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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 11:37:44 AM | jimmycrowell....
Thank you for reminding me why I want to get an education, so that I can do what I do with with some credible initials behind my name. It's people like you, who have done the right thing, and end up in terrible circumstances, saying.....why? that I really want to help most...no matter what needs to be done.
I'm so glad your life is great now...you deserve it.
Renaissance....while I realize that every post on this thread that tells a horror story ,validates your belief that "it was her not me", that helps the embarrassment of not being able to "fix" your SO....(by the way, the theory of "curing" BPD is becoming more widespread...but it's incumbent on the BPD accepting the notion of being "bad" without killing him/herself...doesn't have anything to do with "initmacy")....horror stories can, and have been told without "bashing" the SO.
I said in an earlier post, and I'm sticking by it....make sure your information is credible, please. How would you like it if I started spewing "trash" about alcoholics, and alcoholism...I bet you're proud of yourself for beating the addiction, right? Please don't spew trash about BPD because you've had a relationship with one, and have read self help books. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 5:24:22 PM | I think its time to explore other ways to bang your head against the wall like dating someone with a history of sexual abuse, multiple personality disorder, and addiction. This thread is 28 pages long! I once knew a psychiatrist, since deceased that claimed to be an expert on MPD. Perhaps someone with intimacy problems from whatever cause be it BPD or other etiology should date someone with MPD because that way you get to cheat with multiple people without really cheating.  | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 5:40:09 PM |
I think its time to explore other ways to bang your head against the wall like dating someone with a history of sexual abuse, multiple personality disorder, and addiction. This thread is 28 pages long! I once knew a psychiatrist, since deceased that claimed to be an expert on MPD. Perhaps someone with intimacy problems from whatever cause be it BPD or other etiology should date someone with MPD because that way you get to cheat with multiple people without really cheating.
Hey, that's a cool idea.....polygamy while being monogamous.....who knew? | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 6:58:09 PM | | My mother is a text book case of a borderline personalilty disorder. You can never win. There are different degrees. Mom never self mutilated, etc but she is a very difficult person.....one day hot, another day cold. She loves you one day, attacks the next. she "splits" ....meaning she enjoys dividing family members...spliting up relationslhips. Look up borderline personalilty disorder on the internet. YOU CANT win. believe me. RUN. if you are already married or have a kid......welll you have my prayers. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:53:21 PM |
My mother is a text book case of a borderline personalilty disorder.
My heart goes out to you. Those of us who have been SOs can walk away but you can't. My Mom was schizophrenic, but it was a walk in the park compared to some of the horror stories I've heard from adult children of BPD parents. Hope you've survived intact. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:23:48 PM |
behind curtain number one BPD. number two, histrionic disorder. number three, sorry... narcissistic disorder.
Sh*t, I've chosen curtain #1 and curtain #3 , when all I wanted was a new washer and dryer on "Queen for a Day". | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 11:14:37 PM | Hi guys - post caught my attention - work with people with severe mental health problems so have a bit of insight!
Here is the scary bit - 1 in 4 of us are suffering a mental health problem at any given time - makes you think huh?
While I wouldn't aspire to date someone with BPD or any severe mental health problem I also have a wealth of admiration for the people I work with, I know as a person I could not cope with their lives or the symptoms of their illness and many of them are stronger and more resourceful than I could ever be!
I guess that you have to look at the whole package - even people with illness, regardless of its origin, want to find love, maybe lack of it is part of the problem?
I was married to someone who had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - thats what got me into this field of work - too many nights being woken up with him pointing a knife at me tellling me to drop my weapon!! I just educated myself and supported him to get treatment - the marriage survived that - just not him cheating lol!
Dont be hasty to judge someone by just one factor of their makeup - look at the whole person and if its not worth it - walk away!
Good luck guys
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/25/2008 11:19:15 PM | I was wondering if anyone had dated or is currently in a relationship with someone with BPD
yeah... I had the misfortune of dating someone with BPD for about 6 months
if so what are some of your experiences
terrible... horrific... insane... painful... And those were the good days.... lol... If I spent every waking moment kissing her ass, and telling her how great she was, and letting her have her way all the time, and never disagreeing with her, and putting up with mood swings from hell... Then she was great... But as soon as she didn't get what she wanted, or felt she had been disrespected in even the slightest, most insignificant way... she'd go out of her way to make my life miserable, and could justifying heaping as much pain, drama, and BS onto me as humanly possible without a second thought
We met off the internet and it basically turned into an extended one night stand (Sexual promiscuity is a BPD trait)... At first it was about a lot of cool, fun, kinky sex... But after a few months it really started to get disturbing and dark... Then I noticed that her whole "reality" was dark, disturbing, and pretty messed up... At first I thought it was something I could "fix" by treating her nice, and better... But the better I treated her the harder she became to get a long with... She'd pick fights over the most insignificant things... And not just fights, but knock down drag out hate fests that would last hours... I'm not a violent man... and she'd get in my face and taunt me, practically beg me, to beat her (self mutilation is a BPD trait... but she didn't do it... But I think her desire for me to beat her was a form of it... Which I never did)... After our fights, she'd play the craziest mind games to try and sabotage my life, work, and friendships... it was some of the craziest experiences I ever had
After reaching my breaking point, she fessed up that she had been diagnosed with BPD when she was in her mid-20's... And followed up with a horrific story about being sexually abused for years by her older brother (Sexual abuse is common among BDP'ers)... Once I heard this it kept me around a few more months... But her behavior consistently became more spiteful, and hateful... About the only time she seemed sane was when she was drunk (Alcoholism is another BPD trait)
how do you cope? how did it end up?
Initially I kept telling myself she could change if I was "there for her"... In the end I figured out that this is one twisted mental disorder and nothing that was ever going to change in her... After 6 months I finally had to get out
To date... She's the only ex I would run the other way from if I saw her... If your involved with a BPD'er get out now... run fast... don't say goodbye... leave your things behind..... never go back! | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:07:53 AM | Dialectical behavior therapy is the only treatment for bpd.
There are few therapists trained in this, and of those, verry few are themselves emotionally healthy themselves to put the academic training into effective behavior modification.
See, most therapists are more messed up than the general population, and as there are no MEDS for BPD, the outlook is dim for those who suffer fom it.
People who get involved with folx with b p d ..
well ought to be in
CODA groups.
You have too much of a need to be self validated, authenticated by taking care of another person, need another person to be dependent on you to manage his/ her life.
It is safer to date a manic depressive taking his or her medicine, than embrace the odd nad unpredictale behavioir of a borderline.
I would stay clear of the
BPD'sw, unless you thrive on crisis. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:24:51 AM | It is THE MOST AWFUL DISORDER, because on good days that person is so so good..
and then
You can not be less than severly damaged by this disordered parenting
My heart goes out to you!\
Reeally reaally really
I would find a few C O D A meetings in your area.
It will atleast set a structure for you for boundaries that are ok for you.
And keep interviewing and re interviwing therapists(NEVER A SHRINK!)
who have had years of practice treating that disorder and using dialectical behavior therapy.
That.... THAT therapist would understand your pain , and start a healing path.
Stay away from pharmaceuticals.
Find support groups in your area for survivors of b p d. nad if thats not around, adult survivors of mentally ill parents.
That means , join any Jewish social club.
Kidding.
Take care. Be gentle with yourself
You will be doing alot of your own reparenting.
Say affirmation every morning.
You will be ok. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:55:01 PM | I think alot of people on this forum have misconceptions of BPD. Alot of what you say is true, but most people with BPD, have other illnesses as well.
BPD do not have multiple personalities.
BPD doesn't make you evil or want to kill animals.
BPD's do not purposely play head games and make up fake profiles to pretend to be someone else.
I've been diagnosed with BPD, and I wouldn't date me, so I wouldn't expect anyone else to either... but I am a very kind and nice person, and am very loving. Relationships tend to make anyone a little frustrated, and with BPD's the emotions are always at a higher level.
Believe me, though.. I do understand where you all come from, but don't label one BPD, because your had a psycho ex.... (because unless they were diagnosed, by taking a battery of tests, you have to right to put them in a category and label them!) | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 3:57:45 PM |
I've been diagnosed with BPD, and I wouldn't date me,
Why not? You are
a very kind and nice person, and am very loving.
don't label one BPD, because your had a psycho ex.... (because unless they were diagnosed, by taking a battery of tests, you have to right to put them in a category and label them!)
I think BPDs, especially high functioning ones, are master manipulators. I doubt that any psych can diagnose the disorder unless the BPD him/herself wants to get help. Do you give any credence to reading the DSM-IV and recognizing that the bewildering partner you've been with for the last number of x years fits the criteria? I thoroughly disagree with you. The best detectives of BPD are those who have been intimate with them - and that's not a shrink.
Case in point. Long before I had ever heard of BPD, I told my ex that if he didn't seek professional therapy, we were not going to have a future together. Like you, he was very kind and loving - moreso than anybody I had ever loved. But in between the good times, he misinterpreted to the point of being wounded, was addicted to cheating, had bewildering outbursts of hatred towards me and on and on.
So finally, he goes to the local mental health department and gets an assessment. Comes home in tears and opens up emotionally like I have never seen in him and is looking forward to his appointment with a psychiatrist. Unfortunately the appointment isn't for another two months. We lost the window of openess. He came home from the psych bragging that he got a gold medal for mental health. My guy was bipolar and well medded for that and that was all that the psych was looking at. Two years later, a bipolar forum suggested I look at BPD. In awe, I am the one who diagnosed him as BPD and there is no doubt about it. He is dealing with both illnesses. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 4:44:54 PM |
My guy was bipolar and well medded for that and that was all that the psych was looking at. Two years later, a bipolar forum suggested I look at BPD. In awe, I am the one who diagnosed him as BPD and there is no doubt about it. He is dealing with both illnesses.
Unfortunately, that's the way it often happens....I had been diagnosed Bi-Polar II. Like I've mentioned, when my Mom was dying, she was psychotic, and BPD. She was calling me every name under the sun....but she couldn't remember my REAL name....my sister, yes, me...no.
I was in this Emerg Psychiatrist's office and he knew the general information...I was giving him typical BPD yes/no..say nothing answers. Until he asked me about how I felt about my Mom right now. I wasn't exactly sympathetic to her plight at that moment I was calling her, everything she had been calling me.
That's when I got diagnosed with BPD "tendencies". Because of the situation, they didn't want to say BPD for sure, because I was under a huge amount of stress.
About six months after Mom was gone, they confirmed BPD. Had I been just Bi-Polar, and manic, I wouldn't have responded to his question the way I did. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 7:23:36 PM | I don't know...I disagree! I have known someone who was formally diagnosed with it. She had some pretty tall swings from one aspect of life to another. A different personna? No, there was no different personnas. She was always the same, with little variance, in fact. However, she got help! And, what she perceived was considerably different than the way many would perceive something.
That didn't make her bad, nor uncontrolled...just different! And, although she still swung from one end of the spectrum to the other, when 'off' her medication (and beleive me, she was heavily medicated...way more than normal), she was probably one of the most honest people I ever met in my life. Mind you, I knew her on a very intimate level (not that type of intimacy, fellas...get your mind out of the gutter), so I had lots of opportunity to see her in action, on a day to day basis -- both in a relationship and out of one.
Is it difficult to maintain a relationship with someone like that? Yes, but it's no more difficult than being with someone who has other issues, and it can be done, as long as you're aware of how to deal with the issues that come up.
However, just be aware that this is a medical problem and just like other medical problems, there are things that need to be done. And, if they 'really' do have it, make sure they take their meds when they're supposed to, and they're seeing a physician for it.
Otherwise, it can get out of control, just like any medical problem that isn't getting the proper medical attention it should...and it could easily destroy the relationship, if that's the case.
Patients with BPD have a tendency to 'self-sabotage' their relationships, when unmedicated or under severe stress.
Oh, and for those who think they can diagnose someone else with it...you might wish to go see a doctor yourself. Diagnosing someone when you're not a 'REAL' physician is dangerous, at best! ;) If you put yourself on a 'pedestal'...where you are the "trained" professional 'attempting' to diagnose someone, even though you're NOT a 'TRAINED' physician...well, there are a lot of folks attempting to do stuff like that, now a days, sadly. :( However, they never went to medical school, and really have no idea what they're doing. Thus, 99% of the time, they're dead wrong on the diagnosis.
Maybe those are diagnosing others without a license should dress up like a doctor next time, so that others who "need the help" will recognize you as the doctor you are? Could you also put up your diplomas from medical school, so that everyone can see and enjoy them too? hehe
And they say patients are the ill ones, rofl. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 8:46:58 PM | Believe it or not I have!!! lol HE was bi polar and manic depressive actually and besides the fact that he was on meds!! wich ended up damping our sexual relationship. he also just had issues where one minute he adored me and the next he hated my guts!! not only that he constantly accused me of talking to his friends without him knowing, (weird) but since im a nurse thought I could deal and my Uncle is a Skitz but this was to much. we broke up even though I still care about him just glad its over. hope that gave you some insight !! lol xoxo Dev | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/26/2008 8:53:50 PM | Sweethang100
Msg: 722
You said it way better than I could. I was just getting so frustrated with people diagnosing others, when they aren't educated completely on the subject.
I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I don't like being put in a category as people that may just be crazy or evil. (imo)
& to the other poster who responded to my last post.
I wouldn't date me, because I am under stress 90% of the time. My coping skills suck, although I do work on them and have come very far, when I start dating someone that I really care about... I tend to 'self-sabotage' - and have messed up alot of relationships that way. I don't do it on purpose or to manipulate.. (manipulate meaning: To tamper with or falsify for personal gain) because BPD's don't manipulate like the true meaning of manipulate..... it may seem it, I know, because I've been there and done that... Just for me, I'm so frantic to not lose the person, that I have done things to betray trust. Its really hard to just explain, because its more complicated.. than...
I was in a bad relationship.. the person had BPD, and to blame everything on that... | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/27/2008 5:58:23 AM | No problem, Joules.
Yes, I know...lots of folks like to do that to others, and by doing so, they're claiming to be physicians. Of course, as we ALL SHOULD KNOW, 'REAL' DOCTORS would DIE before diagnosing a patient, online, without physically seeing them, and certainly WOULD NEVER claim a patient to be with any disease, in PUBLIC, without WRITTEN permission from the patient. They would be breaking a medical code by doing so, one which EVERY 'REAL' MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL knows NOT to do!
If they did, there would be a lot of REAL medical professionals in trouble with the LAW. It's illegal to do so! Therefore, anyone claiming that someone else has this or that, online, in an open forum...well, they're obviously NOT a physician and have NO right, whatsoever, of saying something like that about another. I could see the lawsuits occurring now, by all those who have attempted to practice medicine online, unlicensed. Oh my! hehe
I'm sorry about your situation, Joules. But take heed...NO ONE IS PERFECT, and that's ok! No one has to be perfect either. And, I believe there is someone out there for everyone; someone that can accept you, me and others, just as they are -- with all their craziness and imperfections.
Let me tell you something, Joules. I've met lots of what 'some' people call 'NORMAL' and to me, they were WAY OUT THERE! So, maybe, what society considers normal, isn't so normal after all? If we all looked at it from God's point of view...many of what society considers normal would be viewed like demons...wouldn't you agree? Our most successful person couldn't get into heaven, according to the bible. So think of it that way.
My point is...who's to say what normal really is? According to REAL standards...there is no NORMAL! Therefore, all one can do is try to be happy with who they are. Then, as I always say, "Let go and let God" handle the rest. ;) | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:25:29 AM | yes I did. At first I didnt know, he seemed extreemely loving, caring and attentive. But aftera while the "attentiveness" led to controlling. He would get really really upset with me if I was not paying attention or including him in everything I did from the second he came home. If I happened to be on the phone when he came in I was accused of having" affairs, everyone else is more important thank I am , there's never any time for ME anymore" (which are all distortions). These people distort realisty and they distort what real love is. It got really bad and he started drinking heavily. I did NOT know it, but he had had a drinking problem, kept it in check for almost 3 years. As soon as we were married - it all went haywire. He then became verbally and physically abusive. When he chased me and tried to hit me head on I got a restraining order and that was the last day i spoke with him. We were divorced that same year we were married. He refused any help whatsoever.
If you are in this relationship - it could work if the 2 of you went to counseling and he went on his own also. But if not - GET OUT!~ | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/27/2008 8:01:05 AM |
& to the other poster who responded to my last post.
I wouldn't date me, because I am under stress 90% of the time. My coping skills suck, although I do work on them and have come very far, when I start dating someone that I really care about... I tend to 'self-sabotage' - and have messed up alot of relationships that way. I don't do it on purpose or to manipulate.. (manipulate meaning: To tamper with or falsify for personal gain) because BPD's don't manipulate like the true meaning of manipulate..... it may seem it, I know, because I've been there and done that... Just for me, I'm so frantic to not lose the person, that I have done things to betray trust. Its really hard to just explain, because its more complicated.. than...
I was in a bad relationship.. the person had BPD, and to blame everything on that...
I know what you're saying, I used to do it too...you can stop doing it if you can figure out why you're doing the self sabotage. When it happens, you will feel like you did when you were a child. Identify what situation caused "that" particular feeling, and it might go away, or you will be able to recognize it in the future, and you won't have to run.
This vague explanation is the real cause of the "intimacy" issue. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:52:21 PM | Thanks Sweethang100 for your kind words... It was much needed.....
And in reference to..
I know what you're saying, I used to do it too...you can stop doing it if you can figure out why you're doing the self sabotage. When it happens, you will feel like you did when you were a child. Identify what situation caused "that" particular feeling, and it might go away, or you will be able to recognize it in the future, and you won't have to run.
This vague explanation is the real cause of the "intimacy" issue.
Thats just it.. . I can't figure out why or what causes the self sabotage in general, except of the feelings insecurity caused by something my partner does. I just don't know how to figure it out.. cuz if I did I would of been coping with it better... by now... | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/27/2008 7:48:19 PM |
Thats just it.. . I can't figure out why or what causes the self sabotage in general, except of the feelings insecurity caused by something my partner does. I just don't know how to figure it out.. cuz if I did I would of been coping with it better... by now...
ok...this is a little hard to explain....it might not be anything your partner does, it can be a situation that you are in that reminds you of something traumatic from your childhood. Here's an example..
My parents were divorced, and I would sometimes go with my Dad on the weekend. He would bring me home on Monday morning. I would never really know when I would see him again. I would always feel sick to my stomach, and REALLY sad.
Fast forward 30 years. I would spend the weekend with my boyfriend. I would leave on Monday morning....we would always fight on Monday morning. It got so bad, that we would fight on Sunday night. I knew something was going on...I really concentrated on how I felt right before the fight. Sick to my stomach and REALLY sad.
Every time. Once I figured it out, the sickness and sadness didn't disappear for a long time, but when I started feeling that way, I knew what was happening, and was able to avoid the fight. It was REALLY hard at first, but in time I realized that nothing was really wrong, it was just reminding me of when something was wrong.
There are patterns to this stuff...the key is to figure out the pattern. Find the common element, and go from there.
I still have this happen to me...but I've become so good at searching my memory bank, that I can usually figure it out fairly quickly. Like anything else, it takes practice. Don't give up. | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/28/2008 5:19:49 PM | Quasi, that's an excellent idea for many people, but I believe there is a vast difference with bpd patients, as opposed to the average individual. OCD works the same way. It's something that flicks a switch, and it's difficult to define or pin down, for many of them. The gal I spoke about, earlier in my post, was like that. She had no idea why she did some of the things she did...they just occurred. However, when she was on her medication, she was able to control the uncontrolled emotions.
To the lady above (not joules), well...I do hope that one day, you don't have a situation where you are affected by something you have no control over. If that occurs, I suspect you would know, quickly, what it's like for someone to say, "abandon ship", when, in fact, you haven't done anything to cause that abandonment. Instead, the person just leaves, based on what some other person went through with their significant other, even though they're two different people.
You know, many of you appear to be quite judgemental when it comes to people who have disabilities. One of the things God says about disabled people is that you should open your hearts to them, not abandon them. They're not items that you can toss aside, simply because they don't fit what YOU believe to be normal. There is NO NORMAL, in reality.
I urge ALL of you not to toss everyone in the garbage, simply because some others have had a tough time with someone who exhibited "different" behavior.
None of us, last I checked, were perfect (less Jesus). So, why not take that into account the next time someone, who is disabled, is interested in you? You might just find that all your fears are nothing more than unfounded fears that are in you, not them!
I know many couples who deal with various different disabilities, including OCD, Bi Polar, and BPD, as well as depression, and other disabilities. Their relationships can be rocky, at times (who's relationship can't?) but that doesn't mean that it affects every aspect. However, sometimes two people come together, and it doesn't matter who you are, or what you are, or what you have or don't have. Things lead to things, and people do other things...but, you can't blame it all on a sole disability, because it could be many things, besides that.
For instance, I know of a gal that is married to a fellow that is Bi Polar. He does fine with his meds and their relationship was quite stable...until one day when she met a man that complimented her all the time. Her Bi Polar hubby hadn't complimented her in awhile, because they had been married for quite some time, and they were comfortable with each other. Things like that happen sometimes. Of course, by then, she was longing for that, and hadn't told her Bi Polar hubby. Needless to say, an affair occurred, he found out and freaked. She immediately blamed his Bi Polar state, stating he was out of control. Mind you, she wasn't bothered by the fact that she just broke his heart...nor did she even look at what her contribution was to his "freaking out". She wasn't really interested in the reality of the situation or where his emotions were stemming from. They ended up working it out, and that's good for them, but many times, things like this occur and when they do...everyone points the finger at the party with the disability.
So, before you toss them into the river, while you're cutting them to ribbons...think! Think of how you would feel if someone blamed everything you did, on a disability you had.
No problem, Joules. I'm glad it helped. :) | |
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| Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/28/2008 7:44:59 PM | I totally disagree Ren. No one said they are dysfunctional in a relationship! See, that's an automatic assumption. Many aren't dysfunctional, when they're on their meds. Many are quite normal, so to speak, and you might not even know the person has a disability, if it weren't for the name, itself. ;)
We're not talking about saving anyone. See, you equate being in a relationship with someone who isn't perfect, with having to save that person. Personally, I don't! And, I suspect most of the people who have BPD would not appreciate you TRYING to SAVE THEM! Would you like it if someone TRIED to save you, because you smoked, or drank a glass of wine every once in a while? Maybe they should TRY to make you CONSTANTLY HAPPY, because you seem a bit down today? See what I mean?
So, if you were, at any point, in a relationship with someone who had BPD, for real, and you were TRYING TO SAVE THAT PERSON...there was YOUR problem!
It has nothing to do with "misery loves company!" What you appear to forget is that someone who is disabled, by whatever means they're disabled, isn't a disease that YOU might catch. Regardless, you're treating them like such, sadly.
That's plain, ordinary, hogwash!
As I said, I know many people who have BPD, and worse. However, as long as they're taking their medication and seeking medical help, they're not generally 'a problem' or a 'danger' to 'the general population'...any more than your average individual.
They're certainly no worse than someone who has depression (which I would venture to think, probably describes approx 70% of the males and females on this site, based on some of the things many write in these forums. ;))
In fact, I'd be more concerned about someone like you, then I would about them, because you're quick to ASSUME you know the person (even if you don't), just based on an ailment they might have.
If that's the case, all people in wheelchairs, or those that have heart problems, oh heck...let's go for the ones that have zits too, could be dangerous and undateable according to you. In fact, let's just categorize them all...everyone...according to what you're stating here.
Of course, as you all know, when you ASSUME...you tend to make an ass out of you to me. (Ass/u/me) ;) | |
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