| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:02:15 PM | Agree to meet at a certain place and specific time - if I had to wait longer than 5 minutes I would be history.
You both know where you are going so dress appropriately - like don't show up like crockodile dundee when you're going to the "Ritzey, Ditzey Joint as opposed to a pizza and wing place - absolutely no difference to me! Absolutely no hats during eating and keep in mind if you had it on before you got there you may want to check out your hair in the car mirror at least.
Agree in advance as how this date will be paid for. I have no problem with dutch treat, but I would like to know before hand so that neither of us are embarrassed.
If either party has been at the restaurant before, allow the guest to browse the menu without flinging suggestions right of the bat. If you both agree to share some of the meal, the server will always bring two plates.
Please do not eat your fingers, napkins are always available, save that talent when you are home preferably alone!
If a cell phone is a must, put it on vibrate - check the message and if it is important by all means take it. That most likely won't make you have to leave the table, but if you had to leave immediatley I would certainly understand. I don't like to paint all men with the same brush - it just isn't fair.
If you are with a lady, act like a gentleman. There is so much time to learn about past relationships and the last one anyone want to hear is about the male/female bashing as you could be the next subject.
Last but not least, if you are eating finger foods, please go to the washroom when you are done and wash all that saucy goop off you hands. At least that way you can at least touch my shoulder, or a little smooch on the neck and by all means visa - versa!
I just assume anyone with an ounce of class would not insult wait staff with a poor tip. I would end up going back to the table, adding more - and just chalking up what I may or may not want to look forward to.
If you were not raised by heathens, then table manners should come naturally. I would be happy to give a crash course if required! | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:04:07 PM | ooh, just realised I have a pet peeve #3!
foot fetishes!! Bliah!!! | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:20:31 PM | | When the man doesn't have a plan and turns down the woman's plans. | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/11/2008 7:25:52 PM | - Being rude to wait staff
- Having his cell phone on 'ringer' and answering it during the date (or texting)
- Trying to cop a feel of my 'danger zones'
- Asking too many sexual questions
- Smoking like a chimney
- Bad hygiene/dressed like a bum
- Evasive when asked questions about himself | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:07:25 PM | safezone,
that is funny. So the guy had raptor claws huh? My sister dated a guy that liked feet and he would get mad if her shoes were open or she went barefoot cause other guys would see them. Once she told me everytime I saw the dude I would tell her get shoes on her feet are naked. | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/12/2008 2:11:23 AM | asking for a BJ in the back of his volvo! (come on man , that's third date request material haha)
seriously though, mostly what everyone has already said :
being late
taking phone calls/texting
rude to waiter/waitress
cheap/ small tippers
overly physical/complimentary (a compliment here and there is nice but someone going on and on while on a first date is just uncomfortable and gives me the heebs!) | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 2:39:24 AM | 1. saying you dont look like like your recently taken photo, whilst having posted one of himself before he looked like he had been hit in the face with a baseball bat.
2. not acknowledging that you are probably not smiling as per photo because you think you are dating supposed dates father after a traffic accident.
3. poor manners. we dont all expect doors to be opened for us but waiting till we get through a door or having both legs in the car before pulling off would be nice. eating with ones mouth shut would be nice as well, as would not farting and burping at the table.
4. Scratching his privates while looking at my chest and licking his lips within minutes of meeting.
And he still rings occassionally and wonders why I dont want a repeat performance. Apparently he dosent have much luck with women despite his "enormous asset" - not what he called it of course. He can keep it to himself as far as I am concerned. Worst date in my entire life.
Dont give up tho. he was a one off. I have met some lovely people on here.
Thats why I have taken the photo off (which I do look like). I love these forums. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 7:06:12 AM | >Canceling the date via email the night prior. I hadn't checked my email and found out when I called her while enroute. Canceling is fine but CALL damn it!
>Canceling one hour prior to the date.
>Bringing a friend.
>Wearing sweat pants on a first date.
>Answering her phone during a date. Understandable if you have kids but PLEASE be considerate to your date and let him or her know ahead of time you'll only answer if it's
the kids or sitter". We'll understand.
>Pulling out the cell phone and making a call during the date. Really bad.
Lousy tipper. If a guy doesn't tip AT LEAST 15% or a dollar a drink it's a complete turn off. I don't think I've ever gone on a second date with someone I observed tipping less than that. Maybe that seems silly to some but any guy who's old enough for me to be dating him should know tipping etiquette
>If I'm deemed dating materiel by how much I tip..............I don't think I would ever go on a second date with someone who was critical of how much or little I tipped. Maybe that seems silly but any woman who's old enough for me to be dating should know it's very rude and nosey to make it a point to observe how much I'm tipping for the drinks and nice dinner that 'I paid for' on our date. The word 'etiquette' comes to mind. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 8:05:45 AM | I once went on a date with a girl that delighted in telling a story about how she grossed out a guy by showing her arm pit hair. Later, she told me how her ex-boyfriend would cum while going down on her, he was so into her. That was special.  | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/13/2008 11:02:34 AM | I think, from a broad perspective, many of us get irritated when the other person is not really trying to take the dare seriously and behavior properly.
People can be wishy-washy in a number of ways that include bad manners, constant text messaging for non-emergencies and simply not listening.
All these things reflect a lack of real interest for any number of reasons.
I know the naysayers have responses for any of these pet peeves: "That's just how I am." "Stop taking yourself so seriously." "It's no big deal."
Such things may be of no importance once you actually know someone, but you haven't even found out if you really like this person.
We also have to recognize there is a huge difference between one person and the next in terms of what each of us considers to be good or bad manners and respect.
"Where I come from, we don't do FILL IN THE BLANK." | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 1:26:50 PM | I was just thinking about this recently.
Guys who pick you up and drive aggressively/unsafe is a major TURN OFF.
I don't want to fear for my life on the way to dinner.
I also don't like when guys have the radio playing so loud that you can not hear yourself think...
No thanks | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/13/2008 4:16:40 PM |
wont loosen the hand cuff's
keeps swing the paddle even after I use the "safe word.
doesn't lick off all of the honey.
Won't let me pick a position.
Makes me say I'm her b!tch....
Will not listen that that is ONLY an exit!
Oh, quite your damn whining and lick my other boot already!
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:05:59 PM | | haveing someone you dont know touch you, ,grab your hand, rub your back, hug you , make you wonder why they believe you desprate enough to respond back, this is a first date if you can call it that, is it expected that because you joined a dateing site that you want them to move fast, is it wrong of me to whant some respect, should i be afraid is everyone on here just to get laid and believe thats what i want, or are they really looking for a lasting relationship just had to vent. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 6:24:47 PM | | How about having his girlfriend show up at the table telling him he has some explaining to do? | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/13/2008 6:29:52 PM | A woman talking too much or too fast. I allow a little leeway for nervousness; but motor-mouths can get tedious real quick.
The other pet peeve would be women who seem to run into too many exes or "friends" on the date. That's not a good omen for a future relationship. | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/13/2008 7:34:19 PM | smoking
phone calls
when he doesn't have a plan
when he doesn't remember anything you have talked about before | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:48:40 PM | .... sorry - eating....
Well - luv - sweetie - you could have always done the dishes for him??!!???
Okay - only one dating pet peeve that happened. Went out with woman after talking a bit. Now - if we go out to dinner, I really don't care what you order. Get what you want. As much as you want. Order some wine, alky -whatever. I don't care. How-some-ever, if you happen to be a tree-hugging vegan who "doesn't eat live beings murdered for our gluttony" and are going to complain about the veal I just ordered as you are raking in your food with the 'spoon-shovel' method - please. Feel free to keep your politics and idealism to yourself. Or at the very least - don't try to shove them down my gullet with my meal. If you are going to pack down 6 lbs of salad, cool - let me have my one pound of flesh.
Other than that - guess I have been fortunate in the date department. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:55:22 PM | Okay....seen this in several posts:
Seriously - folks have shown up on first date with a friend in tow? That expected friend to hang out the entire time on first date?
(I could probably see the friend showing up to 'make sure everything is fine') W/o the consent or knowledge of the other person?!?!?!
Suppose I ought not to be amazed by this - but well - am. | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/13/2008 8:42:23 PM | Talking about the ex
Bragging constantly about your children/grandchildren (a little is okay!)
Only talking about yourself
Never asking a question
Never answering a question
Dressing inappropriate for the occasion
Talking about other women/dates
Eyeing the waitress (can't you wait until I excuse myself to the ladies room!)
Asking, "Do you like me?" in the first 5 minutes
Bragging about the house, car, boat, job, income, etc. that you USED to have, before the divorce
Telling me what your mother thinks
Telling me bad jokes
Repeatedly telling me I'm pretty (once is great, twice is nice, more is ridiculous)
A blow-by-blow explanation of your last medical procedure
Oh heck...this is why I quit dating!!!
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Posted: 9/14/2008 6:42:27 AM | I wondered when someone was going to mention that ...Never asking a question....when my date does all the talking about himself and doesn't ask anything about me...That's happened to me a lot.
I dont know which is worse...Or the guy who bombards me with a million extremely personal (no one else's business) questions.
Or the guy who brags about his finantial worth the entire time. Talks about his ex......oogles other women. ....or tells me I am beautiful ten times in leu of a real conversation.
And the real deal breaker.....brings up the subject of sex on the first date. lol | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 7:47:04 AM | 1)Answers cell phone while on date and talks for awhile....just rude.
2)Looks nothing like her photo.
3)Constantly looks around while conversing and can't look me in the eye when speaking!
4)Doesn't make any kind of effort to get dressed, put on make up, or just plain wash before the date!
5)Forgets what a napkin is for
6)Forgets what tissue is for and uses her hand and does the smearing the nose. You know, when little kids wipe their nose with their hand! Hot stuff!
7)Is very late and doesn't bother to call. Hence I have a rule about that..... | |
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