| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 3:58:27 PM | Ms LORI!!!
I've had to ponder this from many different perspectives. I married a younger man and we managed to last a good 15 yrs-age wasn't the issue at all. I've dated and been intimate with men much younger than me ( Yeah, call me the CRADLE ROBBER) and to be honest the thing that struck me most was despite the age gap most of the men in question ( yes, I call em men cuz I'm not hanging out at the local high schools looking for a date to Hugh Heffah's Booty Fest) really had a good head on their shoulders, and could handle a conversation with ease and tact.
I've even asked one person who I still see what is the big deal with older women and this was his reply.
1. Older women tend to have experience and enjoy sex ( who woulda thunk it?)
2. Much less drama!
3. Generally have no hang-ups about themselves or others ( yeah, there is always an exception to that.)
4. Far easier to talk to-and generally do listen.
I'd tend to agree with him on many points-though age doesn't always guarantee maturity, understanding, being drama free-etc. I suspect some guys, not all, figure an older women would be far easier to get in bed than a younger woman. Whatever the reason, so long as both parties are over 21 and act responsibly it shouldn't matter. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:07:52 PM | Hi Mary,
Again we share our views - nice to hear from you and thanks for sharing. It seems far more men are attracted to older women than I ever though possible. Many of the men responding to my thread are very respectful with their answers. Keep being real  | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:09:21 PM | | When I was 19, older women were very attractrive to me. 20-30. When I was 29, I liked them closer to my own age. At 41... Younger is more attractive 90% of the time (Not 20 years younger.); but, older isn't out of the question. It's a matter of physical attraction AND maturity. Finding both isn't easy. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:17:15 PM | Older women having sex with younger men isn't necessarily a problem, however it can become an issue for some people when the age gap extends beyond ten or more yrs. I mean I have been with a man whose ten yrs younger than me, but he's in his thirties so I would think that wouldn't bother folks much, but I think that if the man is younger than that eyebrows are raised. Funny thing is, when I was much younger I always seemed attracted to men ten or more yrs older than me. My manfriend is a month younger than me ( he's still younger ha ha) but I find I tend to click more with younger men.
I spend time with people I like and I would like to believe that is why they spend time with me. I agree that all the replies are respectful and informative, even those that don't necessarily agree with the notion younger men should be with older women.
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:22:17 PM |
When I was 19, older women were very attractrive to me. 20-30. When I was 29, I liked them closer to my own age. At 41... Younger is more attractive 90% of the time (Not 20 years younger.); but, older isn't out of the question. It's a matter of physical attraction AND maturity. Finding both isn't easy.
Exactly...when I was 20 I wanted to have sex with a 25 yeras old...Why? Because I thought somehow they will f-k sooner then my 20 years counterparts. But soon I realized that no matter if they are 20 or 40 its basically its the same thing.....
Of course the 40 ones are more desperate as they get less and less attention.
There are always exceptions of 40 years old good looking women but that's not the rule....so as we men age we want younger women in general. If you don't believe it go out and do a survey.....or go and find the exceptions. Also as women age they think we men would do the same effort to get them. FALSE. Its mostly a good-bye/i am not interested case. Also there will be desparate men as well who will say the other way just to be "politicaly correct" in front of 40 years old women...and at least get something....and that's part of their game.
Many 40 years and older women don't realize they are at the edge of their opportunities (of course there are always exceptions)...and from this stage...they will get less...and lesss....and nothing....or they get talks about the weather and politics....maybe. The better looking ones may get some sex offers but not sure how many could end up in the so called "serious relationship" range. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:32:05 PM | | Discrete....actually, that isn't the case. Desperate? Nope - I have turned done many date requests...from younger men. We older ladies get less attention? Wrong again-I have a very out going personality so I am not lacking there either. Maybe some do, but I am the author of this post and I asked my question because I have had many younger men contact me, and they aren't asking me how is my weather or my viewpoint on politics! While I do appreciate your opinion, it was a bit harsh to categorize us older ladies as desperate and not getting attention. And, it's not always just about sex...some may like talking with an older woman so they can have a conversation that has some substance. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:37:08 PM | Okay-just because I'm feeling sarcastic---did it ever occur to some of those younger men who are seeking an older woman that some of those older women view younger men like this-young, dumb and full of c*m. I find it interesting that it's easier to 'think' that older women are just 'easy poontang'-wake up fellah's not all older women are hard up or desperate for sex---we are just smarter at making you think we are-
EDIT: I can't speak for all women, but I'm sure a good majority of women are wiser than some men would give us credit regardless of their age.
Cheers-
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:40:21 PM | Conversations of substance I can get with my male counterparts. It can happen with a women too...but its not the rule. Its more the excceptions case...as I saisd before.
The most women looking for relationships for longer time are those 35 and up...because at those ages is when most men ... are just flying away...no matter how....kicked in the butt or just leave.
Yes you may get sexual attention because in N. America are TONS of desparate men for sex...that's why...first. The talk comes second and they do talk because they may want the sex with you....and keep it as it is....as a sexual hook.
How many "serious" offers did you get from those younger ones? You get the younger ones because they dream they will get "something" out of it and they "simulate" the "deep talk."
The human brain is set for the "reward"...for the recompense. Women look for their stuff, men for what they think they want as recompense. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:40:38 PM | Dicrete Contact has said:
"Many 40 years and older women don't realize they are at the edge of their opportunities (of course there are always exceptions)...and from this stage...they will get less...and lesss....and nothing....or they get talks about the weather and politics....maybe. The better looking ones may get some sex offers but not sure how many could end up in the so called "serious relationship" range. "
and I want to smack him upside the head. What a load of hoo-haa. Edge of my opportunities???? Perhaps with a bottom-feeder like him...good grief....I have had the best years of my life being over 40. The BS level in my life has faded to nothing. I enjoy me better thanI ever did before and it seems my family and friends do too.
Personally I love younger men and will continue to hang out with men who are as much as 20 years younger than me. Why? Because they are thoughtful (guess some the world's feminist mothers did a great job), have more candor, like to discuss thoughts and feelings, generally are waaaay better in the sack than guys my age who seem to have lost that ability to put someone else first and, the best part, they look way better undressed...lol.
Guys my age....and this is a major generalization I know but it seems to fit here as these are many of the guys here, looking for a new partner.....often haven't learned from their lives, tend to worry about their jobs or outside things more than what is going on at home, have bodies that could crush me in the night if they rolled over, are set in their ways and unwilling or unable to see a different view point or change anything in their lives, think they are God's gift to women as they have this car or that boat or the best job/retirement portfolio/house/f*ing everything in the world so therefore one should be worshipping at their feet as they have deigned to let you share all of this.
I apologise to the guys here my age who are none of these things but I tell you, the only ones I meet like you are married to my friends..lol.
There it is in a rather big nutshell...shame on you "discrete contact". | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:47:19 PM | Well younger guys tend to approach older women to....FINALY get the sex thing going..sooner. And they may do it in multitasking too....its just you don't know.
Also some of them don't know the "whole story" yet. They will find it out one day. They will be there no problem. And of course after you screwed up big time you accept younger men sex offers because they don't have the experience....hahaha....dream on. anyways....they will marry you and show up on the streets with you......aunt Isabelle..... | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 4:51:22 PM | | That's OK Discrete...you are entitled to your opinion. However, not only are you dissing us older ladies, but you are also categorizing your own brotherhood in a less than flattering light as well. I am not saying I personally go for the younger ones, I simply stated many come to me. And, just to let you know...I did say I have refused many date requests from younger men because yes, some are just looking for one thing . I may be older but I also have a functioning brain, so I am not easily swayed by sweet talkers, young or older. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:01:12 PM | When I said chances at 40 and above its about how many want to stay with you...and NOT how many approaches you for sex.....undestand that.
For some reason you still bring it up from the sexual approach perspectives of your chances but on the other hand you accept that they want sex.....which is not much for you....so you go down to nada again.
So...that's where your chances are ...how many want to stay with you and follow your rules ? That's what you need to answer yourself.
So what do you do if 10.000 approaches you for sex but none wants you for stay? Huh? Well that's where your chances are....AND one day even all those with sex approach will be gone. Gone for good, its a matter of time....either you accept it or not.
And most of the women build up they "self-esteem" on this sexual approaches....saying that..."I am told I am good looking"....which basicaly translates into..Yes I still want to f-k you. And that's it....its not that ...Hey I want to get married with you.
Its pretty much wrong self esteem...at least that's how it looks like.
And also: What is "SweetLadyLori" nick-name has built into it as a message for men?
Why is "sweet" important? For deep talks? Is anything behind it then?.oh yeah nothing right.....at least don't be hypocrite then.
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:21:18 PM | Re post 34:
<div class="quote"> Guys my age....and this is a major generalization I know but it seems to fit here as these are many of the guys here, looking for a new partner.....often haven't learned from their lives, tend to worry about their jobs or outside things more than what is going on at home, have bodies that could crush me in the night if they rolled over, are set in their ways and unwilling or unable to see a different view point or change anything in their lives, think they are God's gift to women as they have this car or that boat or the best job/retirement portfolio/house/f*ing everything in the world so therefore one should be worshipping at their feet as they have deigned to let you share all of this.
I apologise to the guys here my age who are none of these things but I tell you, the only ones I meet like you are married to my friends..lol.
There are many guys "here" who are of the age referred to in this post. But they live far away from the said poster, in the same country, continent or planet. Thus the above observations refer to a relatively "local" and thus non representative (of the POF or POFF "audience") sample. It is important to keep in mind that there are POF profiles "here" oin POF from almost all over the world and even in the forums, the geographical diversity is very high. Thus "here" is not so everywhere!!! | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:25:57 PM | | Wow discrete-do you have a big chip on your shoulder or what? If not, why come off so mean? I never said all men just want one thing-I said some. Not that I owe you an explanation, but sweet lady Lori is my nick name and has been for many, many years, given to me by an elderly woman I used to take care of, and LONG before I joined POF! And, take a look at a ton other names, both male and female...mine is pretty tame compared to most. Hmmmm.........isn't that the pot calling the kettle black? After all, you go by "discrete contact" and have no picture. I created this thread in hopes to get a better understanding of the male pshche and not to debate with guys like you. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:27:25 PM | discrete contact.....all I can say again is OMG...what planet do you live on? I looked at your profile and I was ashamed to see that you are a west coast Canadian....generally the most open-minded and liberal group in the world yet is seems that there is still a "heart of darkness" there.
Why on earth would you think that marriage to a younger guy is what we "old ladies" are looking for? Quite frankly, I would rather keep my little harem than have another guy move into my house, use my stuff and my money and then tell me how things will be. In your barely functioning little mind, you seem to believe that marriage is all that any woman should strive towards....do you think that unmarried women are failures? My female friends and I would beg to differ. We attained for ourselves the trappings that some guys think that marriage offers without having to deal with the guy. We have exciting, vibrant lives without some male presence...we really don't need but for one thing and the young men are more than happy to provide same without wanting to make it forever.
Yet I am still amazed that in the last three years, 2 of my female friends in their 50s married guys in their 30s. They seem to be doing wonderfully and at girls' night out, there is none of the ****ing and whining we heard from them about their previous husbands, guys their own age. They have nothing but great things to say about the thoughtfulness, warmth and equal libido of these guys who are just a real pleasure to be around.
Keep your insinuation that only guys could keep up with your outstanding intellect and that no woman could ever be on your level..hope SO reads this trash...perhaps you will be out in the cold. Or do you actually hate women as this is what seems to come across in your postings in this particular thread.
Alternatively, the only reason I could come up with for you posting such tasteless, outrageous claptrap is because you need the attention you are getting. Things not going well at home, little boy? It isn't hard to see why. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:28:00 PM | | Boy I get sick of these amateur professionals on the forums posting information they made up as the result of some scientific study. howbigisyourlove posts that the result of diverse age unions being successful is 0.3%, and you get your information from where exactly, what study, carried out in what age range, for f**k sake would be nice if you had any idea what you were talking about, recent studies in Australia, the U.K. and the U.S.A. carried out by the University of Melbourne family centre have shown that older men and younger women relationships enjoy a satisfaction level after 3 or more years of above 70% and remain together slightly more than that whereas similar age marraiges are only 52% successful after 10 years. It shows that age differences are no where near as important as sexual compatability, financial difficulties and lack of communication older couples on either side have greater control over these issues and have a greater success rate because of it, digest that and then make your decision. I am in the older guy, not in my mind, who is with a younger woman and whereas she might get some young guy sending her a picture of a c**k and think it is seductive, being a bit wiser I can play with her mind and build that anticipation of sexual encounters that is much more fulfilling than some morons visual post to try and have the same effect. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:33:54 PM | I don't know if I have a clear answer to this (I'm a woman so what do I know of a man's thought process?) but I will say I have said yes to a few under 22 year old men that have chased after me in the past decade. I like them. It's fun, they are lovely, no baggage. They hang on my every word but unfortunately only about 25% have much of interest to say in return (it takes some living of life to have things to talk about).
It's not exactly reality --moreso amusement. Certainly I would never consider a considerably younger man seriously but every single one of them mentioned at some point of our time together how much they loved an older woman. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 5:41:50 PM | I speak as a younger man.
The bottom line is that older women are easier than younger women. A 20 year old woman is FAR more in demand than a 40 year old. Also, take in the fact that most young women only date men older than them because they are "more mature" as they put it.
It really goes both ways. Young men are not in high demand until they are older. George Clooney in his 20's was a lot less desirable then he is now. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:04:48 PM |
I speak as a younger man.
The bottom line is that older women are easier than younger women. A 20 year old woman is FAR more in demand than a 40 year old. Also, take in the fact that most young women only date men older than them because they are "more mature" as they put it.
It really goes both ways. Young men are not in high demand until they are older. George Clooney in his 20's was a lot less desirable then he is now.
Of course. Watch the old "Fread Astaire" musicals and see how much attention a young fellow had in those movies. Close to none. Why?...Well $$$$$$$$$
How can a young guy "cover" for ..."her needs" and cover for the "never have enough attitude"? Huh, how?
Why an older women is more opened ? Well go and figure, again.
Comments of things of "not going well at home" because you express your opinion....again goes back to the fact that many women feel "so so precious" becase of their "shaved jewelry" .....and they think they control everything. Don't think so.
Truth that's what you ask for right? OK learn to take it then. Or live in denial. Your choice. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:14:42 PM | | Yay, yet ANOTHER "older women younger men thread" so older women can fish for compliments yet again. It seems as if older women are so constantly terrified and insecure about their age that they need constant ego stroking from young guys or they need to date men that could be their kids. I don't think that age matters in a relationship if it's true, but there seems to be a lot of people doing it for very dysfunctional reasons. As far as all these cliche reasons for dating older women, there are just as many younger women who are smart, know what they want, etc. etc. There are also a LOT of older women who aren't so smart, like to play childish games and act very immature. Trust me. I'm surprised the younger women on here haven't piped up regarding the constant bashing they seem to get in these threads. Then again, maybe they actually have enough confidence that they aren't worried about what everyone in here thinks. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:14:58 PM | | Discrete, do you hate women? I for one never consider myself as precious. I am just a regular woman and that's all. I can not help it if some men who contact me are younger. Heck, I get emails from men of all ages, so can you stop ranting so much. Let me reiterate; I started this thread simply to try and understand what the attraction is for a younger man towards an older woman...it appears you are simply spewing off a bunch of mean comments and I am so trying to be lady like here. You even attacked what I have as my user name...did you happen to read what I wrote about where it came from? Seriously discrete, can you try to be a little nicer? I kind of agree with a previous poster in regards to it appears you are the one seeking attention. I think you need a hug | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:21:01 PM | cw35, I am in no way fishing for compliments...I get enough outside of POF. And, read the posts, not one man has handed me a compliment & that is because I wasn't asking what anyone thought of me. I was simply trying to get an idea on what the big deal is. Just an FYI: I personally do NOT date younger men. I was simply asking a question. No harm done - you have a right to your opinion. I just get the feeling there are far more angry men in this world than I previously thought. Are you & discrete contact brothers by any chance?  | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:23:13 PM | Speaking as a MUCH older woman, this question has been in my mind for months.
It astounds me that men younger than my children and even some of my grandchildren will message me "offering" sex, I think expecting that I will be grateful.
My next surprise is the indignation my refusals generate. They seem to think they're offering something the likes of which I could not possibly ever have experienced before and I'm turning it down out of ignorance and ingratitude.
Having always been with men considerably older than myself, I'm now faced with the situation where most of them are no longer resident on this earth. Some consideration must be given to slightly younger men, but only slightly.
And sorry, if sex is all you're offering, outside of a real relationship.....thanks for your kindness, but pass me by.
This thread is very enlightening from a standpoint of different expectations we all have as individuals, though, and I really appreciate those posters who are able to reapect these. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:28:15 PM | | Well 4girlsandme, I sure do appreciate your response. For I think a few men kind of wandered off the path a bit and are thinking all older women are grateful a younger man looks our way!!!! I tip my glass to you gracious lady | |
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