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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:34:07 PM | | Good job, Wiz! You did the right thing....she has time to find another date. You can watch the big game. If you had gone, you would not have been happy and I'm sure she would have sensed it and known your mind was someplace else and in turn, she would not have had a good time either. | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:00:02 PM | OP you are a complete and total assss unless somewhere between page 2 and 5 you decided to grow a pair and go to the wedding like you said...(I stopped reading because you were annoying the Hell out of me!)
See, this is the problem with so many adults now days, selfish, selfish, selfish!!!!! I don't care what you put in message 14 and you plan to use that excuse that "she sortof already knows" your not going....seriously, your type totally disgusts me! Unless you have absolutely told her your NOT going, she absolutely things you are. So not only will she be datedless, she'll feel personally humiliated that she believed you'd be there for her....and I don't care if you owned up and told her you weren't going, still pathetic!...........I hope she at least ends her friendship with you!!!! Most people have no sense of honor now days, it's sooo sad! | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:03:28 PM | Again?? Whats so horrible about wanting to watch a football game?
Is that it?
Is it because the truth is you prefer football over a presumed strangers wedding?
than tell her there is a "Leave it to Beaver" marathon on tv...and Eddy Haskell is your idol.
you can't miss it.
if all you need is an excuse... there you go! | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:07:00 PM | | Here's an idea......try HONESTY! Sure, it may not be a great excuse to her, but she is your EX. lol. There's a reason for it. At least she'll respect you for being honest about it....and she'll still have time to find another date. Seriously, i wouldn't want someone to go somewhere with me if there was somewhere else they'd rather be.......you'll probably be distracted and maybe resentful and not much fun. | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:15:31 PM |
seriously, your type totally disgusts me
I guess you and I aren't dating any time soon....
I told her and she was okay with it....She actually find another date, which she felt it worked out even better her. I don't know anybody at this wedding, and the guy that she invited knows the people there. It actually worked out for both of us....
Now that I don't have to go, my plan is to have my son instead, which my son enjoys football too and watch the game with him. I rather be with him....Call me whatever names you want. I know what kind of person I am....
I hope she at least ends her friendship with you!!!!
Nope, I'm too honest of a friend for her to end it.... | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:15:48 PM | Why is everyone so fixated on the fact that "it's a just baseball game and it's a lame wedding for strangers?" That has NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS! A woman who thought he was her friend asked him to go to a wedding as a favor and he said YES...Hell, no wonder so many of you are on here and single, and 'm still on here because I keep dating most of the guys with this attitude....... geesh!
Doesn't anyone ever put themselves in someone else's place, EVER? Does anyone on here know what it means to keep your word?......I cannot believe so many people are telling him to blow her off....it's incredible....Is it because it's wedding and most people are jaded about relationships now? WTF? So if she wanted him to be her date to a baseball game and he wanted to ditch her to go to a wedding, I wonder how reversed this whole post would end up....
and OP, you're missing the point, you did NOT know she would be able to get another date... you made a promise and then came on the www to get out of it...
Regarding this: "Nope, I'm too honest of a friend for her to end it...." Really, so she read this post and was OK that you asked the entire world how you could lie to her?
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:26:57 PM |
People are skipping what I posted in msg 14....I have already told her the truth. And she knows my passion for the game, so she somewhat understands.
Honey...message 14 says you're planning on telling her by Wednesday...It doesn't say you told her already... | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:28:20 PM | I'm telling you she's okay with it, so what part you don't understand. Is it because I'm a man who love sports? Or is it because this has happened to you many times? So you feel the need really lay it on me.
Really, so she read this post and was OK that you asked the entire world how you could lie to her?
She's not on POF and I wouldn't have posted this if she was....And I didn't lie to her. I took the advice that was given to me....Tell the truth!!! | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:34:08 PM | OP you did the right thing because:
1.You already had plans,it doesn't matter if it's a game or a funeral.
2.She's your ex,you don't owe her anything.
3.Her date bailed on her and she wants you to go,that would make me feel used. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:49:32 PM | OP .... Good for you.. for telling the truth.
now you don't have to feel guilty about making up a lame excuse.
If you went she would have senced at some level that you didn't want to be there.
you know.. I don't know why anyone hasn't questioned why this girl wasn't more gracious and accepting when you first tried to explain to her about the game.. the FIRST TIME.
you tried to be honest with her. RIGHT.
This girl if she is such a friend could have just said.. Okay, no prob. I know how much you like the game. I can find someone else to go with. SHE COULD HAVE BOWED OUT GRACEFULLY!!!
She kind of manipulated you into this whole situation by NOT LETTING YOU OFF THE HOOK!! As soon as I get the hint that a man does not want to spend time with me.. I let him go!!!
who the hell wants to DRAG a guy that is not even her boyfriend to a wedding?
I always let my husband off the hook when there was shit going on that I KNEW he would not enjoy. If it was Auntie Bella's 87 birthday..what the hell kind of fun was he gonna have. I knew if he was thinking about the game he was gonna be totally miserable. Who wants miserable company? What is worse than being with someone that doesn't want to be with you?What's worse than being somewhere you don't want to be. I don't believe in all this obligated shit, especially when you really love someone, you DON'T make them feel obligated.
Nobody questiond her as a friend!! Why couldn't she just take the first hint that you really weren't happy about her invitation after you realized the game was the same day same time... What about that????
You know OP.. you took a real beating from some of these people and I think you took it well.. but don't defend yourself anymore.
You did the right thing now, you told her the truth. The lie or lame excuse isn't going to fall back on you, and maybe she can find some guy to go to the wedding or another girl friend. All is well that ends well. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:50:10 PM | boys will be boys in a mans world,SAD boys pass as men, should have kept your word as a man, not as a spoiled little boy who just had to see a game on TV & then use your son as an excuse to the folks on POF. ONE HELL OF A MAN | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:50:19 PM | Why is everyone so fixated on the fact that "it's a just baseball game and it's a lame wedding for strangers?" That has NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS! A woman who thought he was her friend asked him to go to a wedding as a favor and he said YES...Hell, no wonder so many of you are on here and single, and 'm still on here because I keep dating most of the guys with this attitude....... geesh!
Doesn't anyone ever put themselves in someone else's place, EVER? Does anyone on here know what it means to keep your word?......I cannot believe so many people are telling him to blow her off....it's incredible....
If a man agreed to go to some event with me and changed his mind about it, I would rather have him be honest about it and tell me that. Why would you want to go to a event with someone who did not want to be there? Most likely he would be miserable. There would be a possibly that you would end up being miserable as well. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 9:02:06 PM | then use your son as an excuse to the folks on POF.
My son is never an excuse, it's how I'm going spend my day and time well spent....What kind of man are you to make such a comment? | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 10:08:50 PM | I'm sorry for laughing and I'm sure you situation is genuine, and I really have no suggestions. But as soon as I read your post a movie came to mind.
"Fever Pitch". It so sounded like the same situations. Maybe watch the movie..you might find your excuse. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 6:28:46 AM | | I do my very best keep my word, & yes you are trying to smooth things over by saying your son is going to spend the day with you. You need to be a role model not just be a game fan. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 7:00:20 AM | I would tell her the truth, and let her find another date for the wedding.
During the 2 weeks she has before the wedding, that will give her ample time to thank God you're her EX boyfriend.
I hope you and your Patriots will be very happy together! | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 7:36:31 AM | I do my very best keep my word
So you're saying there might have been a chance that you couldn't make it too....Would a baking cook off hold you back?
You need to be a role model not just be a game fan.
I didn't know I was giving hope to many.... I'm going to be both on that day.
TiVo
I should have thought of that....
It's only a game. Besides, didn't they cheat all last year anyway?
Let's not go there....That's a whole different thread.
I hope you and your Patriots will be very happy together!
We're actually engaged.... I'll be at that wedding for sure. | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 7:56:20 AM | Wiz.... you did exactly the right thing. These people who are on your case about not wanting to go are missing the point.
I'm with you.
Did you even KNOW the people who were getting married? Would you have known ANYONE there besides your ex?
I've gone to weddings where I didn't know a soul besides the woman who had invited me. They were fvcking horrible experiences. Most of the time you get ditched because she's off partying with her buddies. YOU get to dance with drunk Auntie Mary who keeps tryin' to slip you the tongue and grab your ass. Not fun.
Good for you....
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Posted: 9/3/2008 8:09:02 AM |
Wiz.... you did exactly the right thing. These people who are on your case about not wanting to go are missing the point.
I'm with you.
Thanks, I appreciate that....
Did you even KNOW the people who were getting married? Would you have known ANYONE there besides your ex?
Not a soul, except for my ex....And she probably would have wondered off into crowd, while I'm sitting there twirling my thumbs.
YOU get to dance with drunk Auntie Mary who keeps tryin' to slip you the tongue and grab your ass.
Auntie Mary?....Maybe this is what pluger60 was talking about being a "role model". Take one for the team, right pluger60? | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 8:36:44 AM | | Life is more important than any game, why did you agree to go in the first place? role model isn't about being self centered & pouting when you don't get your way, Am glad you do have time for your son, But if something comes up for your son & the play offs are on ,then what? you shouldn't need an excuse when you say yes ,things don't always work they way we want. Unless its your son, then nothing counts but him. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 9:04:37 AM |
Life is more important than any game
I agree....But a game is more important to me than going to a wedding with an ex GF. How do you consider going to a wedding with an ex, life? Me no understand?
role model isn't about being self centered & pouting when you don't get your way
Of course not....Isn't a role model more like standing up for yourself and telling the truth? Which I did....Isn't that what you live by? I would think you would have given me a little more respect because of it.
But if something comes up for your son & the play offs are on ,then what?.
First off, my son will always outweigh a football game or a wedding with an ex. I don't appreciate you laying this as an example or questioning me as a father. I know I brought my son up earlier, but let's leave my son out of this for now on....
Think about what you are saying to me? Think about the topic? And think about what a big deal you are making it to be? | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 10:13:13 AM | | You are right ,I am wrong , just think you should have honored your word. Sorry, just think people need to keep their word. Every thing you have said is to justify backing out on your word, by accepting to go you gave your word, doesn't matter to who or why. | |
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