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| Just wondering if anyone else finds that it's too easy to reject someone online Vs. live?
Posted: 9/18/2008 3:20:53 PM | but in my case I know I can get a better sense of whether or not I might have long term compatibility potential with them from a safe distance. That's why I like to hold off a bit until I think I have a feel for the 'real' person before I meet them. In some ways I can gauge a person better at a distance than I can when I'm sat next to them and possibly temporarily blinded by physical attraction
I'm not saying people should meet right away. But I don't think that people should wait TOO long to meet up either. When you wait a long time before meeting, then sometimes you can form an unrealistic fantasy image of the other person based on their photos, profiles, and email/phone conversations. When you finally meet up, the real image of the other person is often different than the fantasy image and you quickly lose interest. IMO meeting a person within 1-2 weeks is reasonable. | |
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| Just wondering if anyone else finds that it's too easy to reject someone online Vs. live?
Posted: 9/18/2008 4:48:34 PM | | I hear your concern. The fact about the online experience is attempting to contact others may have very few responses to inquiries, because its too easy today online to lack any decency and return response. Its true others look at a photo and read a few lines then easily dismiss, this is why there are so many single people unwilling to give themselves or others a chance. Live dates are preferable, be it at the gym, grocery store, hardware store, or online where you first meet. | |
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| Just wondering if anyone else finds that it's too easy to reject someone online Vs. live?
Posted: 9/18/2008 4:53:51 PM |
I'm not saying people should meet right away. But I don't think that people should wait TOO long to meet up either... IMO meeting a person within 1-2 weeks is reasonable.
I disagree. We are not at POF with the same goal. Look at all the categories. What is the rush in meeting so soon? In my experience at POF, those who rush are usually only interested in one thing. They have no desire to know about the person. There are exceptions of course.
But as I said, it all depends on why you are here. If you are looking for LTR or FWB or
intimate encounter, I really cannot comment. It is best to be honest on what you are after. And then set the time limit to meet. Expecting others who have different goals to meet your time limit is folly. | |
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| Just wondering if anyone else finds that it's too easy to reject someone online Vs. live?
Posted: 9/18/2008 5:16:37 PM | First of all......welcome to the Pond.
I think they should get rid rid of the word "profile" and use the
term.......fish/first impression. Being visual creatures the first
thing we notice is the pic anyway. Some of us go straight to IM at
that point while others choose to look at that "fish/first impression."
One thing about being able to do that is that often there are Red
Flags showing. (These red flags can also appear in Emails, IM's etc.)
I prefer to "opt out" at that point versus going through
a hassle. Obviously, this doesn't apply to everyone as you have demonstrated. | |
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| Just wondering if anyone else finds that it's too easy to reject someone online Vs. live?
Posted: 9/18/2008 5:27:42 PM | I'm noticing that it seems very easy for people to turn someone
away just by reading a few words on a profile and looking at a
couple of pictures than it is to actually turn someone away
while meeting live.
Obviously you choose people who you think would be compatible
with you to communicate with and vice versa.
For me personally, after I communicate with someone, I can't turn
them away without having experienced them live. For me, that's
the only way to get a better feel of attraction, chemistry and their
personality.
Geez, get a profile review. I read your profile and if I were a young woman, I know I wouldn't contact you because you don't want a model, yet you want to be one yourself? You say that when someone communicates with you, you won't turn them away, yet what if a woman that was 5' and weighed 300lbs. contacted you, you wouldn't turn them away...come on, that is bs with the way your profile reads. You could just mean that once you have contacted them though. Perhaps that is what you mean by communicate. It is ok for you not to respond to them, but them not you?
I do hope none of the women that work out at your gym read that they are just Barbies. I know that I didn't exercise at the gym with make-up on. It isn't good for the skin, it gets into your pores when they expand due to sweating. I can not imagine that these women all waste their money just to go there to stand around and look pretty.
This is the world of online dating. Read other threads on here about relationships gone wrong, dates gone wrong, meets gone wrong and maybe you will understand about getting to know someone a little before you actually meet.
P.S. DON'T FORGET ABOUT THE PROFILE REVIEW. | |
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| Just wondering if anyone else finds that it's too easy to reject someone online Vs. live?
Posted: 9/18/2008 5:34:22 PM | "I have actually run into a couple of people from POF completely
by accident
Strangely enough, it was the women who approached me because
they liked my look, started talking and even ended up seeing
one another.
I later told them that they rejected me online and they didn't
believe me LOL. I showed them the emails that were still stored,
and their jaw dropped LOL. They'd say something like, I don't
know what I was thinking to turn down a hottie like you!!"
Gee, I'm gonna call bull. This is my second time on POF since 2003. Since then I've only run into one person from online. Not only that, but you met each one within 30 days of sending an email that was rejected? Nope, not buying it. | |
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