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| i love you on first date
Posted: 11/16/2008 10:37:05 AM | If he were your soul mate and if this were love at first sight, you would know it.
Do I smell a bunny cooking? | |
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varune
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 11/16/2008 1:06:33 PM | I agree, from a man on the first date, it sounds desperate, and not genuine.
i had a situation when a girl asked me "do you love me?" on the 3rd date... I was also taken aback. We hit it off really well, but i was surprised at the same time, and I like her, but I think saying I love her at that time would be lying. In that situation it's not desperate, it's just the lady wants to let you know she values commitment very much. | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 11/16/2008 9:49:08 PM | Haha, I've been single long enough to respect those words, so it leads me to think there's certainly a threshold after which desperation fades. I, for one, would like for the next woman I say it to know that she's it.. that when the words come out, I have no intention of ever saying to anyone after her.
But perhaps I'm putting too much pressure on the phrase, when apparently so many people throw it about this freely? Who knows. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2008 10:14:57 PM | I love you all, please marry me?
i will kill myself if you refuse my proposal... hahaha | |
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Posted: 11/17/2008 11:31:53 AM | this touched me .you know when it hits you .you almost cant swallow . its not about sex .its not about looks.its pure emotion running wild.just had a gal do that to me .im 51 years old only had it happen 3 times in my life.sure is tuf to get that arrow out.Ron | |
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Posted: 11/17/2008 5:00:43 PM | In most cases it truely does mean they say this so a woman will feel like melting butter and fall into the bed ,But there are rare cases to that some are honest !
I have seen a few peep's I know personnaly do so , but I will never pull it myself again. | |
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Posted: 11/17/2008 5:01:47 PM | | sorry dude my mamma also told me that small minds also have small weenies . | |
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Posted: 11/17/2008 6:23:49 PM | | Love at first sight is most certainly real. My boo and I fell in love at first sight and are now engaged and getting married in 2010. You have to feel that special chemistry. There is nothing like it! It's AMAZING!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/17/2008 7:19:39 PM | | No one can be in love on a first date you haven't anything to love yet you don't know the person. The most you may feel is attraction. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 10:39:30 AM | Never run from true love just run from fake love.That is what her situation sounds like. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 10:46:08 AM | | Not all men are stalkers just the physco ones.That is why you talk by phone or write to them first. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 1:15:51 PM | Indeed I mean "I Love" your taste in music,"I love" your sense of style but "I love" you.........Um check please! | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 5:25:11 PM | | I had that happen to me, and although I didn't know it at the time, its a classic sign of sociopathic behavior. No one can possibly love someone they've just met after the first date, but sociopaths are adept at adapting to every situation, and they lie without batting an eyelash. I'd run like heck! (It took me 6 years to learn that lesson--please don't make my mistake...) | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 6:46:00 AM |
what does it mean when a man tells you that he thinks he loves you on first date?
That he is SCARY  !!!!!!!!!! Run away...run very far away! Oh, and don't sleep with them....you may never get rid of them.... | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:55:19 AM | Oh oh oh>>>I love this question lol
Ok, first of all he said "he THINKS he loves you" aw well ok then, he's just exploring the option of really getting to know you....at least he's not sitting there looking for the back door of an open cage just incase this date doesn't pan out. I wouldn't run away just yet...if you get the chance check his medicine cabinet for a bottle of Lithium...if he's bipolar then you may want to run, lol...because he's pulling you into his little fantasy world and more than likely he hasn't been taking his meds.
In either case keep an arms length away until YOU get to know him. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 2:15:59 PM | I had that happen to me, and although I didn't know it at the time, its a classic sign of sociopathic behavior. No one can possibly love someone they've just met after the first date, but sociopaths are adept at adapting to every situation, and they lie without batting an eyelash. I'd run like heck! (It took me 6 years to learn that lesson--please don't make my mistake...)
MissyDee at least you learnt the first time lol it's happened to me twice, lol...only thing was I chose to ignore the yellow flags the second time around...and yes every little lie they told led up to the biggest lie of all....that they are so mentally unstable without proper medication. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 2:24:35 PM | | It means "Run Forrest Run" this sounds like desperation or desperation for some either way.... just think about how many people he may have said this to?!!! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2009 2:23:33 AM | lol, i thought this post was funny, i just love how many people jump on the red flag bandwagon, this probably why people have so much trouble finding someone, people fill their heads with people being players users and abusers, good times we live in, and people say world peace will never happen ! xD
anyways, ive been in the situation, and been the one putting someone in the situation.
i met a really awsome lady a couple summers ago, i asked her out, she had to think about it
she said yes one day, so we dated we never met before then, but i liked what i saw, we had such a great time on our date, we was laughing when she slipped out an i love you, startled me a little, i asked why she said that, she said im just a great person, she was struck the minute i picked her up, needless to say we dated for almost a year, well we never really had a discussion about children and marriage, but i wanted all that...
well it started coming up and we discussed it, she never really wanted that, but meeting me made her change her mind, i was flattered but worried that she may change her mind again, so i mentioned that to her, she was open and honest about it, she let me know that it is possible she will change her mind again, she doesnt want to but shes never really wanted it to begin with, i stopped being worried cause of how honest she was...
well a month later one day she called me asked me to come over, i did i dont naturally assume the worst so i wasnt thinking much of it, we sat down next to eachother, she grabbed my hand and said ive been thinking this last month, and i just cant see myself being a mother or wife, i was a little shocked ofcourse, she asked me if that was ok, i thanked her honesty, and asked if it was the giving birth thing she didnt want or children at all, she let me know it was actually having children i was 18 so the actual having children thing wasnt a BIG concern..
i asked her if she thinks she will ever want that and she actually started to cry, said as much as she wants to want it, she doesnt think she will ever, i hugged her gave her a kiss, and let her know i loved her, but i told her what im wanting is to be able to come home to my kids and sit down to dinner with my wife she knew this was the end, and we parted on good terms now best of friends she still doesnt want them 2 years later so i did make a good call
but the fact is, love is there even on a first date...
now with me doing this on the other hand
last year, i was talking to this gal online for 2 months, we finally decided to meet, and low and behold i was the one who slipped out the i love you, she was freaked out and did just what people are advising you to do, RUN i messaged her 1 time, asking if it freaked her out, and if so i was sorry my feelings slipped out through my mouth, her only response back was, i will be blocking you now dont try to contact me...
so i didnt, does that make me a stalker/desperate, absolutely not ive not had a moment of love desperation, nor do i have a history of being a stalker the heart wants what it wants, not always everyone feels the same, some run for the hills it happens, the best advise people could give you is to let him know if you dont feel the same that you dont right now, but your flattered he does and still want to continue dating | |
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| i love you on first date
Posted: 1/1/2009 4:52:11 AM | Well, at least you were on a date. Recently, I had a man tell me that he loves me on the phone! We hadn't even met. He lives in another state. So, meeting him was not an immediate option. He proceeded to cyber-stalk me for days. Eventually, he got lost after I ignored his gazillion emails. Now, I'm hesitant about giving out my home email address or phone number. Which is a whole other topic.
I'd be suspicious if a man told me that he loves me on a first date. He's infatuated with with the way that he believes you to be. Once reality sets in and he discovers you have flaws like any other person, he may get disenchanted as quickly as he became enchanted. It can turn out to be a case of "easy come, easy go." I'd be very cautious. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2009 7:37:59 AM | That statement o n a first date.......to me its dose mean there is motives, hidden agenda,
are a quick piece , IT IS A RED FLAG TO ME. If they dont have any more respect than to throw around the words, then to me the'll say anything to get what they want.
Its different if they where to say...Hay I like you and Id like to get together again.
But I LOVE YOU.....JEEEESE GET REAL | |
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Posted: 1/6/2009 12:21:57 AM | Kays... This is just my humble word placed into this topic...
So here we go... There are degrees to LOVE. I have talked with people and I instantly clicked with them. Sooo if I was attracted to them from the first date... isn't that a 'seed' of love? From the moment that seed is planted, love can grow and flourish even stronger. Or... that seed falls onto desolute soil and can wither. Sometimes the seed can even fall on good soil and grow strong... but the seed does not yield romantic roses but daisies.
That's my philosophical part of things...
The other point... I'd look at saying 'I love you' as a big price to pay. If it's so TABOO then well, wouldn't it mean a lot if the person did say something so meaningful. They're taking a risk in the possibility that they will be 'red flagged' and be labeled as a stalker. Give them a slight chance...
But I am aware there are ... not so honest people in this world. I've had my fair share of them. So yes.. sometimes THE 3 WORDS are a red flag... but not always... | |
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jsbb5
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