| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/14/2008 2:34:38 PM | Well, all I have to say is I won't be accepting chat invites any longer. Of the 5 or so I have chatted with, 2 outright propositioned me, and one who asked if he could turn on his cam (I told him I would rather he didn't, and when he insisted, I came right out and told him he better not be naked if he did)... he turned it on anyway, and he was right there, naked, and doing the nasty with himself.
I have on my profile that I will not accept messages from anyone who has written about sexual content or intimate encounters. It also says on my profile that I am looking for platonic and friends, nothing else, as I would prefer to get to know someone better first before that even may come up as a possibility.
I had asked him if he read my profile, he said he had, but that did not stop him from his perverted activites. I hope someone does not actually go out with this guy, I would be afraid for them.
I went to his profile and he looks normal enough, and what he says does not lead you to believe he would have done something like that. BUT, he had actually had the nerve to put me in his favs. I left a testimonial telling what he had done, and also have emailed POF about the issue, thinking that his profile would be taken off, but he is still on here. He did take me off his favorites sometime after he realized the testimonial was on there, so I suppose it has been removed as a testimonial. Hopefully enough gals out there saw it to watch out for him (unless of course they happen to be into that type of behavior.
I am bothered by the fact that POF did not ban him after what he did... it was inexcusable. I am glad I don't have my city listed, only the state I live in, originally I had put it up there, but decided after a couple of days that since the town I live in in my state is so small, it wouldn't be too hard to 'accidently' run into me if someone wanted to try to find me for whatever reason.
I am an adult, but I refuse to be approached in this matter, and will no longer answer any invites for chats any longer from anyone who has not messaged me and have gotten to know that way a little better. I realize there are bad apples out there everywhere in any walk of life, but this guy or any other who would do a perverted thing like that with someone they do not know, or can't take the hint that behavior of any kind like this should not be on this site. He is sick and I told him so right before I quickly clicked out of chat with him.
Just be careful and don't accept chat invites from anyone you don't know at least from messaging. He could be a real danger if someone met him and he decided that for whatever reason he may try to get someone off by theirselves...
Actually I was really shocked, even tho' I am not naive as to the nature of the beast that can lurk on these sites.
He didn't pay any attn to my request not to turn his web cam on, blatantly did just what he wanted to do, and I consider that a danger to anyone who may accept a date from him.
The best of luck to all, and I hope no one else is 'exposed' to the same thing he thought he was 'treating' me to.
Take care... Wen   :modhammer: | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 7:02:09 PM | | Maybe it's because the site is free that every troll on the planet logs on and tries to get over.The fact that there are so many of these creeps here who put up profiles that are well written,and look to be legit and then,blammo!You either get the wang cam and if you don't cam,some tacky emailings.Makes many women very very wary of any male with a profile here. | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 7:17:43 PM | Your profile picture is out and out lewed(it's not just the cleavage,it's the pose and make-up).You look like your looking for sex.I think you posted so more men will see your picture and contact you.When they write you,you probably ask them to send you money to a po box.LMFAO! | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:10:17 PM | Hello sunset.
I'm sorry that you have been recieving this crappy treatment from so many men.
The good news is that you found a decent man. Now all we need to do is figure out whether our respective likes and dislikes alow us to become friends.
So get back to me and lets talk. (and NOT about sex)
Just ignore the idiots and sleazes. | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:48:23 PM | I UNDERSTAND this too! It is AWFUL how so many males conduct themselves . I had a profile on here once before and then deleted it for this very same reason...However, amongst so darn many of the hard-up-for-sexual men, there was one I met who was real and true. I had missed talking to him and because this was the only place we had conversed, I signed up again and looked him up...and guess what? He missed talking to me too...now we talk on the phone . And he is such a special person that, quite frankly, it was worth having to deal with all those classless men in order to meet him. But in all fairness, I have heard stories of how some women conduct themselves with their own brands of deceptions...and in "real-life"...it all exists there too. Preditors exist everywhere...Self-centeredness lays in wait for those who are unexpecting...but so does that very special someone!  | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:49:17 PM | I've read every reply to this posting, and agree with the majority of them. Before I read any of them I viewed the OP's profile, and thought exactly what a lot of other posters say.... the picture invites the pervs (although it is tame compared to some), and there is really no info about the OP. All this points to wanting something other than a real relationship to me, and apparently to others of good character as shown here. The block button is effective when used with a bit of a smirk.... you have to get over yourself and realize that this whole thing is not real life. If you can't laugh about the ridiculous people out there, you're doomed to despair, because there are a lot of ridiculous people out there! Lighten up, and look for the good ones.... there are plenty of us that get overlooked every day, yet we don't cry about it! Make friends and have fun.... that's what we should be here for. If we find the right connection, so much the better.
PS.... I don't know what happened to the thing they used to have to report abusive emails.... wasn't there at one time a button to do that along with delete, block, etc??? I know I used it once myself, and the person was banned, using the IP address of the computer so they could not create another profile.... I know this because it turned out it was one of my best friends playing a joke on me.... backfired on her.... but Marcus was kind enough to let her back on when I wrote and explained. But he did banish her, and that feature doesn't appear to be here anymore. | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 10:36:28 PM | | I wouldn't let other people keep me from doing something that I wish to do. I simply block the men that email me stuff like that. That is what I do and then I just move on. Never allow anyone else that much control over you and what could lead to your happiness. | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 10:42:51 PM | Well i see you have not deleted your profile as of yet.... and while you are whining about all those lewd messages ....why dont you try to bend a bit ,lower and give a shot with EVEN more clevage??????? | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/17/2008 10:49:36 PM | OP: Not bashing you, but seriously, look at your picture... What message are you trying to send with that photo of your boobs showing? Not saying you won't get lewd messages no matter what you wear because you're attractive, but many men are going to see you as 'looking for fun" with that picture (I'm a woman annd that's how I see it)....You should never, ever show cleavage in pictures when dating unless your plan is just to get laid...If you wouldn't wear it to the office, don't put it on the internet...
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:52:00 AM |
PS.... I don't know what happened to the thing they used to have to report abusive emails.... wasn't there at one time a button to do that along with delete, block, etc???
There was when I first came on the site. It would really be nice to have one as it would cut down substantially (one can dream) on whining troll threads where the OP gets a few doses of common sense but does not heed the advice.  | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:13:57 AM | LOL...
Im not making excuses for any HNG (horny net geek) who wants to diddle himself on a webcam, but amazingly enough, women use sex to sell their profiles. No, NOT ALL, but most women do have cleavage shots, revealing legs, poses, or what have you. So, some guys ramp it up, and it always seems there are those women who are just in the mood to b!tch.... they all end up here on the Forums trashing men and how "rude and obnoxious" they are... Simple solution... GO DATE WOMEN! | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:35:37 AM | 14 days have been gone, but you haven't deleted your profile yet, complaining to do nothing, which means you still suffer to receive (or enjoy receiving) those inappropriate messages. Good for you!  | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 11:09:47 AM | you get the perves where ever you are. for every 50 they say it to one will respond.
just ignore them! im sure most in here have had some lewd comment, doesnt mean to say they all like that, but going on about it will only attract them more just to wind you up.cant be wrapped up in cotton wool all ya life, so cope with it! | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 11:18:29 AM | gf
the first thing i did was open your profile to well exposed cleavge
now u have the right to dress any way u wanna
but like one man on here said if u present it u recieve ti and the sad part is that there are a lot of women on sites that encourage that kinda treatment and then the ones that dont want it men assume they do
sad days we live now
i find if u dont wanna 'slut-up' most men will pass u by and not even wanna say hi | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 11:46:04 AM | | I would re-examine your profile and make sure that it's not sending the wrong message... maybe get a friend to review it and give you some input. I think my pics are pretty and I get plenty of emails with compliments and kind words but so far nothing inappropriate or sexual in nature. I live in a big city where a email hook-ups seem to be the norm and i've received way more inappropriate advances in the clubs here than i have on this site...lol | |
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| Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:00:19 PM | I have received some messages from some older men who are at my dad's age. I am wondering why older men think I need to look for a dad. I am successful enough and enjoy supporting my parents...  | |
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