| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/7/2008 10:17:23 AM | | and if the man is really into you and views you as long-term potential, he'll wait. But on the other hand, he might be thinking, "is someone else giving it to her, so that's why she's not rushing into it?" But on your end, as a woman, you may be thinking, "If I don't give it up, will he search for it somewhere else?" Lots of variables. | |
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| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/8/2008 5:40:04 AM |
Read the book Why Men Love B*I*T*****C*H*E*S..... This book will explain why it is your job as a woman to wait. The main idea is that in order for a man to keep an interest in you, he needs to have a lot of fire for you. Once you have sex with him, he slowly extinguishes his DESIRE. You need a long-term relationship BEFORE you give him sex, because you need a history of him continuing to desire you. It is necessary to reveal yourself SLOWLY, a little at a time. Make him want to continue to WONDER what it would be like. The actual sex is not the main course. It is the WONDERING, and in his imagination, he will think of you as the most magnificent woman in the world. This is how men fall in love with you. They need time to find all those exquisite qualities you have. It takes them time. Once you have sex too soon, they stop wanting to get to know you. They lose interest, and lo and behold.... that is the beginning of the end of the relationship, and it is all your fault, because you have extinguished his fire!
If I were you I would return the book and get my money back. I certainly don't work that way. | |
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| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/10/2008 7:27:50 AM | | had sex too early on when I was dating recently. it ruined everything. it scared me and it scared him off. I thought that I was more mature about things, but let my horones get the better of me...and I guess he did too. Now there is no going back, a real shame because there was real potential for something good happening. now there is just shame about what we did. Next time I wont be so silly. | |
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| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:02:02 AM | Honestly to me sex too soon is one of the biggest turn off that a woman can do. two short reasons.
one is i always ask myself how many other guys has she done this too i mean fu#$ i have kids i don't need any stds lol. and two I think its cool too get to know your compatible first and it gives you something to look forward too ;) | |
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| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:20:08 AM | I look at it like this...
Would you buy a car without test driving it? No, not unless you're a complete idiot. So how far would you take a relationship before wanting to "test drive" him or her in the bedroom? Sex is a pretty major part of a healthy relationship. If that connection isn't there, then it's difficult to persue the relationship on all the other levels. It is very disappointing to go on date after date with a person, spending heaps of valuable time and money on them...only to find out they're a complete flop in the bedroom. Then all you're left with is disappointment. So, I guess from my point of view, I'd say do it early. At least within the first week - month range.
Really, it all comes down to you though. You have to take into account things like morals, how you want to be perceived, the other person's values...and the list goes on. No one can truly answer this question for you, as it is different for every person and couple out there. | |
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| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/22/2008 11:42:36 AM | just glancing over the responses it seems like several people are saying that the right thing is anytime it feels right, go for it, don't wait... okay, fine... but then, obviously, having sex on the first date wouldn't allow for getting tested for STD's which is also held up to be the right thing to do
i've noticed this seeming contradiction of advice several times on the forums - do it right away... but make sure you know the person's clean first... yeah.... right... ?
no wonder people keep posting these same type of questions repeatedly
i don't agree with everything the poster above me said, but this rings true to me; "no one can truly answer this question for you", yes! ya gotta make up your own mind and stick to what you feel comfortable with - different blokes will respond in different ways to your decision, so make it one that You are at peace with... after all, it's you who lives with that decision, no one else | |
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| Can having sex too soon in the relationship kill your chance's?
Posted: 9/22/2008 12:13:18 PM |  Definitely! Giving yourself to a man too soon can completely destroy whatever connection you have. To a most men sex is siply an act; women we all know that as much as we may say that we don't care, the truth is that laying down with a man is opening up more than our legs. We open our hearts and ousleves in general at the same time. So unless you are sure that #1, this man is so into you that sex will only increase the level of attraction and intimacy you share;#2, this a man that is worth getting your "goodies" and essentially your heart; #3, that you are prepared for him to lose interest if you aren't really sure that he is as into you as you are him. Don;t ever use sex to keep or try to sway a man in your direction, ti has the exact opposite effect. And in closing, from my own experience, when a man does stick like glue after you give it up within a week or so of meeting, it's becuase he knows that he doesn't have to do much to get what he wants from you. Don't get caught up girl; hold out until you are certain that it's the right thing to do for you.  | |
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