| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 7:07:31 PM | | It concerns me, especially seeing that the majority of friends have married and some have children... that's what I want. The older I get, the less chance there is of that happening. And having been on this site for a while, my fears are being confirmed daily.... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 7:20:22 PM | Have you ever heard ,what comes easy usually isn't worth much. The person in the mirror is never alone, if your comfortable with your self. You can be with someone & still be alone,its what is in your heart that counts, Health, happiness, many things can be worried about, but why waste your time worrying about it ,keep looking ,you will find someone. I had an 82 year old looking for her soulmate ,she hasn't given up ,why should anyone else give up.
Blessing always, be safe | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:45:20 PM | Old? Sure.
Things might stop working and life could get harder.
Alone? Nah, not really. I'd like to share life with someone, certainly. But given the choice of choosing unwisely or settling... I would prefer alone. At least until I'm sure that what I want is good for me. And him. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:58:26 PM | ~OP ... No I do not worry cause this is how I feel you come in this world alone to
someone and when you leave this earth you go out of it alone to0!
If you sit and
worry about being alone then you will be alone cause your moods will reflect off
on others and they can pick up a negitive or a possitive which ever you choose to
be and I'd rather be possitive that there is someone out there for us all including
me when the time is right love will find me :)
" As to being old no I'm not old what soever , age is just a number and not me!
-Brenny-
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Besides worrying gives you gray hair and ages you faster , also bad on your health
lets face it your as young as you feel!
" SO STOP WORRYING LET NATURE TAKE IT'S COURSE YOU SURELY WON'T
BE ALONE IF YOU HAVE THE RIGHT ATTIDUDE." | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/17/2008 9:37:39 PM | I have an internal "7" year window and it leans mostly to the left side. I am old enough to have learned from past mistakes and have set certain standards that are my cue to not waste much time if there is a 'quirk' of some sort that I can't get past. Although intellectual and physical stimulation (not necessarily in that order) would be awesome, it wont happen with just anyone and I refuse to settle. I have been "stuck" in an absolutely miserable relationship (marriage) in the past and I can honestly say it almost sent me over the edge - oh how I WISHED for inner peace and solitude during that time! Well, now I have it. It isn't always fun, but truthfully, I am a very busy person and my "lonely" times are there but I don't have much time to comtemplate it.
I would prefer companionship, a best friend, a soul mate to accompany me as I live my life. Someone to come home to. Someone who shares similar interests and compliments and/or offsets my quirks with their own originality.
The truth of the matter is, I would settle for a platonic roommate situation - possibly with benefits if we see fit. When I was a kid, I never quite understood why "Nana" and "Paw Paw" had seperate rooms to sleep in.
I totally get it now.
Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans. | |
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X-Lu
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 5:57:46 AM | Hi Michaela, understandable the work environment is causing you some anxiety, and you will read more out of all these walking biographies, and see again, they're still individuals designing their destinies each in their own shoes, it is so colorful...
You're not alone, try the mirror and find yourself to love. It helps with the life planing one day at time...  | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:24:44 AM | Since i've turned 40, 41 next month. Yes it does worry me, I hate being on my own.
Kids are getting older, and will one day leave, and I will be left all alone. lol | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 5:25:43 PM | I never even considered the idea until I read this thread!
Holy crap! Should I be?
I probably should get in my boat and get in some serious
 cause I live in Maine and can't fathom the concept of being old & alone on all those cold nights!!  | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:16:14 PM | | At 61 I sometimes do worry about this, yet I realize that every day of my life I have been carried and given everything I need. And this includes companionship and love. When I stay too much in my own head, I'm in a bad neighborhood. When I help others and get busy, I forget to worry. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:24:43 PM |
In a world that sees so much Infidelity and Indecisiveness , is it possible to find a soulmate?
I wonder what kind of commission Hallmark gets everytime the word "soulmate" is used and for posting this, I just tossed a dime in their direction. **stards.
Worry about growing old alone? Not in the slightest. If that's how life turns out, so be it. Life is good regardless. | |
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JustRo
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Joined: 5/19/2008
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:25:19 PM | I am sure everyone thinks about "what if I never meet anyone". I have thought about it and the answer I come up with is.... I rather be alone and happy then to settle for someone I don't really want and be miserable. The reason so many relationships fail is because of just that..... they settle until something new comes along.
When you meet someone, take your time. Getting to really know the person is very important but people then to jump in bed so quick and once the sex starts... well.. the learning about each other process gets put on back burner until the sex is not new anymore and then they think.... hmmmmm... you have changed, you are not the person I met. Well guess what? They are the same person.. its just you never took the time to get to know them. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:35:31 PM | VERY, VERY GOOD POINTS IN THIS justro!!
When you meet someone, take your time. Getting to really know the person is very important but people then to jump in bed so quick and once the sex starts... well.. the learning about each other process gets put on back burner until the sex is not new anymore and then they think.... hmmmmm... you have changed, you are not the person I met. Well guess what? They are the same person.. its just you never took the time to get to know them.
That is how things seem to be these days. People forget about the getting to know you stage and just right into the lets ahve sex stage...
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:40:32 PM | [The only reason I worry about growing old is because right now in my clinical for my nursing class we are helping elderly patients in a nursing home. There is only one women on the whole east wing that has a husband that visits.....the rest are either deceased, in the nursing home themselves, too frail or have moved on....]
See, you said it right there. These people are not alone, they have you. You could be the bright part of their day and not even know it. As for me, I have never really been alone. Also, I am not use to being without a boyfriend but I am working on me right now with the help of God and what is meant to be will come. Now that my kids are older, there are the grandkids. I try to focus on having a good time with them because soon they are getting old. As you know the saying, take things day by day because we never know what tomorrow will bring us. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:48:59 PM | like some guys , I've been alone for almost 2 years
No worries, live life, someone is out there waiting
Some people like to be alone and as long as they don't regret when is too late then is fine.
Don't worry, you will find someone, as long as you are not too picky..
Cheers
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:54:30 PM | | your born alone, u die alone, all those in the interm are memories,,,the best i heard is come into this world, with everyone laughing, and leave it with everyone crying, | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 7:33:51 PM | I was going to send this as a private message, but it seems I can't write to you.
I hate being alone. Maybe sometimes I make bad decisions because I'm afraid of it. Those "relationships" don't last long.
I've thought I've been with the person that I can stay with forever, but something more attractive (not necessarily physically) comes along. Maybe they want more vacations, more money, more excitement, or even they don't know what they want, but they want it badly.
Someday we'll both meet the right person. I'm afraid for me it will be in the nursing home, when I'm so far into dementia to even know that she is there. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 7:33:58 PM | | I do worry sometimes. It's not that I have low self esteem or anything, but when every other girl on the street looks like a **** (I live in a college town that's big on partying), it kind of makes me feel a bit sad that the world has become such a place. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:23:57 PM |
there is no place more alone than with someone in a dead relationship.
So true! I've never felt worse and more alone than at the end of the 2 signifcant relationships in my life. It's almost like, the person is close but oh so far. It's a daily reminder of what is missing in your life and you have no ability to get it! When there's no one, there's hope that you can find someone! And this time you know exactly what it is you were missing and what you need.
I had a LTR breakup in a very messy way earlier this year and one of the phases I went through was the "I'm 48, am I ever going to be able to find someone" fears. Thankfully I got over it (ok, it tries to creep back every now and then!)! With that kind of fear you tend to compromise yourself and your own principles just to not be alone. If I am meant to be alone as in without a SO, so be it. I have an amazing life and amazing friends who constantly remind me that I am their family. I will never be "alone", nor am I ever lonely.
Do I miss that closeness, that partnership and familiarity that you feel with another person? I sure do. I miss all the silly, little things like calling when I leave work that I'm on my way home. But I never want to be in a relationship again with someone who reminds me of what I am missing. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/19/2008 2:59:28 AM |
Worry about growing old alone? Not in the slightest. If that's how life turns out, so be it. Life is good regardless.
Mr Happy Pants, I must comment how I enjoy your posts. You are very in depth and always have something interesting to say! From all your posts in other threads as well, I can see you have one of the best out look on life and situations. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/19/2008 4:43:14 AM | Re post 65
When you meet someone, take your time. Getting to really know the person is very important but people then to jump in bed so quick and once the sex starts... well.. the learning about each other process gets put on back burner until the sex is not new anymore and then they think.... hmmmmm... you have changed, you are not the person I met. Well guess what? They are the same person.. its just you never took the time to get to know them.
That is how things seem to be these days. People forget about the getting to know you stage and just right into the lets ahve sex stage...
I beg to differ. Once the sex starts learning about each other need not get put into the backburner. After all, people do not have sex 24/24, 7/7. Plus sex is one of the ways to learn about each other, provided that people are "themselves" when they have sex, ie the way they have sex is an extention of their personality, ie sex is a means of expression of one's psyche. | |
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JustRo
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Joined: 5/19/2008
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/19/2008 7:08:46 AM | I beg to differ. Once the sex starts learning about each other need not get put into the backburner. After all, people do not have sex 24/24, 7/7.
No it doesnt have to be put on backburner.. but lets face it.. Im many many relationships it does. What I am simply saying is get to know who the person you are with inside first... and I do not mean physically inside..lol.. If you have ever noticed when you first meet someone you enjoy getting to know about them. You talk alot more. If you jump in bed too early... in most cases, it does get put on back burner.
And of course sex is an extention to relationship and is wonderful when you do know the person you are with. Well.. can be great sex too even if you dont know the person but this boy here prefers to know and feel a little something for the person I am with other than just lust. | |
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