| Afraid of regaining the weight?
Posted: 9/6/2008 1:24:31 PM |
I suppose I feel that an attitude of "no matter how healthy she's eating and how much she's exercising now, if she was fat before she could be fat again and since my preference is for athletic/thin/skinny/etc I could not get serious about her" is a big Catch 22. OP, if you just losing the weight to get a boyfriend, then I think it becomes a Catch 22, because what do you do once you've got him? Also, many BBW women still get boyfriends. I was watching Chris Rock the other night, and he said he thinks that everyone is unhappy except Big Black Women, because they don't care what everyone else thinks. They are going to go out, enjoy themselves, and get a guy, and they do, because they are so much fun.
If you want to get into shape, it won't happen overnight. It is really something that you have to do almost every day, and the weight doesn't fall off quick enough to get noticed. So way before great guys get interested, you get bored of the exercise and healthy eating. That is why you have to do it for yourself, and why you have to make life changes so that it isn't something you do for a few months, but for a lifetime.
But IF you make life changes, you'll live your life differently. You'll go to different places. You'll be drawn more to people with a healthy lifestyle. Those people will appreciate you, because you share the same likes and dislikes. So you'll have friends with a similar lifestyle, and for the same reasons, you'll meet guys with a similar lifestyle. Those guys intend to live that way for the rest of their lives, so they will know if you intend the same, and because you do, they will never fear you re-gaining the weight.
That guy would not be me. But that is because at this point in my life, I am not living a healthy lifestyle, because I am not exercising regularly yet. The guy who would date you would be far better looking.
Do it for you. The rest will follow naturally. | |
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