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Posted: 9/10/2008 8:45:19 PM | I hate wearing jewelry of any kind, except the dogtags I still have from my Navy days, and a St. Christopher's medal on a chain for my neck that a young girl gave me because I had hitchhiked from Rochester, NY (college) to Colorado a few times. Oh, and back.
I had little but disdain for the sanctity of paper (marriage license) or gold (even though it was specially designed and made by a jeweler friend) to seal my vows, and besides, it got caught on the doors I open for others as well as myself (actually dislocated a knuckle once because of it). My ex nonetheless insisted that I wear it, and proudly. It resides today in a small box on my dresser, more a talisman against repeating past errors than anything else. lol | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 9:17:02 PM | "And as far as emotionally high maintenance? No different from men. Except instead of talking about it, we keep our dissatisfaction inside only to use it as an excuse to cheat later because 'we're not getting what we want' in the relationship. At least a 'high maintenance chick' will tell you that you suck before she cheats on you. "
Philly Eagles 5 knows something. especially about the cheating part. I have had quite few married men try to get into my drawers, because their wives just "didn't understand" them. PLEASE!!
I maybe "high maintenance." but a guy will never wonder about how I feel. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 9:25:12 PM | "People throw too many labels around whenever it suits them. "
Isn't that the truth! Did we date the same guy? I went out with a guy who called me a "whack job," because I told him he did not have the right to ignore my feelings. The guy had totally messed up my birthday plans, which he made me change! He did not understand why I would be upset by that.
Yes. people throw around labels just to make themselves feel better. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:19:32 PM | "Smil..."
cause high maintenance simply means the woman lives above what really needed for her. Its not that your in another so called 'league' - its her lack of ability to reason about her spending or emotional demand.
Of course this also counts for the men :) | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:22:35 PM | "Sara..."
I know its the same for men...I actually asked that as my second question I think it was (a little further down in this thread...smile
Agree men can be the exact same...its only me who is perfect.... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 1:51:14 PM | I had guys tell me they aren't "high maintenance" because they don't bother to shower and brush their teeth everyday, or clean their fingernails....
Since when do we equate "excellent hygiene" with being high maintenance?? | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 8:50:41 AM | Chocolate Brown wrote: I had guys tell me they aren't "high maintenance" because they don't bother to shower and brush their teeth everyday, or clean their fingernails....
Since when do we equate "excellent hygiene" with being high maintenance?
No kidding!! I mean come on, there is a HUGE difference. I am high maintenance cause I take a shower everyday and dry my hair and throw a little eye make up? I am high-maintenance because I wear clean clothes everyday and like to smell clean? I could go on but then I'd be high maintenance for that as well.
Some guys (and girls) are just frickin lazy and use the high-maintenance label to justify it. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 9:02:31 AM | | I knew I was not high maintenance until you mentioned shoes! 1 out 20 though, I'll still consider myself not quite low/not high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 9:05:07 AM | | High maintenance to me means someone I can't be myself with, and have to work my ass off to keep them happy, at the expense of my own happiness. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2008 3:42:32 PM | quote [A high maintenance person, whether a man or a woman is someone who is rarely happy and often critical of others. This person operates from a sense of entitlement and likes to be the center of attention. High maintenance people often develop attractive social skills so they can have an audience. They can be very charming and seductive.]unquote
Couldn't have put it better myself. I have known quite a few people in this category. Not always pleasant company. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:15:34 AM | I will try to sum up in a broad statement: A high maintenance person values their own time and self FAR, FAR more than anyone and everyone else and NEVER accepts the notion that another person can see themselves with equal regard.
They may or may not be a perfectionist, but they definitely want nothing, not even the sun, to interfere with their own plans and agenda.
I had an ex-girlfriend I took shopping and made me wait 2 HOURS while she picked out a purse and wound up taking the first purse she saw when we got to the store. I did not complain one bit.
On the other hand, she screamed at me when I called her to tell her I would be late to dinner ONE night because I got asked to take my nephew to see his mother in the HOSPITAL.
I could write a list, but I think you get my meaning ... | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 4:57:27 PM | That term ( also known as a "priss") is an insufferable type who is a self centered pain in the arse..
Someone who believes their own hype.. is deluded into thinking that the sun rises and sets on them and expects others to validate their delusion and treat them accordingly..
A person who makes a "project" out of the simplest things.. eg can't take out the trash without putting on a full face of makeup heels and designer wear....
oh wait! .. I forgot, they are too good to take out the trash they may break a nail so instead they will whine pout and bite their lower lip until some sucker will do it for em | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 5:24:22 PM | | Cute Post! Lots of input here. How Bout Spoiled or Not? Lots to go on there, but to me there are not levels of high maintenance. They are either spoiled or they are not. I spoil women and then they inch up to think they deserve more. Don't really want to express the city girl country girl thing. Country girls get just as extravigant as the city girls. Ok, how about this? Not giving what you expect to receive? That makes it pretty simple. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2008 11:45:05 AM | Doing a quick forums search on the word "maintenance" tells me (as if I needed confirmation - lol) just how touchy this subject seems to be. I've written reams on the subject and have posts scattered all over these forums, but here goes again.
I don't date men so obviously can't pretend to be any sort of dating authority, but from what women tell me, my fellow men are not so much high maintenance but chronic philanderers, self-serving narcissists, and extremely relationship arrogant. Most think they are God's Gift and possess an over-developed sense of their own attractiveness and overall self-worth. I'm not here to debate these points because for the most part I agree.
I do have experience with dating women, though.
I have a lot of praise for the gender, and find most women to be genuinely honest about themselves (albeit a bit too critical about minor discrepancies in their appearance, a mindset completely opposite from most men) and more mature about relationships.
I certainly haven't been subjected to or have overwhelming evidence that most women act inappropriately sexual and maliciously crude early in the dating process (or afterward, for that matter).
The biggest difference in genders seems to be this one point – most men are purely sexual, most women geared to romance, mood, and sentiment. (I "know" there are exceptions in both, so please don't trot out your experiences with thoughtful, asexual men and Amazon, monkey-love women to rebut my point...lol.)
With women I continue to find one pattern that seems unique to their gender: an almost coquettish need to be pursued. I can't tell you how many women think that simply showing some indirect and superfluous gesture of interest means they're showing "real" interest. It's the equivalent of delicately dropping a handkerchief at the foot of a man that interests them, looking nonchalantly away, and expecting immediate and substantial follow up, and being perplexed and astonished when no such thing is forthcoming?
I've had women "tell" me they're interested in me, then sit back and wait for me to do the heavy relationship lifting? Apparently most women can wait...and wait...and wait some more for a follow up they must evidently expect is coming from years of pursuit=>catch conditioning?
I see all around me too many instances of opportunities wasted because one side does not purposefully show "equal" action and initiative -- most dating interest is simply not reciprocated on any concrete level?
Now, I know there are no hard and fast rules for losing interest, even when it starts high. Many of us have experienced falling "out" of love with someone, and many times this happens more quickly than most want to admit. I also know way too many confuse initial infatuation and lust with mature, genuine romantic relationship interest. I'm excluding these false paths, of course. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2008 2:08:46 PM | | I noticed that you ask both men and women how they define "high maintenance" in a gal. How about asking the same question about high maintenance in a guy, or does it only work one way. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2008 2:14:04 PM |
I noticed that you ask both men and women how they define "high maintenance" in a gal. How about asking the same question about high maintenance in a guy, or does it only work one way. {/quote]
Yeah, great idea! I'd like to see some detailed responses from women. I have a sneaking suspicion my number might come up, cuz I feel as if I have leaned on one or two ladies. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 3:42:31 PM | you're hot stuff.........
I like the way you think
By the way I'm from Jersey....... and every now & again I think about the days when I didn't pump gas - - - what's better yet is when you go back to Jersey, and just get out of the car to pump your own gas........ you want to see how FAST they come flying out of the station!!!!! "Hey lady, you can't do that!!"
Lee | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 4:25:25 PM | With women I continue to find one pattern that seems unique to their gender: an almost coquettish need to be pursued.
what the hell, i see this as an evolutionary imperative given the one pattern unique to the male gender: wanting to fck as many women as possible [gasp]. exceptions aside, of course!
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i dated a high maintenance man once. he is cyclothymic, so he has an excuse. (cyclothymic is a sort of low-grade manic depression. i'd say anything described in DSM-IV is high maintenance, lol.) plus, he fully admits to and recognizes his issues which is refreshing and a hell of a lot more honest than many people sans pathological personality disorders are willing to admit. although we're no longer together, we are still good friends. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 5:03:10 PM | ^^^ what the hell, i see this as an evolutionary imperative given the one pattern unique to the male gender: wanting to fck as many women as possible [gasp]. exceptions aside, of course!
Remember, one harmful dysfunction doesn't validate another.  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 5:14:30 PM | | What some consider high maintenance, I consider just being well groomed , clean,and feminine. High maintenance is someone who wants the best and most expensive of everything, (entitlement) but rarely works to pay for their lifestyle, they leave that to someone else. Think Paris Hilton, she is the queen of high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 5:31:20 PM |
.........more trouble than they're worth!!!!!!!!!!!
ROTFL...  One word dysfunctional. | |
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