| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 2:49:52 PM |
Life is more important than any game
Games are important to.
Wiz you've been watching football lots longer than dating girls and going to weddings.
It's Football season now if you get married should be on a Monday through Friday.
( College on Saturday NFL on Sunday )
You did the right thing by telling her the truth.
Just one thought though. If the Jets win you might just wish you were at that wedding | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:33:53 PM | wizardofossington,
Congratulations on telling her the truth - (the truth will set you free, LITERALLY in this case!  )
Enjoy the time with your son.
To those who are judging him for backing out of his promised attendance, I retort "To thine own self first be true." Whether I would have backed out (no) or not, or whether anyone else would have is NOT the point. He came here looking for an excuse, was offered advice, and took it. Admirable for doing that rather than fabricating a lie.  The best part is that his ex is OK with it. So, I believe that all's well which ends well. It sounds like this ended well. Now, let this thread die, it's already way overdone!  | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:40:30 PM | Be honest tell her the truth ...I am a football fan but I can miss one game , next time don't be so fast on saying yes to her invite.... | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:50:55 PM | HONESTLY, I THINK YOU CAN GO TO THE WEDDING, THERE IS NO WAY IN HE.. THAT THE NEW YORK JETS ARE GOING TO WIN A GAME AGAINST THE NEW ENGLAND PATS!!!!!!!! SO YOU WILL NOT BE MISSING MUCH OF A GAME. GO ENJOY YOURSELF AS YOU MIGHT MET YOUR ONE AND ONLY. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:59:58 PM | OP, I think what you did was fine. Told her how you really felt and were still going to be there if she couldn't find a date therefore not leaving her in the lurch. You don't have any reason to feel badly, you can enjoy the game and she will not be going to the wedding by herself.
What is ridiculous about this whole thing after reading what transpired after the comment about your son is that if this had been about your son to begin with, which is not what you stated on the thread, I'm sure that this woman and everyone else would have seen that as an actual conflict of interest and reason for bailing on the wedding. This whole deal should have been a no-brainer. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 5:10:23 PM |
Not a soul, except for my ex....And she probably would have wondered off into crowd, while I'm sitting there twirling my thumbs.
My GAWD, you dodged a bullet! Have you EVER gone to a wedding under those conditions? It's HORRIBLE! The only saving grace is if there is free booze.
The Chicken Dance, the Macarena, and other stupid group dances.... *GAG". Weddings are for women and all about the women. I say stay away and let the women go all by themselves.
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Posted: 9/3/2008 5:45:18 PM | | Well, she is an "ex" girlfriend after all. Call her right away and tell her you forgot about a previous commitment you had made earlier. Tell her that you made a commitment to get together and watch the game with some buddies. Too bad if she doesn't like it. Tell her now so she can find another date to go to the wedding. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 6:01:24 PM | Dear wizard you have yourself a deeeeeeeelema lol so when appoached with the impossible win all you can do is FESS UP and beg for mercy lol
She will respect you more than if she finds out later.
Maybe there is a tv in the reception hall somewhere she will probably be mingling. lol or if you test the water and it looks like the boat isn't going to float have one of your freinds tape the game. | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:22:20 PM |
OP, I think what you did was fine. Told her how you really felt and were still going to be there if she couldn't find a date therefore not leaving her in the lurch. You don't have any reason to feel badly, you can enjoy the game and she will not be going to the wedding by herself.
Thank you....And I mean that in all honesty, since you were quite tough on me early on.
The only saving grace is if there is free booze.
That would probably be the only thing that would have saved me....But no need to worry now. You're quite comical and I truly have enjoyed your posts. Thanks....
Get some plaster of paris and make a fake cast and then take a picture of it.
Email it to her.
This would have been the greatest fib, but too late. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 6:47:13 PM | I have waded through all 6 pages of this and the plaster cast is the best answer I've seen yet.
What our original poster should have done if he didn't not want to tell her the truth was to wait until 10 minutes after the wedding was to have started and then call his ex from his cell phone or a pay-phone, saying he had a flat tire and by the time he got the car jacked up he found the spare was flat as well. He might be able to pick her up in another hour or so, but maybe not since it's Sunday and he may have problems getting a new tire. Seems so simple yet no one else thought of this. He was looking for an excuse.
jmho
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Posted: 9/3/2008 8:20:00 PM | I agree with those that say you should honor your word. A person is really only as good as his/her word. It makes no difference that she is an "ex" girlfriend. She is your friend. Does friendship mean less to you than a football game? Some day you may be in a crisis and need help. I hope Brett Favre will come to your rescue.
I understand about sports and TV addictions, though. I almost lost a bf over Melrose Place once (I couldn't break away from it to go pick him up). | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 7:38:44 AM |
Why is everyone so fixated on the fact that "it's a just baseball game and it's a lame wedding for strangers?"
No, no, no! It's FOOTBALL!
Who the hell agrees to get married on a Sunday during football season? Kinda makes me question his manhood. I'd cancel my own wedding for that game! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 4:40:02 AM | | brady is DONE, so might as well not waste your time watching the pats lose. i say go to the wedding and maybe get you some :) | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:32:40 AM | Thanks for being the poster boy of why women think most guys are jerks.
Probably tack on "stupid" as well for asking a banal question like this in a public forum... | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it....
Posted: 9/8/2008 10:41:43 AM |
Life is more important than any game
An ex is an ex. And unless you have a child with an ex, or literally owe them money, then you don't owe them anything.
MY life is more important than a game. However, my ex's life is not
Interesting how people will wiggle, slide, meander, and otherwise sidestep the obvious. How about the truth?
How about reading the thread before commenting? He already said that he DID tell her the truth - no wiggling, sliding, meandering, OR sidestepping the obvious - and she was fine with it. Problem solved. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 10:46:27 AM | OP: Just say that you had forgotten a previous engagement and that you should have not agreed to attending this wedding.
EG: "I'm sorry that I have to cancel as I just realized that I have a previous engagement on that day". | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 11:01:54 AM | This is too funny... You are in big trouble mister LOL... I don't know how much you care about this girl, but as a girl I can tell you she is gonna get pissed if you choose sports over her. Then again, if she is seeing other people, you shouldn't feel an obligation to be her leaning shoulder all the time. It seems like she is using you to her convenience and you are always there to help. I say you tell her "sorry, but I can't go".
She will hate you for a month or two, but since she seems to not want to let you go, she'll call again someday... good luck! | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it.... try the truth
Posted: 9/8/2008 11:09:55 AM |
enjoy the game
Tell her you can go to the wedding now and the rest of your Sundays are now free to attented more weddings. Tom Brady is out for the Season.
Won't be any games to enjoy with Matt Cassell as their new Quarterback
Right Wiz? | |
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| I need an excuse to get out of it.... try the truth
Posted: 9/8/2008 2:43:36 PM |
An ex is an ex. And unless you have a child with an ex, or literally owe them money, then you don't owe them anything.
She's an EX girlfriend, so why would you give a shit?
People's responses to this situation are certainly interesting. As to the above two statements, WOW. ". . . you don't owe them anything?" What about owing them your word . . . this is what I think is rather funny about some of the people that seem to be on this side of the fence; especially given the age of some of the commentators. Whatever happened to your word being your bond?
Which doesn't mean you can't change your mind or if an "emergency" comes up . . . "my brother was just put in the hospital", etc. so there are circumstances in which one can back out of.
My friend and I will sometimes make movie plans and then she is tired or I am, no big deal so it does depend on the situation but I do think if someone says yes to something major, then yes, they should keep their word.
The suggestion that others have given about finding her someone to take your place was good.
Why did you think it was necessary to tear her down though (she'll talk your ear off or something along those lines as well as her being into herself)? None of us is perfect and each of us have our strengths and weaknesses. You just left an opportunity for total strangers to rag on her (which is another oddity of human behavior; the ability of total strangers to tear down another total stranger down). | |
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