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Posted: 9/8/2008 5:17:49 PM |
high-maintenance guys don't want competition for attention.
JemGirl, lmao, THAT cracked me up! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 5:18:25 PM | | To me it simply means she is going to need a lot of your time, and a lot of your money, to keep her interested in the relationship. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 7:32:03 PM | I have to agree with Bobbe Maggae's statement. There are two words for people like this: soul suckers. It's like they take the life right out of you.
I don't deal too well with men who are high maintence. They usually need you to baby them all the freaking time and will whine about the craziest stuff. That kind of behavoir just doesn't float too well with me. I can understand the occasional need to complain about certain things, but if you're constantly doing it and not being proactive to solving the problem you're complaining about, I'm probably already out the door and speeding off. This is probably why I'm still single, but I'm okay with that. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:09:25 PM | A high maintenance person, whether a man or a woman is someone who is rarely happy and often critical of others. This person operates from a sense of entitlement and likes to be the center of attention.
High maintenance people often develop attractive social skills so they can have an audience. They can be very charming and seductive. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:20:07 PM | My vote is for DD10's definition:
A tremendous amount of emotional hand holding. Walking on eggshells even! Needy. It applies to both genders and not just in the dating world. There are high maintenance spouses, friends (although why you'd choose either is beyond me) parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, offspring, siblings, neighbors, coworkers and employers. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:34:28 PM |
A tremendous amount of emotional hand holding. Walking on eggshells even! Needy.
Add in always needing reassurance that you actually like them! That you find them attractive in more then just a sexual way! Then in the sexual way too!
Always needing to sit on or touch you.. and I do mean always!
Ten questions about the "night" before........... | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:39:36 PM | | Dammmn, and all this time, I thought it was taking too much time in the bathroom doing hair, make-up. Doing nails. Putting on lotions. Dressing. You know, just trying to smell good, look good, feel good, for whoever is waiting for you. I guess I am waaay behind times. Oh well.... | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 8:44:48 PM |
Dammmn, and all this time, I thought it was taking too much time in the bathroom doing hair, make-up. Doing nails. Putting on lotions. Dressing. You know, just trying to smell good, look good, feel good, for whoever is waiting for you. I guess I am waaay behind times. Oh well....
Nope! We were told to deal with it, so many times we moved on to other things.. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2008 9:26:53 PM |
Always needing to sit on or touch you.. and I do mean always!
Ewwww... couldn't deal with it. If that is what high maintenence is, run..... | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 11:09:54 AM | Ok, here is my few cents of an opinion :)
Women:
I would say it is usually used in connection with a woman either spending more money than she brings in herself or she demands so much of your time that she hardly have a life outside your relationship.
That she uses a lot of time to look nice I have no problem with as long as she is on time...or close to ;) ...I like when she looks nice...remember there is a difference btw nice and cheap :)
Men:
Well, I would actually say its the same for the man. When he spends more than he brings in himself or that he demands so much of your time that he hardly live a life outside your relationship.
That's basically how I perceive the words "High Maintenance". I do NOT use the word in connection with anything else. Lets take the example of shoes...a woman who has tons of shoes - much more than she actually needs. But she keeps spending on buying new shoes anyway...that's waste of means which could have been used for traveling together with your partner creating special time together.
Also if the man spend more on carstuff, computerstuff, etc. than he really needs or uses. Again he takes means out without thinking about you both as a couple. Men, how happy does it make you spending a lot on materialistic things rather than you could have a much greater emotional input in your life from your wife. You would actually be happier in the end...that I can assure you!
One who's emotional demands go way beyond whats normal I would not call "HM" but simply emotionally imballanced. Not mature enough...and this counts for both men and women with these abnormal behaviors.
The same can be said regarding men or women who have control issues. I would not call them "HM" but simply imballanced emotionally and/or have low selfesteem.
What do you guys think???  | |
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| High maintenance definitions
Posted: 9/10/2008 1:03:10 PM |
How do you as a MAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?
If she needs to know my income to date me, she's high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 1:14:30 PM | This is hilarious - what does being out of someone's league have to do with being high maintenance?
If a woman seems out of your league, then don't ask her out. Why resort to name-calling? That just shows a lack of character as far as I am concerned.
You don't need to be out of someone's league to be high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:35:50 PM | I dated a woman once who came from a historic family line she told me she would never shop in" WALMART ,THATS FOR COMMON PEOPLE"this coming from a woman who bought all her" up scale" clothes at discount stores.
High maintance is an attitude i enjoy nice things but not to the expence of letting it define a real realtionship | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:44:28 PM | I agree with many of the views defining a high maintenace woman. BUT...OP...your question referred to how both men & women define a high maintenance WOMAN. How about those high maintenance MEN?! I've come across many that are WAY more high maintenance then me! LMAO! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:58:17 PM | Very subjective ... and really if you feel someone is too high maintenance for you, then you are not a great match.
Yea I know all you men with the gnarly/snarly nails, raging B.O. ""LOVE"" women who don't shave. Hahaha Well to each their own. But hey when you smell the same you are a great match I think. 
Savona | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 6:26:59 PM | | Actually, I dated a man that told me I was 'high maintenance' because I wanted to see him only 'every other weekend' . Yep, even that was too much for him. He evidently was too lazy for even that and 'used' that description to define 'me'. People throw too many labels around whenever it suits them. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 6:28:07 PM | | Whytwater... you're really not such a 'catch' . High maintenance or not, be thankful you can get any woman to look twice at you. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 7:11:42 PM |
Actually, I dated a man that told me I was 'high maintenance' because I wanted to see him only 'every other weekend' . Yep, even that was too much for him. He evidently was too lazy for even that and 'used' that description to define 'me'. People throw too many labels around whenever it suits them.
eastendwoman - Isn't it funny how guys will do that!?! I have heard some pretty funny things that a guy will say to label someone "high maintenance". | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 7:21:49 PM | | Someone yu have to spend all your time and energy you have on convinicing them that their just fine, that they really are ok with who they are and just tryin to get them to be themselves and be happy with being them... they need reassuring all the time that its ok to be who they are in life and being happy is a state of mind and not being humdrum constantly. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 7:27:23 PM |
Actually, I dated a man that told me I was 'high maintenance' because I wanted to see him only 'every other weekend' . Yep, even that was too much for him. He evidently was too lazy for even that and 'used' that description to define 'me'. People throw too many labels around whenever it suits them.
Whoa for a minute there I thought you were going to say he felt it wasn't enough time....he thought it was too much? What a dork...sounds like you didn't lose much there.
Whytwater... you're really not such a 'catch' . High maintenance or not, be thankful you can get any woman to look twice at you.
Oh, snap! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 8:12:18 PM |
eastendwoman - Isn't it funny how guys will do that!?! I have heard some pretty funny things that a guy will say to label someone "high maintenance
Ladies, Ladies, lol. I offered up some early "gut reactions" primarily to add impetus to debate, like paddle to water, and tongue-in-cheek. I freely admit that I am no New Yorker, and I don't read your magazine, either. lol But thanks for clarifying my status; I suspect that, between us, yours is more blessing than bane. Next time I catch one of your threads, I will try to couch my submission in iambs, five to the line.
OP- I offer you exhibit one to my High Maintenance criteria.
JemGirl, your locale suggests a more woodsy essence, so not sure what to say about your comments. lol Except that most of what I posted previously was tendered in fun, and intended to be more funny than not.
Peace be upon you, and with that (moonwalks to door for fear of arrows to back. lol) | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 8:33:34 PM | The magazine is The New Yorker, JG, considered high-brow and intellectual by NYers themselves, and pretty much is, from the few times I have read it.
Thought you were endorsing EEG's attack, and attention, which kinda withered me like a spider on a hot stove. lol Thank god one of you is unarmed. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 8:35:20 PM | Whytwater:
OK, I understood all of your statements but the wedding ring comment....How is expecting your spouse to wear a wedding ring high maintenance? I'm not blasting you, I really don't get how that fits into your list unless you do a job wear it gets in the way and could be dangerous if caught in machinery...
and I must say I am impressed by most all the answers everyone's posted...very cool! | |
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