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What's funny is somebody you're with ****ing about you tipping too much! Like you're flirting with the waitress.... lol Seriously though , I used to work for the IRS, and know about what they call "A- tips". Basically, they assume you're being tipped 15% of your total sales...and call it "taxable income". So the waiter/waitress is getting taxed on 15% of their sales unless they keep a "tip log" that proves they recieved less. So if you're being a cheapass, you're not only insulting them you're hitting them in the wallet too! Most places pay minimum or slightly above, and**** around with their hours, so the wait staff's main income is their tips. I once worked at a place where one waitress pissed off the manager, so he scheduled her four to six hours a week! She didn't do anything that was a " for cause" firing offense, so he'd have to pay unemployment if he got rid of her, so he just starved her out. So yeah ,these folks have it bad enough without some jackass being rude to 'em or stiffing 'em. Try tipping 20-25% , and see how they treat you next time you show up.Treat 'em right and they'll take care of 'ya. And if they do screw something up, talk to them about it POLITELY and discreetly and they'll most likely make it right somehow.
Whoa like not to highjack, but ^^^^^^^^^^^^Love the wisdom!
I would like to pin this guys words to my shirt while at work as a Human Forklift, plates in, plates out all night long. Sheesh some people who dine out suck out loud. Here in Canada folks can be soooooo cheap. They seem to think five or ten percent, or zilch is fine and good, as they hand me their crappy, or no tip, "Yes thank you you are a good waitress...", I want to scream, and yell at them, jump up and down and alert the whole world to what a tight ass they are.
Working in the USA 15% was an acceptable tip and 20% the normal amount. Here in the Home of the Beaver, if they give you 20% it is far rarer. My sister tried to set me with up with a Canadian guy she worked with. We emailed, spoke on the phone, then he came to visit me while I was living in NYC, dude left a 10% tip while we were out and felt that was cool. I was like, Dude, seriously, that is an insult. He felt all righteous about 10%. I knew I could not go any where with that guy. If you dont know-which is a lame excuse, okay, fine, whatever and then step up to the plate but to be staunchly righteous about a 10% tip, nah man.
People, people, tip your waitrons.    | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 12:54:37 PM | Yeah and I've had the bad luck to date 2!
I also have a neighbour that - wait for it 'sucks his food'! Yep!! He came round yesterday to help me with my pc probs and i made the BIGGEST mistake of my whole life by offering to share my chocolate bar with him. I then had choc sucking in my ear as he talked me through my pc issues. Dearest God what have I done to get all these food weirdo's? | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 1:02:48 PM | | Easy, ...turn the damn cell phone off, or leave it home! | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 1:16:31 PM | Oh, the list is long...I'll try to be brief.
A date who needs to be seen and heard (like I'm not entertainment enough for him! lol)
A date who suggests everything on the menu (like I can't make a decision)
A date who is late
A date who brings his cell phone (unless he is an on-call surgeon)
A date who is too complimentary (suffocating crap)
A date who gets drunk
A date who is extremely nervous and yaks excessively
A date who is extremely nervous and leaves me to carry the entire night of conversation
A date who talks about his past relationships
Any date who doesn't understand that my eyes are up here
Any date who doesn't understand that my eyes are STILL up here
Oh...I'll stop here as I just realized that I may never get a date again. LOL | |
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Posted: 9/9/2008 1:34:56 PM | I agree with a lot of these. Most of mine have actually happened.
* licking your fingers and whole hand after eating ribs is not sexy
* being late
* chewing with your mouth open....I know what you are eating I don't need to see it.
* if you really like the look of the waitress or other woman so much I'll get her number for you.
*when the bill comes I don't always have exact change to the cent to give to you.
*expecting sex on the first date
* being pushy or all hands on
*lying did you think I wouldn't notice that you are actually 60 instead of 45?
*if you really need to be texting or talking on cell you really don't need to be here.
* talking about how much money you have . I just don't care.
*yelling at the waiter
* good hygiene | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:22:42 PM | Years ago I went through a matchmaking service shortly after I got divorced when I was 31. On my first date the guy kept asking me why I got divorced, (not his business yet), why I was still single and then in the middle of lunch, he got up and said he had to call home to check his messages. He never looked me in the face but would look out the window while taking to me like he was more interested in watching cars go by than to talk to me. Worst part was, he picked out my picture and asked the owner to set us up on our first date. Good grief, why bother?
Hate when a man asks right off the bat why I am still single, feel like telling him because I keep having dates with idiots like you!  | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:30:46 PM | | Yes, the staring out the window phenomenon is what I call "not bringing anything to the table" on the date. If I decide to take someone out, I look at their profile, at their picture, and try to imagine what they will be like. I build up a pleasant image in my mind of them. That way, when I meet them I already anticipate spending time with them. I have interest *already* invested. Someone that just arranges the meeting and doesn't do this sort of thing will show up with an attitude like they aren't impressed. They aren't really anticipating anything at all. They aren't there to please you, only to be impressed themselves. So they act bored, uninterested, and eventually the tiresome date ends. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:44:57 PM | I met a guy one time who was very nice looking and friendly. He asked me to dinner and during dinner told me how he only dates fat girls no one wants. Not sure how to take it, I asked. He said look at yourself you arent exactly a playboy centerfold. Then at another point he said it again that he doesnt date girls that are pretty, they can have anyone.
All I could think was this man was a total idiot. To sit and insult me on a first date? Granted I am not a supermodel but why would I want to date a man who would always try to make me feel obese and ugly? He kept asking me out and couldnt understand why I wouldnt go, telling me how wonderful he is over and over. Even if I was the worst looking woman in the world , I wouldnt want a man who made me feel bad about myself. Id rather be with the guy who made me feel beautiful no matter what. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 5:10:11 PM | | Please don't 'adjust' yourself while standing there talking to me. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 5:25:18 PM | Shirts with holes in them.
Taking phone calls.
Complaining about your ex.
Showing up late.
Suggesting we meet at a coffeehouse, showing up late enough that I've already gotten a table and a cup of coffee, coming directly over to the table, sitting and chatting with me for an hour, and not getting as much as a glass of tea. (This happened with three different guys three times in a row!)
Showing up an hour late and then calling me and asking, "Where *are* you?" (I left half an hour ago.)
Not showing up at all and then calling a week later and asking, "So, are you ready to go bicycling tomorrow morning?" (Uh, that was *last* Saturday, remember?)
Showing up and informing me that you just moved out a month ago and are still married. (Twice this has happened.)
I think that's about it, but if I think of any more I'll let you know. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 7:02:03 PM | Manners are manners, whether it is on a date or dinner with the parents.
However, it is rude to be on a date where you are supposing to meet and get to know each other and you:
-are constantly distracted by texts and phone calls
-are so self involved that you constanly talk about yourself to the point of squashing all other conversation
-so quiet that you can't be engaged into a conversation
-constantly referring back to negative experiences (being a downer)
Dating and meeting people is all about making some level of interaction, to get a feeling for the personality of the other person... If after a date, you have no idea what kind of person they are (or at least who they pretended to be), it wasn't much of a date. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 8:00:11 PM | ^^^ "so quiet that you can't be engaged into conversation."
Interesting that you bring that up now.
I had a very nice conversation with someone on Monday evening that I met here. Nice guy - but after the first 20 minutes I realized that I was asking all the questions - he was answering - and was not asking anything in return. I was doing all the talking and questioning (sp).
Women, or men, don't want to feel the need (sorry if I'm speaking out of turn) to carry the conversation. It was just STRAINED. It was too much work. A first date, call, meeting shouldn't be that hard.
If you're shy, that's OK! But please,.............
Needless to say...........have some converstation skills! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 8:18:40 PM |
Bossy or very demanding ( cool it with the bossing around unless you really want to get slam dumped so hard )
Slam-dumped caught my eye... I'm in the trucking business. No, not a redneck moron, a hands-on businessman/driver, lol...
The dumptruck thing came to mind there- pop the tailgate, if the load's real sticky and doesn't want to slide, you back up quick and stab the brakes, to kind of, ahem... eject the load... Then you put her in low gear, do the on-off-on-off the throttle thing, rythmically, so the tailgate slams against the body of the truck and knocks every last bit of something you didn't really want to begin with, right outta yer truck!
All of the above-mentioned trangressions, plus danderuff and chewed fingernails, will have me "slam-dumping" you in a furious hurry!!!
The only exception would be talking about the ex with regard to children you both may have, and I expect that to turn into some realistic conversation about parenting, with the understanding that we'll have to discuss what we don't like about our ex'es parenting skills in the first place. If that demonstrates that we have similar convictions about the wellbeing of our collective children, then we are likely "on" for another nice dinner- provided your concept of good personal hygiene and current photography are in line with mine...
Nail-biting- YECH!
-damoN- | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 9:23:11 PM |
Your date flinging food at you! Like catapulting peas at your
face with a spoon ! With sound effects, no less!
I mean, I've never had that happen, but that would be sooo annoying!
Would cherry tomatoes be ok? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 9:27:15 PM | | Looking at other women when the guy is sitting across from. I had one guy nearly break his neck trying to get a glimpse of the woman behind me. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 10:01:14 PM | Chuckles or uses the word "chuckles". But, honestly, I prefer the person doing the actual deed over using the word, as long as they dont' say "hahaha, i just chuckled". That way, later, I can pretend it was a just a goofy laugh.
Hahaha. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 4:51:51 AM | cell phone texting.
rude to waitress or in public.
doesnt offer to throw in a tip. not do it just offer.
leaves you alone with people you dont know.
gets weird if I'm wearing a hat when eating.
food smacking.
Too much groping.
wants french kiss just after eating.
big dramatic show when they meet you of huge kiss and a hug that gets everyones attention in the place.
talks loud and rude. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 5:43:10 AM | His kid drives him.
His wife comes along.
Cell phone calls.
Picking his nose or farmer's blow.
Talking endlessly about the c&^% he was married to.
He phones his mom during the date.
He phones MY mom during the date.
My dog doesn't like him.
He pee's constantly.
He drinks constantly.
Smokes, farts, scratches parts of his body...constantly.
He smells like fish.
The car is dirtier than my kids car.
Calls the waiter "Bub" and argues about the ticket.
Shouts at me as I am walking away..."Hey! Ain't I getting a kiss good night?"
uhm, nope
Bub | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 8:40:32 AM | Cell Phone or Texting
Too touch feely when he doesn't even know me.
Drinks like a fish
Can't carry on a decent conversation
French Kissing on the first date.
Smoking or Chewing Tobacco
Unkept clothes and hygiene
Talking about ex's | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 2:30:57 PM | Texting
Over complimenting- more than a few and it’s just creepy
Bad hygiene /sloppy
Too much talk about ex’s
Touching me too much
Being or getting wasted
Bringing up all things sex related (so NOT ok)
Bragging about $, beautiful ex’s, your boat, your house, penis size, etc.
Swearing TOO much
No sense of humor (as in when I hid a guys shoes when we went bowling, he was pissed! Lmao)
Stating the obvious=conversation skills
Avoiding talking about themselves/not answering questions
Refers to himself as a “nice guy” and complains about being overlooked
Asking too many super personal questions
Liars, you trip over your lies or spontaneously admit things as though all will be forgiven because you’ve seen the light!
Negativity | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 5:30:09 PM | GoneSailinBabe
Have you had that stuff happen or are you trying to be funny?
/quote [His kid drives him.
His wife comes along.
Cell phone calls.
Picking his nose or farmer's blow.
Talking endlessly about the c&^% he was married to.
He phones his mom during the date.
He phones MY mom during the date.
My dog doesn't like him.
He pee's constantly.
He drinks constantly.
Smokes, farts, scratches parts of his body...constantly.
He smells like fish.
The car is dirtier than my kids car.
Calls the waiter "Bub" and argues about the ticket.
Shouts at me as I am walking away..."Hey! Ain't I getting a kiss good night?"]
uhm, nope
Bub | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 5:40:36 PM | I only have a couple of pet peeves, and they are not limited to first dates; they always bug me.
pet peeve #1: if I can hear you chew I will heave, and that's not cool for anyone within a ten metre radius.
pet peeve #2: refer to pet peeve #1 | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 6:02:05 PM | Yes, topazgoddess, I don't like the hat-at-the-table stunt or the utensil-in-the-fist habit. I actually dated a guy who for several months routinely received text messages while he was with me. I didn't bother me a lot at first because they were from his daughter. When we On our first few dates, they didn't text, but he got worse and worse with it. As soon as I would arrive at his house or if we were out, the texting would begin and the texting back and forth would last for an average of 10 to 15 minutes and there would be about 2 or 3 of these bouts per day.
He even took me to lunch one day (from work) and she text messaged him the entire time --and he texted back, of course. He even left me at the table for about 15 minutes to order her lunch so he could take it to her at work (15 miles away!)!
Worse yet, what the heck was I thinking?
A couple of weeks ago, I was asked to dinner at a guy's house ( I had been out with him several months before and had a nice evening). He had reheated some leftovers from a church function, which I accepted graciously. As we were sitting at his table eating, and I was halfway through the meal, he arose from the table and said that he hoped I didn't mind if he washed up a few dishes while I finished eating. I was appalled! I continued to eat the dinner and tried to think up excuses for his rude behavior. Sorry, this was the pits. And he wondered why I didn't want to go out again.
I have many more, but there is no room here. (No, I am not rude or crude myself). | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 6:54:25 PM | This is what I don't get.....I was talking to what I thought was a real nice guy and one of the questions he asked me was "do you have cute feet"? I am a size 9 shoe and cute would not describe my feet. I answered "I wouldn’t say that they are cute but I can say that they {my feet} are well taken care of". {I make sure I pedicure twice a month}. How about he met me at the beach and had open toed sandals on and three of his toenails had fungus with the nail barely hanging on. What the heck!!! Asking a question like that you would think his nails were impeccable! Give me a break. | |
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