| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 2:37:17 AM | thank you hiker on you thoughts
actually he has been contacting me. so i think that i will see where
these may go. i am attracted to him.
and no we have not gone to bed either.
and he is still here.
so hmmm, maybe i will just give this just a little more thought before
i make a fast dart out, will keep you posted,
bye for now in florida | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 3:26:45 AM | I would find it flattering but, then i think of all the times I believed love was real and it was not and would want to tell the guy to shut up. I mean I have met at least a hundred liars inbetween and have compromised way to much in relationships so......I would just give them a blank stare and say "oh how sweet". If someone loves you they need to have PATIENCE and understand it takes time to gain a persons trust, ecspecially in a man/woman relationship.  | |
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scriba
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Joined: 6/11/2008
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:39:24 AM | | Oh yea he just wants to get some. I'm 23 and I'm living proof men use this line to soften a girl up and that women will still fall for it! you don't have to feel it too they just want you to believe it so they can use you and abuse you and toss you out when they're done! Men suck and women tend to be gulliuble. Men use the line cause they all know women really want to find that someone! | |
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Joined: 6/7/2008
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:48:29 AM | There's not one knucklehead on this post who has love figured out, or you wouldn't be on POF.  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:12:32 AM | | I've had it happen to me, were a woman would tell me she love me on the first date. And again, i mayself have said it within a matter weeks. So, i have experiance both sides and my answer would be yes, meaning its a combination of feeling, but the love is real. My advise in the Love department is, 1) have a phyiscal attraction, 2) develop trust 3) then connect on a spiriual level. and the final and to some most important, that is sex. I beleive any one of the four can have the feeling of love. aThe hard part in most relationships is having all the combination in both partern's. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 11:10:05 AM | i enjoyed reading your response, and love the input from a male perspective, and well put by the way:
(1) attraction is for sure there
(2) communication for sure there
(3) to early to tell about trust (gave me NO doubts yet)
(4) and i look forward to the future , with intimacy to come
thank you every one, on your thoughts and opionions,
each email gives me food for thought, tyvm from florida | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:15:17 PM | What you feel like if u were my first date and I said "ur okay" and not say "I love you". How would you feel if I said that?, it's just some people are just trying to get laid, but theres also people who aren't like that.
You cannot just think like (I can't get the one I want, so I just try with this person), do u know what I mean?
I just say that you have to tell "I love you", or else she will think that you are like a person who looks at you like you were a toy in this world......
Don't have more to say...
Love, Kaka | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:42:20 PM | | Even if there was a slim possibility that it is true and someone actually fell in love with someone on a first date, why in their right mind would they actually say anything? Seriously, i don't think it takes that much common sense to realize that that is an f'd up thing to say under the circumstances. I can't see that line working even on the dimmest of stars... | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:50:38 PM |
"There's not one knucklehead on this post who has love figured out, or you wouldn't be on POF. "
That's a rather prejudicial thing to say...and insulting as well.
I am the primary caregiver for my grandmother so getting out frequently to join groups, causes, activities to meet others is rather difficult to do at this time. This affords me a way to communicate and lay the groundwork for possible future relationships for which it would normally be impossible for me to do and THEN take my precious outside-time for dating...instead of searching.
Besides, I'd rather get to know someone from the inside out first.
Love, as in life, is a set of infinite possibilities...you need only look for opportunities for growth and adventure. | |
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Joined: 4/19/2008
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 1:07:12 PM | LOVE IS: "Quality Attention in Action"
The kind of quality, the kind of attention and in action daily that makes one feel loved by another human being.
It's a new definition of LOVE - a descriptive definition of love.
We all need attention - even teenagers will act out to get negative attention - better than none they think.
Wouldn't it be better to have the kind of attention you need from a mate.
This is something you need to decide for yourself and express to the people in your life.
Maybe you want flowers once a week to feel appreciated.
Why don't men give women flowers to women anymore?
Maybe you need a hug, or the garbage taken out, or sex everyday.
Your kind of attention given to you.
. . . . . . . . and you need to ask what kind of attention your date, man, significant other needs from you.
Remember "it's not what they say - it's what they do!" | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 1:13:50 PM | This is so true most of the time well I've been seeing this man for two months I known him for a couple of years. But we just hookedup and now we are sopose to be boyfriend and girlfriend but he likes to go out on his own. I dont like it but I think he is just playing me we seen each other everyday for almost two weeks nonstop I told him your going to get tired of me he said no I wont and he asked me did I love him. I said I like you alot he wants me to live with him me and my son but I think its to soon. I want him to be the one but I dont know ? He is diffrent from when we were dateing this happend as soon as I sleeped with him . I dont know what to do he dont call as he used too. He is not all that I've had alot better Im not saying Im the best looking thing out there but I do turn alot of heads but its hard to pick the one . Im 37 I want to settel down and get merried. This guy told me he wanted to be my husband but I think is bull when we go out we drink but he does not know when to stop. I have to babysit him. He tells me he loves me but I cant tell him back I dont think he knows what love is he told me he does not want to grow old alone but the way things are I think he is. I also dont want to be alone but if I do at leat I have my 3 year old son he is my like . So what do men know about love . I never ask for nothing like alot of women do I cant thats not me .  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:53:59 PM | OP, this has actually happened to me three times and none of them turned out well. Yes, maybe people do fall in love at first sight, but in my experience that is not the case. Let me give you my run down:
1. First guy=married and divorced three times/dropped me when I did not say "I love you" back. I explained that it takes more time for me. He did not want to wait around for me to fall in love with him.
2. Second guy=committmentphobe/he said "I love you" to every woman he met. He got off on toying with women. Dropped me for another woman.
3. Third guy=hadn't been in a relationship in three years/he thought he was going to die alone so he clung to me for dear life. He was very insecure and called me non-stop. It was very scary, but he left me alone.
Bottom line-I don't believe it. Most of the "I love yous" that happen that quickly do not work out. Sure, there is a one chance in a million the guy is sane and sure of himself, but in my experience that has never been the case.
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:17:12 PM | well me being a hopeless romantic, I think its possible. I believe in love at first sight and it has happen to me once. SO, yes it can happen and on the other hand A guy theses days just about say anything to get laid, or it could be they wanted to be in a relationship/ love and is in love with the idea of being in love.. does that makes sense?  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:30:23 PM |
what does it mean when a man tells you that he thinks he loves you on first date?
he is just looking to get laid?
He's either socially backward and desperate, a control-freak ('Sleeping with the Enemy') or SO looking to get laid! lol | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:38:16 PM | | From seeing the first couple posts, I think a lot of people are missing a big point. I would totally say I love you on the first date...not because I want to get laid, not because I'm desperate, and not because of love at first sight. I'd say it simply because I love the people I meet no matter what, in a non-romantic way. It's just my nature to be overly warm and friendly. But when I do say I love you and mean that I'm in love with you, you'll know because it sounds different. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2008 9:41:28 PM | I would think he didn't know the meaning of the word love and was meaning lust. Rather creepy anyway you try to analyse it. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2008 10:14:18 PM | | He is needy as hell...run. It takes months to get to know someone so getting laid or needy would be my best guess. NOT GOOD. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/19/2008 10:08:17 AM | The guy is just looking to get laid, plain and simple. I dont care how you look at it. Its all about getting laid to that person and then its time......RUN! | |
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Posted: 9/19/2008 10:44:08 AM | | clearly there is something wrong with him if he is doing that on the first so run and run fast! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:03:59 AM | Ravishingrenee,
it can mean a few things
1) if he says "I love you" on the first date he probably uses that often to get woman.
2) he can be desperate longing to be in a relationship
3) wanting to be loved by someone..
4) he just wants to be in love with someone..
5) saying he loves you .. a guy knows that makes woman weak in the knees lol ( well cant speak for everyone ) so maybe him saying that to you he will get what he wants..
I dont think it's quite possible to be in love with someone after the first date but me being a hopeless romantic I do believe in love at first sight.. it can happen.. he might be in love of the sight of you or ideal of you.. my suggest to you is follow what your heart tells you.. but i will say it's not a good sign maybe you should run like hell but it's all in what you want.. take care and wish you the best
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:57:05 PM | I have to agree...It isn't personal...doesn't mean you are not wonderful, but...
LIKE THE OTHER GUY SAID.....RUN LIKE THE WIND!!! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 11/16/2008 9:40:23 AM | Gone are the golden ages of film, where love at first sight does still happen. It's a rare thing now, but it could still happen.
Call me a romantic.
When some one says "I love you" on the first date, be it man or woman it could mean many things, just like everyone has stated. It's difficult to not to be cynical when someone says something so profoundly emotional on the first meet; especially if it's a blind date, meaning there was no prior communication.
It's nice to feel that someone could fall in love after only one date.
Some things to consider before "Blowing this guy off":
1) How long have you two communicating prior to meeting ?
2) How long into the date was the statement made? Was it immediate, or towards the end?
3) How was it said? Tone of voice, body language.
4) What do your instincts tell you?
5) How do you feel about the individual, what's the chemistry like?
However, having said that, just because 'it" is said doesn't make it true. If your dates means what he says, then spending time together, getting to know and understand each other better should be good enough for now. There is no rush to jump into bed, not until you are feeling comfortable with it. Spending time together will reveal his true intentions.
Good luck,
Slappy01 | |
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