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Posted: 1/12/2009 7:17:45 PM | I absolutely love being a girl, I love girly things, like shopping, purses and all that, but hardly ever had a b/f or anyone go with me, as I knew it wasn't their scene. I also can't stand buying shoes! LOL I guess that puts me in the non-female category. But I do like smelly things, doing my hair and all that, but don't take much time on makeup and such cause I really don't know how to do makeup and all that (at 36, this is embarrassing to say.lol). But then, on the other hand, I have never been camping in my life! Mostly cause it never appealed to me on a sanitary level (gotta love my conveniences and showers). So, I guess some of the definitions either put me as high-maintenance or not. But if we go by do I ever make someone buy my stuff or hang out with me or constantly shower me with attention? Nah, I am too much of a loner for that. I usually enjoy my girlie pursuits completely and entirely alone, and that won't change! LOL
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Posted: 1/12/2009 8:31:34 PM |
I am a pretty independent woman actually. Please tell me I don't have to give up the shoes. As long as I am buying them, cleaning them and wearing them that wouldn't make me high maintenance would it? Gotta have the shoes.....luv my shoes.....more shoes.....
I am SO with you on this. A love of shoes does not equal high maintenance. Everything I have in my life, I got myself. No man has ever had to finance my life.
Taking pride in my appearance, being stylish, and having GREAT shoes doesn't make me, or women like me, high maintenance.
A high maintenance woman, in my opinion, is one who is demanding, has unrealistic expectations of what it means to take care of HER (not the relationship), and isn't very good at being stylish and putting herself together because it takes her forever to do it. But shoes really need to be left out of this.  | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 9:16:45 PM |
I am a pretty independent woman actually. Please tell me I don't have to give up the shoes. As long as I am buying them, cleaning them and wearing them that wouldn't make me high maintenance would it? Gotta have the shoes.....luv my shoes.....more shoes.....
K. Lol. I take it back about the shoes. Except when they tumble out when you open the closet. Maybe if you had a shoe room. Lol. Saw that in the Italian Job. Great idea!
I am SO with you on this. A love of shoes does not equal high maintenance
Hey, Lol, I think I may have inserted shoe love into this thread; I was just kidding about the shoes. LOL. Although, if you're one of the feet people, uhhhh, ewwww. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 9:20:44 PM | for the love of music
You buy em, clean em, wear them, and put them away. We're all good. I would even make sure that we had a way to store them in the closet. How does that sound? | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 9:29:02 PM |
How do you as a MAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?
one hand in your wallet....and one foot out the door. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 9:48:16 PM | whytwater, You must be nuts. I just have to got through your list so all the young guys don't get confused on on the wrong track of life.
1. Needs more than 15 minutes of prep to go to a convenience store;
A smart guys wants his lady to look good wherever she goes. we know she's beautiful and want her to show the world why we think so too.
2. Cannot conceive of spending a night camping in a tent, because of lack of prep facilities;
Hey, I've rough it too and sometimes it's fun, but a happy lady with proper bathroom makes for a happy life.
3. "Before" prep/"After" prep photos bear no resemblance to each other;
Ladies, we love you in the morning when you wake up. Yes, we're guys and we want you when you have morning breath. But we also like to see you after your prep time too. You are hot when you get it all done and the picture proves it.
4. Needs three safari bearers for luggage when traveling;
I don't wear makeup, nail polish, need hair spray, or any of that other stuff that you bring. I will need the sunscreen, aspirin, tylenol, bug bite stuff, and everything else I forgot. Honey, did you bring shampoo? I sure didn't.
5. Freaks when a day passes without contact from you;
We all have our issues. We freak for different ones.
6. Asks you how your day at the office was every time you get home from work, and refuses to take "Ugh" for an answer;
You want sex and she wants to talk. Say no to talking and guess what she'll say no to?
7. Has purchased more than 6 pairs of shoes in the past year;
She must need them. Did you buy them?
8. Flinches when you touch her hair;
Idiot! Don't run your hands through it right before you walk out the door. You do that when you walk back IN the door. Are you stupid?
9. Wears make-up to the beach;
See item #1. You didn't pick her because she didn't wear it before. Why do you want her to change now?
10. Sends you to the store for feminine hygiene products;
You expect her to put TP in there and run to the store like that. See #8. Idiot!
11. Unable to bait a hook anywhere other than on POF;
If you want a tough girl, pick that one. Stop whining about the one you picked. See 3 8 and 10.
12. Expects you to do all the paddling in small watercraft;
You expect her to cook the Thanksgiving meal, right? Get down there and paddle Idiot!
13. Monthly clothing budget exceeds total of all utilities bills;
You choose her. Where did you think all of those fine clothes came from before? Goodwill? She looks good and you like it. Get over it or choose that tomboy. She looks good in jeans and a t-shirt too.
14. Stocks shower with more than three bottles of ectoplasm;
Heck, I don't even know what ectoplasm is. I will have to google it. You're starting to worry me.
15. Insists that husband wear wedding ring;
Duh! You don't mind if she doesn't wear hers when she goes out for a girls night out.
16. Measures love/affection/interest in dollars;
You shouldn't be going to prostitutes when you're married dummy.
17. Carries a purse at all times;
I hope she is. I don't carry gum. It gets squished in my pocket and I need candy. She also has some tissues and a pen in there whenever we need it.
18. Buys gas only at full serve stations (NJ ladies forgiven for this, as they have no training);
You should have put gas in the car when you were driving it with her this past weekend. You paid some other guy to do your job. Yeah, you better go check the oil and make sure there's windshield fluid in the car too. See #8, #10.. you get the picture, right?
19. Eyelashes come off and night and go back on as part of "prep";
You never noticed they were fake when you dated? You should have been looking at her face and not her boobs the whole time you were dating.
20. Has never stepped foot into the garage
I'll say this three times to make sure you get it right and I'll use caps to give it some emphasis.
IDIOT, IDIOT, IDIOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You want her in the garage?
Young guys. Don't let someone lead down the wrong path. Have a few buddies to complain about this stuff to if you want, but never complain about your lady looking hot even if she's running to the hardware store with you. Every guy there will be envious of you when they look at their wife in stained and holey sweat pants standing next to them. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 5:33:45 AM |
Although, if you're one of the feet people, uhhhh, ewwww.
Agreed! Foot fetish? No thanks, but shoes . . .  | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 7:58:42 AM | in a female
* takes everything in life personally.
* feels she has the right to be unreasonable.
*impossible to give feedback to
*expects you to understand her all like psychic
*playing the mind games
in a male
* always the need to justify himself
* playing the mind games
* always self centered
*expects the female to just bend over and kiss his ass all the time
*constantly whines about there problems instead of solving them or doing something about it. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 8:20:52 PM | | High maintenance men to me, usually means men who are overly emotionally needy. They have to do everything with me, all the time. They have to call or text me all the time. They get pissy or upset or moody, if I don't call back the same day or answer one of their emotionally needy emails right away. I could care less what a guy looks like, how much he makes, what kind of car he drives, etc. But if he texts me or calls me more then my comfort level is ready for, then I'm going to get irritable. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 8:47:37 PM | There's a big difference between some one who has high standards in self maintenance and someone who is high maintenance........
I have high standards having regular hair, nails, facials and buy expensive classy clothes but thats not to mean i am high maintenance...i pay for it all myself and like to look my best..
To me its a person that you have to constantly be trying to make happy, the are very demanding and only think of themselfs and cannot comprimise....
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Posted: 1/14/2009 12:01:25 AM | My idea simply for high maintenance either male or female is the individual that is insecure, constantly jealous, paranoid, picking apart every word that you say or picking apart every physical defect that you may have.
It takes alot of energy to please a person like this and try to communicate that you care and then they pick a fight.  | |
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Posted: 1/17/2009 10:07:55 PM | there are lots of kinds of "high maintenance."
Financial (obvious)
Emotional (both constantly having to lend support and/or having to walk on egg shells)
social (having to keep up with a lot if info/styles/friends)
Physical (obvious)
Psychological (keeping up with mind games)
Time (being very demanding of how much time you spend together, and when/how)
Drama (OH GOD DO I HAVE TO GO INTO DETAILS ON THIS?)"
Intellectual (constantly wanting to discuss DEEP matter)
How much is TOO MUCH is anyone's opinion, and varies by the person. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 1:07:08 AM | Female high maintenance would be anyone who complains all the time, whines, wants to change you, never is happy, needs 'stuff' to feel loved', thinks camping is staying in a motel/hotel, thinks sex any time/place is tacky, has to be told 'I love you' all the time, constantly asks if you think they are pretty, complains because you want your buddies over to watch a game on tv, cannot change a damn lightbulb herself, doesnt know where the dip stick is, doesnt know how to change a tire, hides the bills, gets on your case when you fart/beltch at home,complains when you are are honest enough to ask for sex rather than beg, is jealous if you talk to former girl friends or other women in general, and complains because you didnt put the toilet seat down.
I am obviously NOT high maintenance.... | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 1:31:51 AM | okay... i am bi... so here are my descriptions of high maintenance on both men and women:
guys:
-you are unable to do anything for yourself. you rely on me to wash clothes, make dental appts, remind you to do everything... all the stuff your mom does for you because you still live there or go back and forth and have her take care of you or you just don't do it.
-i have to constantly keep telling you that i won't sleep w/other women because you feel that you "can't compete with another woman". i've never cheated and am monogamous- but my past and what i say doesn't make you any more confident.
-you call me 3 times a day, everyday
-you expect in out future, when married for me to: wake kids, prepare for school, feed all of us, take kids to school, i go to work, i come back from work, pick up kids, bring home. take care of kids, wash clothes while you come home, wait for me to make dinner as you sit on your ass to watch tv. oh yeah- and you get to retire and do nothing. i get to retire and take care of you.
-i have to give up the things i enjoy to make time for the things you enjoy (hobbies, family, fun)
-you need constant reassurance for your ego
girls:
-you call me 3 times a day, everyday
-you *WHINE* (freaking hate that!!!)
-i have to give up things i enjoy for your intrests
-you take over an hour to get ready
-you can't stop arguing. even if i hang up the phone, you have to keep calling and leaving messages on my machine all night long
-in order for you to accept my apology i have to buy you a gift
-gifts, cards, flowers, letters must be sent every week
-you have a cat
-i have to REPEATEDLY keep coming to you with kisses, etc before you FINALLY stop playing "coy" (which has just come to the point of just "annoying") before i can... you know...
...there, now both guys and gals can hate me now... LOL
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Posted: 1/18/2009 6:45:38 AM | | As for me high maintenance is to put someone on a pedestal while they look for their night in shining armor that treats them more down to earth while the night gets dumped. Far as men, I'ld say most men get to be high maintenance as the years go by, the older they get the more winy they get from the gals I talked with. Lot odf unhappy women in america, that's all I got to say. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 6:46:33 AM | | As far as me, I just treat a gal like a person, if she doesn't like it and expects more she is high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 7:50:10 AM | High maintenence in a relationship basically means that one of the partners demands the other to give up their comforts, wants, needs, and desires and is basically forced to
be in service to and supply all of these to the other. Very lopsided. No effort is made by the one in power to come half way. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 8:35:13 AM | I don't know who posted this list (to give credit to them) but I think they nailed it:
My definition of 'high maintenance' is:
-rely on you to fix their problems rather than fixing it themselves
-frequently talk about problems, but not so much about solutions
-lots of complaining
-not too much happiness
-has high standards for others, not so high for themselves
-Puts you through "tests" where you constantly have to defend/prove yourself
-Needs constant attention to the point that it hampers your ability to do things with others.
-every little problem is a crisis
We all have experiences that knock us back. High maintenance people seem to take longer to recover (and in some cases never do).
That gets in the way of creating great new experiences. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 10:33:31 AM | Fishin4u.....Will you marry me?
silkfirequilt.....WTH does having a cat have to so with being high maintenance?
High maintenance to me has several meanings. One would be someone who likes to be pampered in the salons (manicures/pedis/waxing/hair/massage, etc)
The other would be those type of people that are insecure & clingy but that is not saying that the pampered people are not insecure as well.
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Posted: 1/18/2009 10:35:40 AM | | High maintenance.....one (female or male) who requires to maintain a standard beyond their means, at the expense of others; one who feels a priviledged existence and a level of adoration is their birthright because of how they look or perceive themselves, at the financial, emotional or psychological expense of others; one who makes simple day to day pleasures excrutiatingly joyless because of their need to whine, criticize, sulk, pout, bully or control the nature of another; those who feel that it is more important to be perceived as elite than to show the qualities of a strong, moral character. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2009 10:48:34 AM |
How do you as a MAN define "high maintenance" in a gal?
I define it simply as someone who expects the other person to put more work into the relationship than they are willing to do themselves. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 1:38:43 AM | AHAHAHAHAHAHA! i was wondering now long it would take before someone responded to that. LOL
of course... there are some CATS who are high maintenance......... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 5:17:39 AM | nanci, you hit the nail right on the head in the most simplistic way....
What is high maintenance to one could be pride in and respect for onself to another. | |
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