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Posted: 1/19/2009 9:09:59 AM | | owie....some of the post on ladies high maintenance is just ridicoulous....but thats how you see high maintenance, i'll give you that. notice how some men seem to ferget bout their own? tools, tools, tools...lol....out door toys, quads, skiis, excercise equipments, fishing equipment, hunting, clothing, hair products and cologne, and the list goes on. alot have complained bout us not looking good for them or do something nice for them and they still complain...shesh.....they say one thing and then resent us for it. guys, what do you want, it is time you made up your minds. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 9:36:24 AM | High maintenance is not gender specific, obviously. Yet again, to me this still all comes down to mutual compatibility and effort .
Some people are drawn to certain personality types, and have no problem accepting attributes that may seem distasteful or objectionable to others. I’ve seen what looks like dysfunctional couples who are perfectly happy together. The problem comes with couples that have no business being together and know it, but are determined to make things work. Kind of like the relationship equivalent of pounding a square peg in a round hole (“I’ll make this work if it kills me, dammit!”). Then you have the ones that walk away at the smallest discomfort or have zero tolerance for even the slightest blemish in a partner.
From what I’ve observed in life there are many, in both genders, that think themselves superior and only want supplication out of a partner. They are either unwilling or mentally unable to comprehend relationships take equal effort, time, and sacrifice.
Unfortunately, by the same token there seems to be no shortage of eager participants more than willing to puff up, pamper, and worship at the feet of these people, the object of their desires. For those that are the objects, the impulse to NOT take advantage of all that idolatry and unconditional love must be very great indeed, since most fail miserably.
If you’re drawn to the gorgeous, or supremely talented, or intellectually superior, (whatever -- all depends on what turns you on, right?), and if they possess a very selfish, narcissistic personality, you better be very careful and “aware” of what you’re walking into and understand the consequences.
Blind infatuation (the “When we locked eyes from across the room at a party, I knew he/she was the one for me!” nonsense) is no excuse for making a bad relationship mistake. Do your homework; don’t let raw emotion trump rational thought. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 1:09:43 PM |
Only makes reservations for dinner, but expects the man to pay
You are mistaken. this isnt the sign of a high maintenance woman, this is a sign of one cheap man. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 1:23:19 PM | BRAVO thanks for the laugh whytwater MESS#5 I love it!!!
However I should tell YOU men get 50points for going to the store for tamp0ns !!!!!!lol
ASK ANY WOMAN THIS QUESTION AND IF SHE SAYS NO SHE IS LYING!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 1:45:52 PM |
BRAVO thanks for the laugh whytwater MESS#5 I love it!!!
Lol! Thanks, Karma. You took my silly post just the way it was intended. Most found fault, one alpha wannabe torched me for idiocy, and one woman promptly fell in love with him for doing so. 
A sense of humor. Sigh. Priceless. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 5:33:53 PM | """If you’re drawn to the gorgeous, or supremely talented, or intellectually superior, (whatever -- all depends on what turns you on, right?), and if they possess a very selfish, narcissistic personality, you better be very careful and “aware” of what you’re walking into and understand the consequences."""
So truthful.
Savona | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 6:13:42 PM | MSG 5
Numbers. 6, 10, 14 (assuming extoplasm is hair/body stuff lol), 15 (well if I was married I would), 17 and 20 apply to me.. oh and sometimes 1 lmao
hmmm does that make me high maintenance?
lol.. i think not.
I think its more of an attitude. When you act as though nothing is good enough unless it's what you want. If you are difficult to be with or expect only the most expensive things. Or expect to spend every moment together and for your partner to drop all thier friends. Men can be high maintenance too. I've met a few lol When that benefits of being with them outweight the costs, that is usually someone who is high maintenance. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 5:00:10 PM | (The Ford Pinto bit was funny.)
I've had high mainenance women friends, but not any more...
...take forever, flaky re: criticalities, think the world owes them a living,etc.
Have left a few high maintenance men:
...can’t participate in activities (unless they are the center of attention)
...everything read, seen, heard is, of course, all about them
...needs CONSTANT reassurance
...enjoys their own hysterics (over anything/everything)
...Oh yes, and demands everyone walk on eggs around him
I rather appreciate the sane men & women on the planet, whew! | |
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Posted: 1/25/2009 6:22:46 PM |
MSG 5
Numbers. 6, 10, 14 (assuming extoplasm is hair/body stuff lol), 15 (well if I was married I would), 17 and 20 apply to me.. oh and sometimes 1 lmao
hmmm does that make me high maintenance?
lol.. i think not
Hey! No. 5 is alive! Lol. I really wasn't all that serious about that list, certainly didn't intend it to rival the Commandments, but some seemed to take it that way in this thread.
I used to think it was a good idea to post early in a thread. Experience suggests otherwise. Using that strategy, I've had almost as many overly ripe tomatoes flung at me than those crazy Spaniards trash annually. Lol. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 5:57:40 AM | | When she requires "atmosphere" to become aroused or stimulated, in a five-star, candle-lit establishment. Nothing wrong with classy surroundings to inspire romance, but warm hearts can exist on the beach, under the stars, for free too-! | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 8:16:09 AM | I believe that high maintenance people both men and women are way to needy and materalistic.....  | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 4:47:25 PM | | Someone who is a drama queen/king. They just drain the life out of you. Life is too short, and already difficult enough, to waste one second on someone who enjoys creating chaos. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 10:19:13 PM | Clothes have to be just right. Get the matching shoes. Pantyhose can't have a run in it.
lol that's high maintenace spicynicegirl? i don't think so!!
high maintenance is someone who expects everything from the world but gives nothing in return. that's my definition in a few words. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 11:14:42 PM | high maintenance man:
a man who is always wanting stuff, loves getting gifts, complains about the gifts others give him, when he always wants to do what HE wants to do all the time, when he wants the girl to look, smell, and be the way HE wants her to look, etc, when he wants the world to revolve around him on his time table, desires, etc.......
this man is too much effort and he isn't even worth it ! | |
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Posted: 1/26/2009 11:39:08 PM | | To me high maintenance describes a person who gets more than they give back, and is proud of it because they think that is the way things are supposed to be. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 12:41:40 AM | I'm unable to sleep and completely bored, so to amuse myself, I read through this post.
(probably 'cause I was once called 'high maintenance' by a male nurse, whom I had just met, literally less than 5 minutes before he made the comment)
I often to this day, wondered how he came to that impression so quickly?? I was baffled and after reading this thread, I am only partially enlightened. I CAN only think of one reason, as stated by others on here why he said that....
I was wearing make-up that day, along with a hat, gloves and a scarf (hey, I'm in Philly and it was cooooold outside!) I've noticed in my 15 yrs of experience as an RN, that most nurses DO NOT wear much make-up to work, if any at all. At least not in my line of work (as a visiting, home care nurse). Most care very little about their appearance, for some strange reason, in MY experience (other nurses out there, please do NOT bash me for this, this is only what I've observed)
I was really upset by this 'label', since I always considered 'high maintenance' to mean the excessive need to lavish oneself with material things. Operative words being "LAVISH ONESELF". I, certainly don't fall into that criteria. (admittedly, I do LOVE my shoes, and handbags and am unwilling to give them up for any man ;) I thought it meant = the woman who needs a Lexus in the driveway, the Burberry strollers, the 3 carat diamond ring, etc...
That was until I dated men who constantly needed emotional reassurance of my affection, devotion, loyalty, who excessively called, non stop; 10x a day, and the incessant need to discuss our relationship. Now I know there's a label for that particular behavior. NEEDY = High Maintenance.
One thing I've yet to see in all these posts is anyone mention a some guys who have the obsessive NEED to perfect their bodies by going to the gym NON-STOP
Yeah, yeah...I know exercise is healthy, has multiple benefits and is good for the soul as well as the body....but there are many a men out there who will NOT date a woman unless she shares that desire. I think there are some who take it over the top, to the point of NEEDING perfection, thus making them high maintenance! Exercise and the gym are only one example of this....but I find it very high maintenance to try and live up to other people's habits, preferences, and their own self-expectations. They type A people (which is fine for them, but high maintenance for those of us who are more laid back) I think tend to be more high maintenance than others, and when they expect us to live up to their own standards, well....it's those people who drain me!
Just my .02
OMG, I am so tired I feel like I just wrote a book about this...
Very interesting thread though, Good one OP! | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 11:39:58 AM | I think that ford pinto comment is the line of the year! That was hilarious.
High maintenance is a lot of work, and not just for the person who is. I for one, would not be happy dating a man who takes longer in the bathroom than I do. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 8:56:49 PM | High maintenance in a girl would be hair, makeup, nails, clothes, car, friends, jewelry, restaurants choices, and on and on and on. Everything has to be just perfect.
I myself am pretty easy going, throw grilled chicken bruschetta salad from Granite City at me (my fav next to Chili's) or a taco from Taco Bell. I can dress up or dress down. Be ready in 10-15 mins. and not scream "Oh I'm having a bad hair day & I can't go out"! LOL.
I do my nails every week, wear nice jewelry, drive an ok looking car, wear what I like to wear, have good friends who I can count on and they can count on me.
You can have a balance in there and not have to be "high maintenance". You can look great but not be so caught up in yourself that it takes hours to get ready. I used to know a woman in Tx. who took 2 hours to put on makeup, yes 2 hours! She totally transformed the way she looked. But it looked like it was put on with a trowel. That wasn't her. I always wanted to ask what happens when it gets close to 100 degrees outside with all of that on. But I was too polite to ask. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2009 10:39:40 PM | | Yes, high maintenace is when they want you to lavish them with expensive gifts and dinners always. Then, they still are not happy with you. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2009 11:23:00 AM | | I think you can be "called" high maintenance if you like to have nice things, take care of yourself, (manicures, pedicures, massages, etc). But in my opinion you are only high maintenance if you want all those things, but you expect someone else to pay for it! When you do all those things/buy all those things for yourself, it's called "self-sufficient." When you think someone else owes it to you, it's High Maintanence. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2009 11:26:37 AM | but warm hearts can exist on the beach, under the stars, for free too-! !
Are you kidding me?? There's no place I'd rather be on this earth than on a beach under the stars. There's no five-star establishment that can compete with that | |
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Posted: 2/4/2009 3:31:45 PM | A plate that can't never be filled.
Happy are those who have their own.
As they are mature,content and happy first, regardless of me....
but know two heads can be, better then one, in things only hearts and minds cherish.
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Posted: 2/4/2009 8:37:23 PM | This reminds me of something I haven't thought about in years. Thank you for opening up the memory.
There was this guy in high school that all of us girls were just ga-ga over, blond, deep tan, chiseled features. Just a dream.
My brother happened to befriend him and then a bunch of them went on a hunting/camping trip together one weekend. Mind you I was in heaven just thinking of the possibilities with the fact that my brother was a FRIEND of this guys.
They all returned home, weary and dirty. But not the HOT guy. He had every hair in place and it looked as if he stepped out of a magazine. I had to ask my brother how this guy did this.
He stated that he would never, ever, invite him along to another hunt. I guess he had to have a cabin (while the rest slept in tents), because he NEEDED electricity.... for his blow dryer and curling iron! Then while the others were checking gear and packing food, this guy was ironing his pants!
I never looked at him the same again. Neither did my friends after I told them about his primping routine.
So,, this would be HIGH maintenance to me. | |
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