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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:30:26 PM | | I would go with your inclination on this. Don't feed the fire, ignore it. If she knows she's pushed your buttons, she's liable to continue. Also, you state that she is mentally unstable, so why are you letting this bother you. let it go! | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 7:53:53 PM | Yeah, just let it go.
You can also have a bit of fun by dramatically shouting: OH no! You have discovered my secret!!!
It beats getting mad...
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/13/2008 10:11:42 PM | | Would you rather have your ex going around and telling people that you abused her? Or, were never faithful? Or, lousy in bed? What I mean to say is that there are things she could tell people that are far worse for your dating future than saying you're gay. And it's got to be a lot easier to prove you're not gay than to disprove any other lies she could've told. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 10:26:39 PM | I say revenge is a dish best served cold...
Like responding back with things like.........'hell, if you had had sex that bad for fifteen years, you'd probably start considering sucking dyck too."
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:06:34 PM | | Live your life in a manner that when someone tells lies about you, no one believes them. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:21:22 PM |
I say revenge is a dish best served cold...
Like responding back with things like.........'hell, if you had had sex that bad for fifteen years, you'd probably start considering sucking dyck too."
That would probably be funnier to me if my daughter's mother hadn't 'turned' lesbian. I'm a pretty open-minded guy yet there was still a part of me that was bothered by it. Worse, as a guy, I had hoped for a silver lining (I'm an idiot), something my imagination could use for future reference (sort of a consolation prize)... but then I met her SO and it wasn't like in the movies at all... she looked just like a boy. (drats!)
/new silver lining found! - they're happy, I'm happy, ex (still friends with) has a whole new set of problems relating to... um... [opposite] sex -- now acknowledges problems were NOT all my fault after all. (what lengths wont I go to for validation) | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:35:29 PM | Dude,
She is setting the stage, so that she can have custody of the kids and making it less inviting for another woman to venture in your life.
Put a restraining order on the b*tch or take her to court for ruining your reputation. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2008 11:50:01 PM | Even in a small town people forget about rumors especially the ones that arent true. I would just let it ride and dont react to it.
I'm sure if its as small of a town as you say, most people already she sucks anyway.
I can imagine how pissed you are , but think of it this way... she could have made up any rumor and it would have pissed you off just as much. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 1:57:44 PM | | I agree with your inclination to just let it run it's course. Taking action may only add fuel to the fire - so to speak. | |
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| What do you do with this??
Posted: 9/14/2008 2:07:37 PM | During my divorce my ex-to-be made up some outrageous stories about me. Some of the silliest got back to me. My first girlfriend whom I met several months after separating was on a flight sitting next to a woman who was close to my ex-to-be. This woman unloaded a bunch of truly crazy stories my ex-to-be had told her about me to my girlfriend, not knowing who she was. It is a pretty funny story.
Some of my friends acted pretty weird toward me for a while but they finally figured things out. Ironically I am the one still friends with most of the friends we as a couple had when we were married and she is not. Many of them want nothing to do with her.
Hopefully people will eventually figure things out. This sort of thing happens a lot. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 4:00:02 PM | | Keep being who you are and doing what you do. This just makes her look bad. If you start denying it, then you will be giving credence to what a person who is deemed mentally unstable says. Just saying.... | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 4:43:37 PM | | All your friends who know you, know your not, the rest let them think what they want.Your kids dont believe it, do thry ? Let it ride! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 4:47:47 PM | | Personally i know this sounds easily said than done, but gossip dies down pretty fast in small towns. Coming from someone who lived in one for ages. Its just like back in high school wthi this situation fine people will talk. But it doesnt take them long to get bored and tlak about something else and eventually it gets totally forgotten about. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 5:31:49 PM | | If you live in a small town, people would know you well enough to disagree with her. Don't let her immaturity get to you.... just ignore it. Don't give her the satisfaction of making you upset. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 6:45:44 PM | Well are you? If you are not then who cares and if you are then again who cares.
Just look after yourself and your children and ignore the nut bar. She is spreading rumors for what reason because she is "not mentaly stable". Good luck in trying to stop the rumor mill. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 8:03:10 PM | Of course you could take this to court, you know that right? I mean we are a litigious society, but you do have children with her, so....there's that ugliness to consider.
The truth is and you already know this - you don't have any option but to ignore it and hope it goes away.
To blatantly declare you are not homosexual, will only make you appear to be in LOUD denial, and make the discussions more fervent and frequent.
To behave heterosexual - which I'm not even sure what that would mean any more? I mean you do what? Belch, scratch yourself, collect cars and Barbie-doll bimbos?
This would be wrong.
It's a small town. The rumors will eventually die down when someone else's scandal makes more muck. Sad, but true.
And perhaps if it is such a small town, more people than just you know she's kookoo for Cocoa Puffs? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2008 8:06:13 PM | wow ,......
you already said she was a couple fries short of a happy meal . why do you worry about a nut like that ... most important thing is , you take good care of your kids and you know better ....
she is mad and frustrated and the only way to get to a man is to question his sexuality , and from what Im reading ,,, its works . Im sure your friends and family know better too , so why worry .....
be above all that , if you get mad you give her fuel to continue the rumors 
if it realybothers you , tell her next time you see her
" what you complaining about , you turned me that way " its all your fault after being with you I can only do better with a man """!!!
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Posted: 9/14/2008 8:12:26 PM | When it is brought up .......
Just say to the person .........
"There she goes again - getting stuff mixed up"
"I told her - I would RATHER TURN GAY that have sex with her again"
"Sheesh - she never could remember chit right"
Then just carry on with what you were doing - like the person never brought it up. | |
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