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| A Date Tonight...would like that
Posted: 9/22/2008 3:54:29 PM | | Curls - isn't online vs. IRL totally facinating? Maybe that's what we are experiencing here, the disconnect. Maybe we'd all do better id we took online 101, not so amny miscommunications and disappointments. | |
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| A Date Tonight
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:00:07 PM | curls, you make a very good point.
in my post i was thinking of someone i know well, but my mind can always change about someone i don't know well. it's entirely possible that something can just click after several dates. maybe i see an appealing quality that i wasn't aware of until i knew him better, or i might catch a glimpse of a grin that somehow puts him in a whole new light
it hasn't happened yet....but i suppose it could change in the same manner with someone i already know! | |
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| A Date Tonight...would like that
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:17:08 PM | | Cindy I agree. IRL it seems most men are afraid to approach. I see them looking with interest, but it rarely goes farther than that. Here I get a fair amount of mail and IM interest. I think this format is easier for a lot of people. | |
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| A Date Tonight...would like that
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:25:30 PM | Yeah, and what does that mean??? One theory, and some data supports it, is that the socially inept or shy use online. But, I wonder, is that the average Joe shy, the psycho shy, or the lives in his own world shy? I know for the most part I hang at professional listsers and my gated women's group. The facination with these forums is a new one for me. Probably rather healthy....
Wow, OT - Date? what's that? | |
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| A Date Tonight
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:58:26 PM | | Since I am 45++, I know what I'm looking for in a relationship and what is an absolute deal-breaker. I've been on POF for close to 3 weeks now (yes, I know how short a time that is) and have been asked out a bit, and except for one person who I decided was not ready for even a dating relationship, I've stayed home....You can learn quite a lot from a person's IM's, and phone calls..Of course, alot of guys aren't going to spill all of their deep, dark secrets over a few phone calls, but I can get a sense if something is going to click or not..and so, for me, I'd rather stay home, visit friends, have a cappucino then suffer through a bad date...I just can't fake it and I don't enjoy making another person feel as if it just not happening--I'm sure I'll meet and date some guys who are compatible and I'm willing to wait--not too long--I'm coming at it from such a different direction now, its so much simpler than it was in my 20's and 30's..Being at peace with myself, being comfortable in my own skin..It took many yrs and I'm finally ready to enjoy life and a great relationship..And if it doesn't happen, I enjoy my own company! A | |
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| A Date Tonight
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:11:59 PM | You are absolutely correct. Why waste a moment of your valuable time? It's not being choosey; it's chemistry and it starts with conversing, likes and dislikes; etc. Hang in there; it will happen.
Sooner | |
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| A Date Tonight
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:54:54 PM | | I've been lucky. I haven't had a bad date. I've had some boring ones sure and ones where I knew I had nothing in common with the person, but not a bad one ever. I think my naturally positive attitude and ability to make most situations enjoyable plays a big part. | |
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