainly never tell my "number." There's only one number you need to know, and that's how many people am I sleeping with now. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:28:24 PM |
I would feel like I'm the latest and won't be the last! In short, I won't feel at all special or important to her.
We would all like to think we are special or important to the person we are with. But we arent really. We just are fresh in the mind because they are new. If you have fvcked with too many people it is all the same after. Each new one cheapens the experience. We lose the magic. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:02:25 AM | OP, i'm a former US Marine and i apply the same "don't ask/don't tell" rule to a partner's sexual history.
why would I want to know such information anyways? it will only damage me and mess up the wiring of my ego. And why would she tell me such information? i do not want to know it.
You two met from such & such gregorian calendar date. you're future is building from that date and not the past. Sure, you may trade family histories and old stories with close friends, but you don't go around messing around with pandora's box.
it would behoove you to never ask such a question to your significant other.
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