| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/6/2008 4:45:52 PM | | How would you know if the right person was out there if you didn't go out on dates..I mean sure you might not find the right person right away but isn't it why its called dating.so you can meet and get to know a potential life partner.. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/6/2008 7:41:32 PM | FROM ldysapphire: How would you know if the right person was out there if you didn't go out on dates..I mean sure you might not find the right person right away but isn't it why its called dating.so you can meet and get to know a potential life partner..
Right on ldy!! My thoughts exactly!
Maybe instead of dating we'd hang signs on our doors which read.....available for the right partner. Perhaps through osmosis the right man/woman will come along, or maybe we'll place ads in the Supper Shopper under 'wanted - right partner',,,,,now would that be versus looking for a 'left partner'?  | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 12:15:49 AM | Truth to tell, I have done a lot more waiting than dating, and waiting is a lot more lonely.
After 5 or 6 years of waiting, I begin to wish for some dating, cause I'm really kinda hating, the sorta situation I find myself in.
When simply meeting a single woman was something that did not happen for years at a time, I would have been happy dating, even someone who was definitely not long term potential. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 3:54:44 AM |
FROM ldysapphire: How would you know if the right person was out there if you didn't go out on dates..I mean sure you might not find the right person right away but isn't it why its called dating.so you can meet and get to know a potential life partner..
Right on ldy!! My thoughts exactly!
Maybe instead of dating we'd hang signs on our doors which read.....available for the right partner. Perhaps through osmosis the right man/woman will come along, or maybe we'll place ads in the Supper Shopper under 'wanted - right partner',,,,,now would that be versus looking for a 'left partner'?
Ladies, please! MEOW! This is the OP, can you ??? read the Original Post:
I enjoy friends & fun activities, but I no longer have the energy to do "hyperactive dating": speed dating, online, singles stuff...I feel like I've moved into a new stage of life that is wonderful, & that I am ready to meet the person to grow old with.
Is it wrong to go on a few dates, then if you can't see growing old w/ that person, end it as to not waste eachother's time?
 read the Original Poster's post b4 you make  comments! | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:45:03 AM | Same old crap you've said for years.
"I'm so happy, Men should love me, men dthat don't like me are boring, women should listen to me as their idol or they're creeps....."
I know there's way to many that have dislocated their shoulders with all the back patting you give your self or is it they're secretly double jointed? | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 6:36:57 AM | | OP, yes I agree it's ok to end it if you don't feel anything after 3 dates. Like the one woman posted, it took her 3 dates to realize she had a gem. I usually give it that long myself if I'm not sure. I don't mean to be sexist though, but it seems like men decide on the first date where many woman will give it time to develop. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:21:20 PM | I date for all sorts of reasons but I primarily date to have fun. It is nice to go out with an attractive and intelligent lady and do whatever. I also date to find an eventual mate but I tend to keep that kind of dating on the back burner. Most of the women I currently date are not long term material and I am not now of a mindset to settle for one woman. A good prospect turns up now and then but not often and I really do not worry about it.
One thing I do know for sure, it is quite unlikely I will find dates sitting on my couch so I do get out and around a lot and I usually meet several new women a week although I actually end up dating very few of them. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:48:33 PM | [quoteI enjoy friends & fun activities, but I no longer have the energy to do "hyperactive dating": speed dating, online, singles stuff...I feel like I've moved into a new stage of life that is wonderful, & that I am ready to meet the person to grow old with.
Is it wrong to go on a few dates, then if you can't see growing old w/ that person, end it as to not waste each other's time?
Why would you think this might be wrong? Deception is wrong, honesty isn't. To lead someone on and date them for laughs when they think it is serious, now that would be wrong. Some people don't mind having a steady dating partner even if it is going nowhere, others do. Be honest and truthful to yourself and your dates, then act accordingly. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:13:23 PM | | You know what, people who have jobs get hired before the unemployed do. People who are dating non-exclusively are more likely to be asked out (or get accepted when they ask out) then people sitting home alone. The fact that your dating makes you by definition dateable. Thats why I am opposed to expectations of exclusivity that aren't mutual. I want to find the one to grow old with, but I know I won't do that sitting at home. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 1:19:33 AM | It is not wrong at all.... after all if you are not feeling the right vibes then it will not work for you and your energy towards something will give the other person insecurities. It is always best to wait until the person in front of you floats your boat, so to speak. You know how you should feel.. And we all know that OK is never enough. You may be ages finding someone but it will be well worth the wait when you do...After all most on here want to find someone they can love and move forward with.
The first date can often indicate that there is no chemistry, so one or two dates is not going to hurt anyone. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 8:32:21 AM | Did anyone ever see that picture of 4 elderly ladies all sitting together and covered in cobwebs... waiting for the "Right Partner?".......I may be joining them.
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 8:42:41 AM | I had to double check that this is in fact a "Dating over 45 " thread.
Provided you aren't dating people with the intention of using them for ritual sacrifice or target practice, you need to do what seems right for you and your life. And what is right may change from time to time, or you might want to try a different approach. As long as you aren't breaking any significant laws of God, man, or gravity, who says there's a "right" or "wrong" way of seeking a partner AND the kind of partnership that works for both of you?
The one premise I can agree with is that you aren't going to meet anyone if you don't leave your house, and if you function in your day to day life with blinders on, assuming that the only ways to meet someone is the internet or the bars. Yes, I understand that dating co workers, customers, clients, patients, whatever can be a BAD idea, if not downright actionable.
Look, being single is not some kind of DEFECT that MUST be remedied. If we can all work to get past that, maybe there will be fewer people "settling" for a relationship that doesn't have that vital component that prevents boredom, that enables the couple to stay together in adversity, and to put the partner's welfare, if not FIRST, at least dead even EQUAL to one's own. Generally this component is called "Love". And there may well be more than ONE out there that you can have that kind of connection. It is a combination of physical chemistry and a meeting of the minds.
And you find that by doing whatever seems right to you. But keep in mind that God helps those who help themselves, so living in blinders and isolating yourself probably won't be effective.
And if you've decided that you actually do prefer a state of single blessedness,for gawd's sake keep quiet about it. It just totally screws with conventional wisdom and will cause Venus to crash into Mars, collecting Polaris andthe Moon into the wreck, and just generally causing a cosmic version of the "the big one at Talledega" in our immediate galaxy.
Nobody wants to be responsible for that.
Cindy O | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:06:46 AM | | Of course it is not wrong! What a silly question. Now...if you are 'playing' that person...'using' them ...or misleading them....bad girl! WRONG. I suggest meet all the potential friends you can.... sometimes the first impression is not so good but once you get to know someone....see them live their lives....you start to really appreciate that person and gain respect and .....watch out, you'll be looking forward to seeing them....hearing their voice....and all of a sudden , the love bug says 'gottcha'! | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:26:10 AM | I wonder why almost every subject discussed in threads is divided into two categories: Right or Wrong.
The last time I checked there weren't any men falling out of the sky onto my lap. I can either proactively address that or take up knitting.
I am not waiting around any more. It rarely, if ever, pays off. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:32:13 AM | | Please be careful with those knitting needles, Libby. It would be a shame if the right guy did fall from the sky into your lap, and your first date is to the ER to have the needles removed from his posterior. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:33:04 AM |
I can either proactively address that or take up knitting.
Well, Libby, knitting can be very proactive in this area. Nothing attracts a man (at least us Canucks in the cold season), like a nice pair of knitted wool socks. I'll bet your dance card will fill up pretty quickly once the word gets out that you will knit socks for the right guy...... | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:40:02 AM |
Please be careful with those knitting needles, Libby. It would be a shame if the right guy did fall from the sky into your lap, and your first date is to the ER to have the needles removed from his posterior.
I am certified in First Aid by the Red Cross. Let me tell ya fella. I plan to have me a heck of a lot of fun extricating those from his posterior, thank you very much!!  | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 10:19:07 AM | I checked there weren't any men falling out of the sky onto my lap. I can either proactively address that or take up knitting.
Hmmm. If the knitting needles and yarn fell onto your lap, perhaps one of the gods is trying to tell you something. Just what I'm not sure, unless they sent sized patterns along with them. After all, the gods aren't known for delivering humans with clothing accessories. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 11:46:28 AM | I would not want to limit myself to anyone entering my life for any reason whether it be to date or to hang around me forever.
I have been known to have some commitment issues in the past and chose to stop dating because men wanted to commit to something more ...and I was not ready. But I have come a long way and know that regardless of the outcome I am ready to enjoy every moment, afterall I have no idea if there is a RIGHT PARTNER for me so I plan to at least have some fun with the wrong ones. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 12:41:06 PM | [Nothing attracts a man (at least us Canucks in the cold season), like a nice pair of knitted wool socks. I'll bet your dance card will fill up pretty quickly once the word gets out that you will knit socks for the right guy...... ]
Well, I've been knitting wool sox now for awhile, "for the right guy" and with a stockpile of at least 18 pairs of sox...my dance card has yet to fill up, but...on the upside, when Mr. right does drop into my lap, he will certainly have warm feet. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:56:11 PM | I make quilts too,but its not drawing men to my front door! i even sent one to a soldier in iraq a few yrs ago,he never came back to see me,,,go figure....I cant find a guy in my town single to date really,their might be one or two out there,but i never run into them in walmart, the grocery store ,and i dont go to church,my sister thinks i should thinking ill find a good guy there..haha right! Right now i feel like im in pergatory, stuck somewhere in limbo ...WAITING.. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:23:09 PM | I hear you Katsback: A quilter, knitter...and hey, it hasn't dropped Mr. Wonderful my way either. But the thread (no pun intended) is: "Waiting for the right partner".
In the meantime....apparently we are supposed to be optimistic, full of anticipation and oh, so anxious to go out with the "daters"? You know the kind....those who flip out their caluculator when the bill arrives, to see what your half is....those who figure a meal is worth a little "action"? Oh, don't mistake, I'm all for dating....but at what cost? Perhaps the cost of doing business...has hidden costs? I suspect this will evoke responses...like...."Oh, lighten up and have some fun"? Very true, but when did dating for the sake of dating constitute fun? I'll WAIT. | |
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| Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER
Posted: 10/10/2008 1:50:21 AM | (Maeflower) lol!!!!!
Did anyone ever see that picture of 4 elderly ladies all sitting together and covered in cobwebs... waiting for the "Right Partner?".......I may be joining them.
A lot of us might be waiting a long time.. I have noticed I have been sneezing alot, it must be dust.
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