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Because he's a messed-up loser. He's a freak. Don't think that all guys are like that. Most twenty-somethings actually date women in their own age range. It's only the misfits and freaks who go after a woman 10 - 20 years older when they are in their early 20s. Some of them want a Mommy and girlfriend all rolled into one; and some of these dudes think that an older woman will just fall all over them, flattered by the attention. The sad thing is that a lot of older women do fall right into it. It's good that you didn't.
Gotta be the devil's advocate here--because that's truly a gross generalization.(based on his age) Given the fact some men date, engage in sexual activity and some even marry women 20 yrs younger than them---does that mean they are all dirty old men???? Or could it be, that some folks, REGARDLESS of their age, actually can find happiness with someone with a larger than societally acceptable age difference and be ok?
I'm not suggesting it's the way of the world and everyone should jump on the band wagon and date or fornicate with people who are ten + or less older than the person they are attracted to, but the fact of the matter it does happen. Considering the fact the young man in question actually remembered the woman in question---even remembered her name and the conversation says a lot to me. He was interested in her, and clearly there was something about her that stuck out in his mind for quite a long time.
The purpose of this thread was to find out why some younger men want to have sex with older women---and the point of the previous poster wasn't about sex with the young man in question, because he asked her on a date. She declined, which was her choice. To assume that his interest was he wants sex with a mommy figure or easy sex isn't necessarily true---but seems to be a regular generalization I've seen over and over. While I can respect anyone's opinion, it just bothers me it's okay from one side of the coin but it's not from another when it's a younger man and older woman, but it's more palatable for an older man to seek a much younger woman.
A woman who dates a much-younger kid is as lost and pathetic as the woman who dates a convict
If that is your belief than can the same be true for a much older man whose doing the same with a much younger woman? Does that make him the daddy figure or criminal??? Just wondering. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/2/2008 5:11:18 PM | I'd wouldn't jump to judge a younger man interested in older woman . I've had experinces with older women (40-44). It is a little different than with girls my own age, or younger (18-25) , there seems to be less pressure and games, it's more of a striaght forward, casual experience.
I'm not looking for older women anymore, I'd prefer someone my own age, but I dont regret the experinces for a minute. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/3/2008 5:49:59 PM | A woman is always a woman, and a man is always a man
there is nothing called age difference in a man woman relationship, its just individual thinking. and there is absolutely nothing wrong if the two meetup, its natural for a man to be attracted to a woman and vice versa. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2008 7:53:10 PM | Because it feels a little bit wrong to hit on a lady , which is always good to get the ol' blood flowing! I guess when you get down to it we're just horny little devils !. 
some older woman are very classy, they care to be well put together with smells ,dress and lingerie. The evening goes well with them and a date with a woman that ends in bed can more often than not mean great sex for the guy! | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/3/2008 10:16:22 PM | | You know I am not quite sure how to take this post you have put up here. From what I have read it sounds to me like you are trying to say that ANY relationship between a older women and younger man doesn't work and never will. Ok if that is the case why does it work with older men and younger women seems ok. There is not to much differance as far as I see it. My last wife was older than me my current girlfriend is older then me and I find older women much better than younger for non of the reasons you listed... Just a little FYI for you I am a NON drinker, smoker, and drug user. I have a good job I like and prefer to make my own opinoins reguardless of whatever "experts" or bitter people might think. For people like you that are critizing or saying these realtionships will or don't work. Maybe for you they don't. If they don't, then simple don't get into them. I have some more stuff I could say but I will reserve it for future use. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/4/2008 7:47:52 AM |
Gotta be the devil's advocate here--because that's truly a gross generalization.(based on his age) Given the fact some men date, engage in sexual activity and some even marry women 20 yrs younger than them---does that mean they are all dirty old men????
No. It's not a gross generalization. I've always allowed for the exceptional older woman/younger man relationship in my posts here. There is a very small percentage of these relationships which actually work. The overwhelming majority of them are a farce.
I'm going to give it to you straight: Older man/younger woman relationships are different than older woman/younger man relationships. Completely different. Older man/younger woman relationships are the norm worldwide. They are based on the man being the dominant protector/provider and the woman being the nurturer/supporter. Some westerners may not like that; but that has always been the norm throughout human history and is STILL the norm throughout the world. It even remains the norm in our westernized, gender-bending, PC culture.
The universal, ideal relationship is one where the man provides for and loves his partner, and the woman respects and appreciates her guy. That what makes for the most successful relationships. Some young guy dating "Mommy" doesn't fit that mold. Let's face it: some young guys are dating older because they don't have the game to approach an age-appropriate woman and pique her interest. Some young guys are reluctant to court properly; pay for dates; and be a man. That's why these older woman/younger man "relationships" most often end up being FWB/FB/NSA jokes. Yes, there are exceptions, so if your particular relationship falls under the exception, then that's duly noted.
Intelligent women do not respect young punks with no game or resources who are merely trying to get the *****. Obviously, they can see it coming a mile away; but some women intentionally blind themselves to it. Some women try to convince themselves that that's not what's happening; but most know better deep down. The older women end up using the young guys as human vibrators, and both partners lose a lot of dignity and self-respect in the process. With the healthier age-appropriate relationships and older man/younger woman relationships, that almost never happens.
20 year old guys who have their stuff together are not looking to date Mom. My girlfriends in my 20s and 30s were all my peers or younger. The young guys in my crowd who went after much older women were the misfits, and I think we all know that's the case everywhere. Anyone remember that movie "Moment by Moment"? If you remember Travolta's character in that film-----he was an absolute loser. Contrast that to his films where he was dating age-appropriate women and you can see the difference in how the guy is presented. It's the same way in real life. "Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?" Because they have no game and are looking for Mommy to take the lead. That remains the answer. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 3:54:11 AM | Spitfire-
As I said, I can respect ANYONE'S opinion, but I don't think it's fair to state a man in his twenties is a misfit who seeks the company of an older woman. Not all twenty-something men are misfits---age doesn't define a person--but it sure makes it easy for some folks to label them.
What it boils down to is a gross double standard, much like anything else where women are concerned, that is perpetuated by the notion the man is the 'stronger' of our species. Hate to bust ya bubble, but there are some women who don't have a nurturing bone in their body and work as hard as any man being the 'protector/provider' in their relationships.
The real reason most men want sex with a woman, regardless of her age, is because it feels good---and some would even suggest it's a driven need ( biologically speaking) to spread their DNA far and wide. I'm sorry, we will simply have to agree to disagree because I do not subscribe to any notion age should dictate in a relationship which involves two ADULTS. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/5/2008 7:48:34 AM | Here is another thread on the forums which helps to shed some light on these aberrant relationships. The OP on this thread is very intelligent and candid.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts7687963.aspx
These "relationships" don't work. Among peers (or in the normal older man/younger woman relationship), there is usually the chance that something could develop into a more substantial connection, even if both partners consider it casual. With the aberrant older woman/younger man connections, it immediately takes on a taint of the lecherous and the bizarre. It's "Sex and the City" crap. I've had a number of forty-something women tell me about their abortive experiences with younger guys, and the women admitted that those were deeply flawed trysts. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/6/2008 6:21:01 PM |
It's "Sex and the City" crap
Well, the show did die out on TV, but they did bring it back for a movie, so it's obvious there's always a demand for the "old" reruns, no pun intended!!
** I still think every one has a right to do what they want, see who they want and live as they want. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/9/2008 1:00:10 PM | hey hows it going. I of course have to reply to this one. I am fairly new to the site but not new to the younger guy/older woman syndrome. I prefer younger guys myself as they look better, they are sexier and guys my age just arent my type. (not yet anyways). I am in my 40's and dating a 29 yr old and we dont have the take care of him relationship or the so called "mommy" relationship, its normal as 2 people going out can be.
second of all I may be in my 40's but its the new 30's and I know I look good for my age or for any age for that matter.
I also DO NOT LIKE THE WORD COUGAR. Do you guys actually know what it is. Its an older woman "chasing" younger guys. That may be so for some but not me. I dont go out looking for a younger guy or anyone for that fact. I just be myself and make friends. If anything comes of it so be it. I am very shy and actually when I go to the gym not to many guys do talk to me. I dont know if its intimidation or I just dont give out the attitude like I want to be approached. Whatever the case may be I do feel that older woman are a lot hotter and sexier than at one time. When I was in my teens , older woman/younger guys were not open, as a matter of fact it was taboo. Today it dont matter the age as long as your not hurting anyone who cares.
There u have it - my opinion | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 1:06:51 PM | I will agree that sometimes its mainly for sex and hey visa versa, but wouldnt you say that its mainly for sex at any age if one allows it to be.
Second of all in my last post I did forget to mention that older woman are a little better with the jealousy thing, myself dating a younger guy , I would have no prob with him talking to or being freinds with the opposite sex.
As for young gurls they are all like "hey its like 2 pm you were suppose to call at 1 30. I hate you , I dont want to go out with you anymore lol.
You get the picture.
And another thing guys that are like 39 and think they are in the younger guy/older woman synodrome think again. I myself dont consider any guy over 30 to be in that part of the world.
I just always thought of that syndrome as guys in there 20's being with or wanting an older woman . Once there out of there 20's no more is that syndrome as they know by then themselves what they want in life (usually). I am in my 40's and if I date a guy who is like well 35 to me that is not younger guy/older woman sorta of speak at all.
Once again you get the picture. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 5:19:59 PM | | my simple answer some older women are just hot me personally i know a 45 year old woman id love to have sex with maybe even more (of course shes really hot makes allot of the 20-35 year olds of here look like they are 50 or older) | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/9/2008 5:34:56 PM |
I also DO NOT LIKE THE WORD COUGAR.
Gosh I hate that word with a passion. Just like MILF. It's demeaning and sexist. There's a new one out for even older women. A woman that has age spots is referred to as Leopard!
I'm on another site and put my age as 99. I get more guys that are in their 20s hitting on me than guys my own age or older. I always ask them if their mommy knows they are on the computer.  I tell them I wouldn't feel comfortable dropping them off at the bus stop in the morning. Oh then they are sure they can teach me things sexually. I don't know, I just can't take young guys seriously. Mature ones are few and far between. They are fun to play with though.  My last two relationships were both 3-5 years younger than me, which I can deal with. Anything more, and I find I have very little in common. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/9/2008 7:00:52 PM | After looking at your profile it seems pretty obvious to me.
When I was younger I loved older women. I think because they enjoyed the undivided attention I gave them. At that time I didn't have kids to get home to - a serious career or mortgage payments so my head was empty of other concerns.
Now my head is empty but for other reasons (haha). You are now the 'younger woman' and about as young as I would care to go. It still seems obvious to me why someone would be 'interested' in you. | |
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| Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman?
Posted: 11/9/2008 7:45:58 PM | | Listen to Maggie Mae and remember you are "training wheels" I did this when I was in my early twenties and it was for training experience or low hanging fruit is easy to pick. To paraphrase Ceaser, I laid ,I learned, I left. I feel the same way about men who chase much younger women, many are immature or socially stunted. I look at younger women all day but know they aren't going to share my cultural references and common experiences. That being said, a difference within about seven years plus or minus can work. | |
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