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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 9:11:31 AM | Am I afraid of dying some day? Yes.
Do I let it ruin my life? No! It makes me wanna live life to the fullest.
I hope that helps draw a parallel as to dating, finding a partner, how and why, etc! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 11:52:52 AM | | Worry? Not any more. Affraid? Maybe a little. It is definitely a possibility, and it makes me sad sometimes. However, I've learned to enjoy what I have in the present, and will make the best of my life even if I am old and alone. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 11:54:34 AM | OP: I don't lose sleep over this. However, I do not want to grow old alone. That would be sad for anyone.
I have hope that I will meet "him"...................... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:17:27 PM | | ^^^Not really...women are more active with cultivating relationships outside an SO/spouse than men are, and we continue to do so well into our older years, so we have more company around us even if we remain single. Not real hard to figure out. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:18:11 PM | I have worried about this for the longest time.....I've been divorced for 22 years and have not dated much at all due to raising three children alone...They are grown and for the last couple of years I keep thinking who will be sitting beside me in a rocking chair watching the sun rise and fall.....only when I was not busy taking care of other people did I realize how lonely I felt....
And finding a soulmate, that special someone takes time and energy....don't settle for less....I did and stayed in a marriage that never completed me....My motto: I'd rather be alone by myself then be alone with someone.....
So worry yes....I'll join you on that journey....but I'll also look ahead....Good Luck! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:21:44 PM | I've been alone for 37+ years, even when I was married and had a child.
I've been in and out of dozens upon dozens of relationships and I've never once had that feeling of connection with someone when you FEEL like you're PART of something, like you MEAN something to someone. I thought I found that once, but I was mistaken.
I have no doubt I'll die alone too. I don't worry about it, because I've accepted it. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:29:19 PM | rjc97vette: "Women who say very seriously that they could be content alone for the rest of their lives. Very odd to me."
I find this odd too. As much as I love my life now, I do want someone in my life. I do not want to grow old alone.
We have our health/youth now , but this is not guaranteed "forever". I don't want to depend on my friends (who will inevidably have their own spouses/families or my family).
Ideally, my life partner and I will grow together and take care of one another! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 1:23:45 PM | I've always been a loner and I always have. I just naturally flock to the life of solitude. I can't say I enjoy living my life as the only entity in my every day routine (Well, besides my cat - she'd be pissed if she knew I wasn't counting her), but I can't say I haven't thought of spending the rest of my life alone.
Yes, I know, I'm only 23 years old. But in those 23 years, and compared to how much I've been exposed to people as well as my isolationist tendancies, I've met relatively few people. And I've considered the prospect of living alone the rest of my life as something I can tolerate. To be honest, if I lost my virginity and had my fair share of sex, I think I'd survive alone. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:20:27 PM | I was wondering if other people worry about growing old alone.
When I've told people I don't want kids, I've had more than a few ask me, "Aren't you worried about being alone when you're old?" My response to that mentality is that if nobody else wants to hang out with you when you're old, what makes you think your family will want to?
Since I expect the sexual urges to taper off in old age, I'm not sure that what a spouse has to offer couldn't be mostly satisfied between a good friend and a cat. Sure, it would be nice to have that spouse but I know I'll never be alone. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:29:48 PM | Worry about it? Not really. I have enough to keep me occupied in life.
Sometimes get a little sad that I may never feel all those special feelings for someone again, or wake up in the morning to see a face that I love beside me.
But I have to admit that I prefer that prospect to one where I wake up every morning with someone I don't want to be with. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 2:41:54 PM | BASICALLY IM GOIN TO TELL YOU THIS THE WORLD IS MOVING DAY BY DAY BECAUSE OF GRAVITY.GRAVITY CONTROLS YOU AND WHAT GOES UP MUST COME DOWN.MEANING GRAVITY WILL PULL TO THAT PERSON JUST LIKE YOU.IM GOIN TO LEAVE IT AT THAT.THUMBS | |
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Joined: 8/2/2008
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 3:10:55 PM | I am happy with myself and there is no fear to feel alone or cross the border of death.
We all are individuals before being a couple, and there is no such thing as I belong to you and you belong to me too... we can't fuse as one but only find our views turned at a same direction, and it is rewarding for life.
Find yourself first and there will be no fear of loneness. We are each unique and beautiful our own way.
Good luck finding... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:23:38 PM |
...is it possible to find a soulmate?
Well, if soulmates existed it MAY be possible to find one, but from what I've seen from people who claim they've found theirs, there is absolutely no guarantee that they're gonna stay around till you're ready to kick the bucket.
I expect to die without a S.O. I hope my kids and some friends are around, but at the end it won't matter much anyway for me. It may be important to them, but once I'm gone it won't for me.
I just hope I go quickly. I don't want to hang around in diapers getting poked and prodded by nurses and doctors. Just lemme check out.
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:45:38 PM | Don’t be so sure there:
Since I expect the sexual urges to taper off in old age, I'm not sure that what a spouse has to offer couldn't be mostly satisfied between a good friend and a cat.
My parents were still going at it when dad was 80 (the year he passed away).
I caught them but Thank God they were so into it they never knew I was in the house.
Oh and that was years before Viagra! 
Oh well, if I never meet someone special I am comforted that I knowing that in my golden years I will have cats and a dog, continue to volunteer as a Big Brother, and play chess in the park! 
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:59:32 PM | Ah, Ceij, if I were only closer to you geographically...!  And I also certainly don't expect other "things" to taper off in the golden years. I hope not, anyway! How boring that would be. Besides, I already have good friends, and a spoiled cat who howls and wails when she's not getting her own way.
I will probably grow old alone. Mainly just because I am not entirely sure I'm ever going to meet anyone else. But, there is no guarantee either that anything WILL last...let us remember that eventually we do all die alone. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 5:53:28 PM | | I am not liking the idea of spending the rest of my life without a partner. But I must focus on the positive - my daughter will probably get married and have children - I'll be a grandparent some day - I will most likely continue to meet interesting people and form relationships of all kinds. It would be great if one of these turned out to be permanent, but if not, it will still be fulfilling. I will probably work for a very long time. Thankfully, I like the challenge and the connection to others that my work allows. Old is not so bad.... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 6:37:56 PM | The only reason I worry about growing old is because right now in my clinical for my nursing class we are helping elderly patients in a nursing home. There is only one women on the whole east wing that has a husband that visits.....the rest are either deceased, in the nursing home themselves, too frail or have moved on....
Things like that are what makes me worried about growing old alone...... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 6:41:14 PM |
Those who are willing to accept the incredible boredom of marriage... die together with loving arms.
Was that a vote for or against marriage...? Not much of a deal... A life-time of dull and dreary weighed against what might be construed as a possible comfort at the end of ones life.... Wouldn't it just be preferable to die in your sleep....?  | |
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