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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:16:18 PM | | NO, women make first contact 26% of the time, men make first contact 74%. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:37:51 PM | OP JIrWIN
...most of the time it's the women who make the first contact. is that true?
Most? Only if you are referring to the Domme's | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:32:07 PM | Oh Ran, you know I tried to email you first.
If only I still lived in Saginaw, at least I would be in the same state.
I have emailed guys and have had guys email me. Some dates have been great. I keep hoping the next date will be the one. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:37:00 PM | As far as I know, women having the time to actually initiate any contacts on here is kind of rare given how many more men there seem to be then women.
By the time you've gone through initial contacts you've received, there's rarely time left to even browse or search for guys, let alone send them an initial message so, if I were a guy here, I'd definitely make the contact and not wait for it to come.
If you're questioning if it's best to wait for a woman you may be interested in to contact you first, I definitely wouldn't recommend it. She may never even see your profile if you don't send that message so why wait? Not much to lose by just saying hi. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 10:44:26 AM | | ok hold on one second people! this is what I read HERE on POF! that's not what I made up, I said I had read that when men or even women send a message just above or below the message there's other interesting things to know like what to talk about and all sorts of stuff. I didn't make that up! I haven't read all of your responses but I'm sure there is another guy who knows what I'm talking about on here. right? | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 8:24:05 PM | Well geeze JIrWiN.....you post a question adn then you don't even read all of the responses-what's up with that? I kind of think I know where you're talking about - where it lists the 10 most interesting things for men to talk about and then the 10 most important things for women-is that the same place? Guess I'll have to pay more attention to it the next time.
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Posted: 9/3/2008 9:08:18 PM | HR~ he far too busy answering all those first contact emails from hot women. 
His attention span can't handle too much at one time. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 9:12:08 PM | This is what it says when you attempt to email someone OP:
Women make first contact 26% of the time, the bulk of that goes to men with a picture and over 640 letters/characters in their description section
Now, I am not the smartest man on the planet but if 100% = All of the Time and women make contact 26% of that time, they are not making contact with us the majority of the time. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 10:32:31 AM | | ok so if that's for men then what would it be for guys? 100% all the time make the first contact? because if women make first contact of 26% and everyone disagrees then this site needs to do more polls cuase it seems to me that it was just a waste of time mentioning it right? | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 10:53:13 AM | Women make first contact 26% of the time, the bulk of that goes to men with a picture and over 640 letters/characters in their description section.
What that statistic fails to account for is how many women write to a 24-year-old man whose main picture is shrouded in pink with a six-year-old time stamp and the caption "latest pic of yours truly!" I assure you that will bring the percentage WAY down. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 11:21:43 AM | | Huh? a six year old time stamp?? huh. that picture was taken about a month ago wonder how that happened. And it's not pink it's supposed to be red. And besides this topic isn't about me. it's about that statistic. but thank you for your input. lol | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 11:38:18 AM | | I got the impression you were inquiring because the statistics didn't match up with your experience (but I do think a red photo with a 2002 timestamp- even if that's wrong- will hurt your chances). Obviously, there's no way for any of us to verify those statistics and obviously each person's numbers will vary greatly from the next. I'm really not a sender so my send ratio is probably less than .05%. I'm sure other women will have much higher ratios and others might be as low as 0% so the statistics are rather meaningless. The point of that advice on this website is really to tell guys to include photos and detailed descriptions. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 1:15:28 PM |
the bulk of that goes to men with a picture and over 640 letters/characters in their description section. Men should take that as a hint to work on their profiles!
This does not mean your first date scenario should turn into a detailed description of your favorite sexual fantasy.
OK, let's do the math. 100-26= 74
26% is not most. It is 26 out of every 1oo. That means 74 out of every hundred men are making the first contact. That is what as known as "the minority." | |
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Posted: 9/5/2008 10:40:39 AM | ~OP~ This site also states that 49% of women who leave POF do so because they met their boyfriend here. HA!! Now that is hilarious. I know at least 50 women (over the years) who have left POF because they hadn't met one single soul worth a second date. That would mean that 100% of the women I know who have left ~ didn't do so with a boyfriend in tow. Stats are bunk. They are what the statistician wants them to be. No, there is no possible way that women are the main source of first contact emails. Maybe 30% of the time and that's just a made up stat by me. If you view your "who contacted me" or "who I contacted" lists, you'll clearly get a feel for who emails whom first.  | |
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Posted: 9/5/2008 11:25:04 AM | When I first started dating online 4 years ago after separating from my husband, I let them do the initial emailing at first.
Then I met someone, we dated for a while & he was complaining that women expect guys to do all the emailing/first contact,
etc. I could see his point. So when I started looking again, I made a point of doing a search every week & trying to email
at least 2 guys that I found appealing, on each site (at that time, my list had over 40 free dating sites). Fortunately for me,
I can do that online, I am horrible at speaking to people, IRL (extremely shy!). | |
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Posted: 9/6/2008 11:56:14 AM | | oh no this doesn't have anything to do with my experience, I was just curious about that statistic if it was true or not that's all. Hey I'm horrible at talking to women in person. being able to find someone your "Ideal" match online it seems alot easier hardly any pressure when it comes to real life chatting. right? lol | |
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