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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/16/2009 10:24:06 AM | NEVER ask a question you don't want to really know the answer too. If the thought of your partner having many sexual partners (or alternative sexual experiences) prior to you is a turn off, don't ask.
As for myself, it would not bother me in the least bit if she was disease free. The 'how many, where, what, when, gender' conversations can be a great thing if both of you are open minded and enjoy(ed) some of the same type of experiences.
Hell, at my age any partner I date had better have had some sort of a past or a 25 year marriage/relationship.
The only things that I would rather not know about my partners sexual past is if she was ever the other woman in someone's relationship or she cheated on a previous boyfriend. Outside of that, I could not care less about any freaky things she may have done before we met. | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/17/2009 6:56:19 AM | This is one topic that has always confused me. I mean seriously, how screwed up are we to even worry about such a thing? Is it jealousy? Is it insecurity? It certainly is irrational!
It reminds me of a man who would only marry a woman who had never given someone oral sex only to complain that his wife doesn't give him oral sex. What did he expect?!?
I like sex. I like women who like sex. Women who like sex have sex often unless they have issues. Unfortunately, many woman have been brainwashed into believing that sex is bad or that they shouldn't want it. They fear being labeled a "slut". That is seriously unfortunate.
As for sexually healthy women, unless they have spent their entire lives in a just a few long-term relationships they are going to have more than a few sexual partners. Double digits is probably the norm rather than the exception for those who are sexually healthy.
Would you prefer a relationship with someone that is sexually healthy or someone that has issues? Choose carefully! | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/17/2009 7:55:19 AM |
Would you prefer a relationship with someone that is sexually healthy or someone that has issues? Choose carefully!
How do you define "sexually healthy"...?
How do you define "issues"?
Chose carefully!
Sexually healthy doesn't mean saying "Yes" to everyone, it's knowing when to say "No".....
Remember the number of partners, and the reasons for them may be because she has issues.... she could have a lot of self-esteem issues, make poor decisions, drugs/alcohol could be a reason.... maybe she just can't say "No" and will continue to be that way..., maybe she can't commit, or has difficulty staying with one person and moves on quickly... It's not really the number that matter so much as how she got to that number... if it's all good then great... but if it's a sign of a deeper issue, you could end up with serious problems....
Double digits is probably the norm rather than the exception for those who are sexually healthy.
There is a big difference between "10" and "99" yet both of them are double-digits...
Even so, I've met very sexual women with single digit pasts... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/17/2009 8:19:57 AM |
Remember the number of partners, and the reasons for them may be because she has issues.... she could have a lot of self-esteem issues, make poor decisions, drugs/alcohol could be a reason.... maybe she just can't say "No" and will continue to be that way..., maybe she can't commit, or has difficulty staying with one person and moves on quickly... It's not really the number that matter so much as how she got to that number... if it's all good then great... but if it's a sign of a deeper issue, you could end up with serious problems....
Some excellent points. Certainly some woman have sex for the wrong reasons. There are those who seem to equate self esteem with the amount of semen that they can collect. That is sad as well. Many have histories of abuse, etc.
Still, in my opinion, it the sexually inhibited, yet otherwise healthy women that make up the bulk of our population. They should be avoid as well imo...
Even so, I've met very sexual women with single digit pasts...
I have as well, (even those with zero digit pasts), but I met them when I was young). Now that I am in my late thirties it is unlikely that I would ever find such a woman -- and more to my point -- what difference would it make anyway? The number of sexual partners a woman has in her past is irrelevant as long as she is disease-free and healthy. It isn't even worth worrying about imo... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/17/2009 8:45:09 AM |
Now that I am in my late thirties it is unlikely that I would ever find such a woman -- and more to my point -- what difference would it make anyway? The number of sexual partners a woman has in her past is irrelevant as long as she is disease-free and healthy.
Well, if a woman was in a long term relationship or marriage it's very posssible she has low numbers... One women I was with had gone from one marriage to another... with only one guy in between... I ended up being #4.... she was also older than me.... and she was extremly sexual....
As for disease free? She might as easily hide that as she hides her numbers... statistically speaking, the more partners, the greater the odds of having been exposed to a STI.... and how would you know if she's healthy..? Past infections may have been cured but could leave long term problems... ie cervical cancer, liver damage, infertility... | |
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| men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies?
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:57:15 PM | those are confused whores, plain and simple. no way would i get involved with a woman who told me shes had that many sex partners. some things are better not said. thats why i never ask a woman how many guys shes been with.
actually the number shouldn't matter because the more partners shes had doesn't mean she has a disease, a woman could've been with only 3 guys and have a disease. the high number just sounds bad thats all. and makes it sound like she was easy. | |
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