| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:56:48 AM | We have the capacity to hate someone without even knowing them...without even ever having met them. We judge people on first glance and have an aversion to them...we avoid them based on their appearance, style, manner of carrying themselves. We look at a resume and make a decision to their employability upon reading the words.
Yet.
We find it odd, frightening, sinister, impossible, improbable....to love on such a short notice.
This speaks volumes as to the nature of who we are and why there is so mych pain in the world.
We believe in the power of prayer but not in the power of love.
We are willing to jump out of airplanes but not to jump into love.
It isn't love which you have described in the aforementioned comments, but people with some personality disorders.
If a normal, well-grounded person says that they love you...why is that so bad? Life is too short to keep the world filled with hate. There are those of us that love unconditionally and don't expect anything in return. I'd rather love first and ask questions later. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 9:12:42 AM | your words truly make a person think, was a great answer.
but i think that about 99% of them that tell you that they love you
on first date, are either not secure with themselves or for sure looking to
get laid, and playing on insecure women who fall for those words.
i just am so suprised that grown men are still using these school boy
tactics to seduce a women into the bedroom. which causes us to distrust.
we have all been taking by the wrong person, you thought and hoped
would be the right one, to walk away feeling used and ashamed of yourself.
WELCOME TO THE SINGLE WORLD, UGHHHH!!! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 9:15:45 AM | love at first sight?! LOL! more like lust at first sight! how can you love someone you don't know anything about?
anywho...what do i think of it? he likes usin the word and doesn't find much depth behind the meaning of it. (not necessarily to get laid). | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 9:16:53 AM | We have the capacity to hate someone without even knowing them...without even ever having met them. We judge people on first glance and have an aversion to them...we avoid them based on their appearance, style, manner of carrying themselves. We look at a resume and make a decision to their employability upon reading the words.
Hear, hear. It's a sad world we live in, where we can have sex with almost anyone without the second thought, where we can hate complete strangers, but are not allowed to LOVE freely. Is this still very much a Victorian society, sexual revolution notwisthanding? Has prudishness moved from the physical plane to the emotional?
i think that about 99% of them that tell you that they love you
on first date, are either not secure with themselves
Which evolved, intelligent, thinking, feeling people often are, as are people in love... when we are in love, we are open, vulnerable, we start valuing other people above ourselves.. sometimes people we don't know very well... Not your self-sufficient, cool-headed, pragmatic American ideal
or for sure looking to get laid, and playing on insecure women who fall for those words.
LOL, this is the LEAST efficient technique, for getting laid. Don't you think so?
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 11:25:41 AM | Hi OP,i know this happens to men and women but if he told you he loves you on the first date,unless he has an alterior motive i would guess its just infatuation and you could have made a massive impression on him.
True and deep love takes time so i would not take it too seriously but i also dont think its a reason to run to the hills as many suggest.You can judge him over a longer period of time and maybe he might just surprise you.best wishes
Lustre | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 2:40:08 PM | I like what you said in your statement, sir Yes I have been told that by the special man that I am with now for three months that he loves me, I have ask more questions that I can handle, he said I ask millions of questoins to know if he's the right one, not to get your heart broken again.
Yes loves comes in many ways or forms He loves me just the way I am you don't have to change a person. Uncondionally Love is all that matters, and everything will work out. I am in this for Eternity, Love me till we die in each others arms.
God Bless
just have Faith!! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:53:16 PM |  Either The Guy was Trippen,Flustered,or he was attempting to LOCK YOU IN to a relationship, because unless he knew you very well or was into Remote Viewing, there is NO WAY he could be in a position to make such a statment... | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:58:09 PM | I am all for love on first date.. or any date.. or non-date... we need more love in this world... however, I think PROFESSING love when not prescribed by your society (be it Afgranistan or the USA) is a sign of either
- rebellion against the societal norms, or
- lack of understanding of these norms (probably a little aspergersy), or
- lack of self-control (perfectly acceptable in some cultures, but not this one)
You decide which one it is and whether you can deal with it!
My fantasy of a long time is what I call Love NSA. You know, you just love somebody a little bit, it's OK, no big deal, you are not going to have babies together or anything.. would not it be nice if we were like that? As it is, "I love you" is a very possessive statement, it means "Spend the rest of your life with ME, or feel guilty for my pain". A selfish and inconsiderate thing to say, no? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 3:43:49 PM | i am enjoying reading the different thoughts and opinions
on my question. i enjoy reading each and every post. sure
helps put some thought into things. keep your thoughts coming,
i read each one with an open mind. with things to learn from every one
of you that respond, thanks, from florida | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 3:55:51 PM | When I was in grade school, we would pass notes back and forth saying "I love you"... and every week or so, the object of our affection would be different.
I would say your date is on the same page. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 3:56:58 PM | This is where I tend to deviate from what some others around here
keep advising. Namely be honest and above all, just be yourself!
Well, I know from past experience that I can have feelings for a woman
way too soon! I don't even know exactly what those feelings are, but they
can seem to come out of the blue! Love, would be the best description for
it, although I know (now) that this clearly isn't the case.
So, a man has to initiate some measure of self control (which by the way,
is a trait that women find attractive in a man) and just keep his mouth shut! lol
If things work out, there will be lots of opportunity to utter those words! | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 4:02:04 PM | When I first met my husband he did't say he loved me on the first date but he and his friend drove me and several girlfriends home from a dance. It was very cold in the middle of winter and he walked me to my door. We ended up talking for several hours in the freezing cold and when he got back to the car he told his friend that I was the girl he would marry even though I was commited to another person at the time. We stayed married for over 35 years and sadly now are going through a divorce. Our marriage was good and I would do it over again.
Linda | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 5:18:50 PM | | Viking, if you love me now, you'll still love me in 20 years, so what's the rush? lol | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 5:47:00 PM | Christians believe that Jesus loved them so much that he died for them...they have no problems believing that...or that he answers their prayers...
But someone, in the flesh, here, now, in front of them...question their affection?
I don't understand it.
Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.
Love your neighbor as yourself.
Why can't we do this without ulterior motives of suspicion? Are we that jaded?
I hope you all can imagine the possibilities this brings to us...especially as Fish.
I'm saying, weed out the nuts and fruitcakes...ask some serious questions before meeting to weed them out...and if you KNOW the person is stable...why question their affection...especially if you have been chatting with them for a considerable length of time. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:26:00 PM | It does NOT mean they are looking for a quick piece, or they are desperate.
Love at first sight is a reality, rare maybe but a reality none the less.
Sorry, I could have let it pass if you'd added "necessarily" in your first sentence, but that statement was so poorly thought out I had to say something. How can you know what it means? How do you know the person saying it even has a grip on what love really is? Hearing that on a FIRST date from someone who's taking themselves seriously when they say it is creepy.
As far as love at first sight being a reality... maybe in hindsight. We've all heard how love "grows", right? Isn't expecting love on a first date like planting corn and expecting to harvest it that night? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2008 6:26:25 PM | | i agree with you run like the wind no only do men do this but i have had women tell me that they love and we never even met for the first date and it was not a man but a woman who showed up at my residence out of the blue.I had to call the authorities on her to get her to leave. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:04:57 AM | I met a lady in February 07 we had a wonderful weekend, I told her on the Sunday, I could fall for her in a big way and if it went well, I could marry someone just like her. I think it was the 4th or 5th date, that I told her that I think I was falling in Loved with her. She told me it was a strong word to use but it wasn't what she wanted at that time and for the next 8 months, I was pushed and pulled by a lady I knew I loved. A year after we first chatted and after not seeing her for 6 weeks or so, she got in touch with me and told me that I was everything she wanted and that she was sorry for messing me around. We met up on 23rd Feb of this year, had a great weekend, then 6 days later on 29th Feb she asked me to marry her. I was elated and overcome because she was all I ever wanted. Everyday we told each other on the phone on the net how much we loved each other.
I received a lovely message after I wrote a poem to her, it basically said. She couldn't wait to be Mrs Mark and reiterated that she was sorry for what she had put me through but no matter what happens we will see any problems through together! I love You so much.
We had our first real tiss in July and her family was hell bent on splitting us up but we held out. We saw her daughter married and we spent 4 days together, it was brilliant. but 4 days later she went out with her twin sister and and friends from work. I knew what was going to happen and it was down to peer pressure. She was curt with me and I asked had she met anyone whisch she denied continuously. However, a week later on the Saturday her daughter contacted me and told me, her mother had gone out on a date, I was gutted. When I got to speak with her, she still denied it but I pushed and she said, "he is everything she'd been looking for, tall dark slim and she loved him". He is 37 and 8 years her junior. Everything she wanted tall dark, she had me and three other guys, shave our heads? The last couple of days I received a photo of me and her at her daughters wedding, she contacted saying she she likes it and asked what I thought? I told her I like it, we chatted for a few miutes and then said she was getting upset? When I asked her why she was upset, she replied she had feelings? I asked, feelings of guilt? She replied "no", I asked feelings of Love and she wouldn't answer. I am now in turmoil??
The point is, this lady has now spurned me three times and claimed each guy was all that she was looking for and that she loved them within a day or so of meeting them. How can it be so, a woman can say she loves someone so soon but if a man says it, he is a stalker or a sad person. I fell for her but fell in love after meeting 4 or 5 times and chatting for hours online and on the phone. I now feel this lady is a player who is just out to wreck any mans head?? | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:04:11 AM | someone said that to me the once, i was like Twat.....
seriousley,
i mean the guy dosent even know you......
so if he dont know you, what does he love abut you? | |
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Posted: 9/17/2008 5:27:08 AM | Have you thought that he really likes you - Its just possible He Loves what he knows about you, I have told a lady i love her on a first date, as i was so taken with her, no, sex wasnt on the table it was my expression of my feelings for her, we had spent most of the day together and went back to her place for something to eat - nothing more!
We spent the next three months together and sadly parted due to the unreasonable behaviour of her son. Ladies generally want a man to be sensitive but are scared when someone opens up so soon. I wear my heart on my sleeve - thats just the way i am, or would you prefer i was cagey and gave nothing away?
My advice would be to see how things go, and if it feels right, there should be no problem, I rely on gut feeling and believe me it serves me well.
Good Luck | |
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Posted: 9/17/2008 5:34:54 AM | | I fell in love once at the end of a four hour date.... I wan't in love when he walked through the door.....but by the time he left I was..... he was so open so honest.. and so much fun.......I could have told him I love him them..... but I waited.. not long a few weeks ot a month maybe to tell him about my over whelming feelings..... We lived together 3 years | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:39:48 AM |
He is in love with the thought of being in love. You can be in lust at first sight, but to truly fall in love you have to know the other person. You don't know someone in a couple of hours, and certainly not by just looking at them. You don't know anything about the real person inside... what they like and don't like, what makes them tick, what their moods are like, how they interact with others, all the nuances that make us each an individual. That doesn't happen instantly and sometimes it never happens, no matter how long you know each other. I would be very leery if a man told me he was in love with me right away. How can you love someone you don't even know?
perfectly said Fourm Filly. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:45:28 AM | If anyone does that, it just shows emotional immaturity.
It's the sort of thing you just don't say on a first date, even if you think it's true! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2008 1:47:01 PM | | God tell my ex she is emotionally inmature. I just have she said I was jealous??? Of what her being hoodwinked by a prat who tells her she looked 27. He must have had one too many?? cos she definitely looks 40 even though she is 45!! lol | |
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