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How long has BPD been around?

Is it a cross cultural issue?

How come people in history were able to stay married and now 60% of the population can't. Is it BPD the epidemic that has swept the nation/world?

We as human beings are getting smarter and more advanced with every decade that passes. Although we seem to have allot more complex biological, psychological, social and environmental issues as well.

We say oh now I have so many issues with relationships, low self esteem, and no trust because I dated someone with BPD. Is this an epidemic? If it continues this way eventually everyone in the world will suffer from BPD or some form of personality disorder.

I think it's time to start educating ourselves with reality. But then again what is reality now days? Who on here can tell me how an individual can educate themselves on the true honest goodness of life, love and relationships?

More so Values and principles. That is great but what if your values and principles are to belittle women, or cheat on them because that is all you were taught or have experienced?

Now that's better! I'm not too sure about the corelations between BPD and divorce though

If we are smarter now how come we can't figure out a way to make relationships work at least 80% of the time. Its seems maybe in the 1900's BPD and other mental disorders were not discovered but where still there. Then how did more than 80% of the population stay married then? My answer to you people is, the majority of people grew up learning proper values and principles of how to stay together as a family, work together, and love one another. These families were not always functional although they adhered to their most important values, principles of family and unity.

How long has BPD been around?

or what we believe to be nature. If our world our society is based on making money then of course this will directly conflict with our ability to hold high morals in the sense of love and relationships. If our society was based on making babies then we would be looking at a whole other spectrum of mental disorder. Yes people have to fix themselves no one can do it for them but if you don't have a model or clear understanding of the way things "should" be then how do they fix themselves? Why would an individual be insecure? why would they create alternate realities in order from them to profit in thier relationships and then befriend people at the same time? Our minds are complex if we give it the wrong information and then ask it to give us the right information it's not gonna likely gonna give us what we want. Its like saying I want someone who will love me, be caring, understanding, considerate, and loyal. But then saying god stop being so nice, you don't have to do everything for me I can do it myself thank you very much! What I need is a man, a man who is strong who can take care of me, who's got more important things to do then spend every minute with me. What I often hear from women are two conflicting concious and subconcious realities. Men on the other hand are more likely to think if your nice to me, you listen to what I have to say and give me a steady supply of pleasure in or outside the bedroom then I'm happy with that. There is always something that will be lacking in a relationship. The grass is always greener on the other side of course until you see the other side of that grass and so on. My ultimate question is how does one guy and one girl stay together and be ultimately happy and fulfiled in a relationship? Is this possible and if so how?

Divorce has a huge impact on Borderlines. One of the reasons Borderline has become so much more "noticed" in the past couple of decades, is because divorce has become much more prevalent.

Any kind of real or "perceived" abandonment will lead the Borderline to panic. With relationships today being so "disposable", the Borderline may virtually be in a constant state of panic.

Three or four decades ago, divorce was much more uncommon. The Borderline was more "secure" in their married life.

In addition many fewer parents left the family....resulting in less feelings of "abandonment"

My expert advice (due to my own experiences as well as university level studies) is STAY AWAY from anyone who has MPD, BPD, Bi-Polar, or any other personality disorder.

I don't think anyone of us can "educate" ourselves on diagnosing any mental illness without the former education, experience and case studies to go on. We can all look up the symptoms of "XYZ" disorder in the DSM-IV if we've had a bad experience with someone and want to place the blame solely on them. I'm not a therapist, nor do I claim to be. I've had several so called "friends" in the past that exhibited behaviour that I questioned in my mind, yet choose not to label them as a "sociopath" or "anorexic" when indeed, I know they have, or have had some mental issues in the past. Thank god, they're no longer in my life but they seem to keep going on and on and on about how other people have BPD or are bi-polar without taking a good, hard look at themselves first. You cannot...and I REPEAT THIS...cannot, nor have the right to diagnose ANY mental disorder in ANYONE unless you are trained professionally to do so, and the so called "know it all psychobabble nuts" on here need to put in the blood, sweat and tears of 4+ years of higher education before they decide who has BPD, MPD, ADD, or any other Acronym that they think they've had an experience with..perception is a tricky thing if it's only yours regarding that person.

I agree. I didn't come to any conclusion on my own. I was advised by either professionals or the person themselves regarding their personality disorders.....and of course being a Christian I disagree with the secular professional's explanation of the source of the disorder. The bottom line is that each person was satanically possessed.