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 winter_flower

Joined: 6/21/2008
Msg: 176
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Posted: 9/17/2008 11:16:31 AM
I allowed myself to trust again for my own good; however,it looks like I picked the wrong one to trust. Chalk it up to lack of experience. And in trying to overcome my trust issues I find myself in this situation.

It's alright sweetpea, you are by far not the first nor last. Well it's actually quite simple, which is good news. You dont go and just blindly pick someone to trust. You let them build your trust. And you watch carefully and take it nice and slow. As someone correctly pointed out here, if a grown man has no place to go, they are bad news. You don't go and take them in. They have ****ed it up for themselves. You go and pick someone who has their life together. And in no circumstances you move in with someone after a month. And you dont wash somebodys pants when they are doing **** all for you. Put yourself first. I urge you to go and buy Loving Him Without Losing You by Beverly Engels and Why Men Love b1tches by Sheryl Argov. Please dont let the titles put you off. They are great books. Good Luck with anything. And btw congratulate yourself you have not lent the **stard any money - please tell me you did not!!! And please tell me you have kicked his user of an arse to the curb already.
 coca2

Joined: 2/17/2006
Msg: 177
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Posted: 9/17/2008 12:33:11 PM
It amazes me that people are used as doormats. Complain about it, and yet defend the idiot that they are involved with. The OP has made her bed now she must live with it. As soon as a better woman comes along, he'll be history.
 flowerforce

Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 178
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Posted: 9/17/2008 3:15:36 PM
Msg #7

Simple, you pack his bags and tell him to go. He is an adult the can take care of himself. He can go to a motel or hotel or couch surf for a few weeks until he finds himself a new place. Of course you can choose the other alternative which is let yourself be a victim to this fellow but what will happen to your self-respect. If I were in this situation I would be saying "There is the door don't let it hit you on the way out."
 X-Lu

Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 179
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Posted: 9/17/2008 3:31:43 PM
No any convenience, but disaster met desperation. Sorry about your feelings as of now, but it was clearly written down to fail, and you just did want to keep lying to yourself.

Why did you not question yourself the reasons why his buddy threw him out of the place??? It should have been a great bold and red flag to set your cautions off!

Now you're trying to mend and match your fantasies with what he absolutely will not be for you??? Get out here!

Stop self-flagellating yourself!!!

Man that’s absolutely self-depreciating and self-sadistic. Run babe, run away from this. Throw the man out with no any considerations, clean your soul up, go into therapy or trust a best friend to keep you away from all this.

I am really feeling for you!
 whzcheatinwho

Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 180
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Posted: 9/25/2008 5:09:16 PM
A man will show you who he is, not tell you..... I'd say he's pretty much shown you, believe him...THE FIRST TIME!


(Paraphrased from Oprah/Maya Angelou)
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