| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:57:30 AM | women dont like the radio to drown out their voice. They like to hear themselves talk or nag about the driving too fast and your only going 30.
I wasnt going to mention this but the date was from here but it was last july so I should be alright. I make sure not to talk about any recent or current dating experiences. I like to let at least 6 months go by. This was the first date the day after my ex moved out. I met this girl here and we hit it off online. I was happy cause her face was very pretty and in all looked good. She warned me she was a little big but the pic looked good and I figured they all say that anyway even if they are not. I was new to online dating. She drove up and called me on the cell. Said go in B&N and she'll be in there. I look around and didnt see her. And then. She calls and says she's walking in now. So I had no escape route because she made sure I was in first. I dont know 350lbs maybe. Being she drove and it was my first date I figured I'd get some practice.
Wne tto beach and we got many looks and snickers. Went to my place cause we got bored and she asked for snacks. I went to the fridge to see what I had and as I opened the door and took a step back I bounced of her stomack. Seriously. I got irritated that she was so hyper to see what was in there she breather on my neck.
At this point we watch a movie and in my head I regreted not being set up for the fruit trick. When they want to eat I do the right thing and offer health food. After the movie e things happened(rebound). At the very very very last minute she asked me if I had a towel becasue she was on period. I said forget it I'll wait till another time. Whish she could of told me that earlier before we started messing around.
So I try to go for a nap and I hear a grumpy demanding voice. DONT YOU GET HUNGRY AFTER SEX? No sleep for me. We order take out and have it delivered. I had some wings. GOT A KNIFE? SHe had the biggest calzone I ever saw and put a hurting on it. I was shocked because I though I could eat a lot.
I dont mind bigger girls but would like to know what to expect, at least a ball park figure. Had a few dating stories to remember but have learned how to screen them and to always give yourself an out so you dont get trapped. Because I also learned they like to trick you to meet and then give you a big makeout hug in front of their friends and the bar before I even knew what was going on. And that is rude to me. They want a big dramatic show in front of everyone they know.
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Posted: 9/14/2008 8:07:47 AM | The cell calls/text messages can be a deal breaker..............
Having said that - as per another poster, I do have kids and would never not take their calls - and I tell my date this upfront. Each child has their own 'ring tone', so I know if it's them or just a GP call.........and only pick up when it's one of the girls.
Again - 'having said that' - they each know NOT to bother me, unless it involves fire, the Emergency room or an abnormal amount of water.
My other peeve, which really should most likely go under another thread of "dates gone bad".................is guys who do nothing but check out other girls (read - anything that moves) while you're with him. | |
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| First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 9/14/2008 12:42:08 PM | OP
First Date Pet Peeves
A guy with dirty underwear.....................................................ewwwww................................................
What? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 2:54:30 PM | Here is another bad date to add.
We had talked on the phone several times, he seemed normal. Shows up for the date in dirty sweats and a t-shirt, unshaven and then says, I don't have the money to take you out, can we hang out at your house. NO!
Another time I was supposed to meet this guy at a bar and grill for snacks and a beer. I sat there waiting for half an hour - this was someone I e-mailed, talked to on the phone, but never got his picture (never again). So after half an hour I left and went home. I was not home five minutes when my doorbell rang. He followed me from the bar to my home and I did not know he had been there the whole time watching me. When I went to the door, he said "well, I liked you and I am here, can I come in?" I called my dog to the door and told him if he did not leave right away I would let my dog out. As you can see from my pictures, Shane is a very large dog and since I was upset, he was as well, growling and jumping at the door. The guy ran away. I went back to the computer immediately and his profile was already gone. How scary. I will never again meet anyone without a picture. This was when I first got on to POF and was a bit naive about all of this. Never again. Thank goodness I never saw him again. I must admit though, it definitely made me more aware that there are people out there that have ulterior motives. I am just thankful, that in that situation, I have a very large and protective German Shepherd that would have taken his throat out if he had tried to force his way into the house. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 3:01:35 PM | | yes..........you ask out for dinner, and she brings her kids...........and her boyfriend.....that is so uncool!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/15/2008 8:38:00 PM | lisshe
That is not good at all.
How could a girl bring her boyfriend on a date? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 4:04:04 AM | when the person talks about marriage and me not dating other people... HUGE RED FLAG... like get a life, man.  | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 4:20:19 AM |
How about .....I love you
I don't know, my ex-wife said it on our first date, I said it back, and we were together for 14 years. Maybe people misinterpret this one. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 4:24:03 AM | med chick I love you and want to get married to you 4ever. i know your the one. it is our destiny. Fate. Nothing will convince me otherwisw. If I cant have you nobody. I want to hug you and hold you and squezze you.
lololllollol, before you report me I'm joking. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 4:28:20 AM | Chewing fingernails, the hand always up to the mouth, the appearance of the (NOT sexy) hands... Just kind of ruins things for me. I'd hate to kiss her and catch a cold, or something off a payphone...
Dandruff on the shoulders and bust of clothing...
So much perfume that my glass of wine loses it's nose and so do I...
Make-up that looks like it was applied with a D-9 Cat
Dirty feet and toes/raptor toenails in open shoes and other indications of poor hygiene...
Cellphone/texting to excess...
Fashion emergencies/tacky style/worn or poorly maintained clothing/frumpiness- Rather go out in jeans and tees than be seen with someone who can't dress themselves...
Poor manners and ungraceful table habits
Yuck!
-damoN- | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 2:17:41 PM | ceasar0002
I did not bring anyone on the date, what are you talking about? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 5:53:03 PM | | You really need to look like your pictures! If you say athletic on your profile and show up with a belly that looks like you're 9 months pregnant YIKES! I like a man I can hug and be held close in his arms. If I need to stand a couple of feet away from you because your belly is in the way, thats just not attractive to me. Yes I sound shallow but realistically we all have physical things we are and arent attracted to. Friends sure, but it doesnt mean you want anything more romantically. Could you really kiss someone who totally turned you off by their appearance? I sound so mean, I apologize. The age problem goes into looking like your pictures too. I knew a man up in Jacksonville who had a far away picture of himself on his profile when he was thin and in his 30s. The problem? Hes in his 70s and very very obese. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:12:01 PM | No photo
refusing to send photo
finding out why no photo. Yikes!
bad manners,I swear I will get up and leave your dumb butt there,I've done it before.
being late,or not showing up,I didn't show up at a friends house one night after saying I would,I never saw her alive again.I'm on time now.
Lying on your profile .
Now to be fair I have a second date with a gal I meet here,we have agreed to just be friends and I asked her to chose where she wanted to go next time and told her how much money I made so that she wouldn't worry about going somewhere too expensive.I said I would be glad to pay cuz I know she has a lot of financial responsibilities,not to show off. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 7:45:01 PM |
women dont like the radio to drown out their voice. They like to hear themselves talk or nag about the driving too fast and your only going 30.
I wasnt going to mention this but the date was from here but it was last july so I should be alright. I make sure not to talk about any recent or current dating experiences. I like to let at least 6 months go by. This was the first date the day after my ex moved out. I met this girl here and we hit it off online. I was happy cause her face was very pretty and in all looked good. She warned me she was a little big but the pic looked good and I figured they all say that anyway even if they are not. I was new to online dating. She drove up and called me on the cell. Said go in B&N and she'll be in there. I look around and didnt see her. And then. She calls and says she's walking in now. So I had no escape route because she made sure I was in first. I dont know 350lbs maybe. Being she drove and it was my first date I figured I'd get some practice.
Wne tto beach and we got many looks and snickers. Went to my place cause we got bored and she asked for snacks. I went to the fridge to see what I had and as I opened the door and took a step back I bounced of her stomack. Seriously. I got irritated that she was so hyper to see what was in there she breather on my neck.
At this point we watch a movie and in my head I regreted not being set up for the fruit trick. When they want to eat I do the right thing and offer health food. After the movie e things happened(rebound). At the very very very last minute she asked me if I had a towel becasue she was on period. I said forget it I'll wait till another time. Whish she could of told me that earlier before we started messing around.
So I try to go for a nap and I hear a grumpy demanding voice. DONT YOU GET HUNGRY AFTER SEX? No sleep for me. We order take out and have it delivered. I had some wings. GOT A KNIFE? SHe had the biggest calzone I ever saw and put a hurting on it. I was shocked because I though I could eat a lot.
I dont mind bigger girls but would like to know what to expect, at least a ball park figure. Had a few dating stories to remember but have learned how to screen them and to always give yourself an out so you dont get trapped. Because I also learned they like to trick you to meet and then give you a big makeout hug in front of their friends and the bar before I even knew what was going on. And that is rude to me. They want a big dramatic show in front of everyone they know.
Are you making fun of this woman for being obese? If so, how do you think it makes you look when you admitted in your story that you hooked up with her and wanted to have sex with her? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 8:19:59 PM | OK, Now I'm feeling like a nit-picker, but here goes:
In addition to the obvious LYING about yourself in your profile pictures---haven't had that happen, but WOW would that be irritating---I feel like it's an indication of how important the whole deal is, when he doeesn't take the time to shave for our date. First time meeting, come on!
I mean, really. Wouldn't you rather be seen with me, (I'm likely to be wearing shorts or a skirt if it's remotely warm out) with smooth legs rather than a weeks growth?!
It just say that it MATTERS, IMHO. PLEASE be clean and shaved, guys. DO you want to encourage CLOSENESS, or not?  | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 10:25:33 PM | no i like heavy women if they are nice. I dont like how I was tricked or how eager she was when it did come to food. That date is not exagerated in any way so cmon who wouldnt get annoyed? I have a worse stories than that if that one bugs you. I'm making fun of how she acted and presented herself. I've been out of shape no biggie and sexy women come in all shapes , sizes, and colors. This date was alarming though. She also gave me a shot about smoking something at my age and for that she never got a second date. If a woman is too thin it feels like she will crumble in the sack and then I feel bad.
Ya I hate when dates dont shave. One date that I had and I dont care if anyone believes me on this. She wasnt bad looking but had (one) 2 inch hair on her chin. And it was touching me and it was hard. It had to take 2 months or more to grow it so I just dont understand why she didnt pull it out before the date.
I can see how it looks like I',m making fun but I'm just putting you guys in my kinda humerous situation. I dated a girl also her size before because she was nice and I have nothing at all bad to say about her. She was cool for real. This is about pet peeves and the way she was acting was a peeve. Hey I'm waiting to hear a peeve about me on here and I will deserve it. I dont mention names or current dates anyways. I'm on here for friends now mostly and if I was really worried about getting dates and woman and sex and all that would I openly admit on this and other forums I fart in public places on first dates if the mood is right? Would I be argueing on the forums or kissing butt? OK Then. At least people see honesty in me. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 10:40:10 PM | Hmm, let me think....
Not showing up on the date. When showing up drunk meeting your date the first time. When you are out on a date & you go out for lunch, its best that you order your own drink rather than having a sip of your date's drink. Being critical of your date's place for meeting them for the first time. Texting is not so bad, if there is a limit to one or two per day not 15 that is a bit too much.
Not dressing up - I had a first date where I felt overdressed bec my date was wearing shorts & t-shirt to go out for a lunch date, I had to change to something else. When you eat close your mouth & Eat quietly. Dont talk when your mouth is full.
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Posted: 9/23/2008 4:23:04 PM | Men who take you out, get so drunk they pass out, and then exspect you to be thier babysitter.....
Or how about the ones who make a date, are all mushy, mushy on the phone...and never show up at all?
Or ones who show up looking like they have been in a hog lot, and smell like it too?
Or how about the ones who have thier X wifes pictures in thier wallets and want to show you? And then commence to talk about them the whole time?
Or best one yet.... Men who forget thier wallets...oh ya, that's the good one..... And tell you right after you just finished eating.....
It's all like....... HELLO........ Wake up people........ | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 5:44:43 PM | lisshe;
GOOODDD Pooch !!! ha ha ha. Hope he got a couple extra treats!  | |
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Posted: 9/23/2008 8:44:40 PM | Here is my list of what HAS happened on dates.
If my date spends less time getting ready than me.. yeah this is the Keys, and life is a bit more "casual" than elsewhere in the U.S., but seriously... I'm a guy that wears bad Hawaiian shirts on my profile. Imagine where I draw THAT line!
Wearing long pants to an outdoor restaurant in the southern most county in the US in August and then complaining about the heat... If you're so uncomfortable showing your legs, then recommend someplace inside.
Bringing their 8 year old on a date.. not a family/kid friendly activity, but a real date... 'Nuff said!
Informing me that I am not parenting my kids properly... As my kids ONLY option, I take being their parent VERY seriously. Ask anyone who knows them if they think the kids and I are doing well, then I'll be interested in listening.
Attempting to convert me to their religion... If I was interested in converting I would have suggested a tent revival!
Asking me what I make per year.. could you be MORE obvious?... If we're not getting married soon you only get to know that I have no debt, and can afford to live in the Keys. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:10:53 PM | | Of course! My dog was showered with attention and extra treats. Anytime my dog does something to protect me, he is rewarded! I actually judge a lot of pp I meet by how he reacts to them. My dog has turned out to be a great reader of character, better than me! LOL German Shepherds are known for that. My dog has actually given me signs about bad guys. You can have the best dates in the world, talk on the phone, go out a few times, but if someone comes to your house and the dog instantly gets defensive, there is a problem, I trust my dog's instincts better. He has never let me down. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2008 5:20:41 AM | | SteveinOP's remark...dude most of the women on this site either lie about their weight or they are totally disillusional. How many women look so obviously overweight and say they are average or are obee and say they are a fewextra poundsd you notie most of these women have pics only of their heads and bust. And ladi I kno the guys here have alot of issues of their own about faking appearances but I'm responding to only on opinion here so unless its related save the backlash. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2008 6:00:48 AM | | there was a time without cell phones, i say leave it in the car, they will survive without u for a time.... | |
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