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Posted: 9/10/2008 11:38:00 AM | I answer my mail as soon as I can
I think most people do. Im not really sure how you can receive any credit for it though.........
The only time I get miffed is if I send a mail to somebody that I know is logged on but they don't reply for a couple of days when I know they've read it. That stinks of playing hard to get and Ive got better things to do than chase a numpty!!! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 11:39:06 AM | | you seem like a nice person why be mean to him o you have nice feet to.be mean to me i can take it but you better be able to take it too. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 1:12:21 PM | On responding to emails... I admit that I rarely respond immediately. I'm not trying to play any games, sometimes I just don't feel like writing anything at that moment or maybe I want to let the message simmer for a little while until a clever response pops into my head.
On spelling/grammar... I don't hold a few typos against someone, however, I'm looking for an intelligent man. Proper spelling/grammar should not be a chore for anybody with even a ninth grade education; it should come naturally. So when an email or profile contains all sorts of strange punctuation or misplaced capitalization or misspellings, I can't help but see that as either laziness or ignorance or both. I won't necessarily dismiss a guy on just that but I definitely get more excited about the ones who make the effort to clean up their emails before sending them to me. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 1:24:11 PM |
Proper spelling/grammar should not be a chore for anybody with even a ninth grade education; it should come naturally. So when an email or profile contains all sorts of strange punctuation or misplaced capitalization or misspellings, I can't help but see that as either laziness or ignorance or both.
That's the point that the people who defend poor spelling and grammar are missing. Most women don't want a man who is lazy or careless. Why should we bother responding to someone who can't make the minimal effort it takes to proofread what they write and use a spellchecker? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 1:33:17 PM | I am a really bad speller sometimes. And I'm sorry I don't expect people who post here to have everything spelled correctly. Until there is a spell check on PoF it shouldn't matter.
I can tell you that I will not write something in Word just so I can copy and paste it here.
And I really don't see how someone being a bad speller has any relevance in who they are.
Mr. look as per your last couple posts I am right there with you. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:10:30 PM | And I really don't see how someone being a bad speller has any relevance in who they are.
It speaks to one's education or it speaks to one's attention to detail or it speaks to one's desire to present himself in the best light possible. I've never heard anybody criticize another person for using proper grammar but I've heard a lot of people criticize poor grammar so why wouldn't a person opt for proper grammar?
As for spell-checking, Firefox underlines misspelled words (although it occasionally underlines words that are spelled correctly) so if you're a weak speller perhaps it's in your best interest to switch browsers. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:27:55 PM | "It speaks to one's education or it speaks to one's attention to detail or it speaks to one's desire to present himself in the best light possible. I've never heard anybody criticize another person for using proper grammar but I've heard a lot of people criticize poor grammar so why wouldn't a person opt for proper grammar?"
I'm sorry I just don't agree. I know and work with doctor's who are very good at there work, that are kind and careing people, and who will go out of there way to help someone in need. You would not believe how close a family my immediate boss has, his children are all just as good as he taught them to be.
He doesn't spell all his words correctly, nor does he always word things correctly. So I guess the above must be a lie, or mean that he really doen't know how to do his job (that he has been doing well for the past 40 odd years), and he must not take care of his patients and those around them?
I also knew a man that did everything perfectly, including his spelling and grammer.
Beat his wife and his kids on an almost daily basis, I found that out after the wife left him. He treated any one who he felt was less than he was like crap.
Both true stories. So I still stand by what I already said. Its a sad place if we are deciding some one's worth by how they spell.
To each thier own I guess. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:41:34 PM | | Some people will think that you're too desparate if you answer the e-mail too quickly. Personally, I like a man who answers promptly. I don't like to wait. It's not cute and it doesn't make me more interested. It just depends on the person... | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 2:42:39 PM | This is similar to my first comment probably found on page 1. It basically says the same as this one. It seems realistic to me:
People work. Sometimes they get home late but still have to cook dinner or eat something. Maybe there's something they need to clean up because single people don't have anyone around to help them. How about catching up on laundry? Some people are not able to check messages everyday or have time to login to POF to begin with.
If it takes a day or 2 for someone to reply to an email hopefully they will understand the reasons why.
Actually I don't know why I spent the time to post this today. The OP is gone. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 3:46:10 PM |
I know and work with doctor's who are very good at there work, that are kind and careing people, and who will go out of there way to help someone in need. You would not believe how close a family my immediate boss has, his children are all just as good as he taught them to be.
He doesn't spell all his words correctly, nor does he always word things correctly. So I guess the above must be a lie, or mean that he really doen't know how to do his job (that he has been doing well for the past 40 odd years), and he must not take care of his patients and those around them?
First of all, I never suggested there's any sort of correlation between being a good speller and being a decent human being. But I'll ask you the context of the writing you've read from these doctors. Were they writing papers on clinical studies or letters of recommendation that were full of spelling/grammar errors? My guess is no.
There are different standards for different types of writing. The better the impression a person wants to make on another, the bigger the effort he needs to make to adhere to proper spelling and grammar. I should think that in a profile or email, a person would want to make the best impression possible. If you you don't want to take a few extra seconds to proofread what you've written, that's your choice. But I'll equate it to a real life situation in which your date keeps showing up with food stains on his/her shirt. Would it bother you at all that the person refused to make the effort to clean up a bit before meeting you? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 3:56:07 PM |
Its a sad place if we are deciding some one's worth by how they spell.
I'm sure there are good people who are poor spellers and bad people who are good spellers. That's not the point.
Poor spelling is one indication of how a person approaches life. It indicates a lazy and careless approach to life. It can also indicate lack of education. For women that are interested in intelligent men, it can cause them to not respond.
If a man is interested in making a positive impression, he should at least consider the idea of proofreading and spell checking his work, especially if that work will be read by many people. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:00:30 PM | "letters of recommendation that were full of spelling/grammar errors? My guess is no."
Your guess would be wrong, who do you think types them up and sends them out?
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with your point of view. If it works for you then keep it up. I also understand the point you are trying to make but when I was simply talking about spelling and now you have gone into food stains and they have absolutely nothing to do with how someone spells either. lol
Do whatever floats your boat, judge people however you would like to. You get to do that.
All I am saying is (we will use the email situation since this is where we are) I am going to go off of what someone said not how they spelled it.
Any way I'm not really trying to argue with anyone, just saying what my thought were. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:03:22 PM | If you answer your email immediately, and then she does, and then you do, and then she does . . . you spend all your time on the computer. Some of us have other things to do. Some of us are away for a few days without email access. I know it sounds strange but it's true.
It isn't how promptly a guy answers an email that impresses me, it's how interesting his response is. And yes, spelling and grammar count with me.
Remember Grandma & Grandpa's relationship? Now why did that last?
Because until recently divorce was not an option? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:14:50 PM |
The better the impression a person wants to make on another, the bigger the effort he needs to make to adhere to proper spelling and grammar. I should think that in a profile or email, a person would want to make the best impression possible. If you you don't want to take a few extra seconds to proofread what you've written, that's your choice.
That's right. If men are interested in making a good impression and getting responses from women, it behooves them to pay attention to how they are presenting themselves. Smart men will understand that this improves their chances of success. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 4:31:36 PM | 
satisfied?
get over it, and pat your own self on the back.
who cares how quickly people reply, some people aren't online alot. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 5:36:55 PM | You better not leave your curling iron in the sink, Your toilet paper roll better be goin' over, Not under, There better not be dishes in your sink, Your trash ben better be empty, Not full, (YUCK) your eye liner better be on straight, Oh, is that tooth paste I see in your sink, Or perhaps a leaky faucet,
I assure you that's how my place looks most of the time and if I invite a guest over I make an extra effort to ensure the place is immaculate.
I don't really understand what your big huff is over this issue. If your presentation style works well for you then by all means, don't change it. But for the people who can't understand why they don't get any responses, spelling and grammar *could* be a factor and it never hurts to clean that up. | |
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Posted: 9/10/2008 9:17:51 PM | Wow this chick is ripping everyone to shreds.........this is the first time I have been on these forums and it seems "luvnlife2" is a hard nut to crack ! I already feel inferior to the spell check gods ......crap would gods be capital letters........I wish someone would create a capital letter check for me , MaYbe SOmeone wIlL LOVe Me THen......  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 8:11:10 AM |
spelling and grammar *could* be a factor
For me its text talk that I hate. I want to read the word because not coz or tomorrow not tomoz. I agree it sounds lazy .................. however typos etc that are genuine mistakes would never be an issue | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 10:40:16 AM |
Wow this chick is ripping everyone to shreds.........this is the first time I have been on these forums and it seems "luvnlife2" is a hard nut to crack !
Thanks for the compliment. My advice is meant for those men that are interested in improving their results and getting more responses. If you are happy with the results you are getting, then I'm happy for you.
In a potential dating situation, you are going to be judged by many criteria just as you will be judging the other person. If you don't care about appearing lazy, careless, and unintelligent, then it's fine to not proofread or spell check your written communications. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:14:10 AM |
In a potential dating situation, you are going to be judged by many critera
My idea is dating should be more of a leisure time and a break away from being judged by many criteria. Maybe we can leave the extensive judging to our teachers and employers before we go on dates. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:18:09 AM | CRAP!!! I look desperate cuz I have a BlackBerry and check/respond while taking a dump or sitting in traffic or whatever????
I guess I need to play games to seem like something more desirable huh?
Funny, part of the reason I'm on here is to NOT play games, to be straight forward...
I get what the OP is saying here but honestly, credit to me sounds lame...I never thank anyone for responding...a thank you to me is a response...if you don't respond it's no big deal...Women are everywhere... | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:27:43 AM | My idea is dating should be more of a leisure time and a break away from being judged by many criteria. Maybe we can leave the extensive judging to our teachers and employers before we go on dates.
Just wondering, do these non-judgmental dates of yours take place in the Gumdrop Forest? | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:30:01 AM | | Like - what kind of 'credibility' are you wanting? I like a man who is prompt in writing back to me and I appreciate it - but I'm not going to fall at his feet and worship him for it, because I try to be speedy in my responses too. It's politeness - which is a good thing. Good luck to all! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:35:43 AM |
My idea is dating should be more of a leisure time and a break away from being judged by many criteria.
So it sounds like you wouldn't care who you went out with. She could be fat as a pig and dumb as a brick and you wouldn't care; after all, you are not being judgmental. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2008 11:46:30 AM | I'm an English teacher, and my eye just goes to grammatical and spelling errors out of habit. If the letter is somewhat intelligent and has something interesting to say, and it is evident to me he at least glossed over my profile - wonderful. If what the gent is writing in almost another language and I can't decipher the message, then I get frustrated. If you know you have difficulties in spelling, write your messages using word processing software with a spell and grammar check. It shows that you care enough for the person reading your letter when you take that extra 30 seconds to make sure your message makes sense.
Don't lose hope OP - work on your profile, stay positive...it'll happen for all of us!
BTW OP - I love Napanee! Some of my best friends in the world live there :) | |
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