| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:27:08 AM | Have you thought that he really likes you - Its just possible He Loves what he knows about you, I have told a lady i love her on a first date, as i was so taken with her, no, sex wasnt on the table it was my expression of my feelings for her, we had spent most of the day together and went back to her place for something to eat - nothing more!
We spent the next three months together and sadly parted due to the unreasonable behaviour of her son. Ladies generally want a man to be sensitive but are scared when someone opens up so soon. I wear my heart on my sleeve - thats just the way i am, or would you prefer i was cagey and gave nothing away?
My advice would be to see how things go, and if it feels right, there should be no problem, I rely on gut feeling and believe me it serves me well.
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:34:54 AM | | I fell in love once at the end of a four hour date.... I wan't in love when he walked through the door.....but by the time he left I was..... he was so open so honest.. and so much fun.......I could have told him I love him them..... but I waited.. not long a few weeks ot a month maybe to tell him about my over whelming feelings..... We lived together 3 years | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:39:48 AM |
He is in love with the thought of being in love. You can be in lust at first sight, but to truly fall in love you have to know the other person. You don't know someone in a couple of hours, and certainly not by just looking at them. You don't know anything about the real person inside... what they like and don't like, what makes them tick, what their moods are like, how they interact with others, all the nuances that make us each an individual. That doesn't happen instantly and sometimes it never happens, no matter how long you know each other. I would be very leery if a man told me he was in love with me right away. How can you love someone you don't even know?
perfectly said Fourm Filly. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:45:28 AM | If anyone does that, it just shows emotional immaturity.
It's the sort of thing you just don't say on a first date, even if you think it's true! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/17/2008 1:47:01 PM | | God tell my ex she is emotionally inmature. I just have she said I was jealous??? Of what her being hoodwinked by a prat who tells her she looked 27. He must have had one too many?? cos she definitely looks 40 even though she is 45!! lol | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 2:37:17 AM | thank you hiker on you thoughts
actually he has been contacting me. so i think that i will see where
these may go. i am attracted to him.
and no we have not gone to bed either.
and he is still here.
so hmmm, maybe i will just give this just a little more thought before
i make a fast dart out, will keep you posted,
bye for now in florida | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 3:26:45 AM | I would find it flattering but, then i think of all the times I believed love was real and it was not and would want to tell the guy to shut up. I mean I have met at least a hundred liars inbetween and have compromised way to much in relationships so......I would just give them a blank stare and say "oh how sweet". If someone loves you they need to have PATIENCE and understand it takes time to gain a persons trust, ecspecially in a man/woman relationship.  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:39:24 AM | | Oh yea he just wants to get some. I'm 23 and I'm living proof men use this line to soften a girl up and that women will still fall for it! you don't have to feel it too they just want you to believe it so they can use you and abuse you and toss you out when they're done! Men suck and women tend to be gulliuble. Men use the line cause they all know women really want to find that someone! | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:48:29 AM | There's not one knucklehead on this post who has love figured out, or you wouldn't be on POF.  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:12:32 AM | | I've had it happen to me, were a woman would tell me she love me on the first date. And again, i mayself have said it within a matter weeks. So, i have experiance both sides and my answer would be yes, meaning its a combination of feeling, but the love is real. My advise in the Love department is, 1) have a phyiscal attraction, 2) develop trust 3) then connect on a spiriual level. and the final and to some most important, that is sex. I beleive any one of the four can have the feeling of love. aThe hard part in most relationships is having all the combination in both partern's. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 11:10:05 AM | i enjoyed reading your response, and love the input from a male perspective, and well put by the way:
(1) attraction is for sure there
(2) communication for sure there
(3) to early to tell about trust (gave me NO doubts yet)
(4) and i look forward to the future , with intimacy to come
thank you every one, on your thoughts and opionions,
each email gives me food for thought, tyvm from florida | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:15:17 PM | What you feel like if u were my first date and I said "ur okay" and not say "I love you". How would you feel if I said that?, it's just some people are just trying to get laid, but theres also people who aren't like that.
You cannot just think like (I can't get the one I want, so I just try with this person), do u know what I mean?
I just say that you have to tell "I love you", or else she will think that you are like a person who looks at you like you were a toy in this world......
Don't have more to say...
Love, Kaka | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:42:20 PM | | Even if there was a slim possibility that it is true and someone actually fell in love with someone on a first date, why in their right mind would they actually say anything? Seriously, i don't think it takes that much common sense to realize that that is an f'd up thing to say under the circumstances. I can't see that line working even on the dimmest of stars... | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 12:50:38 PM |
"There's not one knucklehead on this post who has love figured out, or you wouldn't be on POF. "
That's a rather prejudicial thing to say...and insulting as well.
I am the primary caregiver for my grandmother so getting out frequently to join groups, causes, activities to meet others is rather difficult to do at this time. This affords me a way to communicate and lay the groundwork for possible future relationships for which it would normally be impossible for me to do and THEN take my precious outside-time for dating...instead of searching.
Besides, I'd rather get to know someone from the inside out first.
Love, as in life, is a set of infinite possibilities...you need only look for opportunities for growth and adventure. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 1:07:12 PM | LOVE IS: "Quality Attention in Action"
The kind of quality, the kind of attention and in action daily that makes one feel loved by another human being.
It's a new definition of LOVE - a descriptive definition of love.
We all need attention - even teenagers will act out to get negative attention - better than none they think.
Wouldn't it be better to have the kind of attention you need from a mate.
This is something you need to decide for yourself and express to the people in your life.
Maybe you want flowers once a week to feel appreciated.
Why don't men give women flowers to women anymore?
Maybe you need a hug, or the garbage taken out, or sex everyday.
Your kind of attention given to you.
. . . . . . . . and you need to ask what kind of attention your date, man, significant other needs from you.
Remember "it's not what they say - it's what they do!" | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 1:13:50 PM | This is so true most of the time well I've been seeing this man for two months I known him for a couple of years. But we just hookedup and now we are sopose to be boyfriend and girlfriend but he likes to go out on his own. I dont like it but I think he is just playing me we seen each other everyday for almost two weeks nonstop I told him your going to get tired of me he said no I wont and he asked me did I love him. I said I like you alot he wants me to live with him me and my son but I think its to soon. I want him to be the one but I dont know ? He is diffrent from when we were dateing this happend as soon as I sleeped with him . I dont know what to do he dont call as he used too. He is not all that I've had alot better Im not saying Im the best looking thing out there but I do turn alot of heads but its hard to pick the one . Im 37 I want to settel down and get merried. This guy told me he wanted to be my husband but I think is bull when we go out we drink but he does not know when to stop. I have to babysit him. He tells me he loves me but I cant tell him back I dont think he knows what love is he told me he does not want to grow old alone but the way things are I think he is. I also dont want to be alone but if I do at leat I have my 3 year old son he is my like . So what do men know about love . I never ask for nothing like alot of women do I cant thats not me .  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:53:59 PM | OP, this has actually happened to me three times and none of them turned out well. Yes, maybe people do fall in love at first sight, but in my experience that is not the case. Let me give you my run down:
1. First guy=married and divorced three times/dropped me when I did not say "I love you" back. I explained that it takes more time for me. He did not want to wait around for me to fall in love with him.
2. Second guy=committmentphobe/he said "I love you" to every woman he met. He got off on toying with women. Dropped me for another woman.
3. Third guy=hadn't been in a relationship in three years/he thought he was going to die alone so he clung to me for dear life. He was very insecure and called me non-stop. It was very scary, but he left me alone.
Bottom line-I don't believe it. Most of the "I love yous" that happen that quickly do not work out. Sure, there is a one chance in a million the guy is sane and sure of himself, but in my experience that has never been the case.
Keep your eyes open. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:17:12 PM | well me being a hopeless romantic, I think its possible. I believe in love at first sight and it has happen to me once. SO, yes it can happen and on the other hand A guy theses days just about say anything to get laid, or it could be they wanted to be in a relationship/ love and is in love with the idea of being in love.. does that makes sense?  | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:30:23 PM |
what does it mean when a man tells you that he thinks he loves you on first date?
he is just looking to get laid?
He's either socially backward and desperate, a control-freak ('Sleeping with the Enemy') or SO looking to get laid! lol | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:38:16 PM | | From seeing the first couple posts, I think a lot of people are missing a big point. I would totally say I love you on the first date...not because I want to get laid, not because I'm desperate, and not because of love at first sight. I'd say it simply because I love the people I meet no matter what, in a non-romantic way. It's just my nature to be overly warm and friendly. But when I do say I love you and mean that I'm in love with you, you'll know because it sounds different. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:41:28 PM | I would think he didn't know the meaning of the word love and was meaning lust. Rather creepy anyway you try to analyse it. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:14:18 PM | | He is needy as hell...run. It takes months to get to know someone so getting laid or needy would be my best guess. NOT GOOD. | |
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