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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 7:58:09 AM |
i am still grapling with why you are concerned with those who might be intimidated by your ability to grasp engineering.the answer as to why is quite obvious.so...what is your concern?
My concern is the chances that men have thrown away because of insecurity. As I have mentioned about my two female friends both college graduate with sterling careers married to a maintenance man and a plumber, if these men didn't take the risk they wouldn't have tasted the bliss of their marriage. I am not a believer of man and woman being equal, they will never be. Each has his/her own strength and weakness. They may not be equal but they can live in harmony by respecting each other. Some women may project an aura of strength and dominance but they are still women, who wants to be hugged, cuddled and as Julia Roberts put in: " I'm just a girl, standing in front of a boy asking him to LOVE her."
The concern is not about me for i love my man so much who was not afraid to take that risk for me For all the guys who are afraid, you will never know what you're missing! Ok , you will then say to me why should I care? Sorry, if it boggled your mind, you need the exercise sometimes. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:00:16 AM | Sorry OPie,
I haven’t worked there in years:
Wow. I'm thinking of quitting my job. Can I join your team?
Unfortunately you wouldn’t be able to easily obtain the security clearance required to work where I do now. 
I dont think I would like to hear whether just cuddling or in the bedroom that the fecal coliform is slowly growing, and that the escherichia coli, giardia and other heterothropic bacteria already accumulating and making its way up in my legs (ugh, eww).
Oh I fully agree with you there OPie.
This is why I chose not to specialize in biology. If I thought about all of this I may place myself into an isolation bubble and not have any physical contact with living organisms of any kind. 
AES, AAS, FTIR, HPLC, MS or advanced optical systems have an antiseptic quality about them pretty much like advanced mathematics, chemistry, or physics.
Sometimes ignorance is indeed bliss! 
Likewise, dealing with ICP or AAS or electron microscope from 8 to 5, 7 days a week...... honey give me a break!!! I would not torture my man.....because i'm smart
Sigh, so much for that fantasy!  | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:04:48 AM | | I think the phrasing of this question could be changed to: "are you less likely to hit on a woman who is more successful in their career than you?" and you may get a whole lot more men admitting this. There will be many mature men attracted to this, of course. And men who even look for women who are successful in their careers. But I think there are many who will assume that their chances are low and will be uncomfortable talking about their work with a woman who is very successful. There are so many guys that put a blank under profession in their profiles who won't even put some general area that they work in or they are unemployed. If they are uncomfortable just putting in a word on their profile feeling like it would attract fewer women, then those are not going to be guys that are going to be comfortable discussing their work with someone who loves their work and is doing well. I think that sometimes guys assume that this will be all important to all women, when in fact some of us are just a sucker for a cute smile sometimes... | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 10:00:03 AM | My ex was a really intelligent woman. She became an attorney during our relationship and thats when things changed. After that I was the loser who never went to college who didnt have any aspirations to better myself.
In actuality while I did not go to college I started in IT when companies would actually train you and worked my way up. My managers and co-workers always thought I was one of the smartest on the team(I worked with lots of people with Bachelors/Masters degrees). Also when she broke up with me (while she working as an attorney) I was making about 10k more than she was?
So this may explain why men may be afraid of smart women. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 10:06:33 AM | My ex was a really intelligent woman. She became an attorney during our relationship and thats when things changed. After that I was the loser who never went to college who didnt have any aspirations to better myself.
She isn't smart. She's an egotistical piece of crap. That's what I'm afraid of as well.
Intelligence, bring it on because I love it. Egos and the like because you THINK you are smart. No way. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 11:56:30 AM | I think being highly intelligent has the same problem as being extremely attractive:
Not many will feel they are in the same league and won't pursue because they feel inadequate.
The beautiful can be the most lonely people you see.
The intelligent can be as intimidating after "the pedigrees" are covered in small-talk.
That goes for both sexes, but I think a lot of Alpha males feel they have to be dominant in this area in particular.
Most won't go for someone they think is smarter than they because they feel foolish when they lose an argument --and they hate to lose,
whereas a lot of Alpha females tend to enjoy that kind of challenge.
Further still, some Alpha males prefer dumb and pretty whereas you won't see very many Alpha females with hot guys dumber than a breadbox.
Betas tend to be more flexible, male or female. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:17:33 PM | My concern is the chances that men have thrown away because of insecurity. As I have mentioned about my two female friends both college graduate with sterling careers married to a maintenance man and a plumber, if these men didn't take the risk they wouldn't have tasted the bliss of their marriage. I am not a believer of man and woman being equal, they will never be. Each has his/her own strength and weakness. They may not be equal but they can live in harmony by respecting each other. Some women may project an aura of strength and dominance but they are still women, who wants to be hugged, cuddled and as Julia Roberts put in: " I'm just a girl, standing in front of a boy asking him to LOVE her."
The concern is not about me for i love my man so much who was not afraid to take that risk for me For all the guys who are afraid, you will never know what you're missing! Ok , you will then say to me why should I care? Sorry, if it boggled your mind, you need the exercise sometimes.
well that is a concern that you could right a novel rivaling that of war and peace about.people limiting themselves because of insecurities.you could probably make a case for most things that people find unattractive about others being linked to personal insecurities.my mind is often boggled.i like it that way. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:31:12 PM |
Reading all the posts, I can recognize the smarter ones. Even those who admit they were afraid on some point I can considered as smart. A person who knows his weakness is smarter because he will know how to deal with it. But in addition to this, I have a female friend who is a supervisor of commercial department married to a maintenance man. The other female friend is executive secretary of a medical school director married to a plumber. How will you categorize these men? Are they smart men or opportunist?
I'm not afraid of women that are smarter than me. I am however afraid of women with entirely the wrong personality traits.
Why would you want to equate something as fuzzy as intelligence to scariness? | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:38:48 PM | it might just have been that he was looking for a quick fling and felt that if you were smart he'd have less of a chance... or maybe he was more the artsy type and not *in* to numbers/math...or he's married...orrr....ie. it could have been any number (i'm not good with maths either.. lol) of reasons why he lost interest at that point
i think again; different people look for different qualities and different types of *smart* can be a part of that | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 1:54:12 PM | I've met a lot of women and girls and their intelligence and knowledge spanned the spectrum. One of my best friends in the world is brilliant. Intelligence by itself (minus compassion or fairness or a variety of other attributes) is a recipe for arrogance. It's possible that some of these people who shy away from graduates have come to associate the often-seen arrogance from collegiates. That's not to say that everyone who has succeeded is arrogant. Perhaps the person who didn't succeed in this way just feels jealous and interprets their confidence/pride as arrogance.
Another aspect for guys could be that the more educated a girl is the more she expects from a potential mate in his education. Women rarely "marry down" with respect to educational level. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:50:18 PM | Oh, God...not again, the "smarts" question.
However, I have experienced that women who pursue science, engineering and math curriculae seem to be better-adjusted in their view of themselves, their professions, and men in their lives. I used to work in an engineering division of a large aerospace company, with quite a few female engineers; I found them intelligent, engaging and (many were) easy on the eyes. Much easier to associate with than non-engineering ladies, overall, for I found extremely few who even consider beating the drums for Feminism; because they had given it SERIOUS, thoughtful analysis, not relying on emotions purely. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:34:57 AM |
I'm not even go to waste my time reading to whatever "BS" you wrote. Your a very dense/dull individual,...to carry an attitude," I'm so much smarter than someone else". Everybody has some sort of skill/ talent, some use it & some don't. Everyone has their weaknesses & strengths, thats is why people go into certain areas,..kid. Some of the stupidest one-dimensional people I have ever come across were people with a higher education. I can pick girls like you apart all day long,...you wouldn't even remember how to spell your name. I saw the word "engineer", that may explain it...to much of a geeky white grl.
edit: Geeky Asian! even worse.
And thank you for wasting time in reading and replying to the post. I just hope I am not meeting another individual with a different heritage but had live or grew up in the US then feel he had the right to throw discriminating remarks to the female species and/or Asians. Or are there many Asians in your area that had outsmarted you to make you hostile towards us? And for the record, I'm not an engineer. You just failed to see beyond the question and the whole story. Sometimes be smart to read between the lines. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/5/2008 8:24:08 AM | It depends. Does she use her big brain for good, or evil? Your garden-variety female can be a handful when scorned, but a truly intelligent woman can be cunning, calculating and vindictive in a most unpleasant way. As long as you can stay on her good side, it might be smooth sailing, but I say understand the risks before getting involved.
As far as smarts being sexy, which is a bit off-topic, my decade spent in academia was the loneliest period of my life. I never dated my students, and women I liked lost interest after I divulged my line of work. I suppose it might have come down to how poorly compensated college professors are, and that women knew this fact. There's a double kick in the groin. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/6/2008 2:36:55 AM | Message I would send across is this => there is nothing to be afraid of her or him being smarter in this or that department.
We all are "wired" differently and if our "smarts" compliment our mutual outlook on life and of course being 'hands-on' then lets just give couplehood a chance. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:59:28 PM |
I would send across is this => there is nothing to be afraid of her or him being smarter in this or that department.
We all are "wired" differently and if our "smarts" compliment our mutual outlook on life and of course being 'hands-on' then lets just give couple hood a chance.
When two people have different ideas yet love each other,
that have many similarity's,beliefs,goals, and dreams
each would compliment each other in couple hood,partnership,in love. imo
Love and being together is sharing and giving in the goals and
dreams each other finds and lives and compatible as one.
There are some things that we all find scared, and to find and
be with the one who see this too, they would be the smarter one.
Long live the love,
who knows.... | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/8/2008 3:25:46 PM | Women smarter than men doesn't make them afraid. Women making fun of a man for not being as smart as they are makes them afraid. I have a female friend, who is married and extremely intelligent, she makes a game out of pointing out where people are incorrect.
It scares everyone off... but her husband, cause he doesn't care. | |
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| Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
Posted: 9/8/2008 3:31:32 PM | Are you afraid of a woman smarter than you?
No, and to my knowledge neither is any guy I've ever met. Try again if you want to keep blaming your failures with men on positive qualities that you have "too much of," instead of facing the real problem. | |
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