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| He could have told me he was married.
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:53:35 PM | paige, you are mistaken. People have always screwed around. For instance, if married people weren't boffing others helter skelter even in ancient times, then why is adultery the subject of one of the Ten Commandments?
In fact, since adultery is strictly sex between a married person and someone not the spouse, pre-marital sex isn't even mentioned in the Top Ten. Don't you think there must have been a substantial reason for that specific prohibition?
Why do you think prostitution is called the "oldest profession?" Think about what that means.
In colonial America, according to recent computer tabulations of marriage and birth records, one in five first born children came in fewer than nine months after the wedding. 20%!
And that's just the hot young couples who were unlucky!
In the 1920's, newspapers, preachers, and other scolds all across America were calling the family automobile the very pit of sin, because it provided high school and college kids with a "mobile bedroom."
History is musky and moist with further examples.
No, people have always had sex, willy nilly. Not everyone, certainly. But always a lot of people. Always. Frankly, of all those pious and chaste friends and relatives you are thinking of, I would bet the farm that more than one of them has more than a couple of saxophone players or c0cktail waitresses in their past. The main difference between chaste people and the rest of us, after all, is that we like to brag.
Maybe you know the old joke? Never go fishing with one Baptist. Always bring at least two. One Baptist will drink all your beer.
Cheers!
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| He Could of Told me he was married.............
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:07:59 PM | | You found out he is dishonest, I am sorry you were hurt, there are nice men out there that do not omit to tell you , up front, important things like their marital status. he sounds like a player to me, sounds like a very accomplished one. You were his prey. I sincerely doubt the only love he has is for himself & getting what HE wants. Some people are like that- both men & women LIE- & hurt others by doing so. next time, 7 there will be a next time, you will be wiser, & probably happier | |
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| He Could of Told me he was married.............
Posted: 9/4/2008 4:23:49 PM | I totally agree with Pretty Moon. Why on earth would a married man give other women his home phone number when his wife would probably answer? It just doesn't make sense. I'm assuming it was his home phone, since she answered.
You said you accidently called him from your cell phone while driving, and then she started calling you at home. How did that happen, unless you gave her your home number? It would have been your cell number that came up on their caller ID, not your home number.
Something doesn't compute. You need to speak with him and find out the real story. | |
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| He could have told me he was married.
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:33:50 PM | I am by no means trying to be hard on you but a few things don't add up. I am sorry for your pain. If you are capable of having fun with him you are capable of having fun with anyone.
I met this guy who drove a long distance to meet me. We had a wonderful dinner, drinks, and talked for 5 hours non stop. We talked about everything, our jobs, our hopes, what we liked and didn't like.
You believed you talked about everything yet did not dig into his last relationship - or did he dodge that issue?
Then I accidentally hit his phone number on my cell. Actually I was driving and it was in my cell. I felt he was going to call me anyway.
How does one do that without hitting "send" or the trackwheel a second time when it asked "call xxx-xxx-xxxx" while driving (wouldn't your eyes be on the road?!)
His wife answered and the next thing I knew she was calling my house.
How do you know it was his wife and not his girlfriend, sister, etc. that he set up to get rid of you. How else would they get your home number?
How could someone with so much love to give who truly wasn't looking for sex on the first date, do that to me.
You only knew him for a few hours in person - how would you know how loving a person he is 6 months later. Ted Bundy was very kind.
I will never know but I have to say it was the most exiting date I have had in a very long time, and it gave me home that maybe I will feel all those things again .
It was only a few hours ... it didn't mean the 2nd, 3rd or years later it would have been just as exciting. He isn't the end all be all. | |
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| He Could of Told me he was married.............
Posted: 9/5/2008 2:04:20 PM | Whats sad is that you are looking for a magical feeling. You should be looking for a magical person. This guy obviously was not what he showed but you chose to believe it.
Again, be careful on the internet dating thing. Times have changed and many people have no conscious. | |
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| He Could of Told me he was married.............
Posted: 9/5/2008 2:22:39 PM | snip >>How could someone with so much love to give who truly wasn't looking for sex on the first date, do that to me.
Easy, because the man and the person he PROJECTED himself to be was not REAL
Be grateful that he was not looking for "sex". Then you would have many other issues to deal with in, addition to eventually explaining everything to his wife (not fun, was it).
snip >> I will never know but I have to say it was the most exiting date I have had in a very long time, and it gave me home that maybe I will feel all those things again.
Stop focusing on what a fake he was and instead be happy that you are in a point in your life that you are able to respond to affection. From that comment I sense you have been in a relationship before and wondered if you could feel that way again.
You will feel the things that you liked about the date with a person who interested in you, not just pretending to be someone he was not (as in not married to someone else.)
You met someone who was into creating romance for romance's sake alone. Sex is not the goal, seeing the reaction/control of a "woman" was. | |
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| He Could of Told me he was married.............
Posted: 9/5/2008 3:02:53 PM | | I agree with libithoney 100%- be glad that you had this experience in that it taught you you are still capable of FEELING. You will find someone else. there ARE real people in the world- I have to say this guy sounds as if he has his routine well practised. You were vulnerable & he was wrong to take advantage of your vulnerablity- that makes him a predator in my eyes. Be glad you found out when you did, be glad you can still feel, be glad you learned that this kind of person exists so you will be more careful next time- and go on. | |
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