| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/1/2009 6:32:59 AM | Experience has shown that there is a level of deception in most profiles on any given site. Some are just little ( average = slightly overweight / customer service representative = cashier at grocery store )), others are completely fabricated profiles.
Other lie or mislead others as to thier intentions in the profile descriptions.
Many websites employ "bait" profiles, to entice people to join, or pay a subscription fee to exchange messages.
You just have to take the chance at meeting in person , and seeing what is real, and what is fake. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/1/2009 3:08:36 PM | | Mine is 100% real although some profiles I really wonder. A lot of them say they want this or that but then when they get it they run..lol. Im a true to honest guy and I just have this thing of love it or leave it, because your heart is what should show reguardless of size, color etc. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/1/2009 5:09:00 PM | So the bottom line question here is... Are the profiles Real or Fake ... is what is in your profile really what your looking for .. (which to me most people are looking for a good sense of humor) or are you looking for that 8 or 9 out of 10 man or woman even befor you give them a chance? I would really like some input, as I am wondering what people in general are TRUELY looking for.
Am I looking for an 8, 9 or 10? Yep. In my eyes, he should be exactly that. The reality? What I think of when I think 8, 9, or 10 probably isn't what someone else would think of when thinking of their ideal. And yes, my profile is really "me" to the degree I want published on a www site. JMO  | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/2/2009 12:02:02 AM | | Well my profile is 99.9% true as thats me,because if i wasnt then id be someone else.Also i am where i am,because if i wasnt id be somewhere else,so here i am. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:42:32 AM | recently i decided to look at what other guys my age had to write. i noticed they spent a lot of words describing the women they were seeking. the words they used to describe themselves were minimal and generic. one size fits all.
to me they sound like every other guy so i imagine that's what most women want to hear. if that's the case i'm not surprised some relationships on POF end with bitter posts on this forum. you really don't know what you're getting into until it's too late. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:35:05 PM | | I don't know if you ever placed or answered an ad in the newspaper personals section, but online where you get to post a picture and see other profiles with pictures on them, most people will go by looks alone as to whether they'll even message you or not, or respond to your messages or not. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:38:42 PM | | Assume that what you read online is fake. I mean I can tell you that my own profile is honest, but you really have no reason to trust me. I find that IM is a much better way to get to know someone online, followed by an exchange of e-mail. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/5/2009 8:32:47 PM | I've always dated the average looking guy. He does not have to have 6 pack abs.
I look at personality, someone who is more easygoing, laid back.
I may look slightly different from my profile. My pics are turning out a little dark, Plus, my natural hair color is a dirty, dishwater blonde. Anyone who sees me, my hair looks light blonde or a hint of red. I highlight it as I do not like the real color. I have hazel(green) eyes, which you can't see in the pic.
So, mostly character I look for. Some guy at work looked like Waldo (or Quagmire from Family Guy), I didn't care. He only outweighed me by 20 lbs and I am petite. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/6/2009 11:21:26 AM | Mine is 100% real.
I agree with the physical attraction but it isn't top priority on my list. I have dated cute women before that had a personality of a wall and have dated women who were not the best looking but were the best to be around and had a great time with but due to my inability to make the first move just ended up staying friends. But when I say friends first on my profile that is what I mean. I am divorced and got married for the wrong reasons. I just want to make sure that the next person I commit to that will be it. Truth is I hate dating but just want to meet someone with at least some of the interests that I have  | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/6/2009 12:05:18 PM |
Are the profiles Real or Fake
On this site, I'd say all the profiles are real. It's a free site, so I can't see any reason why the owners would need to create fake profiles.
Now on the pay sites (Yahoo, Match, etc) they do have clever tricks they use to get men to join and pay money. Any good looking woman who fills out a free profile or had a paid profile but ended it...they keep online. They do it to create the illusion that there are tons of good looking single women on the site, so you'll be enticed to pay money and join.
I was told many sites now won't let people in the "free profile" spot describe their ideal match. So if you're thinking of joining a pay site and notice most of the women haven't described what they want in a man, then chances are they're free profiles, and they'll never see an email from you...just messages of "someone emailed you! subscribe now and find out who."
is what is in your profile really what your looking for .. (which to me most people are looking for a good sense of humor) or are you looking for that 8 or 9 out of 10 man or woman even befor you give them a chance?
I'm a man, so I can't speak for women here, but I would say from my standpoint that IT DEPENDS. You will see many different types of women here:
* Women who are looking to meet men of most shapes and sizes to date them and possibly find love.
* Women looking just for male attention from emails, but never really intending to date anyone.
* Women who are looking to make male friends and see if it grows to more.
* Women who want to find love, but they want that long laundry list satisfied, so they'll hold out for that with the "I'll never settle" moniker.
* Women who say what they want and stand by it.
* Women who put up the stereotypical "I want a good guy" thing in their profile, but really hope he'll have a bad boy edge.
I remember when I posted a profile a while ago, I didn't really see clearly what I wanted in a female, mostly because I didn't want my profile to drive women away. I'd rather receive emails or email anyone I choose and thus not have them second guess anything on why. I figure if she's sensible and sane, she'll know I'm interested in her because I'm emailing her, so there won't be any doubts.
Good luck here, and try not to take any bad things that happen personally. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/6/2009 4:39:13 PM | | I would say that many of the profiles seem genuine on here. I agree with a lot of others who subscribe to the "photo reading" technique (never looking past the pics). Looks are important, sure... But, I care more about knowing if a person may be a real match for me and vice-versa. I leave my pics off. True, I don't get contacted as much as I may posting photos, but I seem to get contacted by the people who like what I have to say. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/6/2009 7:12:30 PM | Observer nailed it:
...average = slightly overweight... That's why I list my height and weight on my profile (oops, I think it got deleted on last re-write. FYI: 6'-02" 225#)
If I listed myself as other than "average", then I'd only show up on chubby-chaser searches.
And if you look around the Seattle area, being slightly over HWP is average.
That's my justification.
Oh, and I'll be making sure the height/weight is back on there on my next re-write.
-Bill | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/6/2009 9:30:31 PM | | I'm a short nerdy geek with a quirky sense of humor. My profile is real. I accept that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I'm assuming that's why this site is called Plenty Of Fish? | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/7/2009 8:12:22 AM | | There totally fake .I really dont get why women are on here .Think internet dating websites are like porn for men you look but you wouldnt want to live with a porn star!. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/7/2009 3:22:20 PM | | My pictures are real (the fur is fake) although I admit it was at a shoot I did for a friend who shots for Concordia U. They are not touched up and they show the real me. Of course when you take a picture from that angle and in b/w, everything looks good and you don't see how big my ass really is! lol. My profile is also real (albeit controversial). My picture tends to scare most people off because scammers use professional shots that they take from model and talent websites so I get a lot of hits but not many responses (and maybe 'cause they are not interested). According to stats 90% of the guys and 50% 0f women on dating sites are scammers using stolen profiles. How do I know, got scammed and then educated. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/8/2009 4:25:27 PM | | There seem to be a number of profiles posted by folks who havent logged in for months or years. I'm willing to believe they were real when posted, but what are they now? I would say that the owners of POF would have an interest in there not being any outright fake profiles, but on the other hand, the number of unvisited profiles inflates the total number and makes the site more appealing. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:12:16 PM | I wonder how many profiles her or on other dating sites are fake or are made up by scammers.
I have seen a few where there is a picture of a blonde woman, looks of a model. For example, on a few profiles, the info in the profile says she has black hair and is around 5'8" to 5'9" and around 115 pounds. That sounds like someone with a eating disorder.
I see this site as a tool to initiate a connection with a woman and begin communications, weither it is by instant messenger, email, telephone or in person... a means of using technology in this day and age... Just so happens to be a degree of fake profiles, or creepy ones hiding, lurking around out there behind a screen. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 5/8/2009 7:09:32 AM | | Google romance scams. There are websites that teach you how to find scammers, and have databases of known scammers including the pictures they use. You can also learn how to verify IP addresses. I have found one or two on POF, but this site is on the "trusted" list for most anti-romance scam sites. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 5/9/2009 10:45:48 PM | Wow, I'm amazed at the number of people who say they are fake but are still here. Are you picture chaser then? My profile is real, my pictures are real and current and show me doing some of my favorite things. The intent is to not mislead anyone. My profile is constantly evolving. At first I neglected to mention what I was looking for and not looking for because "advice" was that those things would turn away potential guys that I might get along great with. Time has shown that maybe I need to point out a few things so I don't waste YOUR time. I know it is long and a lot of guys don't read beyond a few sentences. Those are the guys who contact me and we are not good for each other. Had they read further, that would have been obvious.
Now, as for tall guys. Not terribly important but some women, myself included, love to get dressed up and wear those stilletos. We would rather not tower over our guys. The few guys my height preferred I not wear heels for that reason. I'm beyond the point of catering to this sort of sensitivity. If the guys is truly ok with me being taller in heels then I'm ok but more often than not, the guy has resorted to sulking or displaying a ridiculous amount of jealousy that served only to ruin the evening and ruin my opinion of him. Some women want to feel protected by their man and want him to be tall enough to do the job. Men like to protect. No problem there. If a few shorter women have said no, keep trying.
Back to the pictures issue. I used to not post any photos. I received emails detailing how I was just the guy's type but he needed a picture. After exchanging a few emails, positive ones at that, I would send a recent picture (one of those posted on my profile now) and promptly received a "not my type" or "not interested" response, or at times no response just ceased communication. What does that tell you? For all of the guys who complain that women are only after good looking men, I suggest you look within yourself. Two can play that game. I really could care less that the guy is handsome, just decent looking and not resembling my father. | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 5/10/2009 5:45:35 AM | OP:
No, this is not Brad Pitt. The pic is there as an experiment that directly relates to your question. Let me explain...
I am a 6'8" average looking man with a good job, solid financial health and many of the traits most women here claim to desire in a partner. My profile stated as such, along with many of my varied interests. However, I could not get one woman on this site to respond to my emails. Many looked at my profile (sometimes more than once), yet would not respond to me. Getting rather dejected by what I was experiencing, I changed my profile to what it is now along with a picture of Brad Pitt. Lo and behold, within 8 hours of making this change, multiple women sent me emails and one added me as a favourite. If you look at my "Brad" profile, you will see it is completely devoid of any interests nor hobbies and basically paints the women of POF is a poor light. The only thing I can find that attracted them to me was a picture of Brad Pitt. Unreal.
If you ask me, the women here are just as shallow and vapid as any group of college frat boys. Play into that fact and you may have better success than I did. I tried to be honest and it got me absolutely nowhere. No wonder most guys lie to women as much as they do. Being honest does not seem to get you anywhere with them on this site.
Best of luck,
"Brad" | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 5/10/2009 11:25:29 AM | I think it depends on the person. Some people are on the site for fun and are not really looking for someone or they just want to get revenge on an "X" of thiers!!!!
I consider myself very lucky. I met a beautiful and special women on this site..... Her profile holds nothing back and she is true to her word(s).....
I have had 6 back surgeries in the last two years and have an abnormal gait, people stare at me all the time, but my girl could care less how I walk!!!!! she cares about me for who I am......Not how I walk..... Like I said before I am the luckiest man alive to have her in my life!!!!!!
I truly have found my queen(s) she has an awesome daughter!!!!!
Babe, if you read this: Thanks for being you and being my Queen!!!!!
I hope you can find someone like I have , It will be the best time of your life!!!! | |
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| Dating websites Profiles, Fake or Real????
Posted: 5/10/2009 11:53:10 AM | | EyeoftheStorm - It's also quite possible that when you sharply pared down your profile, you removed whatever you had in it that was keeping the women from finding interest in you, not that only shallow ones are contacting you now. | |
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